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2024/12/25

A Course in a Miracles says forgiveness is a “selective remembering,” the choice to take into the present only what you wish to have program your future. What we attach meaning to will have meaning for us. It’s much easier said than done, but learning to apply the lesson that only love is real frees us from the experience of everything else.

This is a week of such sacred opportunity… to open our hearts, to expand our awareness, to understand more deeply and allow feelings to wash over us. As we approach the new year we owe to ourselves to choose what we will let go as well as what we choose to take with us.

Sometimes others wronged us, and sometimes we wronged ourselves. But we can atone for what we did and figure others for anything they did to wrong us. Atonement and forgiveness free us from the need to keep carrying the burden of judgement and blame. According to ACIM we can have a grievance or a miracle, but we cannot have both.

Most importantly, the choices is ours to make. Only we can decide whether to be bitter or better. The choice to be better is a choice for miracles and love.

Jamie Moore

"Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon."

-Morgan Freeman as Nelson Mandela in Invictus movie

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Epona Mujer Caballo

I appreciate this message right now. Stay blessed

Stacy Hall

I needed to see this today, thank you. I have held grudges for decades, hehehe...but am aware now that it only hurts me, and I'm shocked that I still ruminate on old wrongs and sleights. But this old dog is learning new tricks, and much happier in forgiving mode than I was in vengeance.

Sarah Lance

My husband died of cancer this past summer. He used to hassle you and others a lot, but in the end as he was letting go of this life he really got it. We’d met through AOL and then got married. Both students of the Course, on our own paths through this bodily experience. He returned to love on August 3, left us bereft. First Christmas without him. We worked on forgiving everything. I release him from any illusion and see only his pure heart. I miss him so much. He loved you Marianne.

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IMHO the must useful words in this post are, “What we attach meaning to will have meaning for us.” I like to start with thinking of a compass. North, South, East ,and West. These are meanings the world heavily relies on. What do these words truly mean?? They mean what we say they mean. They mean what we have all collectively agreed they mean. Otherwise those words are in truth meaningless. So what this post points toward and makes available for our choosing via the course is that when I’m mad, hurt, whatever it’s because I’ve chosen to believe that I am supposed to mad or hurt. If that guy pulls out in front of me or that person didn’t buy me a gift when I bought them one. Whatever it might be. It’s an offense to a belief system that is entirely meant for the maintenance and defense of our made up idea of ourselves. Hello I am Bill this is who the world taught me to be so if you offend I’m going to tell you out loud or within myself to go F yourself.

It/We are hysterically funny when we begin to step back from the role we play on this stage on each act of life. I’m not saying any of this is easy but once we lay down the defenses/the sword

used to defend our beliefs made up by collectively reinforced ideas and thoughts and feelings we embrace the ease that comes with who we have actually always been. We are the Christ the one, the I Am you and you are me. Then the simplicity of it comes or at least becomes available. Use the hurts. Use the thoughts and feelings for what they offer salvation. Or when can keep climbing up on the cross rinse wash repeat. Blessings to you my beloved Brothers and Sisters.

Larry Edmonds

Thanks, Marianne, AGAIN, for yet another valuable teaching

Rigoberto Chávez

No point in being bitter when a door closes for a better one usually opens

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Shelley Reynolds

Love this and your Christmas posting from last year!

Laurie Weber Zanelli

Thank you for sharing! What a wonderful reminder. Have a blessed Holiday Season!

Jamie Moore

"Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon."
-Morgan Freeman as Nelson Mandela in Invictus movie

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I needed to see this today, thank you. I have held grudges for decades, hehehe...but am aware now that it only hurts me, and I'm shocked that I still ruminate on old wrongs and sleights. But this old dog is learning new tricks, and much happier in forgiving mode than I was in vengeance.

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My husband died of cancer this past summer. He used to hassle you and others a lot, but in the end as he was letting go of this life he really got it. We’d met through AOL and then got married. Both students of the Course, on our own paths through this bodily experience. He returned to love on August 3, left us bereft. First Christmas without him. We worked on forgiving everything. I release him from any illusion and see only his pure heart. I miss him so much. He loved you Marianne.

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IMHO the must useful words in this post are, “What we attach meaning to will have meaning for us.” I like to start with thinking of a compass. North, South, East ,and West. These are meanings the world heavily relies on. What do these words truly mean?? They mean what we say they mean. They mean what we have all collectively agreed they mean. Otherwise those words are in truth meaningless. So what this post points toward and makes available for our choosing via the course is that when I’m mad, hurt, whatever it’s because I’ve chosen to believe that I am supposed to mad or hurt. If that guy pulls out in front of me or that person didn’t buy me a gift when I bought them one. Whatever it might be. It’s an offense to a belief system that is entirely meant for the maintenance and defense of our made up idea of ourselves. Hello I am Bill this is who the world taught me to be so if you offend I’m going to tell you out loud or within myself to go F yourself.

It/We are hysterically funny when we begin to step back from the role we play on this stage on each act of life. I’m not saying any of this is easy but once we lay down the defenses/the sword

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Love this and your Christmas posting from last year!

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Thank you for sharing! What a wonderful reminder. Have a blessed Holiday Season!

2024/12/24

Dad celebrates teen who took his autistic son to prom

Dad celebrates teen who took his autistic son to prom

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Now and then, we come across regular folk who do exceptional things that restore our faith in humanity.

This emotional post was shared on Facebook a couple of years ago, but it melts my heart every time I see it – so why not spread it forward?

It’s about a dad who talks about the day when a girl suddenly came into his office and asked permission to pop a question to his autistic son.

Children with special needs often just want experiences similar to what any child their age might want. Finding a date for a school dance is a high priority for any 17-year-old, so it can be a tough blow to one’s self-confidence if no one agrees to go with them.
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To go alone – though not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things – can be tantamount to social ruin for a teenager; failure to secure a partner can therefore pose a serious threat to self-confidence.

Some kids can be ultra-sensitive and do not yet have the tools they need to understand everything just yet – this applies even more to children with special needs, such as autism.

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The father in this story, Mike Larson, decided to write down what happened when his autistic son, Jon, prepared for his high school prom. He then published the whole story on Facebook, where it has now been shared and liked by millions of people. Read it below!

“This is my son Jon with his prom date Maddi,” wrote Mike in the caption of his prom photo post. “He is a junior and he has autism. About a month ago, Maddi, a senior, came to my office (I’m a teacher at their school) and asked if Jon’s mom and I would allow her to take him to prom.”

Mike continued, “Maddi had gotten to know Jon through a school club that promotes friendships between special needs kids and regular kids. “He’s a junior,” she explained “so it’s his prom too. I just think he should have the chance to go.” I told her we would be honored to have him go with her.”

Not only did Maddi decide to take Jon to her senior prom, but she also wanted him to have the best night ever. She did some investigating and learned about Jon’s favorite color (orange), so she could get a dress in that color. She also booked a table for their group (they doubled with another couple) at the restaurant that served his favorite food – chicken fingers, French fries, and chocolate milk.

Update: I’m reposting to celebrate this post from 6 years ago. Last week it went past 1 million shares. I have received…Posted by Mike Larson on Saturday, April 27, 2013

Before inviting Jon to the dance, Maddi wanted to ask his father if it would be okay.

“It was a pretty breathtaking moment for me,” Mike Larson told Milwaukee Journal Sentinel.
Mike’s prom post

According to Mike, he had three reasons for making the prom photo post on social media.
1. “to show support for special kids like Jon.”

2. “to show support for groups that promote these friendships.”

3. “to remind us all, in a time when we hear about all the terrible things going on, that there are wonderful kids like Maddi working to make other’s lives better.“

The viral prom photo was originally posted in 2013, and after that, Mike Larson continued to give updates on what happened to the couple after the prom.

In 2019, he celebrated that the post had reached 1 million shares and that his text had been spread worldwide. He also explained how everyone was doing: “Many have asked how Jon is doing. He is well and happy, still living at home.”

Mike also revealed that Maddi is now married and sometimes feels “embarrassed” by all the attention – she didn’t see this as a special thing. Mike concluded the post by saying, “Thanks to all who have wished them well.”

When Jon was diagnosed with autism more than 16 years ago, his father made up several scenarios in his head. One was that his son would never go to a prom because of his autism. But thanks to Maddi, Jon was not just able to go to prom but have a wonderful night!

”It’s something I never thought would happen for our family, and not only did it happen, but it’s happened in such a beautiful way,” Mike Larson said. ”And to have it go on and bless the lives of other people is beyond anything I ever could have hoped for. It will be one of the nicest memories of our lives.”

How is it possible my baby boy is 20 today? Jon, I love you so.Posted by Mike Larson on Monday, January 19, 2015

I can really appreciate that there are still nice and warm people out there – it spreads hope to us all. If you also like this story, feel free to follow the father’s request and share it with your loved ones too!

This young lady is so sweet & considerate for asking his parents first I hope they had many photos taken of them to remember that special event!

Why Do Married Couples in Japan Sleep Separately?

Why Do Married Couples in Japan Sleep Separately?
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Sleeping in separate beds has long been a cultural norm in Japan, and it’s no longer exclusive to the Land of the Rising Sun. Recently, the practice of couples sleeping in separate beds or even separate rooms has gained popularity worldwide, with 1 in 4 couples now choosing this setup. While this decision might carry a certain stigma and raise questions about its effects on family dynamics, many couples see it as beneficial for both their relationship and personal well-being. Let’s explore the reasons why couples in Japan and elsewhere choose separate sleeping arrangements and the potential advantages this practice offers.
1. Addressing Sleep-related Issues

One of the primary reasons couples choose to sleep apart is to address various nighttime sleep disturbances. Factors such as snoring, restlessness, parasomnia, frequent bathroom visits, or differing “sleep schedules” can interrupt both partners’ rest, often resulting in greater fatigue and irritability during the day. By sleeping in separate beds, couples can improve their sleep quality and reduce interruptions, which in turn supports a better mood and overall health. Studies indicate that better sleep contributes to stronger connections during the day, fostering a happier and healthier life together.
2. Demonstrating Love in Different Ways

Sleeping in separate beds doesn’t automatically indicate a deficiency in love or emotional intimacy between partners. In reality, couples who opt to sleep apart can still show their love and dedication in numerous ways throughout their daily routines. Simple gestures like “holding hands,” “complimenting each other,” or “spending quality time together” can reassure their children and those around them that their relationship remains strong, even if they decide to sleep in different beds at night.

3. Resolving Conflicts and Reducing Resentment

Sharing a bed can sometimes result in conflicts due to differing sleeping habits or nighttime disturbances. Over time, these conflicts can lead to resentment, impacting the overall dynamics of the relationship. Couples can circumvent these issues by sleeping separately, which helps prevent them from developing into larger problems. This arrangement allows each partner to maintain their sleep routine, ensuring they both wake up feeling refreshed and prepared to tackle the day without unnecessary friction.
4. Preserving Intimacy and Romance

Some people may worry that sleeping in separate beds could decrease intimacy, but studies indicate otherwise. Couples who sleep apart to improve their sleep quality have demonstrated no reduction in their romantic connection compared to those who sleep together. Intimacy in a relationship does not rely solely on the physical act of sharing a bed. Factors such as emotional bonds, mutual respect, and communication are crucial in maintaining and even enhancing intimacy, irrespective of sleeping arrangements.

5. Individual Privacy and Independence

Sleeping separately can offer couples a valuable opportunity for personal privacy and independence, which is crucial for nurturing a healthy sense of self within a relationship. It enables each partner to have their own space, promoting a greater sense of autonomy and self-fulfillment. Consequently, this can enhance overall satisfaction within the relationship, as both partners are more inclined to feel respected and supported in pursuing their individual interests and needs.

6. Reducing Sleep Disturbances

As couples grow older, they may experience different sleep issues due to changes in health or physical conditions. Having separate sleeping arrangements can help lessen the effects of these disturbances on both individuals. For example, a partner with “sleep apnea” or other sleep disorders may disturb their spouse’s sleep less if they sleep in different beds or rooms. This arrangement can result in improved rest for both partners, ultimately enhancing their overall well-being.
7. Managing Different Sleep Schedules

In numerous situations, couples have varying work schedules or personal routines that can disrupt each other’s sleep patterns. For example, one partner may be a “night owl,” while the other prefers to go to bed early. By sleeping separately, each partner can maintain their desired sleep schedule, leading to improved sleep quality and reducing disturbances to their natural sleep rhythms.
8. Avoiding Conflict Over Temperature Preferences

Another aspect that can affect sleep quality is temperature preferences. Some people like to sleep in a cooler environment, while others prefer it to be warmer. When sharing a bed with differing temperature preferences, discomfort and sleep disturbances can occur. By sleeping separately, each partner can adjust the room temperature to suit their liking, leading to a more comfortable and restful sleep experience.
9. Enhancing Emotional Well-being

Sleeping in separate beds is essential for emotional health and can lead to a more peaceful and restorative sleep experience. Improved sleep quality can help lower stress levels and enhance emotional regulation, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

10. Respecting Each Other’s Boundaries

Ultimately, having separate sleeping arrangements can help couples honor each other’s boundaries and personal needs. It enables them to focus on their individual well-being while still nurturing a loving and supportive relationship during the day.

In summary, sharing separate beds in a marriage or relationship is not a universal remedy. It varies based on the specific dynamics and requirements of each couple. Although it might not work for everyone, for some, it can be a positive option that enhances their overall well-being and happiness. The essential factors are open communication, understanding, and reaching a mutually satisfying compromise that best suits both partners.

2024/12/25

Marianne Williamson forgiveness is a “selective remembering,”

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Dad celebrates teen who took his autistic son to prom

Why Do Married Couples in Japan Sleep Separately?