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Listening to Sacred Stillness: Is Anyone Listening? | Greg Richardson

Listening to Sacred Stillness: Is Anyone Listening? | Greg Richardson

Listening to Sacred Stillness: Is Anyone Listening?
 SEPTEMBER 27, 2022 BY GREG RICHARDSON
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Is Anyone Listening?
There are times when I wonder whether anyone is listening, even me.

Some people spend time each day in a contemplative practice of listening to sacred stillness. There are people who have been practicing every day for years.

We believe in the power of listening and the sacredness of stillness.


Even those of us who believe ask, at times, whether anyone is listening.

We practice listening to stillness. Sacred stillness offers to give us rest and refresh us. Sometimes we feel restored, but we thirst for more.

Sacred stillness is so limitless, so far beyond our ability to comprehend. We may by overwhelmed by the immensity of what we are trying to do.

How can it even be possible to listen to sacred stillness? Do we actually think we can understand what sacred stillness has to say to us? Is it really true? Is anyone listening?

We struggle to open ourselves to the deep sacred truth all around us and within us. It feels like we are turning ourselves inside out to find and connect to spiritual life. We are stretching beyond what we imagined were our limitations. Why are we going to such lengths for something which seems so far beyond us?

If there is anyone listening, why are they so remote, so difficult to know?

We pause to listen to sacred stillness, trusting there is someone in the stillness listening to us. Sometimes it is easy for us to be confident there is someone there. Other times it is like trying to sleep during a long, restless night. We toss and turn, looking for a way to be comfortable.


If only we can keep our eyes closed long enough to find the rest we seek.

Over time the stillness slowly enfolds us in its sacred embrace.

Who Is Listening?
We are listening for truth in sacred stillness without necessarily understanding why. We may be confident, usually, there is sacred depth all around us and within us.

How do we know who waits for us in the stillness? It is like we are standing in the mouth of a cave, unable to see into the dark interior.

Even if we could see who was waiting for us, would we recognize them?

How well do we know them? Have we even seen them before?

We may become familiar with spiritual life in some ways when we run into something new. It can feel like spiritual life has shown us one face and then transformed into someone else.

Like getting to know anyone, our relationship to spiritual life develops over time. We may find deeper intimacy, or might decide to spend some time away for a while.

The difficulties comes when we feel spiritual life may have abandoned us altogether.

Practices or experiences we have come to depend on no longer bring us satisfaction. It feels like we have begun a relationship with spiritual life and it has moved away from us.


Is there anyone listening? Anyone at all?

Like any strong relationship, the ways we connect with spiritual life are not based on mechanics. We may believe we can achieve certain results if we take particular actions. Our relationship to spiritual life, though, is not something we control. It is not as if our actions will coerce spiritual life into giving us particular results.

Our relationship is more intimate than that.

It can be like learning to ride a bicycle. Training wheels help us learn, but sooner or later the time comes to remove them. We may feel afraid or uncomfortable, but it is the only way we really learn to ride.

Can We Know Who Is Listening?
We want to be certain, to know. Having certainty before we try something is how we protect ourselves. We like to have things all sorted out before we begin doing anything.

Real relationships are more than acting out our certainties.

We cannot truly know outside a real, working relationship.

It is impossible to know whether there is anyone out there until we go and look, and listen. All the advance planning and thinking things through we can do does not take the place of experience.

We may find it less risky to be certain. There may be less risk, but is that a real relationship?

We will never really know whether there is anyone out there until we go and see.

Spiritual life draws us more and more deeply into relationship. It is not about intellectual certainty or our emotional comfort zones. It is only as we leave those behind our relationship becomes real.

Spiritual life gradually peels away our assumptions and expectations. Like any other relationship, we learn to let go of what we thought we knew. We open ourselves to what is.

Listening to sacred stillness is a step in the direction of spiritual life.

We listen whether we hear anything or not, whether we think there is anyone out there or not. As we listen we begin to recognize who is listening. It may not be certainty, but we grow into intimacy.

We begin to know in our hearts as well as our heads.

Recognizing Who is Listening
Listening to sacred stillness helps us recognize who is there.

Spiritual life draws us into deeper intimate relationship. As we listen, letting go of our preconceptions, we begin to see more clearly.

It is not someone out there, far away, after all.


Spiritual life draws us into relationship with itself, all around us and within us. We are not concerned about whether someone, anyone out there is listening to us. Our question is whether anyone in here is listening.

The deep wisdom of sacred stillness runs through us. It fills us and pours out to fill the rest of the world.

We learn to listen without assumptions or expectations, opening ourselves. As we listen we are drawn more deeply into relationship.

The sacred stillness reminds us of all we have to experience.

We leave the training wheels behind and begin really riding.

How will we recognize who is listening in sacred stillness today?

When will we begin to open ourselves to sacred stillness this week?

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Greg Richardson is a spiritual director in Southern California. He is a recovering assistant district attorney and associate university professor, and is a lay Oblate with New Camaldoli Hermitage near Big Sur, California. Greg’s website is StrategicMonk.com and his email address is StrategicMonk@gmail.com.


아나밥 테스트 세계 교제의 주일 – 키타메노 [일어한역]

아나밥 테스트 세계 교제의 주일 – 키타메노

키타메노
일본 메노나이트 그리스도 교회 협의회

메뉴
아나밥 테스트 세계 교제의 주일
게시일:2022년 12월 31일
투고자: 히로


메노나이트 세계회의(MWC)가 세계로 부르는 '아나밥 테스트 세계 교제의 주일'. 2023년은 1월 22일입니다. 1525년 1월 21일에 아나벙테스트 운동에서 최초의 신앙자 세례가 행해졌으며, 아나밥 테스트/메노나이트의 세계적인 교제를 기억하고 예배하는 것이 호소되고 있습니다. 올해의 자원은 MWC 아프리카 지구 대표가 담당했습니다.

주제: '예수 그리스도, 우리의 희망'

깊은 어려움에도 불구하고, 우리는 세계의 형제 자매들과 함께 모여 예수를 따르고 희망을 얻습니다. 이것은 "리뉴얼 2023"의 테마이기도합니다.

성서
이사야 40장 28~31절
시편 62절 1~6절
누가복음 18장 35~43절
베드로의 첫 편지 1장 3~6절
주님께 희망을 남기는 사람은 새로운 힘을 얻습니다. 참된 평화와 희망은 하나님만에서 온다. 눈에 보이지 않는 구걸이 예수를 통해 희망을 알게 된 것처럼 우리도 생생한 희망으로 하나님을 찬양합시다.

기도의 과제

아프리카의 여러 교회는 많은 젊은 신도들에게 주어지고 활기차고 있습니다. 교회의 성장을 하나님께 감사하고, 지도자가 충분한 훈련을 받고 목회의 역사에 충실히 참여할 수 있도록 기도하십시오.
각지의 무력분쟁의 중간에 있는 사람들을 위해, 특히 콩고 동부와 부르키나파소의 분쟁이 평화적으로 해결되도록 기도합시다.
기후 변화와 우크라이나 전쟁의 영향을 받고 가뭄과 기아로 고통받는 아프리카 사람들을 위해 기도하십시오.
인도네시아에서 열린 2022년 대회는 성회 중에 끝났습니다. 인도네시아의 교회에 의한 두터운 대접을 기억해 주셔서 감사합니다.

MWC 총회에서는 새로운 집행위원 6명이 선출되어 3개의 전문위원회에서 위원장이 개선되었습니다. 신체제로 스타트한 MWC의 걸음을 지키도록 기도합시다.
세상의 각 교회가 커뮤니언이 되는 의미를 더 깊이 이해하고 성장할 수 있도록 그분의 작업을 통해 하나님의 사랑이 얼마나 깊고 넓어지는지를 더 잘 이해할 수 있도록 기도하십시오.
아나밥 테스트 세계 교류를 위한 보다 풍부한 리소스는 MWC 홈페이지에서 구할 수 있습니다. 세계의 아나밥 테스트/메노나이트 제교회로부터의 비디오에 의한 인사, MWC 인도네시아 대회에서의 찬미(동영상), 사진이나 포스터, 인터랙티브 지도 등, 다채롭습니다.
Anabaptist World Fellowship Sunday 2023 | Mennonite World Conference (mwc-cmm.org)

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Spiritual Direction: Searching for Light in the Darkness | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: Searching for Light in the Darkness | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: Searching for Light in the Darkness
 DECEMBER 15, 2022 BY GREG RICHARDSON
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Searching for Light in the Darkness
We live in a world of deep darkness, searching for light in the darkness.

Darkness surrounds us, seeping into how we live our lives and see ourselves. Some of us are afraid of the dark and refuse to acknowledge its presence. The darkness makes some of us feel tired or frustrated. We want to stay in bed wrapped in blankets with our eyes closed.


Maybe the darkness will go away.

Some of us struggle against darkness, but it silently absorbs all our efforts.

We do not remember where the darkness came from, nor when it started. It becomes harder and harder for us to recall what life was like before the darkness arrived. When we try to work or play hazardous obstacles hiding in darkness block our way.

We do not know what to do about the darkness, how to avoid it, or how we will live another day in it. Darkness drains our energy and destroys our hope. Some of us work to bring an end to the darkness. People try to create new technologies or new laws to overcome the power of darkness. Others have decided to sit and wait to find out what will happen. None of us really knows what we can do to save ourselves from the darkness.

The darkness around us hides more than just walls and obstacles. Darkness makes it harder for us to recognize each other, or recognize our own true selves. We believe there are deep, essential truths about life and the world we cannot see in the dark.

There are no technological or legal fixes to solve the ways darkness challenges us. Our only way to overcome darkness is for each of us to open ourselves and become lights shining in the dark.

Finding Light in the Darkness
It is easy for us to forget how dark the darkness can be.

Many of us live in places where real darkness is rare. We dilute our dark times with artificial night lights, lights over the door, street lights, headlights, lighted signs, and other things which glow in the dark. We turn our eyes toward lighted screens, hiding our faces from the power of darkness.

I remember living far from here, where darkness really is dark. Driving home at night on a country road with only my own headlights to cut through the darkness. Every so often, in the distance, lights from a barn or the window of a farmhouse would shine like stars.

One of the many things which draw me to New Camaldoli Hermitage, along with its beauty and its stillness, is its rich darkness. When I step out onto the porch of my trailer early in the morning headed for the chapel, it is dark. You can hear faint sounds of the ocean and feel the wind, and the sky is filled with stars.

Spiritual life is like the light from a distant farm or stars shining in the dark night sky.

It can be easy for us to forget spiritual life is born in darkness.


We find ourselves surrounded by the darkness of confusion, or pain, or loss. It is not clear where we are and we cannot find our way. Some of us are afraid we are lost and might never find our way home again. Then, when it seems there is no hope, light shines in the darkness.

Some of us forget spiritual life lives in us, turning us into lights shining in darkness.

Other people see us shining like stars in the night sky, like a barn in the distance.

We Are Light in the Darkness
Many of us feel we are stumbling around in the dark, running into what we cannot see. We do not see our own aurora shining.

If only we had someone who would shine a light for us or show us the way. Some of us are not confident we are doing well or are on the path we set out to follow.

Our contemplative practices teach us how to recognize and appreciate the light shining within us. We learn how to listen and trust spiritual life living in us.

S0me of us see other people as lights shining in the darkness and try to follow their paths.

As we explore spiritual life we find ourselves becoming the people we have the potential to be. We give our permission for spiritual life to live in us and we discover our true selves.


The people around us see us as lights shining in the darkness as our true selves come to life. We grow into the people we can become and our lives shine like stars in the night sky.

Being light in the darkness does not require extra effort or discipline from us.

We are lights shining in the darkness.

Living as Light in the Darkness
We do not earn the opportunity to shine in the darkness. Shining is not about achieving a certain level or gaining enough points. We live as lights shining in darkness because it is who we are.

Growing into our true selves takes us a lifetime. We may begin as a tiny spark of glimmering light and grow into something brighter. Some of us will flare up quickly while others of us will burn slowly and steadily.

Each of us has our own life to live, our own true self to become. Some of us might wish we were more like someone else, but no amount of work will change who we are.

Part of living as light in the darkness is realizing and appreciating who we are. The more we live into our true selves the more we honor the true selves all around us.

Sometimes we feel brighter than others, as if darkness were receding.

We live as light in the darkness and it is darkness which allows us to shine.


Where will we find light in the darkness today?

How will we live as light in the darkness this week?

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Greg Richardson is a spiritual director in Southern California. He is a recovering assistant district attorney and associate university professor, and is a lay Oblate with New Camaldoli Hermitage near Big Sur, California. Greg’s website is StrategicMonk.com and his email address is StrategicMonk@gmail.com.
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Spiritual Direction: What Does a Spiritual Director Actually Do? | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: What Does a Spiritual Director Actually Do? | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: What Does a Spiritual Director Actually Do?
 OCTOBER 6, 2022 BY GREG RICHARDSON
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What Does a Spiritual Director Do?

It is not unusual, when anyone asks me about what I do, for their next question to be What is spiritual direction? or What does a spiritual director do?

Not many kids say they want to be a spiritual director when they grow up. Most of us have never heard of someone being a spiritual director and we do not understand what it means.


When I explain spiritual direction to people it tends to spark more questions in them. Some people want to know if I am a minister, or why someone would not just talk to a minister. There are people who see me as a resource they can use when they have questions about theology or religion. Other people seem to assume they can tell me about their problems and I will tell them what to do.

A spiritual director is not a substitute for a minister or a church. I do not have the answers to most theological questions, and have quite a few questions myself. It is rare I tell people what they should do.

One of my favorite things about the job title of spiritual director is its irony. I talk with people about a lot of things many of us do not see as spiritual and I work hard not to be particularly directive.

Spiritual direction has a long history. Traditionally, people would seek out a member of the clergy or a monk and tell them their stories. The director would suggest ways they could approach specific problems or issues. Some of these relationships were focused on particular questions, while some continued on an ongoing basis.

There are now many people who are not ministers who have been trained and certified as spiritual directors.


What Makes Someone Good at Spiritual Direction?
Each of us is a unique person, and each spiritual director has their own personal approach to what they do.

I believe the first essential element of spiritual direction is listening well.

For me, practicing spiritual direction is part of my path toward contemplative spirituality. I did not become interested in being a spiritual director until I began to practice listening to sacred stillness.

When I meet with someone for spiritual direction my role is creating and protecting our sacred time and space. It is not my responsibility to solve their problems or make them feel good. We share time and a space where we can be honest with each other. I listen to what they have to say.

Another essential part of my practice of spiritual direction is asking questions which are insightful.

As a recovering attorney, I needed to learn many things in my spiritual direction training. One of the first was how not to cross-examine people.

Now I try to ask questions which get underneath the way someone hears their own story. It helps me to appreciate I am listening to a person’s story for the first time. They may have grown tired of their own story or closed their eyes to significant parts of their lives.

I can hear their stories with fresh ears and recognize things they may have missed.

A third significant part of being a spiritual director is remembering all of life is spiritual.

We too often allow expectations or ideas about what is spiritual and what is not to blind us to spiritual life. Many of us assume certain days or particular kinds of places are more spiritual than others.

A good spiritual director appreciates all of life is spiritual and nothing is excluded.

Finding a Spiritual Director
There are many ways to look for spiritual direction.

Some people look online while others ask their friends. There are associations like Spiritual Directors International which have directories of their members.

No matter how we carry out our search, there are significant things for us to remember as we look.

We are not necessarily trying to find the best educated spiritual director or the one with the most qualifications. The practice of spiritual direction is, at its heart, a relationship. It is important for us to find a spiritual director we can trust and with whom we can be honest.

Spiritual direction is essentially an ongoing conversation. I believe it is important to experience what the conversation will be like for us before choosing whether, and how, to participate.


Many of us seek spiritual direction because we have questions we would like to answer. In addition to finding a conversational connection, we need to be comfortable asking our questions.

It is helpful for us to understand what questions we have before we talk with a spiritual director. Clarifying what someone’s questions are is a helpful step when I talk with someone about spiritual direction.

We are hoping to find someone who will help us recognize new things in parts of our lives.

Why Do People Want Spiritual Direction?
Each of us has our own reasons for seeking spiritual direction. Some of us want an opportunity to discover and explore the deepest truths of our lives. Other people find it helpful to have someone with whom to talk things through. When we hear something or read something we want to be able to work through it with another person.

Some of us want to find someone who will listen to us and ask insightful questions.

We may need to be reminded all of life is spiritual.

Spiritual direction is not about fixing or correcting us, or telling us how to live. A spiritual director is not necessarily like our friend who pokes holes in our arguments and shows us where we are wrong.


Many of us are seeking a spiritual director to be a companion and guide on our journey. Each of us has our own preferences and expectations. We are looking for a relationship which will help us explore spiritual life in our everyday lives.

What would we talk to a spiritual director about today?

How could spiritual direction be helpful to us this week?

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Greg Richardson is a spiritual director in Southern California. He is a recovering assistant district attorney and associate university professor, and is a lay Oblate with New Camaldoli Hermitage near Big Sur, California. Greg’s website is StrategicMonk.com and his email address is StrategicMonk@gmail.com.

Spiritual Direction: Talking About Spiritual Life | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: Talking About Spiritual Life | Greg Richardson

Spiritual Direction: Talking About Spiritual Life
 DECEMBER 1, 2022 BY GREG RICHARDSON
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There are people who talk to me who seem particularly uncomfortable talking about spiritual life. Some of them ask me whether I really am a Christian and, if I am, why do I not sound like one? They think all my talk of spiritual life and sacred stillness sounds a little vague.


Some people want to understand how I experience spiritual life. Others seem a little nervous I am trying to put something over on them.

Let me assure you my spiritual journey grows in and reflects the Christian tradition. I have spent time in a number of different Christian churches and denominations, primarily Protestant ones.

I was born a Methodist and became a Congregationalist by the time I was in first or second grade. A pastor and his family moved in across the road from us and we began attending their church. That is the church where I began to appreciate spiritual life.

When I was eight years old I was “born again” and accepted Jesus into my heart. I was baptized there. It shaped how I have been talking about spiritual life since then in significant ways.

There have been other churches along the way. I have been a member of Presbyterian and Reformed churches, as well as nondenominational congregations. Two different Baptist denominations welcomed me. I have been a confirmed member of the Episcopal church for quite some time.

I am also a lay Oblate at a Roman Catholic Benedictine hermitage.

Each of the churches on my long and winding path has shaped how I talk about spiritual life. Like with any friend we have had for a long time, the ways I know God have grown and developed.


I am not talking about spiritual life the same way I did when I was eight years old.

Are We Talking About Spiritual Life?
Each of us talks about and hears spiritual life in our own unique, personal ways.

For some of us it has been used to intimidate us or make us feel guilty. Some of remember it primarily when we are frustrated or when we hit our toe on something hard.

Others of us ask spiritual life to help us when we most need it. Some of us cry out for strength or for mercy. I know people who ask for help as they deal with addiction or other illnesses. Other people depend on spiritual life as they lose someone they love or struggle to find a new job.

Many of us do not grasp most of the intricate details of theology or philosophy. We do appreciate, though, spiritual life in human form. I know people who find great hope in the idea God can relate to us in our everyday lives.

I know many people who, whether they call themselves Christian or not, appreciate spiritual life.

It is easy for some of us to get distracted and coat spiritual life in layers of religious syrup. We think we are supposed to be nice and polite and respect other people, to say please and thank you. That is not the picture I get when I listen to sacred stillness.


The spiritual life I experience and read about is insightful and authentic. Spiritual life is not afraid to take time to be honest with us, no matter who we are. It looks people in the eye and asks them the questions they are most hoping to avoid. Spiritual life responds to us in ways which exceed our expectations.

It can be a challenge for us to see past the accumulated layers of interpretation and assumptions to the truth.

When We Are Talking About Spiritual Life
Lots of us have opinions and feelings about spiritual life. Some of them are strong ones. It can be a challenge for us to hear spiritual life speak on its own behalf.

I understand we do not have a complete, annotated transcript of what spiritual life has to tell us. Accounts we read have been transmitted by word of mouth and eventually written down. Each version has its own nuances and points of emphasis. It is often a challenge for us to fit different accounts together.

Consistent themes emerge even from varied accounts.

Spiritual life tells us our actions speak louder than our words. It tends to value insightful questions more than concise answers. Again and again spiritual life asks us direct questions and prompts us to examine how we live our everyday lives.


The examples spiritual life gives are from experiences with which we are familiar. It does not speak to us in elaborate theories or complex explanations.

Spiritual life appears to work hard to put significant truths into language we can appreciate. It does not get caught up in the religious vernacular of the day.

What Do We Mean When We Are Talking About Spiritual Life?
I think many of us do not know what we really mean when we are talking about spiritual life.

We feel overwhelmed by the size and power of spiritual life and decide we do not have time to really explore it. It seems easier and takes less time when we fall back on theological language.

When we look at the picture of spiritual life in our mind’s eye we think we see the same person as everyone else. Each of us, though, sees our own picture with its own, unique meaning.

We do not need to discover the final answers to all our questions. That is not the most important part. What is important is we explore and grapple with our questions.

Our questions are not intended to help us know everything. Each one is a gift which draws us to see our lives in new ways and remember who we are becoming.

The spiritual life I know believes in the power of asking good questions. It does not use jargon to avoid exploring.

Who do we see when we are talking about spiritual life today?

What will we mean as we are talking about spiritual life this month?

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Greg Richardson is a spiritual director in Southern California. He is a recovering assistant district attorney and associate university professor, and is a lay Oblate with New Camaldoli Hermitage near Big Sur, California. Greg’s website is StrategicMonk.com and his email address is StrategicMonk@gmail.com.

My Interspiritual Compass | Gudjon Bergmann

My Interspiritual Compass | Gudjon Bergmann

My Interspiritual Compass
DECEMBER 29, 2022 BY GUDJON BERGMANN




Twenty-five years into my journey, I am still on the unbeaten path, the seeker I’ve always been. Compared with the early days of my journey, the biggest difference is that I now have a compass that allows me to explore without becoming lost or confused. I can walk the sturdy trails of religion or roam around in dense spiritual jungles without losing my bearings. All it takes is one look at my compass, and I immediately evoke all the fundamentals of syncretism, interfaith, and interspirituality.


Central Tenets

Central to this personal navigation system of mine—which I am only sharing for illustration purposes, not as an exercise in evangelism—are the experiential paths of Oneness and Goodness.

Oneness and My Affinity for Eastern Mysticism

For those who have read this publication, it should not come as a surprise that I am more attracted to the Oneness path, made evident by my meditation practice and affinity for Eastern mysticism. Early on, I was trying to escape the dysfunctional trauma of my childhood and quell the volatile nature of my unbridled passions, seeking a state of equilibrium where I would not be affected by highs or lows. Later, I stopped striving for permanency and learned to enjoy moments of peace instead. I’ve had many experiences of vastness, peace, calm, and tranquility in my meditation practice, affirming a nondual sense of I-am-ness. Such firsthand occurrences have created a sense of knowing that no amount of reading or philosophizing can ever generate.


Four Manifestations of Oneness

That being said, the contemplative or philosophical side of the Oneness path has also been quite rewarding. For instance, by discerning between four manifestations of Oneness, I’ve seen how spiritual seekers approach the idea from different perspectives. That understanding has helped me in my relationships with people of different faiths and provided me with clarity when reading modern and ancient texts.

1. Symbiotic Oneness

From a material perspective, symbiotic Oneness coincides with the realization that everything on our planet is interconnected, that we breathe the same air, use the same water, and are made of the same dust. Even though plenty of separation remains, such an understanding can have life-altering implications on everything from food consumption to how we treat each other. Symbiosis means that, like it or not, we are all in this together.

2. Unity

From an interpersonal perspective, unity implies a close relationship between two people—or one person and God—to the point where no separation is felt. I think of the Yin-Yang symbol in that context. Black and white are intertwined within a circle, so close that they seem like one, each with an aspect of the other embedded within. Yet, unity differs significantly from nonduality. The keyword to look for is ‘with.’ When people say they are ‘one with’ something, a degree of separation remains, however slight.


3. E = mc2

Energetic oneness is based on the concept that all matter came from the Big Bang, that all matter is energy, and that everything is interconnected. This definition most closely resembles my earliest spiritual experience of dissolving into light. It also supports the idea of eternal life. Energy is never destroyed; it only changes form. Take the example of a piece of wood thrown on a fire. Our senses tell us that the piece of wood has been destroyed, but upon closer inspection, we see that the wood has been transformed into ashes, heat, and air particulates. Those elements then turn into something else… and the cycle continues without end. Energy never dies and is interconnected, even though the senses detect separation.

4. Nonduality

Finally, nondual oneness speaks to our deepest sense of connection. The closest I have come to understanding nonduality is when I’ve compared it to space. The similarities are quite striking. Space exists separate from the objects in space. If I place an object in space, then space exists inside and outside the object. When I remove the object, space remains. If all objects are removed from space, then there is no up or down, no left or right, no back or forth… in essence, no duality. Therefore, the qualities of space are (i) it is always present, and (ii) it never changes, both of which are the ascribed characteristics of nonduality.


The Faces of Oneness

Many of my pagan and secular friends talk about Oneness in symbiotic terms. My traditionally religious friends, who revere an external aspect of God, usually speak of Oneness in unity terms. Our wording of choice in the New-Age movement was energetic Oneness, and mystics of all traditions describe a sense of nonduality in a similar way; that is, they don’t have many words for it.
Accepting Goodness as Equal

Because the Oneness path informed my spiritual route of choice since I was first introduced to Eastern thought, especially the energetic and nondual approaches, I have to admit that it took much longer for me to accept the equal importance of the Goodness path. When compared to unveiling the essence of who I am, then following moral maxims, recounting stories and myths, going through rituals, and observing cultural traditions often seemed too dualistic and shallow, not spiritual enough.

However, the longer I slogged through life with all its ups and downs, the more people I interacted with from a variety of faiths, and the more suffering I saw in the world, the more my appreciation for the Goodness path grew.
Direction and Meaning

Studying the world’s religions and consorting with people of all faiths has shown me that worshipping God, nurturing the internal seeds of altruism, following moral teachings, congregating, praying, and ritualizing the cycles of life has given us, mere mortals, direction and meaning for millennia.

Making Peace With Restrictions

Even the restrictions I railed against in my youth made more sense, especially after reading this passage by Huston Smith.


“Jealousies, hatreds, and revenge can lead to violence that, unless checked, rips communities to pieces. Murder instigates blood feuds that drag on indefinitely. Sex, if it violates certain restraints, can rouse passions so intense as to destroy entire communities. Similarly with theft and prevarication. We can imagine societies in which people do exactly as they please on these counts, but none have been found and anthropologists have now covered the globe. Apparently, if total permissiveness has ever been tried, its inventors have not survived for anthropologists to study.”



My life has undoubtedly benefitted from having reins.

Essential to Moral Development

All the same, the significance of the Goodness path was not cemented in my mind until I realized that moral development—with its focus on an ever-increasing ability to care for others—was at the heart of the Goodness path—exemplified by moral codes and altruistic aspirations—and central to my own life. This meant that I had been on the Goodness path for decades, even though I had never acknowledged it as such.

Aha Moments

My late life “discovery” may seem as obvious as the nose on my face, but it still represented an important revelation. I had tried to push morality aside, both in my rebellious youth and as a nondual spiritual aspirant. Yet, I wanted to be kind and care for others, wanted to increase my capacity for compassion, and wanted to be a better man.

Accepting this reality led to several other realizations.

1. Care is Limited

First, care is limited by the amount of energy, money, and time I’ve had to spare. My primary resources are time and energy. Because both are limited, I’ve had to pick and choose what I focus on.


2. Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Second, and in line with the first, actions speak louder than words. Nothing has taught me more about caring for another human being than being a stay-at-home father. Parenting would be easy if predicated on good intentions and pleasant thoughts. Everyone “believes” that he or she will do a good job until the rubber hits the road.

Being the primary caretaker has taught me that unconditional caring is being there even when loving emotions are not, that I need to put selfish desires aside for the benefit of my children, and that I need to show up in all my imperfect glory, ready to help, nurture, and support, no matter the circumstances.

Before I was in the stay-at-home role, I took pride in helping others. It felt great to be the person everyone looked to for guidance in my workshops and seminars, especially in controlled environments where I could show only the good sides of myself. At home, however, pretenses are removed. I’ve been more emotionally naked dealing with my teenage son during his rebellious mood swings and tending to my tween daughter when she feels overwhelmed than at any other time in my life. My kids know that I love them dearly, but they also know that I am fallible, and that is okay.


3. Attraction Can Lead to Repulsion

Third, I had to reevaluate my connection with the Eastern concepts of raga (attraction) and dwesha (repulsion). On the nondual Oneness path, the goal was to rise above such dualistic feelings and find perfect equanimity. On the dualistic Goodness path, however, the goal was to focus more on attraction and less on repulsion. As I saw it, the problem was that a strong attraction often created an equally strong repulsion, consciously or unconsciously.

Love for one thing could easily turn into hate for another. People could start with good intentions, attracted by certain approaches to life, but then turn around and spend all their time railing against those who did the opposite, creating what some have called ‘the religion of hate.’

Once I recognized this dualistic rubber-band tendency, I started working on mitigating and tempering my feelings of repulsion. For instance, it would have been all too easy to allow my affinity for sobriety to turn into disdain for drinkers or my preference for marital fidelity to become a harsh judgment of infidelity. Instead, I remind myself why I don’t drink or cheat—mainly because both of those behaviors caused tremendous pain in my life and the lives of others—and make an effort to show compassion for those who are still caught in the web.

The attraction vs. repulsion paradigm reminds me that despising others will not make me a better person.

4. My Ethics Are Rooted in Christianity

Fourth, although substantial parts of my value system have come from psychology, Eastern mysticism, and my ability to think through the consequences of my actions, most of my ethical standards are rooted in my Christian upbringing.

Love thy neighbor as thyself, turn the other cheek, judge not lest ye be judged, know people by the fruits of their actions, seek and ye shall find, what you have done unto the least of these you have done unto me… and so on. All of those teachings are still perfectly valid. Seeing their manifestation in the lives of people like Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, Mr. Rogers, Norman Vincent Peale, and Dr. Albert Schweitzer (to name a few) has provided me with tremendous inspiration over the years. I still don’t call myself a Christian, but it makes no sense to discard the cultural tradition I was raised in completely.
Balancing Oneness and Goodness

As things stand today, the Goodness path has earned its rightful place alongside the Oneness path in my life. I feel like the two balance each other out. When I detach too much, it can lead to indifference and apathy. To counter that, I turn to service and invest myself in this world. Compassion grounds me. On the other hand, when I am too heavily invested in the Goodness path, especially when I am advocating for a particular outcome in the world that I have no control over, I back off, detach and settle into a sense of serenity. Thich Nhat Hanh worded this dance between compassion and inner peace beautifully.


“Someone asked me, “Aren’t you worried about the state of the world?” I allowed myself to breathe and then said, “What is most important is not to allow your anxiety about what happens in the world to fill your heart. If your heart is filled with anxiety, you will get sick, and you will not be able to help.”


Two More Components of the Compass

The paths of Oneness and Goodness are so inclusive that I could easily have stopped there when constructing my interspiritual compass. Still, I decided to cushion it with two more components.

First, I added Wilber’s four quadrants (I, We, It, and Its). That model reminds me to look at everything from more than one angle and include the subjective personal point of view, the cultural perspective, and scientific facts.

Second, I incorporated the four classical paths of yoga (Gnana, Karma, Bhakti, and Raja) and their emphasis on a wide range of spiritual practices, including meditative experimentation, philosophical contemplation, devotion, love, service, and non-attachment, all of which have been instrumental in my life.
Symbols Exist for a Reason

Early in my spiritual journey, I developed a real antipathy for symbols. They were too vague in my mind, too open to subjective interpretation. I wanted to clarify everything with words and precise definitions.

Over time, however, I realized that symbols exist for a reason. For example, I once tried to extract everything the OM symbol could mean, and the stream of words it produced seemed never-ending.


“OM/AUM: The primal sound, the origin of all languages, holy vibration or holy trinity. AUM is everything. A represents the material world. U represents the astral world. M represents the causal world. All trinities can be found within AUM, such as Brahma-Vishnu-Shiva, past-present-future, creation-maintenance-transformation, waking-dreaming-deep sleep, father-son-holy ghost, tamas-rajas-sattva, body-mind-spirit, sat-chit-ananda, material world-astral world-causal world.”



My conclusion was that I could either say all of those things in one go or use the OM symbol and then slowly populate it with my understanding. I chose the latter.

I went through a similar process with the chakra system. First, I simplified each chakra into one word. Then, I added longer definitions for clarity. Finally, after the word clouds became too expansive, I reverted to the color spectrum of the rainbow as a symbolic representation.
Symbolizing My Compass

Based on those experiments, I decided that it would probably be wise for me to symbolize my compass. My thinking was reasonably straightforward and combined the following three elements.Infinity symbol: In Vedanta, the infinity symbol signifies Brahman and the eternal dance between nonduality and duality. To me, it symbolizes the paths of Oneness and Goodness.
Circle: The circle represents the confines of human life and the circle of nature into which we are born. It also signifies the essential sameness of zero and infinity, macrocosm and the microcosm, the drop and the ocean.
Lines/Chambers: The four lines that create the chambers within the circle are symbolic of the four quadrants (I, We, It and Its) and the four yoga practices (Raja, Jnana, Karma, and Bhakti).



The outcome is my personal compass—a visual representation that works for me. It summons all the right ideas and sentiments in my mind. With one glance, I see the practices and philosophies that have served me well to date. Better yet, the symbol prompts me to acknowledge similar practices and beliefs across other traditions.

* This article was curated from my memoir titled Spiritual in My Own Way

Gudjon Bergmann
Author, Coach, and Mindfulness Teacher
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2022/12/30

Why there is no way back for religion in the West | David Voas | TEDxUni...






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Transcript


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Translator: Leonardo Silva Reviewer: Peter van de Ven
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Hello.
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My name is David Voas,
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and I'm going to be talking about religion.
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Now, I know some of you are really tempted to dash for the exit at this stage,
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but I should explain that I'm a quantitative social scientist,
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and I'm going to be talking about the decline of religion in the Western World.
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Now, whether measured by belonging, believing, participation in services,
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or how important it's felt to be in life,
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religion is losing ground across the Western world.
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Society is being transformed, and the momentum seems to be unstoppable.
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Well, at this point, you might be asking yourself a couple of questions.
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First, is it actually true?
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And even if religion is losing ground, could things change in the future?
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I'm going to argue that, yes, it really is true,
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and, no, things won't change.
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Modernization has predictable and permanent effects,
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one of which I call the secular transition.
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Well,
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it's not the case that the pattern of decline
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is that people reach the age of 30 or 40 or 50
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and suddenly decide that they're not religious anymore.
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What happens is they enter adulthood being less religious than their parents were.
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So there's a process of generational replacement,
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where older people who are more religious die out,
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and they're replaced in the population by younger people coming up behind.
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And that's a process that's been happening for decades now across the Western world -
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in some cases, for a century or more.
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Let me take as the example whether people say they have a religion.
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And I'll use the example particularly of New Zealand,
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which has a question on the census about this.
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If you look at this graph,
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the horizontal axis at the bottom shows year of birth.
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So we go from the beginning of the 20th century, on the left,
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to late 20th century, on the right.
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And you can see that for the oldest generations,
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those on the left-hand side,
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virtually everybody says that they have a religion.
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And you come down to the right-hand side,
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and roughly two-thirds say they don't.
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So that's a remarkable shift
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to have happened in the course of less than a century.
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Well, this sort of story is found throughout the Western world,
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even in the United States, which is often thought to be an exception.
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Things have started more recently there,
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the process is still only just starting to be noticed,
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but it is happening.
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I'll come back to the US in a moment.
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And it's similar whatever measure we take.
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So it's the same for attendance at services, for example.
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Well, you might be thinking,
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"Okay, the old Christian denominations are struggling,
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people don't identify with them so much, they may not be going to services,
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but surely, they still believe in God,
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or at any rates, they're spiritual in some sense
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even if they're not religious."
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Well, here is the United States,
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and this shows the proportion of the people
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who say they know God really exists and they have no doubts about it,
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again by year of birth -
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older people on the left, younger people on the right.
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And you can see that in the older section of the population,
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something of the order of three-quarters,
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say they know God really exists,
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and that falls to not much better than 2 in 5
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for people born later in the 20th century.
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Or Canada, for example,
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where we have data on the importance in life
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of religious or indeed spiritual beliefs.
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And here again, we see a sharp generational gradient,
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from something like two-thirds of the oldest generation
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saying that these beliefs are very important to them,
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and that drops down to something like 1 in 5
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for the youngest adult generations.
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Well, as you look at those, you may be well wondering
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whether I'm simply comparing the effect of being old
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with the effect of being young.
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Is it the case that people become more religious as they get older?
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Well, we have census and survey data going back quite a number of years -
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decades, in fact -
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across the Western World now,
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and we can answer that question.
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And the answer is no.
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On average, people within a given generation don't change
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across the adult-life course.
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So what we're seeing is not the effect of age,
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but permanent generation gaps.
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Lack of religion isn't just a stage that young people are going through.
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So this idea that there's something about modernization
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that erodes religious commitments,
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that reduces the respect accorded to religion,
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is known as the secularization thesis.
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And there are a couple of objections that are commonly raised nowadays
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to the secularization thesis.
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One is the example of the United States,
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which is modern, and yet religion seems to thrive.
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And if it's an exception, then surely no generalizations are possible.
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The other objection that's commonly raised
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is that we're looking at change, not decline,
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and that while those old, conventional churches may well be struggling,
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there are new churches, new religious movements -
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Mormons and Pentecostals, for example -
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there's alternative spirituality and indeed non-Christian faiths,
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like Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism,
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that are gaining ground across the West.
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Well, as I mentioned a moment ago,
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even in the United States, in fact,
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it seems that decline has set in.
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We only just have the data now to notice,
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but it seems that it started a few decades ago.
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And it's following the same pattern of generational replacement
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that we've observed elsewhere in the West.
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And while it is the case that there have been developments,
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particularly immigration,
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that have brought people from more religious countries
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into the Western world,
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those effects aren't big enough to reverse the main trend.
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So -
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so far so good,
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or so bad, depending on your view of religion.
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Secularization is happening.
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But there's still a big question.
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You may be asking,
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"Isn't it possible that the popularity of religion could be restored,
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even in the Western world?"
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After all, faith promises benefits
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that are difficult or impossible to obtain any other way.
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It offers meaning, purpose, solace,
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ultimate justice, life after death,
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the prospect of being reunited with loved ones,
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and so on.
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Isn't it the case, you might be wondering,
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that nothing is irreversible?
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There's a reluctance nowadays, I think,
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to believe that we're converging towards some determined future.
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This is a notion that was popular in the mid 20th century,
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but that's fallen out of favor.
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It reminds us now a bit of the Victorian idea of progress,
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where the highest form of civilization
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is represented by people who are remarkably just like us.
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And yet, modernization does have effects.
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We can look at, for example, the Human Development Index,
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which is calculated each year by a United Nations agency.
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It's based on life expectancy,
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years of education,
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national income per capita.
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And on that score,
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Norway is currently at the top;
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Niger, in Africa, is at the bottom.
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And as you look down this list of all the different countries in the world,
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it's very apparent
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that the most highly developed countries are the least religious
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and the least developed countries are the most religious.
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Now, there are some exceptions.
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There are the countries on the Arabian Peninsula, for example,
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that produce oil, are off the trend line.
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They're rich, but religious.
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But in the mid 20th century,
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they were underdeveloped and very traditional.
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So it's certainly the case
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that religious decline comes very late in the process of modernization,
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but it does come, at least if societies modernize.
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If we think about
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the very question about whether religion can decline in society,
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it's often objected that most of the world is religious.
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And that's very true,
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but then, most of the world isn't very highly developed.
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So I'm talking specifically about the 40 or 50 countries
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that have gone furthest down the path of modernization,
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places in Europe, North America, Australia, New Zealand,
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a few in East Asia, a few in Latin America.
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The 140, 150 countries elsewhere are very different.
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It's not easy to specify the causal mechanisms,
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and indeed, it would take another few talks
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to even try to sketch some of the factors
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that might connect modernizaton with problems for religion.
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But to name just a few:
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prosperity brings choice
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and an unwillingness to defer to traditional authority;
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secular and scientific worldviews start to displace religious worldviews;
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communications and geographical mobility
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bring people into contact with different cultures and beliefs;
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and physical and material security
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seem to reduce the need for the solace provided by spirituality.
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Now, whether any or perhaps all of these factors operate,
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it's clear that there's something about the process of modernization
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that does cause problems for religion.
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Moreover, it's very difficult for religion to bounce back.
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We do know of some places
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where religious involvement has increased in recent decades,
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but those are typically places where national elites had suppressed religion
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or imposed a degree of secularity that was lower
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than the development of the country would find natural.
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So one thinks, for example, of Iran, the former Soviet Union, China,
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even Turkey perhaps -
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but when those regimes fell or restrictions were relaxed,
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religion rebounded to something that was more like an appropriate level,
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given the degree of modernization.
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So the secular transition is underway,
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but why should it be irreversible?
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I think the key reason is that people with no religion
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have great difficulty in acquiring one.
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And if you're wondering why that's the case,
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it might help in understanding this
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to think about a religion that's not your own.
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Now, I'm going to guess that most of you watching aren't Hindu.
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Apologies to those of you who are.
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You can think of a different religion.
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But here, as an example, are some of the Hindu deities.
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And here are some scenes of Hindu worship.
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Now, some of you may decide that Hinduism is the faith that you've been looking for,
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but I suspect that for most of you, it seems a bit exotic, strange,
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maybe even slightly scary.
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And I suggest that that's the position
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that a large proportion of young adults in the West are in
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with respect to any religion.
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They weren't brought up going to church, and they don't feel comfortable attending.
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They didn't grow up with Christian doctrine.
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That's not to say they won't become Christian.
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Some of them will. Many will.
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Some will become Hare Krishna or Muslim or Buddhist.
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But most won't,
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and for most, in fact, it's nearly impossible.
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You have to be raised with a religion to find it natural.
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Now, I'm not suggesting that religious belief is inherently implausible
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or religious practice is inherently odd.
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On the contrary.
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What I want to argue is that it's a matter of custom and culture.
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So in the past, in the West,
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most people had a religion, at least nominally.
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Most people had some sort of religious knowledge.
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Religious involvement was the norm,
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and it was supported by culture and popular sentiment.
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These days, the default is quite the reverse.
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Many people grow up with very little acquaintance with religion
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or religious identity.
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Religion has become almost countercultural,
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indeed to the extent that people who have any contact with religion,
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it's often in news stories about extremism or abuse or intolerance.
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And that's simply not conducive for religious revival.
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I'm not arguing that Westerners are all rationalist,
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with a naturalistic worldview.
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On the contrary.
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A large proportion, at least half, believe in God or something out there,
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a higher power perhaps.
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Another large, perhaps non-overlapping proportion
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believe in some form of life after death.
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But for most people, it's not something they're really interested in,
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it's not something that's very important in their lives;
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they have little interest in becoming religiously active.
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So the secular transition is underway.
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Because it proceeds by generational replacements,
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it works very slowly and will be going on for years to come.
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When it comes to human beings, nothing is certain,
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but I hope that I've shown you that there's a good argument
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there's no way back for religion in the West.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)



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xmrtuvgs
I was raised with religion, and by the time I was 13, I was already wondering about all the logical inconsistencies, and not wanting any thing to do with it. Later in life, I took a deeper look, and know for sure, religious way of seeing the world, is not for me.
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The Great Gazoo
I was fortunate enough to be born into a family that believed that your religion is your own business. We were taken to church and enrolled in sunday school, but were not forced to attend. It was a long time ago, so I can't be sure, but I think I attended two, maybe three, sunday school classes before I concluded it was nonsense and never went back.
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Gretchen Robinson
What a relief to hear this. Now 7 years later it's even more so.
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Jennifer Bates
I'm a 3rd generation Athesit. I am from Rhode Island, USA. My kids are 4th generation. I was raised with love, logic, and education. Same is with my children.
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Aniket Tripathi
When we have conception of that's it,means we have chosen to close all the doors to progress further. We forget that progress is a journey never destination. Whatever we achieve is just one more milestones never final goal /achievement.
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Sally
I was raised evangelical (the one TRUE religion according to them) and started falling away during high school. I continued going to church for a year or two just to please my mother. When I left home that was the end of church going for me. It took me 35-40 years to work through the indoctrination but at age 75 I can now call me myself a proud atheist. I don't want to believe, I want to know the truth. I'm a science gal now.
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Roach Man
What separates me from my parents, their parents, so forth is i grew up with access to the internet, the ability to read and learn about anything i wanted, all they knew was what they were taught by their parents, i have more options to pursue what feels right for me. Those before me didn't have the same options i do with all the knowledge that a few pushes on a keyboard with google can bring. Those before us really only had one thing in the religious category that they knew about, and doors opened up for us presenting us with many different belief systems and religions, it has become more of a people know can carve their own paths instead of going down ones already laid out for us. The ability to be more independent in your religious beliefs i think is quiet nice.
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Investing for Tomorrow
After being an early member of a church, I began evolving into a scientific materialist, however, I experienced an epiphany (Job 4: 13-15) during the controversial Vietnamese war. It made me believe that the spark of life is in every breathing human being and should be revered. Voas presents some thoughtful and learned observations.
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Julian I
As a norwegian I can confirm you pretty much take it for granted that everyone you meet is not religious. And if someone is, one almost assumes they have some emotional trauma they are dealing with. Most "religious" beliefe is a deeply private, personal thing, here. Often found among middle aged or older women who are fairly conservative and kind, concerned with children. It's hardly a theme, here, generally. Nobody speaks much about it in public. It's a matter between friends and family. Something you open up about to your partner or close friend.
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Robert Davidson
Yeah, Norway is pretty messed up.
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clavo
Very important comment. It is within Christian Biblical teaching: "I did not come for the righteous." Wonder what the Norwegian view of right and wrong; or, justice is?
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Julian I
 @clavo  Humanitarian views grounded in evolutionary biology, mosty. It's in everyones interest to live in a world where we treat each other well. Other animals do that to a large extent, too. Us humans have just expanded and expanded our circle of moral consideration past tribes, race and even species to some degree. And we have been able to do that thanks to our ability to think ahead, reflect on our values and actions, and our advanced communication skills. Other than that we are just another animal. So essentially - just like religious morality - it is grounded in an internal desire to be personally rewarded in the long run. It's just that the reason for it being "good" is grounded in our universal interests to avoid suffering, and seek pleasure/comfort. "It is good to help my neighbour, because then he will be good to me back, spread the rumour of my kindness, and it will reward me in the long run" - hence our emotional motivators gives us positive emotions when we help our neighbour. Most norwegians probably never think about this, tho, and only act according to what they have learned is socially acceptable, or what their empathy guides them away from doing. Most people seem to be motivated mostly by a desire to be socially accepted, which is understandable for a social species. But this social trait is also what can lead to moral disasters. It's the dark side of a social species, that most people are willing to do terrible things in order to fit in with their "group". Other norwegians who are privately spiritually minded might appeal to a supernatural authority to ground morality, similar to christians. Hope this can help you understand :)
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clavo
 @Julian I  It makes logical sense to me. Only thing it leaves out is the experience of miracles. That's interesting about your view that "we are only animals." I would argue that clairvoyance is real and that is different from human to human telepathy that even dogs and horses can easily engage in. I'm referring to the cosmos type signaling. But, that's me. Others may have different experiences.
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Julian I
 @clavo  I like that you brought that up. I myself have had experiences that seemed to trancend time, and I have a difficult time fitting that into my mostly materialistic worldview. My experiences MIGHT be only my own misremembering and misinterpreting. I find that more likely, to be honest, but I'm still not convinced that there isn't some dimension that trancends ours and has to do with consciousness. And if there is, animals are part of that, too. In my own experience with other animals they have as much a sophisticated ability to sense and feel, as we do, perhaps even a greater ability. Only they can't theorize and make logical meaning out of it - something humans seem to be pretty obsessed with, haha.
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clavo
 @Julian I  The ability for humans to train animals is pretty wonderful. A recent documentary of TV discussed how a chemical in cat feces was effective in making mice docile and thus more available to cats as prey. If predators can do that then maybe having dogs and cats as pets isn't such a great idea.
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Julian I
 @clavo  Interesting, maybe so. There are great health benefits in companion animals too, though. And it's always great to help someone who needs a home.
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Wille k
Hi. As someone who reads a lot of history, the number one error I find in common parlance is how people think they are special. "I can't believe X still happens, it's 2021." They assume their own generation's psychological hardware have evolved. It's extremely arrogant. The rubber hits the road for me when, more or less all people from the dawn of time, were generally distinctly religious societies – except for us. I don't have a clear answer about what we're missing by generational absence from religion, but it's worth asking what is the cost? What positive aspects of religion are we missing after many generations of religion being undermined? If you're not religious, like me, there is still value in finding a secular replacement for what ever we might be losing out on. Thank you.
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Julian I
 @Wille k  I think I agree with you. Thank you for pointing out it can be kind of arrogant. In other areas I see that clearly, but for some reason I had a blindspot here. Thanks for pointing it out :)
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Doug M
 @Robert Davidson  compared to where exactly?
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Robert Davidson
 @Doug M  without needing comparison
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sibanought
 @Doug M  As RD said; WITHOUT NEEDING COMPARISON !!!
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