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Inherited family traumas may be at the core of our inability to succeed in life. Wolynn’s research has shown that unresolved traumatic events in our families can hinder how success flows to us and how well we are able to receive it.
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Get the Summary of Mark Wolynn's It Didn't Start with You in 20 minutes. Please note: This is a summary & not the original book.Original book introduction: Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains-but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited-that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn't Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.
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A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations.
"This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing."-Tara Brach, PhD, author ofRadical AcceptanceandTrue Refuge
A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field
Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling- the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains-but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited-that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn't Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.
As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn't Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn't Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.
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31 July 2017
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One of Healthline's 13 Best Mental Health Books of 2022
One of Cosmopolitan's 15 Books About Mental Health That Everyone Should Read
One of Men's Health's 20 Best Mental Health Books to Read in 2022
One of Choosing Therapy's 10 Best PTSD & Trauma Books for 2021
Winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in Psychology
Finalist for the 2016 Books for a Better Life Award
"This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing."
--Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge
"Mark Wolynn does a masterful job of illuminating the ways in which our ancestors' unresolved suffering, often unknown to us, disables us and binds us painfully to them. He gives us the tools and skills--an approach that combines understanding, imaginative dialogues, and compassionate reconnection--to free and heal ourselves."
--James S. Gordon, MD, author of Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey Out of Depression
"It Didn't Start with You takes us a big step forward, advancing the fields of trauma therapy, mindfulness applications, and human understanding. It is a bold, creative, and compassionate work."
--Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness
"Mark Wolynn's extraordinary book cracks the secret code of families and proves that you can go home again--once you understand how history made you. Full of life-changing stories, powerful insights, and practical tools for personal healing, It Didn't Start With You deserves a place on your bookshelf next to Alice Miller's The Drama of the Gifted Child and Dan Siegel's The Developing Mind. You'll never see your family the same way again."
--Mark Matousek, author of Ethical Wisdom
"Bridging both neuroscience and psychodynamic thinking, It Didn't Start with You provides the reader with Mark Wolynn's hard-earned toolbox of do-it-yourself clinical aids and provocative insights."
--Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, Vice Chair for Education at NYU Langone Medical Center's Child Study Center and author of Child & Adolescent Mental Health
"After reading It Didn't Start with You, I found myself immediately able to apply Mark Wolynn's techniques with my patients and saw incredible results, in a shorter time than with traditional psychotherapeutic techniques. I encourage you to read this book. It's truly cutting edge."
--Alexanndra Kreps, MD
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A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations.
About the Author
Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. He is the winner of the 2016 Silver Nautilus Award in Psychology.As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he has trained thousands of clinicians and treated thousands more patients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies.His articles have appeared inPsychology Today,Mind Body Green,MariaShriver.com,Elephant JournalandPsych Central, and his poetry has been published inThe New Yorker.www.markwolynn.com.
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Publisher : Penguin; 1st edition (31 July 2017)
Language : English
Paperback : 256 pages
ISBN-10 : 1101980389
ISBN-13 : 978-1101980385
Dimensions : 13.97 x 1.73 x 21.34 cmBest Sellers Rank: 696 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)7 in Couples & Family Therapy (Books)
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Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he trains clinicians and helps people struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain and illness. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. His book IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, Maria Shriver, Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker. www.markwolynn.com
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5.0 out of 5 stars Genuinely insightful & life changing! Thank you.Reviewed in Australia on 19 June 2020
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Excellent! There’s an old Norse quote ‘A woman who heals herself, heals all the women before her and all the women who come after her’. Thank you for such an insightful and genuinely life changing book.
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1.0 out of 5 stars This book is horrific and under researchedReviewed in Australia on 6 July 2022
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Avoid at all costs anyone looking to read more about and heal from inter generational trauma, the lack of academia and due diligence is horrifying, the punch line of this compilation of trash is that familial abuse is okay and that you must have a relationship with your parents despite whatever trauma they inflict on you. Disgusting.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Family Constellation GemReviewed in Australia on 25 January 2019
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For anyone interested in the complex topic of Family Constellation work, Mark Wolynn has written an extremely useful book. Wolynn explains clearly how the family system works and gives advice and charts on how to understand one's own issues within the family system and the impact that they may be having.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing insights into our inner conflict resolution.Reviewed in Australia on 6 July 2021
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I'm deeply touched by this book generosity in genuine offer to help resolve conflicts that may be hampering my success in life. I recommend it to all those who are curious about their inner issues and associated family traumas.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Worth a readReviewed in Australia on 5 October 2021
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Easy to read book. Worth a look
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5.0 out of 5 stars This book will change self blame to understanding, thus self forgiveness.Reviewed in Australia on 7 February 2020
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Arrived in Australia fully intact as promised no delay. Thx
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4.0 out of 5 stars Real insight into how inherited trauma can shape a family or society.Reviewed in Australia on 13 October 2020
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Great book on understanding inherited trauma.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Complex research and experiential information condensed into a structured approach to releasing trauma inherited in our genesReviewed in Australia on 13 December 2018
I work in the Constellation field and this book provides a clear and structured approach, staying close to the science whilst still honouring the work of Bert Hellinger
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1.0 out of 5 stars what a stupid bookReviewed in the United Kingdom on 21 June 2020
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I bought this based on all the great reviews and recommendations. I’m someone who has inter generational trauma aswell as individual. Anyone with an abusive relationship with their parents would find this book triggering, it suggests that the only way to truly heal is to repair the relationship with your abusers (parents), one to one. Not only untrue but also stupidly reckless. Not backed up scientifically by studies either. Looking for somewhere to recycle this.
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Tim Harbour
1.0 out of 5 stars This is Snake oil in print.Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 11 January 2020
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To cite the bible as a legitimate source tells you everything you need to know about the author. Unsubstantiated claims and dubious case histories. I feel the positive reviews were from people who want to believe the content rather than look at it critically. Utter tosh.
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iminye
1.0 out of 5 stars Creationist wooReviewed in the United States on 27 August 2018
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Despite the great reviews, as soon as I started reading, this book started brushing me the wrong way. What a waste of $5.24. As early as page 1, the author makes claims about the "latest scientific research" and offers no citation. On page 10 he claims a miraculous recovery of his vision. Are we to believe he ever had any eyesight loss at all? I don't. Chapter 2 is inundated with internet articles as his "scientific" sources. On page 29 he makes a strange claim about junk DNA being influenced by emotions that cannot be falsified by a simple web search at all. In this manner, this chapter is full of non- peer-reviewed quoting, such as "Yehuda *claims*", "Yehuda *believes*".
Page 39 revealed why all of this seemed weak at best. I quote verbatim "Uncannily, the Bible, in Numbers 14:15, appears to corroborate the claims of modern science - or vice versa - that the sins, iniquities, or consequences (depending on which translation you read) of the parents can affect the children up to the third and fourth generations". The author proceeds to open Chapter 3 with a Bible passage.
This is where to me, it is very clear this is all unscientific speculation based on confirmation bias and where I throw this book in the trash can.
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1.0 out of 5 stars Implausible at best
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The idea that you inherit trauma via your mother's and grandmother's DNA is hard to believe. The book ignores the fact that the manner in which parents behave will have the dominant effect on children, not something transferred to you via your mother from your grandmother. My siblings and I have (obviously) the same parents and grandparents, but we are three very different people. We have reacted differently to the traumas or absence thereof in our own childhoods. This book is a load of nonsense.
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Kris K
1.0 out of 5 stars Religious book.Reviewed in Canada on 2 June 2019
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This book is religious and didn’t stare that anywhere before purchase. So disappointing.
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The idea that you inherit trauma via your mother's and grandmother's DNA is hard to believe. The book ignores the fact that the manner in which parents behave will have the dominant effect on children, not something transferred to you via your mother from your grandmother. My siblings and I have (obviously) the same parents and grandparents, but we are three very different people. We have reacted differently to the traumas or absence thereof in our own childhoods. This book is a load of nonsense.
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1.0 out of 5 stars Religious book.Reviewed in Canada on 2 June 2019
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This book is religious and didn’t stare that anywhere before purchase. So disappointing.
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