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Why Everyone (Else) Is a Hypocrite: Evolution and the Modular Mind: Kurzban, Robert: 9780691154398: Amazon.com: Books

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We're all hypocrites. Why? Hypocrisy is the natural state of the human mind.


Robert Kurzban shows us that the key to understanding our behavioral inconsistencies lies in understanding the mind's design. The human mind consists of many specialized units designed by the process of evolution by natural selection. While these modules sometimes work together seamlessly, they don't always, resulting in impossibly contradictory beliefs, vacillations between patience and impulsiveness, violations of our supposed moral principles, and overinflated views of ourselves.


This modular, evolutionary psychological view of the mind undermines deeply held intuitions about ourselves, as well as a range of scientific theories that require a "self" with consistent beliefs and preferences. Modularity suggests that there is no "I." Instead, each of us is a contentious "we"--a collection of discrete but interacting systems whose constant conflicts shape our interactions with one another and our experience of the world.


In clear language, full of wit and rich in examples, Kurzban explains the roots and implications of our inconsistent minds, and why it is perfectly natural to believe that everyone else is a hypocrite.


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"Highly recommended."---Jessica Palmer, Bioephemera blog

"Kurzban brilliantly (and often hilariously) breaks down the system of functional modules, explaining their existence through evolution, and their hypocrisy through a lack of communication. Why Everyone (Else) is a Hypocrite delves into a part of psychology that has famously been ignored by many prominent members in the field."---Haley M. Dillon and Rachael A. Carmen, Journal of Social, Evolutionary, and Cultural Psychology

"We're all inconsistent and self-deceiving, says evolutionary psychologist Robert Kurzban. Our modular minds didn't evolve for consistency, but for patchwork multitasking. . . . As Kurzban says, understanding how and why we can be so 'ignorant, wrong, irrational, and hypocritical' may help us work towards a fairer society."---Susan Blackmore, BBC Focus

"With wit, wisdom, and occasional hilarity, Robert Kurzban offers explanations for why we do the things we do, such as morally condemning the sale of human organs and locking the refrigerator at night to keep from snacking. . . . Kurzban touches on some complex topics in a manner that's both smart and accessible. He incorporates a plethora of psychological studies to support his theories but the narrative is never dry. . . . By challenging common assumptions about habits, morality, and preferences, Kurzban keeps readers both entertained and enlightened.", Foreword Reviews

"[Kurzban] argues that . . . internal conflicts are not limited to extreme cases; they occur in everyone's brains, leading to illogical beliefs and contradictory behaviors. That's not necessarily a bad thing, according to Kurzban. In fact, being selectively irrational may give us an evolutionary advantage."---Kacie Glenn, Chronicle of Higher Education

"Using humour and anecdotes, [Kurzban] reveals how conflict between the modules of the mind leads to contradictory beliefs, vacillating behaviours, broken moral boundaries and inflated egos. He argues that we should think of ourselves not as 'I' but as 'we'--a collection of interacting systems that are in constant conflict.", Nature

"[T]here is much that is valuable in Kurzban's book."---Peter Carruthers, Trends in Cognitive Sciences

"Kurzban is a luminary in the growing discipline of evolutionary psychology. . . . [P]rovocative. . . . Kurzban devotes much space to explicating and demonstrating ways in which his theory plays out in our everyday lives.", Library Journal

"Robert Kurzban has used his view of evolutionary psychology to pursue the concept of 'self' at the heart of both the discipline of psychology and the everyday understanding of human behavior--which surely is of interest to everyone. . . . The book itself is fresh. Kurzban's style is to take traditional questions and apparently reasonable positions and then demonstrate that reasonableness is actually only so under a set of assumptions--and that if they do not conform to the modularity hypothesis then we ought to rethink."---Tom Dickins, Times Higher Education

"Robert Kurzban believes that we are all hypocrites. But not to worry, he explains, hypocrisy is the natural state of the human mind. In his book Why Everyone (Else) Is a Hypocrite: Evolution and the Modular Mind, Kurzban asserts that the human mind consists of many specialized units, which do not always work together seamlessly. When this harmony breaks down, people often develop contradictory beliefs."---Victoria Stern, Scientific American Mind
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"In this amazing book, Robert Kurzban carries out a brilliantly thought-provoking conversation with himself that made me think hard―and laugh out loud. Using clever examples and a revolutionary scientific approach, he shows that contradiction is truly a fundamental human experience. No wonder, then, that I wanted to share this book with my friends―but I also wanted to keep it for myself! If you don't read this book, you'll be left wondering what everyone (else) is talking about."―James H. Fowler, coauthor of Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives
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"Robert Kurzban is one of the best evolutionary psychologists of his generation: he is distinctive not only for his own successful research and sophisticated understanding of psychology, but also because of his wit--Kurzban is genuinely clever, sly, succinct, and sometimes hilarious."--Steven Pinker, Harvard University

"In this amazing book, Robert Kurzban carries out a brilliantly thought-provoking conversation with himself that made me think hard--and laugh out loud. Using clever examples and a revolutionary scientific approach, he shows that contradiction is truly a fundamental human experience. No wonder, then, that I wanted to share this book with my friends--but I also wanted to keep it for myself! If you don't read this book, you'll be left wondering what everyone (else) is talking about."--James H. Fowler, coauthor of Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives

"Here is a fun counterpoint to the explosion of examples showing that humans do not act in accordance with the predictions of standard rational models. But Kurzban is no defender of the standard models. Rather he seeks an understanding of why our actions may appear contradictory in particular contexts, but serve us well in others, and why that helps to improve our fitness for decision, if not always for a life of liberty."--Vernon L. Smith, Nobel Laureate in Economics

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Robert Kurzban is associate professor of psychology and founder of the Pennsylvania Laboratory for Experimental Evolutionary Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. In 2008, he won the inaugural Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contribution from the Human Behavior and Evolution Society.
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Hey Robert, what’s the deal with the Libertarian morality claim at the end of the book? While reading I was (and still am) onboard with your main argument, but then all of the sudden..bam...a totally unexpected high moral claim about the righteousness of individual liberty. Although I wouldn’t say this undermines the credibility of your thesis, neither did I see how your turn was supported by your argument. If anything, you caved into the modularity induced delusions your book elucidates.

Anyway, I like your book and think it’s an important addition to the knowledge-base of anyone who wishes to gain a clearer understanding of less-than-subjective reality.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Unifies many behavior theories, much work to be done
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The title - Why Everyone (else) is a Hypocrite - is a little misleading. What Kurzban is trying to do is unify a lot of behavioral theories with the modular concept of the mind.

Why Everyone (else) is a Hypocrite challenges assumptions about "self" and "consciousness." The modular view of the brain is introduced, with interesting analogies to computer science, and then using the modular view reviews commonly held assumptions about how the brain functions. Rather than one person simultaneously holding two contradictory believes, dualism is explain by the module view as two different modules reaching contradictory conclusions.

The modular view of the brain is simple to get, just extend the concept of brain hemispheres. It is unknown how many modules there are or which modules are connected. Modules are like apps on a phone; they contain local information and only pass certain information to other modules (some don't communicate).

Only certain modules communicate with the "consciousness" module. Rather than think of your consciousness as the part that controls you, consider your consciousness the spokesman.

So much of human life is determined by social beliefs rather than absolute fact that the human mind evolved to be "strategically wrong." The spokesperson is feed information that spins the story in the best possible light for winning mates and friends.

Sometimes it is better not to know, cases where modules not sharing information is a strategic advantage. Often it is advantageous for the consciousness (the spokesman) to be positively biased while internal modules rely on more accurate information.

There is a social price to pay for knowingly and outwardly being self-interested. But if you don't know how your behavior impacts others, you can't be accused of being self-interested.

Sometimes operating on biases information is an advantage. We tend to attribute success to our abilities and failure to chance. This self bias is detrimental in objective situations, but in subjective situations (we evolved in a subjective world) being convinced of your own abilities is beneficial. Your overconfidence can influence how others calculate the odds of your future success and longevity (the key to being a good friend or mate).

We don't have set preferences, decisions are calculated on the fly. Patient modules and impatient models. Based on context (historical - think pavolog's dog, environmental, and internal). Willpower is really just an effortmeter, it tries to determine if it is worth the effort to continue. Reset effortmeter by reward - food, praise.

Kurzban addresses morality last - here are the most unanswered questions and controversy. First Kurzban illustrates who contradictory our morals around sex and drugs are. We can't really explain why our morals, our explanations are just rationalization. What we really want to do is control other people. Different modules explain why we condemn behaviors in others, but do them ourselves (there is nothing in our brains that forces us to adopt one universal moral code). The universal disdain for hypocrisy is a evolutionary code of law - its purpose is to make others follow the rules they set for others.
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Aretae
5.0 out of 5 stars Best book on Psychology yet written
Reviewed in the United States on January 18, 2012
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If you want a single psychological/cog-sci model to understand the world...there is NOTHING written that does better than this book. I say this having read most of the other choices.

Pinker, Haidt, Seligman, Miller, Kahneman, Brooks, Gladwell, Minsky, Lyubomirsky, Damasio, Freud, Vygotsky, Hofstadter ... whatever. I liked many of their books...but this is SO much better.

This is a better book. Partly it's better because the core hypothesis and scientific underpinning is better...and partly because it's more fun to read.

Core line: It's fairly obvious to modern psychology that the notion of the unitary self is absurd, and completely unsupportable. Rather, the "self" is a collection of modules that are connected to one another in various ways, think a committee. The part of your self that is verbal and that you think of as "self" is probably best understood as the brain-committee's press secretary...but the idea that you have access to your decision-making process in 98% of all decisions you make is ROFL funny. Your brain-committee makes a decision, and your verbal press-secretary "you"-module makes up (words used advisedly, because that's really what happens) reasons after the fact.

I read the Kindle edition, where it is hard to follow the chapter endnotes..
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5.0 out of 5 stars I think this is one of the first great works of the 21st century
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I think this is one of the first great works of the 21st century. While it does not contain any new theories it neatly and succinctly explains evolutionary psychology basics with beginner friendly examples (at least as friendly as can be for such a dense book). Having said that it is very dense and might not be the best first book on evolutionary psychology for those beginning their studies in evolutionary psychology. Chapter six is very dense and is replete with experiments that have been carried out and may not be easy to understand for beginners in psychological research. One might benefit from reading this book several times as the information becomes easier to understand with multiple readings.
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Michael Stanford
5.0 out of 5 stars Explains how minds work, and how they got that way
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Critics of evolutionary psychology often dismiss it as a bunch of baseless suppositions. But obviously the mind did evolve, and the evidence is very strong that it is abundantly more modular than Freud's ego, superego and id. This book really does explain why everybody (else) is a hypocrite, and a lot more besides. And it's funny!
If you are interested in the workings of human consciousness, this book is a must-read.
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4.0 out of 5 stars The whole is greater than the sum of its parts, but the parts still have a role to play. Good read.
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I found this book enjoyable to read, full of wit and useful information. It builds an interesting picture of the modularity of mind. Demonstrating how the mind is often divided with conflicting interest (not dual), which is backed up by various interesting examples, from an evolutionary perspective.
The title of this book is likeable to analogy we can all relate to.. I can hold my hands up and say I have (and will be again) been hypocritical and contridictory, on many occasions, but I've not always been able to put my finger on why - until I read this book.
However, I may not be the most enlightened reader (work in progress, I'm reading on it), but something tells me there's a lot of people trying to convince the readers of books like this one, that the mind (even in the modular view) is a lot simpler than it really is. In fairness to the author of this book, he's done a great job at providing frame work to help simplify the complexity of the mind, so as to make it more understandable. Sorry, I may have contradicted myself slightly here...
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4.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book
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It is very informative and eye opener . Excellent
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3.0 out of 5 stars Man braucht viel Geduld, um dieses Buch zu lesen
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Denn der Autor überschüttet einen mit zu einem grossen Teil aus dem Fernsehen stammenden Geschichten und Zitaten sowie komplett überflüssigen Informationen. Um zu letzteren ein Beispiel zu geben: es geht um einen Thom Gilovich, hinter dessen Namen Kurzban in Klammern einfügt "the latter of whom, I ought to disclose in the spirit of openness, was my statistics instructor at Cornell, and I now consider a friend". Wer will das wissen? Nicht dass das Ganze nicht irgendwie lesens- und bedenkenswert wäre, aber der flapsig daherlabernde Stil legt sich wie eine dicke Pampe über den Inhalt, dass man immer wieder denkt: Bring's auf den Punkt! Weglassen ist die Kunst des guten Schreibers. 1/4 weniger Inhalt, dafür die wichtigen Punkte besser herausgearbeitet, dann wär's ein gutes Buch. Ganz subjektiv fand ich es mühsam zu lesen.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting, but not quite rock-solid
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Kurzban takes on the question of why people are hypocrites. Specifically, how "self-deception" can possibly occur. How can you deceive yourself since you know what you know and thus can't be deceived? Why do people need to hide the cookies from plain sight when they are on a diet? After all, they want to lose weight. Why is there a struggle within one brain? Why do people tend to hold other people to a higher standard than themselves?

To answer these questions, Kurzban turns to evolutionary psychology and the modular hypothesis. Briefly, it states that the brain is made up of many different software packages, each separate from each other. There's software for living long, and there's software for preventing survival. They conflict with each other over diets. Some software modules might not talk to other modules. Some modules might even not want to know about other modules' information, since that information can be costly. Kurzban argues (fairly well in my opinion) that this is especially true for modules that deal with social information. Because it makes no sense to believe you can fly when you can't, and then jump off a building to discover you're wrong. But it might make sense to pretend you can fly an airplane to impress that special girl you just met. Particularly in areas that are hard to objectively measure (e.g., honor, kindness, intelligence), people consistently overrate themselves. Kurzban argues that this is due to our trying to build a strong image of ourselves that will appeal to other people. I found the argument convincing.

So why only four stars? Well, the evidence isn't quite rock-solid. In particular, the last two chapters on morality where weak and speculative. Kurzban also tries a little too hard to be funny in places, when I think this book could have used a slightly more serious tone (or better humor). He also makes some leaps regarding what's going on in the brain areas tied to various cognitive modules when the evidence is still rather scanty in that regard.

Those faults aside, I found this book overall to be an enjoyable read. In particular, Kurzban's ideas about modularity and social popularity are profound, powerful, and worth reading. The flaws in the book don't take away from the overall message, so I don't have a problem recommending this book. Because it is interesting to read about the possibility that "I" am not as unified or in control of "me" as I thought I was. There's hypocrisy in all of us, and this book can shed light on why, making it a worthy read.
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Philosophy In The Flesh: The Embodied Mind And Its Challenge To Western Thought
George Lakoff


What are human beings like? How is knowledge possible? What is truth? Where do moral values come from? Questions like these have stood at the center of Western philosophy for centuries. In addressing them, philosophers have made certain fundamental assumptions—that we can know our own minds by introspection, that most of our thinking about the world is literal, and that reason is disembodied and universal—that are now called into question by well-established results of cognitive science. It has been shown empirically that:Most thought is unconscious. We have no direct conscious access to the mechanisms of thought and language. Our ideas go by too quickly and at too deep a level for us to observe them in any simple way.Abstract concepts are mostly metaphorical. Much of the subject matter of philosopy, such as the nature of time, morality, causation, the mind, and the self, relies heavily on basic metaphors derived from bodily experience. What is literal in our reasoning about such concepts is minimal and conceptually impoverished. All the richness comes from metaphor. For instance, we have two mutually incompatible metaphors for time, both of which represent it as movement through space: in one it is a flow past us and in the other a spatial dimension we move along.Mind is embodied. Thought requires a body—not in the trivial sense that you need a physical brain to think with, but in the profound sense that the very structure of our thoughts comes from the nature of the body. Nearly all of our unconscious metaphors are based on common bodily experiences.Most of the central themes of the Western philosophical tradition are called into question by these findings. The Cartesian person, with a mind wholly separate from the body, does not exist. The Kantian person, capable of moral action according to the dictates of a universal reason, does not exist. The phenomenological person, capable of knowing his or her mind entirely through introspection alone, does not exist. The utilitarian person, the Chomskian person, the poststructuralist person, the computational person, and the person defined by analytic philosopy all do not exist.Then what does?Lakoff and Johnson show that a philosopy responsible to the science of mind offers radically new and detailed understandings of what a person is. After first describing the philosophical stance that must follow from taking cognitive science seriously, they re-examine the basic concepts of the mind, time, causation, morality, and the self: then they rethink a host of philosophical traditions, from the classical Greeks through Kantian morality through modern analytic philosopy. They reveal the metaphorical structure underlying each mode of thought and show how the metaphysics of each theory flows from its metaphors. Finally, they take on two major issues of twentieth-century philosopy: how we conceive rationality, and how we conceive language.Philosopy in the Flesh reveals a radically new understanding of what it means to be human and calls for a thorough rethinking of the Western philosophical tradition. This is philosopy as it has never been seen before.
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George Lakoff is professor of linguistics at the University of California at Berkeley, and the coauthor, with Mark Johnson, of Metaphors We Live By. He was one of the founders of the generative semantics movements in linguistics in the 1960s, a founder of the field of cognitive linguistics in the 1970s, and one of the developers of the neural theory of language in the 1980s and '90s. His other books include More Than Cool Reason (with Mark Turner), Women, Fire, and Dangerous Things, and Moral Politics.Mark Johnson is professor and head of the Philosophy Department at the University of Oregon and is on the executive committee of the Institute of Cognitive and Decision Sciences there. In addition to his books with George Lakoff, he is the editor of an anthology, Philosophical Perspectives on Metaphor.

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George Lakoff is Richard and Rhoda Goldman Distinguished Professor of Cognitive Science and Linguistics at the University of California at Berkeley, where he has taught since 1972. He previously taught at Harvard and the University of Michigan. He graduated from MIT in 1962 (in Mathematics and Literature) and received his PhD in Linguistics from Indiana University in 1966. He is the author of the New York Times bestseller Don't Think of an Elephant!, among other works, and is America’s leading expert on the framing of political ideas.


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Noted philosopher and linguist team makes strong case for fundamental rewrite of Western philosophy.

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This heavy book's theme is essentially this: Based on what we have learned about ourselves over the several centuries from the advances in science, we can now state decisively that most of our philosophical speculations of the last 2000+ years are wrong and need to be opened up, updated, and rewritten. The pace of expansion of our modern knowledge base has left our scholarly and popular consciousness far behind, and we need a fairly radical reorientation of our world view to incorporate new findings into what Lakoff and Johnson dub "empirically responsible philosophy." Anything less than a complete rewrite will leave a detritus of old and long disproven thought to clog the path ahead. Of course, a revolutionary revision like as they suggest would be bound to create massive dislocations of its own, with results that would be inestimable in any terms. The title of the book, Philosophy in the Flesh, places Exhibit A in the trial of our legacy worldview right on the cover. Our traditional philosophy removes the mind from the body, while all current research shows it to be firmly ensconced in the brain. We are in the position of Galileo in the 17th century, who was accused of murdering the angels who had to push the planets around in their orbits to accommodate Aristotelian physical concepts. The Scientific Revolution changed everything, but much of our modern mind still clings to older views now known to be false, including a good deal of the model the Scientific Revolution posed as an alternative to even older ideas. This is a good book for anyone interested in gauging the disconnect between ancient, ancient-modern, and modern views of nature, mind, and self. Whether you agree or disagree with their claims, these authors have posed a challenge that must be met with something other than the denialism so prominent in many areas of science, history, and philosophy.

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I read this book many years ago - it totally transformed my LIVING - I re-read it often. This purchase was one of several in the past as a gift to young people who demonstrate an interest in 'knowing thyself' as the foundation for living creatively.

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Great attempt in trying to tackle a monumental task

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I read the editors reviews above and the top customer reviews for this text. I don't feel I need to cover the same ground and I'm not going to. However, I have some personal thoughts that may be useful to add.



In my opinion, Philosophy in the Flesh is a monumental undertaking because it is an attempt to topple an existing paradigm marked by many unexamined assumptions about the nature of the mind, consciousness and the mind-body relationship. This is a very tall order and while the book has some shortcomings, it successfully makes a dent in this direction.



I agree with one reviewer's comments about not including and integrating work from researchers on the relationship between consciousness, the body and emotions such as Damasio. To get this background on your own, I would consider reading "The Feeling of What Happens" and other research in the field. I also agree with this same reviewer's comment about neglecting an evolutionary perspective and to get this I would start by reading David Buss. Understanding our cognitive biases is important and many of these do come from evolutionary psychology. For dramatic examples of these, you might try reading THE EVOLUTION OF DESIRE on sexual mating strategies or JEALOUSY by David Buss. There are also other many good books in this general genre and David Buss has written more than a few of them.



With respect to PHILOSOPHY IN THE FLESH itself, I found the first 136 pages most useful. This justifies the cost of the book because it lays out the author's basic theories, the disconnects between what we know about the mind and what is assumed to be true because of an enduring, but outdated concept of the mind-body relationship. In other words, the first 136 pages are like a nitty-gritty short book on the "must know" concepts.



The remainder of the book goes more deeply into specific examples of how the mind is embodied, the role of unconscious condition as the "hidden hand" that influences our actions, etc. It basically amounts to a defense of the first 136 pages, which in itself is convincing and compelling.



This book has implications for anyone who is interested in the mind-body relation and the body's role in cognition. Not everyone will want to read all of it, but I found that picking it up periodically and diving deeper into specific areas useful. It's not a bedtime story, so plowing through all 600 pages over a week or two might be a bit too much for someone who isn't a specialist in this area.



Lakoff has also written some interesting things on metaphor in dreams. If you have an interest in dreams, this book might be thought provoking and if so, you might also be interested in some of Lakoff's articles on interpreting dreams. If you want a nice introduction to dream interpretation that has a good article by Lakoff, consider DREAMS edited by Kelly Bulkeley. (Kelly also has a lot of other excellent books on dreaming and is quite a scholar in that area.)



I liked this book and I think it made a good dent in bringing down an outdated paradigm. I think anyone who is a cognitive therapist should read this and consider the implications. This would also be a good book for people who are more somatically-oriented therapists or who have a strong interest in mind-body medicine. I think Feldenkrais practioners and Rosen Bodyworks people would also benefit greatly from understanding this material.



Lastly, if you like this book, you might also like AWARENESS THROUGH MOVEMENT (Feldenkrais), the EMBODIED MIND (Varela), THE ANATOMY OF CHANGE and The Body (Yuasa Yasuo). Some of these books are less mainstream than others, but they are ALL thought provoking in different ways.

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Cognitive Science Meets Philosophy

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This hefty volume employs the empirical findings of second generation cognitive science to challenge the Western philosophical belief in a rational disembodied mind. The primary method of critical examination utilizes the theories of "unconscious embodied conceptual metaphor" and its origins in sensorimotor experience, to explain how philosophers (old and new) have arrived at their conclusions using a metaphoric logic they mistakenly thought was literal.

As you'd expect in a book written by career academics interested in maintaining credibility, it can be hard going at times, and it is certainly not a light read .I found the prolific re-reading of passages was necessary as the unfamiliar terms used, and the theories that where being propounded eroded my concentration somewhat. Also critical points and theories are repeated in different forms, again and again, which although convenient, gives the feeling that 50% of the book is recycled from itself and that the authors have employed a physical metaphorical trick of their own, "that large volumes carry more weight".On the whole though, if you have the time it is well worth the effort,, as it brings philosophy and modern thought in general up-to-date within the context of discoveries in neuroscience, and it makes it possible to understand the grounding and limits of conceptual reasoning and the errors that ensue when the old philosophies are taken as literal truths.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Enlightening

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This book is everything the Amazon review says it is, and more.



I've read a lot of philosophical texts and have always struggled with their abstractness, their distance from the real world. What has Leibnitz's monad or Searle's status function have to do with real life? Not a lot as far as I can see.



Lakoff and Johnson's book takes the real world and real people's cognitive functioning as the basis for approaching philosophy and metaphor as the primary mechanism of thought. This gives it a solid grounding in reality, and hence its thesis can be ported back into real life to real effect.



A critical point to consider if the blurb for the book interests you - the text is readable!



L & J avoid the jargon saturated style of many philosophers in favor of simple, readable, plain English, and there are copious examples through out that put their theory in a real world context, so you won't find yourself having to map abstract concepts back to reality. If only all philosophical authors could write as clearly!

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몸의 철학   

M. 존슨,조지 레이코프 (지은이),임지룡,노양진 (옮긴이)박이정2002-05-20원제 : Philosophy in the Flesh: The Embodied Mind and Its Challenge to Western Thought (1999년)



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제1부 신체화된 마음은 서구의 철학적 전통에

어떻게 도전하는가?

1. 서론 : 우리는 누구인가? ...25

2. 인지적 무의식 ...35

3. 신체화된 마음 ...45

4. 일차적 은유와 주관적 경험 ...85

5. 복합적 은유의 분석 ...105

6. 신체화된 실재론 : 인지과학 대 선험철학 ...125

7. 실재론과 진리 ...151

8. 은유와 진리 ...183



제2부 기본적인 철학적 개념들의 인지과학 사건,

인과관계, 시간, 자아, 마음, 도덕성

9. 철학적 개념들의 인지과학 ...201

10. 시간 ...207

11. 사건과 원인 ...253

12. 마음 ...347

13. 자아 ...391

14. 도덕성 ...427



제3부 철학의 인지과학

15. 철학의 인지과학 ...497

16. 소크라테스 이전 철학자들

: 초기 그리스 형이상학의 인지과학 ...509

17. 플라톤 ...535

18. 아리스토텔레스 ...547

19. 데카르트와 계몽의 정신 ...573

20. 칸트적 도덕성 ...605

21. 분석철학 ...641

22. 촘스키 철학과 인지언어학 ...681

23. 합리적 행위 이론 ...743

24. 철학 이론들은 이떻게 작용하는가? ...779



제4부 신체화된 철학

25. 몸의 철학 ...795



*부록 - 언어신경이론 패러다임 ...819



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저자 및 역자소개

M. 존슨 (지은이) 

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최고의 작품 투표



신간알림 신청

<몸의 철학>

최근작 : <삶으로서의 은유>,<몸의 철학>,<마음 속의 몸> … 총 4종 (모두보기)

조지 레이코프 (George Lakoff) (지은이) 

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미국 캘리포니아 버클리대학 언어학과와 인지과학과의 골드만 석좌교수. 국제인지언어학회의 초대 회장을 지냈고 인지언어학의 창시자 중 한 사람이다. 정치 프레임 구성 분야의 미국 최고 전문가로서 라디오와 TV에 출연하고 대중 강연을 하는 동시에 미국의 사회적 쟁점을 둘러싼 진보와 보수의 프레임 전쟁에서 진보가 취해야 할 방법과 나아가야 할 방향을 제시하고 있다. 《뉴욕타임스》 선정 베스트셀러인 《코끼리는 생각하지 마》를 비롯하여 《삶으로서의 은유》, 《몸의 철학》, 《프레임 전쟁》, 《자유는 누구의 것인가》, 《폴리티컬 마인드》, 《이기는 프레임》 등의 책을 저술했다.

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최근작 : <나는 진보인데 왜 보수의 말에 끌리는가?>,<이기는 프레임>,<코끼리는 생각하지 마> … 총 68종 (모두보기)

임지룡 (옮긴이) 

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신간알림 신청

경북대학교 사범대학 국어교육과 교수

맨체스터대학 언어학과 객원교수 역임

담화인지언어학회, 한국어 의미학회, 한국어문학회, 국어교육학회, 우리말 교육현장학회 회장 역임



저서

『국어 대립어의 의미 상관체계』(1989), 『국어 의미론』(1992), 『말하는 몸: 감정 표현의 인지언어학적 탐색』(2006), 『의미의 인지언어학적 탐색』(2009), 『한국어 의미 특성의 인지언어학적 연구』(2017), 『<개정판> 인지의미론』(2018) 외 다수



공역서

『어휘의미론』(1989), 『언어의 의미』(2002), 『인지언어학 기초』(2008), 『의미 관계와 어휘사전』(2008), 『인지문법론』(2009), 『의미론의 이해』(2010), 『인지언어학 개론』(2010), 『언어·마음·문화의 인지언어학적 탐색』(2011), 『어휘의미론의 연구 방법』(2013), 『의미론의 길잡이』(2013), 『비유 언어』(2015), 『의미론』(2017), 『인지언어학 핸드북』(2018) 외 다수 접기

최근작 : <학교 문법과 문법 교육>,<한국어 의미 탐구의 현황과 과제>,<인지언어학 탐구의 현황과 과제> … 총 38종 (모두보기)

노양진 (옮긴이) 

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전남대학교 철학과와 동 대학원을 졸업하고 미국 서던일리노이대학교(Southern Illinois University at Carbondale)에서 철학박사 학위를 받았다. 현재 전남대학교 철학과 교수다. 주로 언어철학과 윤리학, 철학방법론에 관련된 연구를 하고 있다. 저서로 『상대주의의 두 얼굴』(2007), 『몸ㆍ언어ㆍ철학』(2009), 『몸이 철학을 말하다』(2013), 『나쁜 것의 윤리학』(2015)이 있으며, 역서로 『마음 속의 몸』(2000), 『몸의 철학』(2002, 공역), 『삶으로서의 은유』(2007, 공역), 『도덕적 상상력』(2008), 『사실과 가치의 이분법을 넘어서』(2010)가 있다. 접기

최근작 : <철학적 사유의 갈래>,<몸과 인지>,<나쁜 것의 윤리학> … 총 13종 (모두보기)







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출판사 제공 책소개



<몸의 철학>은 4부 25장 및 부록에 걸쳐 최근의 인지과학적 탐구의 성과를 포괄적으로 종합하고, 그것을 철학적 주제들에 관한 논의로 확장시키고 있는 새롭고 방대한 책이다. 이 책의 저자인 레이코프와 존슨(G. Lakoff and M. Johnson)은 1980년대 이후 지속적인 공동 작업의 성과를 한데 집약시키고 있는데, 폭넓은 일반 독자들을 감안한 쉽고 평이한 글쓰기를 시도하고 있지만, 이 책이 담고 있는 주장들은 결코 익숙한 것도 가벼운 것도 아니다. 적어도 이들의 분석을 옳은 것으로 받아들인다면 서양철학을 주도해 왔던 주요 개념들과 이론들은 대부분 전면적으로 수정되거나 폐기되어야 하기 때문이다. 그럼에도 불구하고 발간과 함께 단시간 내에 세계적으로 수많은 독자들의 관심을 불러일으킨 것은 이들이 주로 제시하고 있는 풍부한 경험과학적 증거들의 설득력 때문일 것이다.



이 책의 특징은 우선 이 책이 다루고 있는 주제들의 방대함에 있다. 레이코프와 존슨은 우선 1950년대 후반에 처음 출발했던 인지과학적 탐구를 제1세대 인지과학과 제2세대 인지과학의 두 갈래로 구분하고, 1970년대에 들어 시작된 제2세대 인지과학적 탐구가 제시하는 중심적 주제들을 다음의 세 가지로 요약한다

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① 인간의 인지는 대부분 무의식적(unconscious)이다.

② 정신은 본성적으로 신체화(embodied)되어 있다.

③ 우리의 사고의 대부분은 은유적(metaphorical)이다.



이러한 새로운 발견은 서구의 지성사를 통해 제시되어 왔던 철학적 개념들과 이론들의 본성에 대한 전적으로 새로운 해명의 길을 열어 준다. {몸의 철학}은 바로 이러한 새로운 해명의 집약적 표현이다.



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이 책, 잠깐 품절이었다가 새로 나왔네요. 근데 가격이 많이 높아졌군요  구매

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2020년 현재에도 유의미한 책이다. 다만 파트별로 역자들이 다르다는 느낌이 든다. 챕터에 따라 독해에 난이도 차이가 있다. 그리고 원제가 ‘Philosophy In The Flesh‘이다. 번역본의 제목이나 부제만 읽어보면 도통 무슨 내용인 지 짐작이 어렵다.  구매

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마음은 몸이다. 



이 책은 마음과 정신을 신체와 분리해서 생각하는 서구사상의 한계를 지적한다. 서구의 사상만이 아니라 종교 역시 그와 같이 보는 바가 있는 것 같다. 불교에서는 해탈에 이른 성인을 아라한이라고 일컫는데 모든 생사고락의 현세적인 것들 너머의 초월적인 그 무엇을 상정한다. 거기에 도달하려면 몸과 몸의 한계를 넘어서야 하기에 수행하고 또 수행한다.





반면 <몸의 철학>은 마음은 본유적으로 신체화 되어 있다고 파악한다. 마음은 몸이고 생각은 신체의 기능이며 신체가 작동한 결과이다. 그 생각을 우리는 은유화 된 언어를 통해 해낸다. 언어가 없이 생각은 불가능하다.





그러므로 사고는 대부분 무의식적인 것이다.







우리가 하는 행동 역시 아무리 의도적인 것을 상정하더라도 무의식과 연결되어 있기에 같은 실수를 반복하고 옆에서 아무리 뭐라고 토를 달아도 자신이 가고자 하는 길을 따로 염두에 둔 것 같은 경향을 보인다. 이를테면 인생에 대한 설계, 기획 역시 무의식적인 선택의 결과일 수가 있다. 이성과 합리 역시 무의식적이라는 것이며 이는 별개로 존재하는(초월적인) 정신의 영역이라기보다는 몸에서 비롯되는 것이다. 이성과 합리는 원래 냉정한 것이 아니며 감정적인 활동의 결과물이다.



이 대목은 확실히 오늘날의 우리에게 시사하는 바가 있다.







인간으로서 우리는 어떤 형태의 순수하게 객관적이거나 초월적인 이성에 접근할 수 있는 특별한 통로가 없다.







종교는 있다고 본다. 기독교가 죽고 불교가 무력해지더라도 인간이성이라는 새로운 종교가 미래사회의 새로운 종교로 등극할 수 있다.







이 책의 가장 큰 장점은 우리의 마음이나 추상적인 개념들을 저 위 초월적인 어딘가와 연결시키는 것이 아니라 인간의 사고 패턴인 은유로 설명한다는 점이다. 시간도 마음도 자아도 도덕성도 그러한 사고 패턴에서 유래한 것으로 본다.







우리는 인지적 무의식의 작용에 직접적으로 접근할 수 없으며, 따라서 우리 사고의 대부분에 직접 의식적으로 접근하지 못한다.







<코르푸스>라는 책에는 몸에 관한 한 나는 나에 관해 영원히 모를 것이라는 말이 나온다. 내가 지각하는 것은 내 몸에서 일어나는 일이되 나는 그것을 인식할 수도 있고 그렇지 못할 수도 있다.







처음으로 다초점 렌즈를 사용했을 때를 생각해 보면 참고가 된다. 평소에는 느끼지 못했던 모든 것들이 렌즈를 통해 지각으로 전달되는 그 순간의 충격을.







내가 나에 관해서도 잘 모르는데 타인에 관해서야 더 말할 것이 없겠다. 하지만 우리는 어떤가. 끝없이 남의 말과 행동에 관해 비평하고 분노하고 단정 짓는다. 이 책을 잘 읽으면 자신의 잘못된 이러한 습관에 제동을 걸 수 있다. 제동이 잘 안 걸리더라도 실망할 일은 아니다. 최소한 다시 생각해 보려고 할 것이다. 생각하고 또 생각하고 더 생각해야 한다는 것을 알게 된다.



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Why Buddhism is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment
Author Robert Wright
Country United States
Language English
Subject Buddhism
Publisher Simon & Schuster

Publication date August 8, 2017
Media type Print (hardcover and paperback)
Pages 336 (hardcover)
ISBN 978-1-4391-9545-1(Hardcover)
Preceded by The Evolution of God


Why Buddhism is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment is a 2017 book by journalist and evolutionary psychologist Robert Wright. As of August 2017, the book had peaked at The New York Times No. 4 bestseller in hardcover nonfiction.[1]


Contents
1Content
2Reception
3See also
4References
5External links
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In Why Buddhism is True, Wright advocates a secular, Westernized form of Buddhism focusing on the practice of mindfulnessmeditation and stripped of supernatural beliefs such as reincarnation.[2] 

He further argues that more widespread practice of meditation could lead to a more reflective and empathetic population and reduce political tribalism.[2] 

In line with his background, Wright draws heavily on evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology to defend the correctness of Buddhism's diagnosis of the causes of human suffering.[3] 

He argues the modern psychological idea of the modularity of mind resonates with the Buddhist teaching of no-self (anatman).[3]


Reception[edit]

Why Buddhism is True received a number of positive reviews from major publications. A review in The New Yorker by Adam Gopnik stated, "Wright’s book has no poetry or paradox anywhere in it. [...] Yet, if you never feel that Wright is telling you something profound or beautiful, you also never feel that he is telling you something untrue. Direct and unambiguous, tracing his own history in meditation practice—which eventually led him to a series of weeklong retreats and to the intense study of Buddhist doctrine—he makes Buddhist ideas and their history clear."[4]

The neuroscientist Antonio Damasio, reviewing the book in The New York Times, stated that, "Wright's book is provocative, informative and, in many respects, deeply rewarding."[5] 

Kirkus Reviews called the book a "cogent and approachable argument for a personal meditation practice based on secular Buddhist principles."[3]

Adam Frank, writing for National Public Radio, referred to it as a "delightfully personal, yet broadly important, new book."[6]

The Washington Post gave a more mixed review, stating that "while [Wright] does not make a fully convincing case for some of his more grandiose claims about truth and freedom, his argument contains many interesting and illuminating points."[7]

References[edit]

^ Cowles, Gregory (18 August 2017). "A Science Writer Embraces Buddhism as a Path to Enlightenment". The New York Times. Retrieved 3 February 2018.
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2018/03/29

Brené Brown 2] Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live

Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead: Brené Brown: 9780812985801: Amazon.com: Books

Amazon.com Review

An Amazon Best Book of August 2015: You may be someone who looks at Rising Strong and says, “oh, that’s not really for me….” Translation: I don’t read or need that self-help stuff, give me a good novel and go away. But Brené Brown isn’t a spiritual guru, or someone who’s risen from the ashes to tell us how to live our lives. She’s a researcher. And Rising Strong isn’t some feel-good-get-over-it regimen; it’s more investigative reporting on the common denominators of people who whole-heartedly get back up and go another round after getting their asses handed to them in big and small ways. In her straightforward Texan voice, Brown sets the table for us to get curious about life’s sticky moments and invites us to serve ourselves a plate of what she’s learned in over a decade of research. I don’t know about you, but I’m not trying to be famous or come up with a cure that will change the world, I just want to live happily and keep getting back in the arena whether I’ve been rocked on my heels, knocked to my knees, or gone face down in the dirt. For my money, seeing how I can do that better is worth reading about. – Seira Wilson--This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Review

“[Brené Brown’s] research and work have given us a new vocabulary, a way to talk with each other about the ideas and feelings and fears we’ve all had but haven’t quite known how to articulate. . . . Brené empowers us each to be a little more courageous.”—The Huffington Post

“With a fresh perspective that marries research and humor, Brown offers compassion while delivering thought-provoking ideas about relationships—with others and with oneself.”—Publishers Weekly

“It is inevitable—we will fall. We will fail. We will not know how to react or what to do. No matter how or when it happens, we will all have a choice—do we get up or not? Thankfully, Brené Brown is there with an outstretched arm to help us up.”—Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why and Leaders Eat Last

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About the Author

Dr. Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation-Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work.

She has spent the past sixteen years studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of three #1 New York Times bestsellers – The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong. Her latest book, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and The Courage to Stand Alone, will be released Fall 2017.

Brené’s TED talk, "The Power of Vulnerability," is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 30 million views.

In addition to her research and writing, Brené is the Founder and CEO of BRAVE LEADERS INC - an organization that brings evidence-based courage building programs to teams, leaders, entrepreneurs, change makers, and culture shifters. Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve, and their children, Ellen and Charlie.

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One

The Physics of Vulnerability

When it comes to human behavior, emotions, and thinking, the adage “The more I learn, the less I know” is right on. I’ve learned to give up my pursuit of netting certainty and pinning it to the wall. Some days I miss pretending that certitude is within reach. My husband, Steve, always knows I’m mourning the loss of my young-­researcher quest when I am holed up in my study listening to David Gray’s song “My Oh My” on repeat. My favorite lyrics are:

What on earth is going on in my head?

You know I used to be so sure.

You know I used to be so definite.

And it’s not just the lyrics; it’s the way that he sings the word def.in.ite. Sometimes, it sounds to me as if he’s mocking the arrogance of believing that we can ever know everything, and other times it sounds like he’s pissed off that we can’t. Either way, singing along makes me feel better. Music always makes me feel less alone in the mess.

While there are really no hard-­and-­fast absolutes in my field, there are truths about shared experiences that deeply resonate with what we believe and know. For example, the Roosevelt quote that anchors my research on vulnerability and daring gave birth to three truths for me:

I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.

Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.

A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-­spirited criticisms and put-­downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.

I don’t think of these as “rules,” but they have certainly become guiding principles for me. I believe there are also some basic tenets about being brave, risking vulnerability, and overcoming adversity that are useful to understand before we get started. I think of these as the basic laws of emotional physics: simple but powerful truths that help us understand why courage is both transformational and rare. These are the rules of engagement for rising strong.

1. If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall; this is the physics of vulnerability. When we commit to showing up and risking falling, we are actually committing to falling. Daring is not saying, “I’m willing to risk failure.” Daring is saying, “I know I will eventually fail and I’m still all in.” Fortune may favor the bold, but so does failure.

2. Once we fall in the service of being brave, we can never go back. We can rise up from our failures, screwups, and falls, but we can never go back to where we stood before we were brave or before we fell. Courage transforms the emotional structure of our being. This change often brings a deep sense of loss. During the process of rising, we sometimes find ourselves homesick for a place that no longer exists. We want to go back to that moment before we walked into the arena, but there’s nowhere to go back to. What makes this more difficult is that now we have a new level of awareness about what it means to be brave. We can’t fake it anymore. We now know when we’re showing up and when we’re hiding out, when we are living our values and when we are not. Our new awareness can also be invigorating—­it can reignite our sense of purpose and remind us of our commitment to wholeheartedness. Straddling the tension that lies between wanting to go back to the moment before we risked and fell and being pulled forward to even greater courage is an inescapable part of rising strong.

3. This journey belongs to no one but you; however, no one successfully goes it alone. Since the beginning of time, people have found a way to rise after falling, yet there is no well-­worn path leading the way. All of us must make our own way, exploring some of the most universally shared experiences while also navigating a solitude that makes us feel as if we are the first to set foot in uncharted regions. And to add to the complexity, in lieu of the sense of safety to be found in a well-­traveled path or a constant companion, we must learn to depend for brief moments on fellow travelers for sanctuary, support, and an occasional willingness to walk side by side. For those of us who fear being alone, coping with the solitude inherent in this process is a daunting challenge. For those of us who prefer to cordon ourselves off from the world and heal alone, the requirement for connection—­of asking for and receiving help—­becomes the challenge.

4. We’re wired for story. In a culture of scarcity and perfectionism, there’s a surprisingly simple reason we want to own, integrate, and share our stories of struggle. We do this because we feel the most alive when we’re connecting with others and being brave with our stories—­it’s in our biology. The idea of storytelling has become ubiquitous. It’s a platform for everything from creative movements to marketing strategies. But the idea that we’re “wired for story” is more than a catchy phrase. Neuroeconomist Paul Zak has found that hearing a story—­a narrative with a beginning, middle, and end—­causes our brains to release cortisol and oxytocin. These chemicals trigger the uniquely human abilities to connect, empathize, and make meaning. Story is literally in our DNA.

5. Creativity embeds knowledge so that it can become practice. We move what we’re learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands. We are born makers, and creativity is the ultimate act of integration—­it is how we fold our experiences into our being. Over the course of my career, the question I’ve been asked more than any other is, “How do I take what I’m learning about myself and actually change how I’m living?” After teaching graduate social work students for eighteen years; developing, implementing, and evaluating two curricula over the past eight years; leading more than seventy thousand students through online learning courses; and interviewing hundreds of creatives, I’ve come to believe that creativity is the mechanism that allows learning to seep into our being and become practice. The Asaro tribe of Indonesia and Papua New Guinea has a beautiful saying: “Knowledge is only a rumor until it lives in the muscle.” What we understand and learn about rising strong is only rumor until we live it and integrate it through some form of creativity so that it becomes part of us.

6. Rising strong is the same process whether you’re navigating personal or professional struggles. I’ve spent equal time researching our personal and our professional lives, and while most of us would like to believe that we can have home and work versions of rising strong, we can’t. Whether you’re a young man dealing with heartbreak, a retired couple struggling with disappointment, or a manager trying to recover after a failed project, the practice is the same. We have no sterile business remedy for having fallen. We still need to dig into the grit of issues like resentment, grief, and forgiveness. As neuroscientist Antonio Damasio reminds us, humans are not either thinking machines or feeling machines, but rather feeling machines that think. Just because you’re standing in your office or your classroom or your studio doesn’t mean that you can take the emotion out of this process. You cannot. Remember those badasses I referenced in the introduction? One more thing they have in common is that they don’t try to avoid emotions—­they are feeling machines who think and engage with their own emotions and the emotions of the people they love, parent, and lead. The most transformative and resilient leaders that I've worked with over the course of my career had three things in common: First, they recognize the central role that relationships and story play in culture and strategy, and they stay curious about their own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Second, they understand and stay curious about how emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are connected in the people they lead, and how those factors affect relationships and perception. And, third, they have the ability and willingness to lean in to discomfort and vulnerability.

7. Comparative suffering is a function of fear and scarcity. Falling down, screwing up, and facing hurt often lead to bouts of second-­guessing our judgment, our self-­trust, and even our worthiness. I am enough can slowly turn into Am I really enough? If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past decade, it’s that fear and scarcity immediately trigger comparison, and even pain and hurt are not immune to being assessed and ranked. My husband died and that grief is worse than your grief over an empty nest. I’m not allowed to feel disappointed about being passed over for promotion when my friend just found out that his wife has cancer. You’re feeling shame for forgetting your son’s school play? Please—­that’s a first-­world problem; there are people dying of starvation every minute. The opposite of scarcity is not abundance; the opposite of scarcity is simply enough. Empathy is not finite, and compassion is not a pizza with eight slices. When you practice empathy and compassion with someone, there is not less of these qualities to go around. There’s more. Love is the last thing we need to ration in this world. The refugee in Syria doesn’t benefit more if you conserve your kindness only for her and withhold it from your neighbor who’s going through a divorce. Yes, perspective is critical. But I'm a firm believer that complaining is okay as long as we piss and moan with a little perspective. Hurt is hurt, and every time we honor our own struggle and the struggles of others by responding with empathy and compassion, the healing that results affects all of us.

8. You can’t engineer an emotional, vulnerable, and courageous process into an easy, one-­size-­fits-­all formula. In fact, I think attempting to sell people an easy fix for pain is the worst kind of snake oil. Rising Strong doesn’t offer a solution or a recipe or step-­by-­step guidance. It presents a theory—­grounded in data—­that explains the basic social process that men and women experience as they are working to rise after falling. It is a map meant to orient you to the most significant patterns and themes that emerged from the research. In my interviews with others and my own experiences, I’ve seen the process take twenty minutes, and I’ve seen it take twenty years. I’ve seen people get stuck, set up camp, and stay in one place for a decade. While the process does seem to follow a few patterns, it presents no formula or strictly linear approach. It’s a back-­and-­forth action—­an iterative and intuitive process that takes different shapes for different people. There is not always a relationship between effort and outcome in this process. You can’t game it or perfect it so it’s fast and easy. You have to feel your way through most of it. The contribution I hope to make is to put language around the process, to bring into our awareness some of the issues that we may need to grapple with if we want to rise strong, and to simply let people know that they’re not alone.

9. Courage is contagious. Rising strong changes not just you, but also the people around you. To bear witness to the human potential for transformation through vulnerability, courage, and tenacity can be either a clarion call for more daring or a painful mirror for those of us stuck in the aftermath of the fall, unwilling or unable to own our stories. Your experience can profoundly affect the people around you whether you’re aware of it or not. Franciscan friar Richard Rohr writes, “You know after any truly initiating experience that you are part of a much bigger whole. Life is not about you henceforward, but you are about life.”

10. Rising strong is a spiritual practice. Getting back on our feet does not require religion, theology, or doctrine. However, without exception, the concept of spirituality emerged from the data as a critical component of resilience and overcoming struggle. I crafted this definition of spirituality based on the data I’ve collected over the past decade: Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to one another by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and belonging. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives. Some of us call that power greater than ourselves God. Some do not. Some people celebrate their spirituality in churches, synagogues, mosques, or other houses of worship, while others find divinity in solitude, through meditation, or in nature. For example, I come from a long line of folks who believe that fishing is church, and one of my closest friends believes that scuba diving is the holiest of experiences. As it turns out, our expressions of spirituality are as diverse as we are. When our intentions and actions are guided by spirituality—­our belief in our interconnectedness and love—­our everyday experiences can be spiritual practices. We can transform teaching, leading, and parenting into spiritual practices. Asking for and receiving help can also be spiritual practices. Storytelling and creating can be spiritual practices, because they cultivate awareness. While these activities can be spiritual practices, it appears that rising strong after falling must be a spiritual practice. Rising demands the foundational beliefs of connection and requires wrestling with perspective, meaning, and purpose. I recently came across this quote on Liz Gilbert's Instagram feed—and I think it sums this up perfectly: “Grace will take you places hustling can’t.”

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Two

Civilization Stops at the Waterline

I once made a map of my heart, and smack-­dab in the center of that map I drew Lake Travis. Nestled in the gorgeous Texas Hill Country, right on the western edge of Austin, the lake is a sixty-­five-­mile-­long reservoir of the Colorado River. It is a place of rocky banks, breathtaking cliffs, and mesquite trees, all surrounding cold turquoise water.

I spent every summer of my childhood at Lake Travis. It’s where I learned how to fish for perch and largemouth bass, run a catfish trotline, whittle, build tree houses, and set a proper table. My great-­aunt Lorenia and her husband, Uncle Joe, had a house in Volente. Back then the area around the lake was rural, home to country folk with trucks and fishing poles who didn’t consider themselves residents of Austin—­they just lived “at the lake.” Today the same area is considered a suburb of Austin and studded with mansions and gated neighborhoods.

Aunt Bea lived next door to Aunt Lorenia, and Ma and Pa Baldwin lived in the next house down with their daughter and son-­in-­law, Edna Earl and Walter. Edna Earl and Aunt Lorenia were best friends until they died. I spent hours running barefoot from house to house, screen doors slamming behind me. I’d play cards with Aunt Bea, then run back to Aunt Lorenia’s to bake a pie. I would collect rocks and catch fireflies with Ma and Pa. Edna Earl loved to listen to my knock-­knock jokes.

Aunt Lorenia was the local Avon lady. Helping her pack up the goods and “work her route” was the highlight of my summers. From the time I was in fourth grade, we’d jump in the pickup, her on the driver’s side and me in the passenger seat with my Red Ryder BB gun, the bags of cosmetics, perfumes, and creams piled between us. I was in charge of the lipstick samples—­a shiny vinyl box filled with what seemed like hundreds of tiny white tubes of lipstick in every imaginable color and formulation.

We’d travel down long gravel roads, then park at a customer’s metal gate. Aunt Lorenia would get out first to open the gate and check for wild animals and rattlesnakes. Once she’d made her assessment, she’d yell back, “Bring the lipstick. Leave the gun.” Or “Bring the lipstick. Grab the gun.” I’d slide down out of the truck, lipstick and sometimes Red Ryder in hand, and we’d walk up to the house.

After long mornings of delivering Avon, we’d make sandwiches, pack them up, and grab a handful of worms from the worm farm Uncle Joe had made in a converted 1930s Westinghouse Coca-­Cola ice chest in their backyard. With our lunch and bait, we’d head down to the dock to fish and float in inner tubes on the lake. I was never happier anywhere in my life than I was floating around on Lake Travis. I can still close my eyes and remember what it felt like to drift along in my tube, feeling the warm sun on my skin as I watched dragonflies skip along the water and kicked away perch nibbling at my toes.

The Big Door Prize

Lake Travis was magic for me—­the kind of magic you want to share with your own kids. So, when Steve and I were planning our 2012 summer vacation, we decided to rent a house about half an hour from Aunt Lorenia and Uncle Joe’s. We were excited because it was the first time we had blocked out such a long stretch for a vacation—­we’d be gone for two whole weeks. Lawless one-­week vacations are fine, but our family functions better with a few limits in place. So we decided for this vacation that we’d monitor technology with the kids, keep reasonable bedtimes, cook and eat relatively healthy meals, and work out as often as possible. Our siblings and parents were coming to spend time with us over the course of the vacation, so we put everyone on notice about the “healthy vacation” plans. Flurries of emails detailing meal planning and grocery lists ensued.

The rental house was tucked away along a deepwater cove on the lake and had a long stretch of stairs leading down to an old dock with a corrugated tin roof. Steve and I committed to swimming across the cove every day of our vacation. It was about five hundred yards each way. The day before we left, I went out and bought a new Speedo and replaced my goggles. It had been a long time since Steve and I had swum together. Twenty-­five years, to be exact. We met when we both were lifeguarding and coaching swimming. While I still swim every week, it’s more of a “toning” endeavor for me. Steve, on the other hand, was a competitive swimmer in high school, played club water polo in college, and is still a serious swimmer. I gauge the differences in our current abilities this way: He still does flip turns. I touch and go these days.

Early one morning, before any of our tribe was up, Steve and I headed down to the dock. My sisters and their families were visiting, so we felt comfortable leaving the kids up at the house. We dove in and started our trek across the cove. About halfway across, we both stopped to perform the basic open-­water swimming check for boats. As we treaded water and looked for lake traffic, our eyes met. I was overwhelmed by gratitude for the surrounding beauty and the gift of finding myself swimming in my magic lake with the guy I met in the water some twenty-­five years ago. Feeling the intense vulnerability that always accompanies deep joy for me, I let my sentiments roam free, tenderly telling Steve, “I’m so glad we decided to do this together. It’s beautiful out here.” Steve is so much better at putting himself out there that I prepared myself for an equally gushing response. Instead he flashed a noncommittal half smile and replied, “Yeah. Water’s good.” Then he started swimming again.

We were only about fifteen feet apart. Didn’t he hear me? I thought. Maybe he just heard something other than what I said. Maybe my unexpected touchy-feely-ness took him off guard, and he was so overwhelmed with love that he was rendered speechless? Whatever the case, it was weird and I didn’t like it. My emotional reaction was embarrassment, with shame rising.

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VINE VOICE
5.0 out of 5 stars
A bold call to fall, get up, and try again
July 12, 2015

This book definitely works as a standalone piece, but it's meant to build upon her prior works. As Brene shares in the first chapter, the progression of her works is that the first book, http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X, has the message "Be you," while the next one, http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1592408419/, is a call to "Be all in." This book? "Fall. Get up. Try again."

This isn't another book telling you it's okay with fail. No, the assumption is that you have failed or will do so in the not too distant future. What will you do when it's time to get back up? In the author's words, "my goal for this book is to slow down the falling and rising processes: to bring into our awareness all the choices that unfurl in front of us during those moments of discomfort and hurt, and to explore the consequences of those choices." In this book, she uses stories and research, but unlike previous books, many of the stories in this one are her own personal ones. That makes it feel a little less like a book and a little more like an encouraging yet tough-love conversation with a trusted friend or mentor.

Truth and Dare: An Introduction
This part of the book got me a little nervous, if I'm honest. It was here I realized that this book was all about drilling down deep into the most difficult and uncomfortable moments in our lives, getting honest, and holding ourselves accountable to move forward in the after. I wasn't sure I wanted in on all of that. It seemed hard and dirty and messy and, well, uncomfortable. For starters, she dives into the idea that failure is painful, poignantly pointing out that our celebration of redemption often skips over the real hurts that needed redemption in the first place. We're guilty of "gold-plating grit," she writes, as we make failure seem fashionable without acknowledging the inherent desperation, shame, and dismay. Then enters my favorite Brenéism from this book: "the [awesome] deficit." What we need - and lack - is "a critical mass of [awesome people] who are willing to dare, fall, feel their way through tough emotion, and rise again" instead of just glossing over the pain or stuffing it down deep or taking it out on other people. (The bracketed word above isn't what she wrote, but Amazon's review guidelines won't publish a review with the real word. It's bad plus a synonym for donkey.)

Chapter 1: The Physics of Vulnerability
Here, vulnerability is presented as courage rather than weakness. Just as I remember the laws of physics from high school, Brené offers a new twist: if we are brave enough often enough, we will fall. That's what the physics of vulnerability is. Being brave and falling changes us for the better, while the individual path can be isolating and the need to ask for help challenging. As she writes about our being wired for story, I couldn't help but think of two powerful books (both from a Christian perspective, FYI, in case that's not your thing): Nish Weiseth's http://www.amazon.com/Speak-Your-Story-Change-World/dp/0310338174/ and Annie Down's http://www.amazon.com/Lets-All-Be-Brave-Everything/dp/031033795X. The most powerful point from this chapter, though, is that comparative suffering is detrimental: hurt is hurt, and love is needed in response without ration.

Chapter 2: Civilization Stops at the Waterline
The title of this chapter comes from a Hunter S. Thompson quotes. But the waterline is also a call to a powerful story Brené uses to open this chapters, about her husband and a morning swim and a vulnerable conversation for both of them. Then she lays out a story-telling paradigm - borrowed from Pixar - to apply to our lives in how we deal with the conflict parts in our real-life stories. This is where the meat of the book emerges. The rising strong process is (1) the reckoning, as we walk into our story, (2) the rumble, as we own our story, and (3) the revolution as we transform how we live as a result of our story. That's how we can rise strong from our failures.

The next several chapters build on that process...

Chapter 3: Owning Our Stories
This is where Brene challenges us as readers to accept or turn down the invitation to own our stories, rather than minimizing, compartmentalizing, hiding, or editing them. Owning our stories also means we're not defined by them or denying them. They are ours. Then to do so, the three steps begin...

Chapter 4: The Reckoning
As we reckon our stories, Brené pushes readers to feel and recognize our emotions and then get curious enough about them to dig a little deeper. Doing so, she writes, keeps us from offloading our hurts in a variety of unproductive ways: lashing out our hurts, bouncing our hurts away as if they don't matter, numbing our hurts through one or more methods, stockpiling our hurts by keeping everything inside, or getting stuck in our hurt. In this chapter, she also offers amazing strategies for reckoning with emotion, and I know I'll botch them if I even attempt to summarize them.

Chapter 5: The Rumble
In this chapter, we reexamine our stories, diving deeper to mine for truths, including errors in our own first retelling of the failure tale.

Chapter 6: Sewer Rats and Scofflaws
This chapter takes the rumble a bit further with discussions of boundaries, integrity, and generosity.

Chapter 7: The Brave and the Brokenhearted
This chapter as a whole is too meaty to succinctly summarize in this review beyond the subtitle: "rumbling with expectations, disappointment, resentment, heartbreak, connection, grief, forgiveness, compassion, and empathy." On a personal note, my heart jumped and then sank and then fluttered when I got to this chapter. For reasons not relevant to this review, I'm finding myself to be the brave and brokenhearted this week, and it's hard. I saw the title and my heart jumped as I thought, This is the one for me, my current faceplant situation. Then I read the subtitle and my heart sank as I thought, But Brené isn't going to make this easy, because it isn't easy and I'm sure there aren't shortcuts, plus she's been telling me to feel and I don't really want to right now. Finally, my heart fluttered, knowing this was part of my rumbling. I needed to drive forward to rise strong.

Chapter 8: Easy Mark
This chapter continues to expand on the concept of the rumble - which makes sense, because Brené states in chapter 2 that the second day/stage/point is the most important in the process. In her reckoning-rumbling-revolution paradigm, then, it makes sense to dissect rumbling the most. This chapter's subtitle also describes much of the content: "rumbling with need, connection, judgment, self-worth, privilege, and asking for help."

Chapter 9: Composting Failure
In this chapter, Brené dives deeper once more into the rumble, this time with the subtitle: "rumbling with fear, shame, perfectionism, accountability, trust, failure, and regret."

Chapter 10: You Got To Dance With Them That Brung You
Yep, another dive deep chapter on rumbling, this time "rumbling with shame, identity, and nostalgia." This one had a lot of gut punch for me, and Brené - at the risk of looking like a brat - shared a vulnerable story that helped me get vulnerable with myself in return in much needed ways.

Chapter 11: The Revolution
The revolution is what comes after the rumbling. It's the act of rising strong, but it can't be done before all the prior work. Revolution is the act of intentionally choosing authenticity and worthiness as an act of resistance in this world. With this the last chapter, Brené closes it out with a poem by Nayyirah Waheed, ending with "we are rising strong."

This book is a bold call to fall, get up, and try again. May we all rise strong.
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3.0 out of 5 star
I'm a Fan, But This Book Missed the MarkAugust 28, 2015
Format: Hardcover

I have loved Brene Brown's books but this one didn't resonate. Too many personal anecdotes and examples that didn't apply. I got tired of her "cussing" and while I appreciate that she's proud of being from Texas, a list of why she's a Texan didn't apply to this book. I felt it was something that would have worked better on her blog. Brown's other personal examples of people around her "making up" things, her hatred of some poor woman she had to room with at a conference, and her drawn out story about a vulnerable moment with her husband seemed like a stretch she used to try and illustrate a point. They fell short.

The same is true for the "from the research" stories she told. They were long, drawn out, and overly forced to fit into her point. This PAINS ME to say this, because I have loved just about everything else she's done or written. In fact, I'd probably give this two stars if it wasn't her. I appreciate this effort but it really seemed like she didn't have enough material to make this book a helpful, practical reference. If you're looking to really "rise strong" and start again I would recommend Daring Greatly instead.
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Kelly

2.0 out of 5 starsDisappointedJune 8, 2016
Format: Hardcover|Verified Purchase

I love Brene and was inspired to buy this after watching her Oprah interview about this. Pretty much everything I needed to know was in the interview. This book seems to just say the same thing over and over. It seemed like she tried to stretch out what could have been a blog topic into a book. There was no need for a book. Very hard to get into. Her other books are much better.
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Taylor Ellwood

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5.0 out of 5 starsHow to reset and rise strongDecember 16, 2017
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In Rising Strong, Brene Brown explores how to reset your life when you've experienced adversity. This book was very timely for me to read because of some tough experiences I've had n this last year. Reading through it gave me valuable techniques to draw on as I work through those experiences. It's helped me work through some tough emotions and behavior patterns and provided me a way forward. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with some life changing struggles, who needs some guidance on how to move forward, but also to anyone who wants to improve how they work through difficult situations.
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Kleinhaus

4.0 out of 5 stars
Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors. This is the third book I have ...January 20, 2018
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase

Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors. This is the third book I have read by her. While I do recommend this book, it is very different from some of her others. I found that some of her other books I could pick up for 10 minutes a day, read a short bit, and pick it up again the next day. This book has longer stories in it, so I have to read an entire chapter in one sitting, which takes longer than the 10 minutes I have every morning before work. I still recommend it, but I like her other books better.
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K. Boddy

5.0 out of 5 stars
Great reading for anyone.September 25, 2015
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

Everything about Brene Brown has pulled at me since I first heard her speak on TEDX HOUSTON. I have re-watched her 2 talks multiple times. I have read or listened on Audio most of her books. I took 2 e-courses that she offered and hope she will have one for this book too.
In this book she examines the issues that we all have and I assume, like me you will see yourself in the details. She gives us ideas that will help us deal with the tough moments in our lives. The arguments with your spouse or your children often cause us to ruminate and come up with the wrong reasons why we were having that argument.
I cannot recommend this book to any person willing to examine themselves and their actions. This book is helpful and full of great examples (stories.)
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A. Sun

5.0 out of 5 stars
Depth of SoulDecember 7, 2015
Format: Hardcover|Verified Purchase

Rarely does a book speak to me enough that I would feel compelled to write a review. This book speaks to me on such a deep level, I feel I must. The concept that grief is connected to forgiveness was the missing key for me in respect to some major hurts I've yet to be able to let go. After sobbing to the recognition, I was able to find the relief and understanding that had previously eluded me. Thank you, Dr. Brown!
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