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How faith and spirituality shape modern Japan | The Japan Times

How faith and spirituality shape modern Japan | The Japan Times

How faith and spirituality shape modern Japan

The religious movement behind the grudge held by the man arrested for Abe’s assassination has cast a fresh light on how religion is perceived and practiced in the nation

Yukari Nozawa doesn’t think much about the myriad Shinto, Buddhist and even Christian customs she follows.

There’s the Bon holidays in mid-August, for example, when she visits her family grave in Niigata Prefecture to honor the souls of her ancestors believed to return from the netherworld. She has been invited to Christian-style weddings and has attended Christmas Mass in the past, the latter out of curiosity.

Just recently, she visited Tokyo’s Kanda Myojin Shrine for a purification ritual to dispel bad luck associated with her age. At 31 (or 32 in the East Asian system of age reckoning), she is maeyaku, or the year before what’s considered women’s yakudoshi — the age of misfortune, according to folk traditions.

Like many Japanese, however, Nozawa doesn’t consider herself religious. In fact, the word shūkyō (religion) has a rather negative connotation for her, evoking images of cults and followers of dubious or even dangerous beliefs, a notion amplified in recent weeks after the assassination of former Prime Minister Shinzo Abe by a man who held a grudge over the politician’s ties to the Unification Church, a global religious movement founded in South Korea that has been accused of being a cult.

“I believe perceptions toward the word ‘religion’ are quite different in Japan than overseas,” says Nozawa, a magazine editor for a publisher based in Tokyo.

In a country where Buddhist and Shinto rituals, as well as centuries-old folk beliefs and superstitions, are deeply ingrained in everyday life, “the term ‘religion’ can feel foreign and even associable with scary cults,” she says.

Nozawa’s views are hardly unique in Japan, a nation whose peculiar nature of religiosity can be difficult to grasp from a Western perspective, and a society in which faith and spirituality are both wide-ranging and highly personalized to the extent that a majority of the population don’t even consider themselves to be religious, despite their lives being steeped in various rites and practices derived from religious traditions.

Religiosity in a secular state

Take the Japanese National Character Survey published every five years by the Institute of Statistical Mathematics. One of the questions it asks respondents is whether they have any faith or beliefs. In the latest survey from 2018, only 26% said they did, with 74% answering that they don’t. In fact, this ratio has been largely unchanged since the report began including the question in 1958.

Norichika Horie, a professor of religious studies at the University of Tokyo, says the average Japanese person doesn’t particularly identify themself with any religions or sects. | COURTESY OF NORICHIKA HORIE
Norichika Horie, a professor of religious studies at the University of Tokyo, says the average Japanese person doesn’t particularly identify themself with any religions or sects. | COURTESY OF NORICHIKA HORIE

The same report, however, also asks if people think having a “religious mind” is important. 57% answered “yes” in the 2018 survey, compared to 24% who answered “no.” What’s behind this discrepancy?

“The Japanese people are often perceived as being nonreligious, but that’s not the case,” says Norichika Horie, a professor of religious studies at the University of Tokyo. “They just don’t describe it as ‘religion.’”

Horie points to how the concept of shūkyō has a rather short history, entering the lexicon when it was borrowed from Buddhist terminology during the early Meiji Period (1868-1912) as a translation of the English word “religion.”

Meanwhile, the separation of the church and state by the Meiji government introduced the idea that Shinto shrines weren’t religious but secular in their nature — a concept linked to imperial Japan’s state Shinto ideology that enforced the notion that Shinto, which is an ancient system of animistic beliefs and customs, is nonreligious and rather a patriotic practice and thus not a violation of freedom of religion.

Following World War II, however, the occupation forces issued the Shinto Directive to abolish state support for Shintoism, which they regarded as functioning as a propaganda tool fueling ultranationalism.

In 1951, Japan established the Religious Corporations Ordinance to confer legal capacities to religious organizations. Under the decree, these groups were defined as those “whose main purpose is to spread religious doctrines, hold ceremonial events, and educate and nurture believers.”

But this definition, while neutral in language, may sound rather unfamiliar and even alien to the average Japanese person who doesn’t particularly identify themself with any religions or sects, Horie says.

“Annual Shinto rituals and ‘funeral Buddhism’ aren’t considered ‘religion’ among the Japanese,” he says. The latter refers to how most Japanese conduct Buddhist funerals and memorial services, while those who live in the city only occasionally partake in Buddhist activities or doctrines.

Meanwhile, folk beliefs associated with annual Shinto rites and funeral Buddhism have been practiced in everyday life, and therefore have not been regarded as religious, but as ordinary and vernacular, he says.

Their animistic or shamanistic features have taken a new guise as occultism, spiritualism and the new age movement from the West successively intertwined, leading to more contemporary forms of spirituality.

“These are all ‘nonreligious’ activities rooted in religion,” he says. “They’re safe, and can be practiced at ease, and that’s how traditional religion has been preserved in Japan.”

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Meanwhile, the negative image associated with religion may intensify following Abe’s murder and the publishing of details regarding his connection with the Unification Church, Horie says.

Interest in religion and religious activities have already taken a hit during the pandemic, he adds, as travel restrictions and social distancing measures saw many Japanese refrain from visiting shrines and family graves.

“Still, this could be temporary. Similar phenomena have been observed in the past in the aftermaths of major events, including the Great Hanshin Earthquake in 1995 and the Great East Japan Earthquake in 2011,” Horie says. “Surveys have shown that religious awareness dips, but then recovers as peace returns to society.”

Spirituality boom

Those who grew up in Japan during the 1970s — at the tail end of the nation’s postwar economic miracle — may recall the flurry of occult magazines and television shows featuring anything from hauntings and spectral sightings to unidentified flying objects and psychokinesis.

Often dubbed the “golden age of the occult,” the period saw children and adults alike transfixed by Israeli spoon-bender Uri Geller, the prophecies of Nostradamus, cryptids such as the Loch Ness Monster and kokkuri-san, Japan’s equivalent of the ouija board, to name a few.

Shelves in bookstores were filled with new age literature and spiritual self-help books. Zen became a worldwide phenomenon. Sakyo Komatsu penned his best-selling apocalyptic novel “Japan Sinks” and “The Exorcist” smashed box-office records. Urban legends such as Kuchisake-onna (Slit-Mouthed Woman) began to be widely circulated.

This was also a time when so-called new religions — including Tenrikyo (founded in 1838), Seicho-no Ie (founded in 1930) and the Church of World Messianity (founded in 1935) — saw their membership soar to unprecedented heights.

Ryosuke Okamoto, author of 'Shukyo to Nihonjin' ('Religion and the Japanese'), says Shintoism and Buddhism co-exist in Japan. | COURTESY OF RYOSUKE OKAMOTO
Ryosuke Okamoto, author of ‘Shukyo to Nihonjin’ (‘Religion and the Japanese’), says Shintoism and Buddhism co-exist in Japan. | COURTESY OF RYOSUKE OKAMOTO

“But even amid the new religion boom in the 1970s, the vast majority of Japanese weren’t part of these religions,” says Ryosuke Okamoto, an associate professor at Hokkaido University and the author of “Shukyo to Nihonjin” (“Religion and the Japanese”).

“One interesting aspect of faith in Japan is how Shinto is community-based while Buddhism is household-based. They co-exist, and people don’t question that at all,” Okamoto says. “Only a small minority belong to other religions, including Christianity and newer organizations.”

That overlap is evident in the Agency of Cultural Affairs’ annual statistical research on religion, which shows that as of Dec. 31, 2020, there were approximately 88 million believers of Shinto and 84 million believers of Buddhism. Combined, that’s around 47 million more people than the entire population of Japan. Meanwhile, the agency counted roughly 1.9 million adherents of Christianity, and 7.3 million followers of other religions.

“New religions and cults are characterized by strong doctrines that upset commonly held values. But because of their distinct worldview, they are unacceptable to many Japanese,” Okamoto says. And that, he adds, may be one of the reasons why people flocked to spirituality and other less-assertive religious movements and practices.

That boom continued well into the 1980s and early ’90s when Japan’s asset price bubble burst, miring the nation in protracted economic stagnation.

Prime-time television ran shows featuring shamans and spiritualists conducting divinations, exorcisms and battling vengeful ghosts. Fortune-telling, including astrology and palm and tarot card readings, became popular among teenage girls, while a rise in young people believing in life after death and spiritual worlds provided fertile ground for various new religions to emerge.

Among them was Aum Shinrikyo, the doomsday cult whose long-haired, bearded guru, Shoko Asahara, made frequent appearances in media before the dangerous nature of the sect began to surface. On March 20, 1995, Aum orchestrated sarin gas attacks on the Tokyo subway system that killed 13 and injured around 6,000. The attacks triggered an outpouring of negative coverage and brewed general suspicion toward religion.

By the turn of the millennium, however, the popularity of spirituality saw a resurgence, albeit in a gentler form with emphasis toward individual happiness. A key figure in the movement was Hiroyuki Ehara, a soft-spoken and self-proclaimed spiritual counselor and television personality who read people’s auras as well as previous lives and relayed positive messages from their deceased loved ones.

There was criticism at the time, however, that these programs and so-called spiritual businesses could serve as gateways exposing the public to more dangerous cults.

In 2007, the National Network of Lawyers Against Spiritual Sales submitted a request to the Japan Commercial Broadcasters Association and public broadcaster NHK, among other key stations. The group asked that broadcasters take caution when running programs dealing with topics such as spirituality and the afterlife that lack any objective basis, as it could misguide viewers and make them susceptible to religion-related scams.

The lawyers raised the Unification Church as an example, claiming the organization was showing Ehara’s programs to its followers in order to spread its doctrine and solicit more donations in the name of saving the souls of their suffering ancestors.

Tatsuya Yumiyama, a professor of religious studies at the Tokyo Institute of Technology, says many of the new religious groups have been losing followers in recent years. | COURTESY OF TATSUYA YUMIYAMA
Tatsuya Yumiyama, a professor of religious studies at the Tokyo Institute of Technology, says many of the new religious groups have been losing followers in recent years. | COURTESY OF TATSUYA YUMIYAMA

“What we saw from the 1970s and onward was a transition from new religions to spirituality, and from salvation to healing,” Okamoto says. “But what remains is that most Japanese are rather naive and lack immunity toward religions and cults.”

New versus old religions

By no means has religion, both old and new, ceased to loosen its influence on Japan’s socioeconomic and political spheres.

The Association of Shinto Shrines, which represents the roughly 80,000 shrines in the nation, and its lobbying arm, the Shinto Association of Spiritual Leadership, have been actively pushing conservative political agendas, including Constitutional revision and education reform.

Political party Komeito, founded by lay Buddhist organization Soka Gakkai in 1964, has been serving as the ruling Liberal Democratic Party’s junior coalition partner. While having formerly separated from the religious group, Soka Gakkai remains the party’s major electoral constituency.

And the Unification Church’s ties with politicians run deep, with Abe’s grandfather and former Prime Minister Nobusuke Kishi reportedly having forged a close relationship with the organization’s founder, Sun Myung Moon.

Founded in 1954, the group’s membership in Japan took off in the 1980s when it also made headlines in relation to “spiritual sales” that cajole people into buying exorbitantly priced goods that supposedly possess supernatural benefits. The organization’s activities attracted renewed scrutiny in the late 2000s following a series of arrests in connection to such sales.

“Looking at recent media coverage of the church, it seems many have forgotten that history,” says Tatsuya Yumiyama, a professor of religious studies at the Tokyo Institute of Technology.

Compared to the country’s spiritual heyday, however, many new religions — including the Unification Church — have been losing substantial numbers of followers and influence, he says.

During the Upper House election last month, for example, Komeito received approximately 6.18 million votes in the proportional representation district, down around 930,000 votes from last year’s Lower House elections.

The cultural affairs agency’s annual statistical survey shows that membership of new religions including Tenrikyo, Rissho Kosei Kai (founded in 1938), Reiyukai (founded in 1920) and the Church of Perfect Liberty (founded in 1916) have all declined in recent decades.

Hidenori Ukai, a Buddhist priest who heads Shogakuji temple in Kyoto, says many Japanese 'aren’t conscious of their religiosity.' | COURTESY OF HIDENORI UKAI
Hidenori Ukai, a Buddhist priest who heads Shogakuji temple in Kyoto, says many Japanese “aren’t conscious of their religiosity.” | COURTESY OF HIDENORI UKAI

“In fact, most new religions have been suffering losses since the 2000s,” Yumiyama says.

Meanwhile, cults and other questionable groups have been luring students on university campuses, prompting educational institutions to warn students of being recruited into suspicious extracurricular activities.

“My university conducts awareness-raising as well,” Yumiyama says. “Cults, self-enlightenment programs and network marketing schemes all share a similar structure and target vulnerable students who harbor doubts about their future.”

That sense of uncertainty, perhaps stemming from Japan’s prolonged economic doldrums, may be behind the fascination toward new forms of religiosity such as mindfulness meditation and visiting “power spots” — shrines, temples, mountains and other mystical energy sources.

The question remains, however, whether the Japanese population can be described as religious.

“I don’t think there’s a more religious people in the world than the Japanese,” says Hidenori Ukai, a journalist and Buddhist priest who heads the Shogakuji temple in Kyoto.

“Look at how bullet trains are packed and traffic congested during the Bon holidays with people returning home en masse to their family graves,” he says. “The Gion Matsuri in Kyoto last month was teeming with festival-goers, and don’t forget matsuri (festivals) in Japan are religious by nature.”

There’s a saying that people in Japan are born Shinto, marry Christian and die Buddhist. While the proverbial phase is often used to describe the country’s religious paradox, it shows how religious rituals and practices can be observed in many facets of society.

“The Japanese aren’t conscious of their religiosity,” Ukai says. “That’s because it’s so ingrained in their lives.”


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On quick observation, the Quaker lifestyle boasts peace, solitude, and simplicity?qualities that are attractive to any believer of any denomination or religion. Yet living a life of faith is not as simple as it may look. In fact, it?s often characterized more by the stumbles than the grace.?When someone asks me what kind of Christian I am,? says Quaker author J. Brent Bill, ?I say I?m a bad one. I?ve got the belief part down pretty well, I think. It?s in the practice of my belief in everyday life where I often miss the mark.? In Life Lessons from a Bad Quaker, a self-professed non-expert on faith invites readers on a joyful exploration of the faith journey?perfection not required. With whimsy, humor, and wisdom, Bill shows readers how to put faith into practice to achieve a life that is soulfully still yet active, simple yet satisfying, peaceful yet strong.

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J. Brent Bill is a Quaker minister, photographer, retreat leader, and author. He holds an MA in Quaker Studies from Earlham School of Religion (a Quaker seminary) and has been a recorded (ordained to non-Quakers) Friends minister for thirty years. He has also served as pastor in Friends meetings (churches) large and small, rural and urban. After more than eleven years as executive vice president of the Indianapolis Center for Congregations, Bill is the associate secretary for communications, publications, and outreach for Friends General Conference. Bill resides on Ploughshaes Farm outside Mooresville, Indiana.


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Brent is a writer and Quaker minister who lives in rural Indiana. He's the author of numerous books (including "Awaken Your Senses: Exercises for Exploring the Wonder of God," "Sacred Compass: The Way of Spiritual Discernment", "Holy Silence: The Gift of Quaker Spirituality" and "Mind the Light: Learning to See with Spiritual Eyes") and magazine articles, a writing instructor and coach, and popular speaker and retreat leader. Visit his website at www.brentbill.com or his blog at holyordinary.blogspot.com. You can also follow him Twitter (@brentbill) and "friend" him on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/J.BrentBill)

His next book, "Hope and Witness in Dangerous Times" is slated for release by John Hunt Publishing in mid-2021.

Brent's newest book -- "Beauty, Truth, Life, and Love: Four Essentials for the Abundant Life" -- was released in November 2109.

Brent's "Holy Silence" is a contemporary classic on sacred silence. With warmth, wisdom, and gentle humor, Brent presents the Quaker practice of silence and expectant listening to a wider Christian audience. The revised and expanded edition includes new spiritual silence practices and a new section on incorporating holy silence into worship. Written by one of the most respected interpreters of the Quaker tradition, Holy Silence opens up for readers a fresh way of connecting with God.

Another of his books is "Life Lessons from a Bad Quaker." “When someone asks me what kind of Christian I am,” says Bill, “I say I’m a bad one. I’ve got the belief part down pretty well, I think. It’s in the practice of my belief in everyday life where I often miss the mark.” In "Life Lessons from a Bad Quaker," a self-professed non-expert on faith invites readers on a joyful exploration of the faith journey—perfection not required. With whimsy, humor, and wisdom, Bill shows readers how to put faith into practice to achieve a life that is soulfully still yet active, simple yet satisfying, peaceful yet strong. It's for anyone who is bad at being good, this is an invitation to a pilgrimage toward a more meaningful and satisfying life . . . one step—or stumble—at a time..


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Mysticism: Quaker and Universalist by Rhoda R. Gilman - Quaker Universalist Voice

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Mysticism: Quaker and Universalist

By Rhoda Gilman


During the past three years the Quaker Universalist Fellowship has discussed the possibility of following up its three QUF Readers with a book-length collection of Quaker universalist publications on mysticism.  Lack of resources and energy have stalled the project, but it has led me to read and compare a good many of the pamphlets and articles that have been published in the last 25 years by QUF in the USA, QUG in the UK, and by other Quaker organizations and authors.

Mysticism is a burning topic these days.  In the past 60 years science has transformed our view of the universe, and technology has transformed our world.  The two have complemented and reinforced each other.  The dizzying speed of change, plus the failure to find a new worldview that will explain the mysteries of relativity and quantum theory, has turned many philosophically-minded people, including some scientists, to exploring intuitive ways of knowing.  Meanwhile violent religious conflict has erupted as people have been faced with terrifying new crises and have clung desperately to the familiar orthodoxies of the past.

For three thousand years doubt and mysticism have gone hand in hand, and both have been persecuted by religious authorities everywhere.  A third companion is universalism, and although the relationship is complicated, it is very close.  Among Christians, Quakerism, along with a few other metaphysical offshoots, has been led to explore its roots in late medieval mysticism and its newer relationship to Far Eastern mystical traditions, Vedic, Buddhist, and Taoist.

Although science makes no such claim, it is implicitly seen in our time as the touchstone of what is real.  With its formulas and equations, its controlled experiments, and especially its power over nature, it has become the doubters’ dogma.  Yet of the Quaker works I have been reading, only three acknowledge its importance in discussing mysticism.

Jack Mongar’s The Universal Sense of the Numinous is largely a historical account of the dialog between science and mysticism that has gone on since 1900.   He ends with a brief discussion of the tensions within the Society of Friends that led to the founding of the Quaker Universalist Group in Britain in 1979, followed by the QUF in 1983.

James Riemermann is a nontheist and skeptic, who denies that any meaning exists in the universe outside our own accidental consciousness.  Yet his essay on Mystery: It’s What we Don’t Know concludes:  “Part of that ineffable mystery of self-awareness is a built-in longing for eternity, for a connection with ultimate meaning.  We don’t know why we have it, but we have it.”

Quaker author Mary Conrow Cuelho’s book, Awakening Universe, Emerging Personhood: The Power of Contemplation in an Evolving Universe, is rooted in the “new story” of expansion since the “Big Bang” that has been popularized by Thomas Berry and Brian Swimme.  She extends it to include the development of self-awareness and the quest for self-actualization, leaning heavily on psychiatric theories, especially those of Carl Jung.

In the Pendle Hill pamphlet, Quaker Views on MysticismMargery Post Abbott, like Thomas Kelly, makes little distinction between mysticism and traditional faith in the existence of a loving god.  Mysticism consists in a personal feeling of divine presence, a thing which cannot be described.  She tells of steps in her own spiritual journey, and numerous sidebars tell the stories of other Friends.

Personal experience of a more dramatic kind is recounted by Patricia A. Williams in the QUF pamphlet Hazardous Engagement: God Makes a Friend.  Instead of a journal, a series of letters addressed to God record encounters in which the divine makes appearances in various forms over a period of 14 years.

Mulford Q. Sibley’s Quaker Mysticism: Its Content and Implications originated in a lecture addressed to non-Friends.  He briefly affirms mysticism as an experience of true, ineffable reality then goes on to recount Quaker acceptance and rejection of it over a history of 300 years.

In What is Spirituality? also originating as a lecture, but in one addressed to Friends, Harvey Gillman provides a preface to what may be a long personal struggle with the meaning of mysticism.  Poetry and metaphor are his preferred languages.

Paradox haunts even the title of Daniel A. Seeger’s essay The Mystical Path: A Journey to The One Who Is Always Here.  With little reference to Quakers, he describes the perceptions of what mysticism is and what it is not, returning in the end to the sacredness of pure silence.  His words have a Taoist feeling.

Finally, my own QUF pamphlet, The Universality of Unknowing:  Luther Askeland and the Wordless Way, contrasts the insights of a non-Quaker and virtually unknown contemporary mystic to the distinctly Quaker approach articulated by Rufus Jones and others.  Like Eckhart, Spinoza, and some Eastern mystics, Askeland asserts the unitive nature of reality and its inaccessibility to human thought and language, which rest on differentiation.  Along with him and with Dan Seeger, I am drawn by the power of inner silence.

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With wisdom, compassion, and gentle humor, Parker J. Palmer invites us to listen to the inner teacher and follow its leadings toward a sense of meaning and purpose. Telling stories from his own life and the lives of others who have made a difference, he shares insights gained from darkness and depression as well as fulfillment and joy, illuminating a pathway toward vocation for all who seek the true calling of their lives.

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PARKER J. PALMER holds a Ph.D. from the University of California Berkeley. He is a founder and senior partner of the Center for Courage and Renewal, senior associate of the American Association for Higher Education, and senior advisor to the Fetzer Institute. In 1998, he was named one of the thirty most influential senior leaders in higher education. He is the author of the widely praised books The Courage to Teach and To Know As We Are Known. --This text refers to the audioCD edition.


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"An exuberant and passionate book. I was deeply moved and I cannot, nor do I want to, shake off the haunting questions that it raises for me. This book penetrates the soul, and it will definitely stir you to explore more of your own inner territory. What an extraordinary achievement." (Jim Kouzes, coauthor, The Leadership Challenge and Encouraging the Heart; chairman, Tom Peters Group/Learning Systems)

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PARKER J. PALMER is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to people in many walks of life. Author of ten books—including several best-selling and award-winning titles—that have sold nearly two million copies, Palmer is the Founder and Senior Partner Emeritus of the Center for Courage & Renewal. He holds a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of California at Berkeley, as well as thirteen honorary doctorates, two Distinguished Achievement Awards from the National Educational Press Association, and an Award of Excellence from the Associated Church Press. In 1998, the Leadership Project, a national survey of 10,000 educators, named him one of the 30 most influential senior leaders in higher education and one of the 10 key agenda-setters of the past decade. In 2010, he was given the William Rainey Harper Award (previously won by Margaret Mead, Marshall McLuhan, Paulo Freire, and Elie Wiesel). In 2011, the Utne Reader named him as one of "25 Visionaries Who Are Changing Your World.” In 2021, the Freedom of Spirit Fund, a UK-based foundation, gave him their "Lifetime Achievement Award” in honor of work that promotes and protects spiritual freedom. For 20-plus years, the Accrediting Commission for Graduate Medical Education (ACGME) has given annual Parker J. Palmer “Courage to Teach” and “Courage to Lead” Awards to directors of exemplary medical residency programs. "Living the Questions: Essays Inspired by the Work and Life of Parker J. Palmer," was published in 2005. Born and raised in the Chicago area, he has lived in NYC, Berkeley, CA, Washington, DC, and Philadelphia, PA. He currently lives in Madison, Wisconsin.

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LET YOUR LIFE SPEAK
BY PARKER J. PALMER

This is my second pass through Let Your Life Speak. Thank you Parker Palmer for the insights into the "voice of vocation." "Vocation does not come from willfulness. It comes from listening," writes Palmer." His contention: How we are to listen to our lives is a question worth exploring. This book will help you listen! It is a vocational must read!

Palmer is not going to give you an ABC or 123 step-by-step plan, but his insights into vocation are great road signs to point you in the right direction. Here are a number of my takeaways:

10 Takeaways:

1. The Hasidic tale of Zusya: In the coming world, they will not ask me: 'Why were you not Moses?' They will ask me: 'Why were you not Zusya?' (yourself). I never forgot that from my first reading years ago. We find our authentic callings by being who we are, not trying to be someone else. "Ask me whether what I have done is my life." So good.

2. The Clearness Committee: See pages 44ff, 92. Having participated in a Clearness Committee, I can testify this is a powerful practice. Sitting among a small group of trusted advisors who are prohibited from offering "fixes," but instead can 0nly ask probing questions to help the one seeking clarity come to their "inner truth."

3. Frederick Buechner's definition of Vocation: The place where your deep gladness meets the world's deep need. From Wishful Thinking: A Seeker's ABC, p. 119.

4. The heart of my vocation: Teaching is at the heart of his vocation and will manifest itself in any role he plays. I'm asking: "What is the at the heart of my vocation that will manifest itself in whatever I do?" I will discover, create, equip.

5. Vocation as something I can't not do. Vocation at its deepest level is, "This is something I can't not do, for reasons I'm unable to explain to anyone else and don't fully understand myself but that are nonetheless compelling." 25 "Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing." 52

6. Truth through weakness. We are led to the truth of our vocation by our weaknesses as well as our strengths. I must "take an unblinking look at myself and my liabilities." 28 "There is as much guidance in what does not and cannot happen in my life as there is in what can and does -- maybe more." 39; -- Contrary to popular belief, you can't be anything you want (see 44ff). How do your limitations (nature:physical makeup, personality; context: place and season of life) help define and clarify vocation?

7. Burnout: "One sign that I am violating my own nature in the name of nobility is a condition called burnout." 49 That thought is worth a lot of thought!

8. Depression: Chapter 4, "All The Way Down" is very helpful for understanding depression, how to process it and how to help others in the midst of it. Depression became part of God's means to help Palmer determine vocation. Such helpful insights in these pages.

9. Leadership: "A leader is someone with the power to project either shadow or light onto some part of the world and onto the lives of the people who dwell there." 78 "Good leadership comes from people who have penetrated their own inner darkness and arrived at the place where we are at one with one another, people who can lead the rest of us to a place of 'hidden wholeness' because thy have been there and know the way." 81

10. Identity: Identity does not depend on the role we play or the power it gives us over others. It depends on the simple fact that we are children of God, valued in and for ourselves.




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Mike Riddell

5.0 out of 5 stars A cracking read!Reviewed in Australia on 6 June 2020
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Read this as part of a unit requirement at Bible College. For years I’d heard of Palmer’s influence on leaders who have positively influenced me. Now, after seeing firsthand the wisdom shared in this shirt book, I see why.

Highly recommend for those discerning their journey in life- where they’ve been and where they’re going.


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5.0 out of 5 stars Best book on vocation I have ever readReviewed in Australia on 11 September 2014
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Best book on vocation I have ever read. So honest and vulnerable. Shows how God uses every season of our lives.


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5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring, heartful...a must readReviewed in Australia on 12 February 2018

Every time Parker comes out with a new book I get excited. He is a poet, and a treasure of our times. This book will inspire you and re-connect you with what really matters in life. It's an absolute must read!


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Dawne Kovan
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, Wise and GentleReviewed in the United Kingdom on 20 October 2015
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This is a delightful and insightful book. The warmth of the author's heart shines through his wise words. It was a revelation to me that our "Way" forward is revealed as much in the doors that close behind us as those that open in front of us. Like Dr Palmer, I have found that the doors that have shown me my own Way have always done so by closing behind me. The only issue for me is that the book isn't available as a regular book, but only as Used or on Kindle. I prefer my "work books" to be in paper rather than on screen. However, I give it 5 Stars anyway.

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This book seemed promising in the beginning, but ended up delivering little. Still, it contains some interesting points and take-aways.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Thought provoking readReviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 May 2018
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Bought this preloved product. As described although an older hardback version it is in good condition & much cheaper. Palmer shares honestly his deep reflections on how he has journied through His life searching for his vocation. Helpful to anyone wrestling with find a purpose & meaning to their life.


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5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful, gentle, honest, wiseReviewed in the United Kingdom on 25 October 2017
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Wonderful book with deep wisdom and insights into the spiritual life and vocation. I wish I had read this book years ago before my own discernment process as it integrates so many questions of identity, calling, gifts and listening to the Inner Teacher that would have helped me along the way. But now in my 40s I find it just as inspiring as I consider where and what I am being called to now. I like all of Parker Palmer's books and his blog but so far this is my favorite. Very good.

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I read this too fast, like eating an incredibly rich piece of cake that gives you a stomachache and a desire to never eat again. I read this too fast, because it's only 109 pages, and these days that's a Post-It note to me in a world of dissertations.
I will buy this book, and I will read it again, and I will take at least ten minutes for each page.

The thing about Palmer's writing is not that it is lofty or erudite or accompanied by some hidden soundtrack of thunderous drums and resonant string sections. It is that it is simple, and quiet, and in acceptance of brokenness. This is not a how-to-figure-out-what-you-are book, which is what I had been looking for; it is a why-to-accept-what-you-could-be book, which is what I actually needed. I applaud Palmer's honesty and willingness to discuss not knowing, not understanding, to admit that depression was a part of his journey without sensationalizing or diminishing it. It is the brevity that encourages me to go seek my own ideas of community and fellowship, to listen to my own life's voice, to disagree with his ideas of seasons and agree with his notions of soul solitude and fight to hold these oppositions, as we no longer learn to do. This is a book among the books that require thinking, praying, mulling, expanding, and never reading in a handful of days and gleefully moving on to the next volume. That makes it a worthwhile book--that I am not content to stop with this, and that Palmer never meant for his readers to do so.

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This is a reflective short book.

Parker talks about the difference between a goal and a calling in relation to a vocation. ...
...listening to our inner truths....our gifts, our limitations, regrets and mistakes...in the area of vocation.

His shares about his own life’s journey with depression, ( the ultimate state of disconnection), and shares about his position in leadership, and his connection with community.

By Parker sharing his experiences....his trials and tribulations.. we contemplate the different perspectives on what empowers and what dis-empowers our own choices.

As he reflected on his human modesty - authenticity - and consciousness- in human responsibility... we do the same. We look into our own lives.

I especially resonated with this excerpt: Its one I’ve looked at and explored a few times with Elkhart Tolle in his book “A New Earth”... awakening to your life‘s purpose”:
“Without a global revolution in the sphere of human consciousness, nothing will change for the better...and the catastrophe toward which this world is headed weather it be it ecological, social, demographic, or a general breakdown of civilization, will be unavoidable”.

Parker, in much the same way as Tolle does...
asks us to look at our life’s purpose.
Ha.... unfortunately it’s not something we only do once!

At every age and stage of our lives - our purposes are evolving...

Leaders like Tolle and Parker teach and empower us to be better people and be a contributor in building a better world.

For about the past 10 or 15 years....
I have had a request for myself: that I include in my reading ...at least once a year —
enlightening - uplifting- and spiritual books.... “read from the great spiritual leaders”.

‘Before’ my own calling came - late in life - ( reading called me late in life)...
I was constantly exploring transformation....with self and through organization.
The only books I read for pleasure during my young adult life were about awakening, consciousness, quality of life, meditation, well being, child development, nutrition, human growth, health, happiness, love, and full self expression.
Once I discovered the world of fiction, historical fiction,
and ‘stories’...( delicious storytelling),
I got away from reading books from our spiritual leaders and/ or nutritional leaders....
so as I mentioned about 10 or 15 years ago ...
I requested of myself that I not drop the ball completely...
So... at least once a year I make sure to read ‘something’ that taps into questions about my life’s purpose ...and how I might be a better human being.

Parker Palmer was new to me until months ago...a perfect-yearly- spiritual-choice.
He’s the real deal.
This was my second time reading one of his books.
Parker’s life journey and life’s work inspires.
This book is packed with truth.....
a gentle - non- preachy guidance through darkness into the lightness of finding one’s own calling.
Ha... and again... fortunately or unfortunately, it’s not something we can only ask of ourselves only one time in life.
It’s part of our life work.
Books like Parker’s... support us.

Once more - I have *Laysee *to thank for introducing Parker to me.
Thank You, Laysee!

Blessings to ongoing journeys: self & globally together.

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Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation is an insightful discourse on discovering one’s true self and vocation.

Many of us would be familiar with the experience of striving to live up to the expectations of others. We may even have made career choices or decisions that are far removed from who we really are. Parker J. Palmer invites us to reclaim the gift of our true selves. What I truly appreciated is Parker’s honest sharing of the detours he had taken before he found his true calling. It was good to learn that doors that are closed provide guidance too. Parker shared how opportunities that were denied him opened doors to others that enabled him to use his natural gifts and tap his potential. According to Parker, ”True vocation joins self and service.” He quoted Frederick Buechner, another of my best loved authors, who said that true vocation is “where your deep gladness meets the world’s deep needs.” How wonderful! There is certainly truth in this.

In one of six chapters, ‘All the Way Down,’ Parker wrote movingly about his clinical depression and what helpful responses looked like to a depressed person. It was eye opening to learn how the support some well-meaning friends extended to him (e.g., simplistic religious or scientific 'fix it' explanations) sadly drove him deeper into depression. He shed light on the kind of respectful support that brought healing. This chapter alone made this book extremely powerful and worthwhile.

My favorite chapter is the last titled, ‘There Is A Season.’ Parker used seasons as a metaphor for the movement of life. The cycle of our life mirrors the four seasons of the year and Parker wrote about the unique beauty in each season in language that was exquisite and elegant. He said, "The notion that our lives are like the eternal cycle of the seasons does not deny the struggle or the joy, the loss or the gain, the darkness or the light, but encourages us to embrace it all - and to find in all of it opportunities for growth.”

Parker has a gift of distilling the insights he gained from difficult circumstances and challenges he encountered. In introspect, he was able to recall them to himself and to us with a good dose of humor. There was a hilarious account of his first Outward Bound experience and a moment of epiphany that crystallized for him a life motto, which I too can use: "If you can't get out of it, get into it."

Again, as in the first Parker book I read, On the Brink of Everything, I refrain from quoting too much from this book in hope that others will read it for themselves. At only 115 pages, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation is a tightly written book full of wisdom and gentle reflection on the importance of being true to who we are and living the best life we can. Highly recommended.

Special thanks to my friend, Yim Harn, for loaning me her copy of this book and, most of all, for introducing me to Parker Palmer, who has become an esteemed mentor.
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A friend whose Spiritual walk has given me a deeper understanding of courage and integrity suggested I may like this little book. I quickly became aware that the only thing diminutive about this tome was its size. When I began reading it, given the few pages it contained and the dimensions of those pages, I thought I would be finished reading it in a few hours. I spent 30 minutes reading the first five pages, I would read a paragraph and stare into the Middle Distance for five minutes considering what I had read and tracking its course through my body. Dr. Palmer writes so well that his words have the kind of power that can be physically felt.
Parker Palmer is an author whose writing has received multiple awards, recognitions and other well deserved kudos. What he writes speaks to the core of human existence with a hope founded in truth and reality. A Quaker by religious tradition, he invites the reader into the quiet knowing that is the heart of that faith system. This book is not about religious instruction; however, it is about life instruction, as cliché as that sounds. He confronts long held notions of success and “calling” by asking simple questions. Those simple questions were the cause of the frequent moments of “listening” I had while reading this book.
One of the privileges available to many of us is a plethora of choices of vocation (life’s work) we feel we have. The idea that “anyone can be anything they want to be if they strive for it hard enough” has caused more pain, depression and dissatisfaction than can be best related in this short narrative. Inherent in such statements is, if you do “succeed” in becoming that which you had dreamt of becoming but find dissatisfaction instead of fulfillment, then guilt is induced. However, if the dream is left unfulfilled, then it is because one did not work hard enough for it.
Dr. Palmer suggests learning to “listen to one’s life” in deciding the direction of one’s life rather than to the “shoulds,” “oughts” and “supposed to’s” often learned by the time we are in high school. This is done by being conscious of the successes (what brings one joy and fulfillment) as well as those moments when close in our faces. His opening statement is the heart of the remainder of the book, “the life I am living is not the same as the life that wants to live in me” (p. 2). The following chapters speak to the possibility of discovering the Life one’s life is trying to live. This process is neither a “to do list” nor does it offer steps for one to follow to come upon The Answer for which one has been searching; it is too intuitive and personal for such sterile maneuvers. This is a matter of listening, being honest and courageous enough to follow ones discovered path.
The chapters are gathered from previous writings Dr. Palmer penned for various publications and lectures but edited for a coherent, well-developed discourse on an important concept. There is no judgment or coercion in the course of the book which speaks to the author’s talent. I found it to be deeply spiritual but not religious; the author speaks of his Quaker faith but does so to “flesh out” the point he was making. In lesser hands his self-revelations could become a source of conceit; here they serve to give depth to the truths he is holding forth.
Reading this book requires: an open heart, a willingness to learn, a desire to listen and a fresh highlighter.

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When you're totally confused about a major life issue, it's so much nicer to think about what you're going through as a "process of discernment" rather than just a mess. I really appreciate Parker Palmer's gentle, thoughtful way of exploring how to make choices by being our best, truest selves, instead of thinking about what we should do or what we think other people want us to do. He also explores depression as a way of discovering that true self; not that he recommends becoming depressed, but he sees the possibility that depression can be a journey toward a sort of wholeness, and points out that it always has something to teach us.
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A meaningful little book talking about the importance of letting your life speak. Even though I read this for class, I'm glad it was required because I felt like Palmer was talking to me - he's incredibly open and honest about his own struggles. Lovely read!
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Recommended by my priest, Fr. David. Many good insights about the concept of true self and vocation. The author talks honestly about himself in a quasi autobiography.

It seems like there is a trend to title a book using the second person, when the author really writes about himself or herself. I understand that your own experience is the only one you have, but if you want to write a book about vocation, why not go out and interview people about their experiences, too?

“My struggle with my life choices and with my depression, and the way I finally found a satisfying narrative to integrate my life” would have been a more honest and accurate, although not very marketable, title for this book.

I found some of the content wise and useful, but I didn’t find anything original, and I highlighted a few portions as too vague and abstract to be helpful.

I’m reading Dante with great depth in these months, and although any author pales when compared to Dante, I have to say that Palmer’s book strikes me as saying with the strength of a little candle the same things that 700 years ago Dante said with the power of 1,000 volcanos erupting at the same time. And, before him, the sacred scriptures.

Prayer, reflecting on humility and on the gospel, the writings of the fathers of the church (and the saints!) remain the best ways to understand your true self.

…. and reading Dante, of course!

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I was reluctant to read this in a time when so few jobs are available; wouldn't it be worse to know my "calling" when there's little or no opportunity to practice it? In fact, there is no better book to help me confront and enlighten such pessimism. No matter if I never find a dream job, I still have a vocation. Palmer writes about big ideas in a small, quiet, reflective tone; I can't wait to read more of his work.

Though his book was given to me at an Episcopal group for underemployed recession-era 20-somethings, I recommend this highly to people of all ages, career statuses - and beliefs. Don't let the publisher-imposed genre, "SPIRITUALITY," sway you, as there is nothing faith-focused in subject or preachy in tone. Palmer, an education advisor and Quaker, shares contemplative, humble ideas about how to change our attitudes towards jobs and work and make sure that our lives, working and at play, suit our personalities and values.

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I tried to like this book because Palmer had some really good messages to get across, but unfortunately I found his writing way too self-indulgent and dramatic. The book is barely over 100 pages but it took me forever to read because I kept getting so frustrated and annoyed with the author's voice. I also disagreed with the main premise of the book that we all have a destiny....I think we make our own.

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Parker Palmer                                         Written by Brad Nelson 

Let Your Life Speak Chapter 1-Listening to Life

 

Quotes to think about

“They remind me of moments when it is clear-if I have eyes to see-that the life I am living is not the same as the life that wants to live in me” [p. 2].

“I had simply found a “noble” way to live a life that was not my own, a life spent imitating heroes instead of listening to my heart” [p. 3].

“Before you tell your life what you intend to do with it, listen for what it intends to do with you. Before you tell your life what truths and values you have decided to live up to, let your life tell you what truths to embody, what values you represent” [p. 3].

 

“There may be moments in life when we are so unformed that we need to use values like an exoskeleton to keep us from collapsing” [p. 4].

 

“Vocation, the way I was seeking it, becomes an act of will, a grim determination that one’s life will go this way or that whether it wants to or not” [p. 4].

 

“Vocation does not come from willfulness…That insight is hidden in the word vocation itself, which is rooted in the Latin for “voice.” Vocation does not mean a goal that I pursue. It means a calling that I hear” [p.4].

 

“We have a strange conceit in our culture that simply because we have said something, we understand what it means!” [p. 6]

 

“Verbalizing is not the only way our lives speak, of course. They speak through our actions and reactions, our intuitions and instincts, our feelings and bodily states of being, perhaps more profoundly than through our words” [p. 6].

 

“My life is not only about my strengths and virtues; it is also about my liabilities and my limits, my trespasses and my shadow” [p. 6].

 

Questions for Reflection

 

During which moments/activities do you feel most alive? 

 

What are your feelings about someone doing the right thing for the wrong reason?

 

In what ways do you hear from God?

 

What kinds of things most drain you? Stress you?

 

What activities give you the space to reflect on what is going on inside you? How often do you do them?

 

Consider the aphorism “Your greatest strength can also be your greatest weakness.” What is the connection between your strengths and your limits?

 

Suggested Activity

 

Pray through St. Ignatius’ Prayer of Examen. 

See www.marshill.org/groups/hc/ Select the link titled Prayer of Examen in the Practices section.

 

 

Parker Palmer Let Your Life Speak Chapter 2-Now I Become Myself

 

Quotes to think about

 

“What a long time it can take to become the person one has always been. How often in the process we mask ourselves in faces that are not our own” [p. 9].

 

“We ourselves, driven by fear, too often betray true self to gain the approval of others” [p. 12].

 

“But inspected through the lens of paradox, my desire to become an aviator and an advertiser contain clues to the core of true self…clues, by definition, are coded and must be deciphered” [p. 13].

 

“If you seek vocation without understanding the material you are working with, what you build with your life will be ungainly and may well put lives in peril, your own and some of those around you” [p. 16].

 

“In the tradition of pilgrimage…hardships are seen not as accidental but as integral to the journey itself” [p. 18].

 

“I saw that as an organizer I had never stopped being a teacher-I was simply teaching in a classroom without walls. Make me a cleric or a CEO, a poet or a politico, and teaching is what I will do” [p. 21].

 

“People like me are raised to live autonomously, not interdependently. I had been trained to compete and win, and I had developed a taste for the prizes” [p. 22].

 

“Because I could not acknowledge my fear, I had to disguise it as the white horse of judgment and self-righteousness” [p. 28].

 

“Self care is never a selfish act-it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on the earth to offer to others” [p. 30].

 

“They decide no longer to act on the outside in a way that contradicts some truth about themselves that they hold deeply on the inside” [p. 32].

 

“Some journeys are direct, and some are circuitous; some are heroic, and some are fearful and muddled. But every journey, honestly undertaken, stands a chance of taking us toward the place where our deep gladness meets the world’s deep need” [p. 36].

 

Questions for reflection

 

What role does gaining the approval of others play in how you live your life?

 

As Palmer recalls his childhood, he is able to uncover clues to his true self. Parents, siblings, and even spouses are great sources of information to find out what you were like when you were younger.

What were your childhood fascinations? Were you an artist? Were you building forts in the woods? What sorts of things held your attention?  

 

Are there connections between the things that fascinated you then and the life that you want to live now?

 

Half-truths go hand in hand with fear. In our fear, it is much easier to look at another person, institution, or situation and point out shortcomings than it is to look at our own. Fear may motivate us to do the right thing for the wrong reasons.

What are some of the fears that “trigger” you to lash out at others?

 

Palmer says that “self care is good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift that I was placed on earth to offer others.” He goes on to say that a lack of self care hurts not only the individual but others as well.

What does “self care” look like for you? What restores you?

 

What are the things in your life that make your soul tired? 

 

Who are the Martin Luther King Jr.’s, the Rosa Parks’, and Gandhis: of your life? Who are the people that you admire so much that you seek to model aspects of your life after them? Why these people?

 

Learning who you are doesn’t simply mean learning your strengths but also your limitations. “Who are you?” is a very broad and difficult question to answer. I may not be able to tell you “who I am,” but I’ve got a list of stories to tell you who I am not! 

Finish the sentence “I could never_____ it’s just not me.” 

 

Suggested Activity

 

Palmer says that “clues are coded and must be deciphered.” Turn a blank sheet of paper on its side and draw a straight line from the left side to the right side. The line will serve as a chronological timeline of your life from birth until now. Place significant experiences and events that have shaped who you are today on the timeline. Examples: family of origin, deaths, births, school and work experiences, relationships, spiritual journey, great moments of joy, or great moments of sadness.

 

Take time to share with one another about what is on your timeline and why it is significant.

 

 

Parker Palmer Let Your Life Speak Chapter 3-When Way Closes

 

Quotes to think about

 

“There is as much guidance in what does not and cannot happen in my life as there is in what can and does-maybe more” [p. 39].

 

“If you are like me and don’t readily admit your limits, embarrassment may be the only way to get your attention” [p. 42].

 

“As Americans…we resist the very idea of limits, regarding limits of all sorts as temporary and regrettable impositions on our lives…We refuse to take no for an answer” [p. 42].

 

“When I consistently refuse to take no for an answer, I miss the vital clues to my identity that arise when way closes-and I am more likely both to exceed my limits and to do harm to others in the process” [p. 43].

 

“There are some roles and relationships in which we thrive and others in which we wither and die” [p. 44].

 

“It took me a long time to understand that although everyone needs to be loved, I cannot be the source of that gift to everyone who asks me for it” [p. 48].

 

“When I give something I do not possess, I give a false and dangerous gift, a gift that looks like love but is, in reality, loveless-a gift given more from my need to prove myself than from the other’s need to be cared for” [p. 48].

 

“Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing. They are a part of our God given nature, with us from the moment we drew first breath, and we are no more conscious of having them than we are of breathing”

[p. 52].

 

“Limitations and liabilities are the flip side of our gifts…a particular weakness is the inevitable trade-off for a particular strength. We will become better teachers not by trying to fill the potholes in our souls but by knowing them so well that we can avoid falling into them” [p. 52].

 

“If we are to live our lives fully and well, we must learn to embrace the opposites, to live in a creative tension between our limits and our potentials. We must honor our limitations in ways that do not distort our nature, and we must trust and use our gifts in ways that fulfill the potentials God gave us” [p. 55].

 

Questions for reflection

 

Can you identify a moment in your life when God used a “closed door” instead of an “open door” to guide your life in the direction it needed to go? Discuss your experience.

 

Palmer says that embarrassment is sometimes the only way we become aware of our limitations. Identify and discuss an embarrassing moment that helped you become aware of your limitations.

 

How does humor get used to avoid dealing with our shortcomings?

 

In American culture, weaknesses and limitations are often viewed as things that need to be turned into strengths. Palmer seems to argue that in trying to turn our weaknesses into strengths we become something that we are not and end up living outside of ourselves. How does the idea that weaknesses should be identified and honored rather than turned into strengths strike you?

 

If our strongest gifts are usually the ones that we are most unaware of, what types of things do people tell you are your strengths that you feel unaware of?

 

Suggested Activity

 

Identify and write down two recent moments in your life. 1. A moment when things went so well that you felt confident that you were born to do whatever you were doing at the time. 2. A moment when something went so poorly that you never wanted to repeat the experience again.

 

Break into groups of two or three people and share these moments. In the groups, begin by helping one another see the strengths that made the great moment possible. After doing that, reflect with one another about the moment that went poorly. Instead of offering critiques, think about the strengths discussed in the first moment. Knowing that our strengths and weaknesses are often opposites, help each other identify if there is a connection between the strength of the first moment and the weakness of the second moment. How are they two sides of the same coin?

 

When everyone has finished gather back together as one group and discuss what you discovered.

 

 

Parker Palmer Let Your Life Speak Chapter 4: All the Way Down

 

*Before your discussion of chapter 4, it is very important to lay a framework for your discussion. Anytime people are discussing their brokenness, it must be done in a place of safety and confidentiality. Ask the group to be attentive to not try to “fix” one another as you interact. If you sense this beginning to happen, remind everyone that you are not trying to fix one another but to help one another hear. Also, be sure to communicate how important it is that what is discussed remains confidential. 

 

Quotes to think about

 

“I had no choice but to write about my own deepest wound…I rarely spoke to him about my own darkness; even in his gracious presence, I felt too ashamed” [p.

57].

 

“Second, depression demands that we reject simplistic answers, both “religious” and “scientific,” and learn to embrace mystery, something our culture resists” [p. 60].

 

“I do not like to speak ungratefully of my visitors. They all meant well, and they were among the few who did not avoid me altogether” [p. 61].

 

“Depression is the ultimate state of disconnection, not just between people but between one’s mind and one’s feelings. To be reminded of that disconnection only deepened my despair” [p. 62].

 

“I heard nothing beyond their opening words, because I knew they were peddling a falsehood: no one can fully experience another person’s mystery” [p. 62].

 

“One of the hardest things we must do sometimes is to be present to another person’s pain without trying to “fix” it, to simply stand respectfully at the edge of that person’s mystery and misery” [p. 63].

 

“Functional atheism-saying pious words about God’s presence in our lives but believing, on the contrary, that nothing good is going to happen unless we make it happen” [p. 64].

 

“First, I had been trained as an intellectual not only to think-an activity I greatly value-but also to live largely in my head…” [p. 67].

 

“I had to be forced underground before I could understand that the way to God is not up but down” [p. 69].

 

“One of the most painful discoveries I made in the midst of the dark woods of depression was that a part of me wanted to stay depressed. As long as I clung to this living death, life became easier; little was expected of me, certainly not serving others” [p. 71].

 

Questions for reflection

 

Identifying our wounds is a critical part of the inward journey. Think back to the timeline you drew in the Chapter 2 activity. What are the wounds you have suffered?

 

In what ways does shame cause you to hide who you are from others?

 

Discuss the following statement: Sometimes not having answers to some of life’s questions can be comforting. Do you agree? Why or why not?

 

Do you feel it is important to “show up” when others experience hardship or tragedy? Why or why not?

 

Discuss Palmer’s suggestion that no one can fully experience another person’s mystery and misery. 

 

How is the phrase “I know exactly how you feel” a positive statement between two people? How is it a negative statement?

 

How do you see “functional atheism” in the world around you? In your life?

 

What does “the way to God is down” mean to you?

 

Palmer says “part of me wanted to stay depressed.” Why do you think we hold onto our pain despite the fact that we want it to stop?

 

Suggested Activity

 

Have someone read Job 2:9-13. 

What can we learn about how Job’s friends respond in these few verses?

 

Read Job 4:8 and then Job 13:5. 

What is Eliphaz suggesting about Job in 4:8? What can be learned from Job’s response in 13:5?

 

 

Parker Palmer Let Your Life Speak Chapter 5-Leading from Within

 

Quotes to think about

 

“I lead by word and deed simply because I am here doing what I do. If you are also here, doing what you do, then you also exercise leadership of some sort” [p.

74].

 

“Why must we go in and down? Because as we do so, we will meet the darkness that we carry within ourselves-the ultimate shadows that we project onto other people. If we do not understand that the enemy is within, we will find a thousand ways of making someone “out there” into the enemy, becoming leaders who oppress rather than liberate others” [p. 80].

 

“But why would anybody want to take a journey of that sort, with its multiple difficulties and dangers? Everything in us cries out against it-which is why we externalize everything. It is so much easier to deal with the external world, to spend our lives manipulating materials and institutions and other people instead of dealing with our own souls” [p. 82].

 

“Why would anyone want to embark on the daunting inner journey about which Annie Dillard writes? Because there is no way out of one’s inner life, so one had better get into it. On the inward and downward spiritual journey, the only way out is in and through” [p. 85].

 

“But extroversion sometimes develops as a way to cope with self-doubt: we plunge into external activity to prove that we are worthy-or simply to evade the question” [p. 86].

 

“the knowledge that identity does not depend on the role w e play or the power it gives us over others. It depends only on the simple fact that we are children of God, valued in and for ourselves” [p. 87].

 

“A few people found ways to be present to me without violating my soul’s integrity. Because they were not driven by their own fears, the fears that lead us either to “fix” or abandon each other…” [p. 93].

 

Questions for reflection

 

Palmer suggests that anyone who is alive is a leader. He broadens the typical definition of leadership to include things like family dynamics and relationships. Discuss your thoughts on this. 

 

What monsters do you need to “ride all the way down?” What might that look like?

 

What activities have you been part of in order to prove your worth or value?

 

Palmer finishes the chapter by saying that it is possible for communities to be with one another in a way that is safe and honoring. What do you think makes communities feel unsafe?

 

We are meant to support and journey with one another. What alternatives are there for journeying together beyond “fixing or abandoning?”

 

Suggested Activity

 

Read Matthew 15:2,10, and 11.

 

Have someone wrap an empty box as you would a birthday or Christmas gift. Decorate the exterior with ribbons, bows, and other gift decorations. Set the gift in the middle of the room and ask people to make observations about the wrapping: What can we tell about the person who wrapped the box based on the wrapping? After several minutes of observation, have someone open the gift to reveal the empty box. Jesus observes that the Pharisees are so concerned with the exterior that they neglect what is inside. How is this true in our lives?

 

 

Parker Palmer Let Your Life Speak Chapter 6-There Is a Season

 

Quotes to think about

 

“Animated by the imagination, one of the most vital powers we possess, our metaphors often become reality, transmuting themselves from language into the living of our lives” [p. 96].

 

“We do not believe that we “grow” our lives-we believe that we “make” them” [p.

97].

 

“We are here not only to transform the world but also to be transformed” [p. 97].

 

“In my own experience of autumn, I am rarely aware that seeds are being planted” [p. 98].

 

“In retrospect, I can see in my own life what I could not see at the time-how the job I lost helped me find work I needed to do, how the “road closed” sign turned me toward terrain I needed to travel, how losses that felt irredeemable forced me to discern meanings I needed to know” [p. 99].

 

“There is in all visible things…a hidden wholeness” [p. 99].

 

“Until we enter boldly into the fears we most want to avoid, those fears will dominate our lives” [p. 103].

 

“If you receive a gift, you keep it alive not by clinging to it but by passing it along…If we want to save our lives, we cannot cling to them but must spend them with abandon” [p. 105].

 

“Authentic abundance does not lie in secured stockpiles of food or cash or influence or affection but in belonging to a community where we can give those goods to others who need them-and receive them from others when we are in need” [p. 108].

 

“Community doesn’t just create abundance-community is abundance. If we could learn that equation from the world of nature, the human world might be transformed” [p. 108].

 

Questions for reflection

 

What season do you feel that you are currently in? Why?

 

In your mind, what is the weirdest most obscure animal in all of God’s good creation? Why do you suppose God is so detailed and extravagant with his creation?

 

What things contribute to the loss of imagination?

 

In what ways do you “make your life” rather than listen for what God desires to make of your life?

 

God asks that his people join him in redeeming and restoring the world. How are you joining God to redeem and restore the world? Remember that God is about details and extravagance. We can sometimes feel that the way we join God is small and insignificant compared to the way others do. But it isn’t. God created you to be a gift to Him and to the world and you have something to offer. What is it? 

 

How is this process transforming you?

 

The way of Jesus, which is the way of the cross, compels us to use our freedom and abundance for the benefit of others. What does it look like for you to live for the benefit of others?

 

What does it look like for your community?

 

Suggested Activity

 

After discussing what it might look like for your community to live for the benefit of others, finish by holding hands in a circle and reciting the Lord’s Prayer.

[Matthew 6:9-13].