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언제나 한발짝 앞서 ‘저항 현장’ 나섰던 임보라 목사 별세


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성소수자 차별 반대·평화운동 앞장
“큰 언덕 잃었다” 곳곳 애도 분위기

고 임보라 목사. <한겨레> 자료사진

성소수자 차별 반대와 여성인권, 평화 운동에 앞장서며 사회적 약자들과 함께했던 임보라 목사가 4일 별세했다. 향년 55.

임 목사의 갑작스러운 별세 소식에 시민운동계와 진보 개신교계는 충격에 빠졌다. 특히 성소수자들과 차별철폐운동가들은 “큰 언덕을 잃었다”며 비통해하고 있다.


고인은 1987년 한신대 영어영문과를 입학하고 마친 후 한신대 신학대학원에 진학했고, 1993년 향린교회가 강남향린교회로 분립할 당시 전도사 신분으로 어린이부를 맡아 목회를 시작했다. 이어 캐나다 유학 도중 한인교회에서 목회를 했고, 2003년에는 귀국해 향린교회 부목사로 사역했다. 민주화운동의 개신교계 본산 격인 향린교회에 몸담은 고인은 약자들을 위한 사역에 몸을 던졌으나, 그 누구도 아닌 기독교인들에 의해 가장 박해받고 비난받고 상처를 입었다.

고인은 2010년 ’차별없는 세상을 위한 기독교연대’ 공동대표를 맡은 뒤 국회 앞 기자회견에서 “우리를 만드신 이가 하나님이신데 누가 누구를 차별할 수 있겠습니까! 성경에서 말하는 가장 큰 계명은 ‘하나님을 사랑하고 이웃을 내 몸같이 사랑하라’는 것이며 일부 기독교인들이 성경을 동성애를 혐오하는 근거로 삼아 폭력의 도구로 전락시킨 것을 회개해야 한다”고 외쳤다. 2012년 무지개인권상을 수상한 고인은 수상 소감에서 “<하느님과 만난 동성애> 출판을 기념하며, 먼저 간 벗들을 애도하는 예식에서 함께 목 놓아 울었던 그 자리를 기억하고, 서울시 학생인권조례 농성장 이곳저곳에서 터져 나온 10대 퀴어들의 울음소리를 기억한다”며 “당시 학생인권조례 제정을 방해하는데 앞장섰던 기독인들이 ‘형제님, 자매님’이라며 서로를 부르면서도 저를 밀쳐내고 ‘자매님, 더러우니 얼른 가서 손을 씻고 오라’는 말을 서슴지 않고 내뱉기도 했던 그 농성장에서 제가 감당해야 할 몫이 무엇인지 깨닫게 했다”고 말했다.



10년 전인 2013년 향린교회가 60주년 기념으로 섬돌향린교회를 분립하면서 담임 목회자가 된 고인은 섬돌향린교회를 성소수자 크리스천을 비롯한 사회적 약자들의 피난처로 만들어 한국교회의 성소수자 혐오에 맞섰다. 고인은 일부 목회자·신학자들과 함께 2017년 <퀴어성서주석>(무지개신학연구소) 번역본 발간을 위해 출판위원회를 꾸렸다. 이후 개신교계 대형 교단들은 임목사를 이단으로 규정해 개신교계 최대 교단 가운데 하나인 예장합동교단과 고신, 합신 등이 2017년 9월 총회에서, 예장통합과 백석대신 교단은 그다음 해 9월 총회에서 각각 임 목사를 ‘이단 혹은 이단성이 있다’고 결의했다. 고인은 차별금지법을 반대하며 자신을 이단시하는 보수 개신교계의 탄압에도 토론회와 세미나 등에서 “성소수자는 성경적으로도 죄인이 아니고, 사회에서 어떤 차별도 받아서는 안 된다”고 항변해왔다.



고 임보라 목사. 이정아 기자 chang@hani.co.kr

고인은 성소수자들뿐 아니라 신학교와 교단 내 성폭행 피해자들을 위해서도 해결과 재발방지를 위해 애쓰고, 제주강정해군기지 반대운동 등 평화운동과 동물권 운동에도 힘을 보탰다.

향린교회 김희헌 목사는 “누적된 삶의 압박을 견디지 못한 것 같다”며 비통해했다. 며칠 전 한백교회에서 열린 교육 강사로 온 고인을 보았다는 한백교회 이상철 목사는 “평소 그가 지구인이 아닐지도 모른다고 생각했을 만큼 지구와는 다른 감수성과 공감 능력을 성소수자와 동물과 장애인과 생명 일반에게 보여준 분이었다”면서 “늘 언제나 한 발짝 앞서 고통의 현장에 서 있었던 그의 뒤에 많은 기독교인들이 숨어서만 겨우 체면과 위신을 유지했는데 큰 벽이 무너졌다”고 애통해했다.

그의 별세 소식에 여러 인권 단체의 추모가 이어졌다. 비온뒤 무지개 재단은 페이스북을 통해 “성소수자들을 향해 축복을 아끼지 않았던 임보라 목사님을 추모”한다며 “무지개를 두르고 환하게 웃던 고인의 밝은 미소와 연대의 마음을 기억하고 기리기 위해” 그의 인터뷰를 공유했다. 차별금지법제정연대도 “연대가 필요한 어디에서나 우리의 마음을 다독여주시던 당신의 미소가 벌써 그리워집니다”라고 애통해했다. 행동하는성소수자인권연대는 “혐오와 차별, 불평등에 저항하는 이들이 있는 곳에 늘 먼저 나와 곁이 되어 주신 덕분으로 우리 세상이 조금 더 따뜻했습니다. 이 때문에 떠난 자리가 오래 시릴 것도 같습니다”라고 추모했다.

유족으로는 남편과 딸 2명이 있다. 빈소는 서울 강동경희대학교병원 장례식장 22호실이며, 발인은 2월7일 화요일 오전 7시, 장지는 서울시립승화원이다. 5일 일요일 오후 4시에는 임 목사가 소속했던 한국기독교장로회 서울노회 예배가, 5시에는 향린공동체협의회 주관 부활증언예배가, 7시에는 강일교회 예배가 있다.

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곁에 선 사람, 임보라 목사님 < 교계 < 기사본문 - 뉴스앤조이



곁에 선 사람, 임보라 목사님
[기고] 임보라 목사님을 추모하며
기자명 황용연
승인 2023.02.05 


곁에 선 사람, 임보라 목사(섬돌향린교회)가 2월 4일 별세했다. 뉴스앤조이 자료 사진

성소수자부모모임 월례 모임에 가면 항상 가톨릭 사제·수녀님 10여 분 정도가 참여하십니다. 특히 수녀님들이 수녀복을 입고 나란히 앉아 계신 모습을 볼 때면 이런 생각을 자연스럽게 하게 되지요. 이 자리에 참석하신 성소수자와 부모님들이 누군가 자신을 지지해 주는 사람, 자신들 곁에 서 있는 사람이 있다는 생각을 하겠구나. 특히 가톨릭을 비롯해서 그리스도교 신앙을 가진 사람이라면 더더욱이나. 한번은 제가 목사라고 밝혔더니, 모임이 끝난 뒤에 교회에서 오래 봉사하셨다는 성소수자 부모님 한 분이 저를 찾아와 이야기를 나눈 적도 있지요.

임보라 목사님 하면 가장 먼저 떠오르는 생각은, 많은 사람이 '임보라'라는 이름을 두고 앞서 이야기한 '누군가 자신을 지지해 주는 사람', '자신들 곁에 서 있는 사람'이 있다는 느낌을 받았으리라는 것입니다. 그중 많은 사람은 누군가 자신들의 곁에 서 있는 '목사님'이 있다는 느낌을 받기도 했을 테고요. 목사가 자신들 곁에 서 있다는 것은 생각하기 어려웠는데 그런 목사님이 실제로 계신다는 느낌, 그래서 어쩌면 다른 이들의 지지와 같기도 하고 다르기도 한 그런 느낌.

임 목사님은 작년에 있었던 '성소수자 교인 목회 토론회'에서 당신에게 이런 문자메시지가 자주 온다며 그 내용을 소개해 주신 적이 있습니다. "지금 교인은 아니지만, 저도 한때 그로 인해 힘들었던 입장에서, 사람을 죽이는 게 아니라 살리는 하나님을 많은 친구들이 만날 수 있기를 응원할게요. 감사합니다." 자신을 지지해 주는 사람·목사님에 대한 성소수자분들의 감사와 그 절실한 마음이 전해져 옵니다.

임보라 목사님을 가장 잘 나타낼 수 있는 말은 '섬돌향린교회 목사'라는 말일 것입니다. 물론 노래 모임 '새하늘새땅', 강정마을 해군기지 건설 반대 운동, 차별금지법 제정 운동에도 적극 참여하는 등 수많은 행적을 남기셨습니다만, 어쩌면 그 모든 행적을 한마디로 응결시킨다면 '섬돌향린교회 목사'가 아닐까 싶습니다.

임 목사님의 회고에 따르면, 향린교회가 분가 선교의 일환으로 섬돌향린교회 창립을 준비하던 시절에 향린교회 교회당에서 동성 결혼식이 가능한지 문의가 들어왔다고 합니다. 교회 내부에서 격렬한 찬반 토론이 벌어졌고, 반대하는 사람들은 임 목사님의 분가 선교가 '동성애자 교회 만들기'가 아니냐는 의심까지 했다고 하지요.

창립되던 시점부터 그런 의심을 받으며 시작한 섬돌향린교회는 무엇보다도 '교회'였습니다. 성소수자와 비성소수자가 함께 그리스도를 고백하는 신앙 공동체로서의 교회 말입니다. 교회, 즉 그리스도의 몸이라고 자신을 정의하는 곳 대다수가 '성소수자들은 그리스도의 몸에 참여할 수 없다'고 말하는 한국 사회에서, 성소수자와 비성소수자 모두가 함께 참여할 수 있는 정말 그리스도의 몸으로서의 교회 말입니다. 여기서 빠뜨릴 수 없는 것은 섬돌향린교회가 이런 교회가 될 수 있었던 이유는 리더십인 임보라 목사님 혼자 이끌어 왔기 때문이 아니라, 모든 교인이 한 발 한 발 밟아 가며 함께한 결과라는 것입니다.

어떤 사람에게는 임보라 목사님이 그리스도교가, 국가가 하지 말라는 것에 대놓고 반기를 드는 강인한 성향을 지닌 분으로 비쳤을지도 모르겠습니다. 그래서 소위 보수 신앙을 갖고 있다는 사람들은 임 목사님을 보며 펄펄 뛰었고, 때로는 이단을 운운하기도 했습니다. 한편 제가 섬돌향린교회 예배에 참석했을 때 봤던 임 목사님은 그 자리에 계신 모든 분에게 마음으로 편안하게 다가가는 부드러운 분이었습니다.

강인함과 부드러움이 하나였던 분, 그럴 수 있었던 이유가 예수 그리스도를 믿는 신앙에 있었던 분, 이것이 임보라 목사님의 참모습 중 하나가 아닐까 합니다. 임 목사님은 그렇게 강인함과 부드러움이 하나 된 마음이 가는 대로, 강정마을에도 가시고 차별금지법 제정 운동도 하시면서, 누군가의 곁에 서셨습니다.

임보라 목사님의 소천 소식에 많은 사람이 애통해하고 있습니다. 그만큼 많은 이가 임 목사님이 자신 곁에 서서 지지해 줬다는 느낌을 받았고, 그것이 그분들 삶에 힘이 됐다는 말일 것입니다. 소천 소식에 많은 사람이 애통해한다는 것은 그만큼 그분의 삶이 아름다웠다는 말일 것이고, 그러기에 더더욱 애통하기도 한 것이겠지요.

누가복음서가 전하는 예수님 말씀에 따르면, 하나님에게는 모든 사람이 다 살아 있는 사람이라고 합니다. 이미 죽어 이 세상에 없는 사람이든, 지금 살아 있는 사람이든 상관없이, 모든 사람이 다 살아 있는 사람이라는 것입니다.

그 말씀에 따른다면 하나님에게는 임보라 목사님도 살아 있는 사람이라는 말일 터입니다. 그 말은 하나님을 믿는 모든 사람에게, 하나님이 곁에 계신 모든 사람에게, 임보라 목사님은 살아 있는 사람이라는 말일 터입니다. 성소수자를 비롯한 소수자의 곁에 서셨던 임 목사님의 삶, 강인함과 부드러움이 하나 된 마음 가는 대로 사셨던 그 삶이 허무하게 사라질 리 없다는 말일 터입니다.

임보라 목사님, 감사했습니다.

황용연 / 한국기독교장로회 총회 사회선교사, 사회적 소수자 선교 센터 무지개센터 대표.
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Hyun Ju Kim
누가복음서가 전하는 예수님 말씀에 따르면, 하나님에게는 모든 사람이 다 살아 있는 사람이라고 합니다. 이미 죽어 이 세상에 없는 사람이든, 지금 살아 있는 사람이든 상관없이, 모든 사람이 다 살아 있는 사람이라는 것입니다.
그 말씀에 따른다면 하나님에게는 임보라 목사님도 살아 있는 사람이라는 말일 터입니다. 그 말은 하나님을 믿는 모든 사람에게, 하나님이 곁에 있으신 모든 사람에게, 임보라 목사님은 살아 있는 사람이라는 말일 터입니다. 성소수자를 비롯한 소수자의 곁에 서셨던 임 목사님의 삶, 강인함과 부드러움이 하나 된 마음 가시는 대로 사셨던 그 삶이 허무하게 사라질 리 없다는 말일 터입니다.
임보라 목사님, 감사했습니다.  - 황용연

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하느님과 만난 동성애 
슘 프로젝트 (지은이)
한울(한울아카데미)2018-03-30

책소개

동성애자 기독교인들의 진심 어린 고백과 동성애 혐오·차별에 반대하는 사람들의 냉철한 목소리를 담고 있다. 저자들이 말하는 것은 비단 동성애에 대한 폭력에 국한되지 않는다. 자신의 잣대에, 기준에, 취향에, 입맛에 맞지 않는 사람들을 향해 그 어떤 차별과 배제를 서슴없이 휘두르거나, ‘죄인’이란 꼬리표를 붙이는 사람들의 폭력에 대해 이야기한다.

현재 우리 사회에서 동성애는 뜨거운 감자다. 하지만 이처럼 논란의 중심에 서기까지도 많은 시간이 걸렸다. 그간 동성애자들은 철저히 소외된 존재였던 것이다. 소수자에 대한 담론이 모쪼록 관심과 존중, 배려라는 건강함 속에 펼쳐지길 바란다. 이 책은 그러한 소통에 좋은 밑거름이 될 것이다.


목차
기획자 노트: 하느님과 만난 동성애 _ 한채윤

1부 목회로 만난 동성애
모태 신앙인 내 아이, 무엇이 잘못된 걸까요? _ 임보라
보수 신자가 보수 신자에게: 우리가 반대하는 이들을 위해서 살 때 _ 박총
새내기 목사, 동성애 교인들과 사랑에 빠지다 _ 유연희
동성애! 낯선 경계의 선을 넘어 _ 고성기

2부 동성애자가 만난 하느님
내 안에도 주님이 계십니다 _ 이경
다시, 기독교를 생각하다 _ 이은
크리스의 레즈비언이 된 이야기 그리고 레즈비언으로 사는 이야기 _ 크리스
나의 커밍아웃 이야기: 하나님, 나, 그리고 신앙 공동체에게 _ 양지
7년을 기다린 기억 _ 도임방주

3부 성경으로 만난 동성애
999번 들은 이야기와 한 번 듣는 이야기 _ 김진욱
성, 동성애 그리고 죄: 기독교의 불편한 진실 _ 구미정
동성애와 기독교적 세계관: 하느님의 큰 사랑은 경계를 나누지 않는다 _ 조순애
역사를 마주보고, ‘지금, 여기’를 사는 것 _ 호리에 유리
아! 사랑해 다윗, 정말…… 사랑해 - 고상균

부록 - 성적 소수자 사전

접기
책속에서

P. 35
이 글은 나와 같은 보수 신앙을 가진 이들을 향한 ‘말 걸기’다. 동성애에 대한 그들의 뿌리 깊은 반대를 바꾸는 게 목적이 아니다. 초대교회 시절 로마 황제 경배를 거부하다 사잣밥이 된 자들보다 더 결연한 각오로 동성애를 거부하는(그런 마음으로 신사참배, 군부독재, 물신숭배를 거부했으면 좋으련만) 그들에게 동성애자들을 패배시키는 것 대신, 동성애자들의 패배가 자신들의 패배가 되고 동성애자들의 승리가 자신들의 승리가 되게 하라고 설득하려는 것이다. 또한 호모포비아(homophobia, 동성애 혐오증)를 ‘성경적’이라고 찰떡같이 믿는 그들에게 동성애보다 수백 배 더 강조되는 가난과 정의는 나 몰라라 하면서 유독 동성애에만 지옥행 티켓을 발행하는 태도가 얼마나 ‘비성경적’인지 밝힌다.  접기

P. 47
단언하건대 동성애를 반대하는 이유가 교리 수호 차원에 그쳐서는 안 된다. 그것은 모두 동성애자들을 위한 것(비록 그들은 억압이라고 생각할지라도)이어야 하고, 따라서 동성애를 반대하는 내용의 ‘교리’가 동성애자의 ‘존재’보다 더 중요한 것처럼 비치치 않도록 해야 한다. 예전에 한국기독교총연합회(이하 한기총)에서 동성애를 반대하는 성명을 발표했을 때 동성애자들이 ‘아, 저 사람들이 우리를 반대하지만 속내는 우리를 위해서 그러는구나’라는 진심을 느낄 수 있었다면, 한 동성애 그리스도인이 한기총을 원망하는 유서를 남기고 자살하는 일은 없었을 것이다.  접기

P. 115
육우당은 이 쟁점에 누구보다 관심이 많았다. 그도 그럴 것이 그 자신이 바로 청소년 동성애자였으며, 이로 인해 고등학교를 끝까지 다니지 못하게 되었기 때문이다. 그러나 육우당이 이 문제에 가장 집중했던 이유는 무엇보다 그가 가진 ‘종교’ 때문이었다. 그는 가톨릭 신자였다. 기독교인 동성애자가 보수 기독교의 동성애 혐오에 저항하는 것은 그야말로 ‘존재’하기 위해서다. 자신이 믿고 영혼을 의지하는 그리스도가 자신을 혐오하고 거부한다면 어떻게 하겠는가?  접기

P. 117
육우당은 “성소수자도 하나님의 사랑하는 자녀”라고 했지만 한기총 목사들은 “부끄러운 줄 알라”며 육우당의 죽음에 어떠한 책임도 질 필요가 없다고 했다. 육우당이 자신의 유서에서 “(기독교가) 수많은 성소수자들을 낭떠러지로 내모는 것이 얼마나 반인륜적이고 반성경적인지” 절규하고 있음에도 말이다. 결국 한기총은 사과하지 않았다. 그리고 7년이 지난 지금도 이들은 회개하지 않는다. 여전히 동성애 혐오를 조장하는 데 앞장서고 있으며 더 많은 성소수자들을 절망의 낭떠러지로 내몰고 있다.  접기
P. 271~272
기독교 신앙의 알짬은 하느님의 자기 비움을 본받아 우리도 서로 섬기고 사랑하는 것에 있습니다. 심각한 자기 분열을 겪으며 어느새 ‘늙은’종교를 흉내 내어 급격히 보수화되어가는 한국 교회가 ‘다른 복음’에서 떠나 사랑으로 하나 되기를 이루었으면 좋겠습니다. 교회가 입술로는 사랑을 말하면서 실상은 폭력을 휘두른다면, 그 사랑은 결코 ... 더보기

 
저자 및 역자소개
슘 프로젝트 (지은이) 
차별없는세상을위한기독인연대, 향린교회여성인권소모임, LGBT평신도네트워크에서 활동하고 있는 뜻있는 몇몇 기독교인들과 한국성적소수자문화인권센터가 2008년 4월에 함께 꾸린 프로젝트 모임이다. 기독교 신앙 내의 동성애 혐오와 차별의 문제점을 깊이 인식하고, 이에 대한 대안 마련과 해결을 위한 활동에 집중하고 있다. ‘슘’은 숨과 쉼의 합성어로 성적 소수자들을 위한 숨길 내기와 쉼의 공간을 만들겠다는 의지를 담고 있다.
최근작 : <하느님과 만난 동성애> … 총 2종 (모두보기)


출판사 제공 책소개

「차별금지법」내 동성애 항목을 둘러싼 격한 대립과
국가위원회의 ‘군 동성애차별 위헌 결정’에 대한 뜨거운 공방!

동성애 차별은 정말 신의 ‘의지’일까, 아니면 인간의 ‘의도’일까?
하느님의 이름 뒤에 숨어 우리 인간이 무슨 일을 저지르고 있는 것인가?

2007년 10월, 인권선진국으로 나아가기 위해 4년여 동안 국가인권위원회에서 공들여 만든 「차별금지법」이 드디어 입법 예고되었다. 하지만 일부 기독교인의 극심한 반대로 인해 법안은 급히 수정되었다. 반대의 핵심은 간단했다. 「차별금지법」에 ‘성적 지향’이 포함되어 있는데 이것은 동성애자에 대한 차별까지 금지하는 것이므로 하느님의 뜻에 어긋난다는 것이다. 동성애를 금하지 않으면 동성애자가 늘어나서 사회와 가정이 파괴된다고도 한다.

그들의 말에 의하면 동성애는 사회악이다. 하지만 정말 그럴까. 동성애는 정말 신앙과 교리에 어긋나는 것인가? 다수의 성적 취향과 다르다는 이유로 누군가가 차별과 불이익을 받는 게 정당한 것인가? 신에 의지하고 싶은 마음은 동성애자에게도 있지 않을까? 그렇다면 하느님은 옳은 분인가, 과연 우리가 믿는 하느님은 한 분인가? 동성애가 죄라면 죄인을 사랑하고 그들의 친구가 된 예수님은 어디에 있는가?

그동안 우리는 줄곧 동성애는 죄악이라고 들었다. 동성애자들은 회개와 심판의 대상으로, 동성애는 치료해야 하는 병으로 보았다. 이런 현실 속에서 이 책에 쓰인 목회자들과 신학자들의 이야기는 어쩌면 종교에 대한 불경한 반란으로, 동성애자들의 고백은 죄인의 자기변명으로 여겨질지도 모른다. 하지만 이 책에는 하느님에게 버림받았다고 여겼고 하느님의 교회에서 모욕과 내침을 당했지만, 자신은 차마 하느님을 버릴 수 없었던 이들의 진심과 사랑이 담겨 있다. 사도 바울의 외쳤던 “유대인이나 그리스인이나 종이나 자유인이나 남자나 여자나 아무런 차별이 없습니다. 그리스도 예수 안에서 여러분은 모두 한 몸을 이루었기 때문입니다”라는 말씀을 오늘날에도 실천하기 위해 애쓰는 이들의 갈망이 담긴 책이다.


신간 출간의의

우리는 아무도 백인으로 태어날지 유색인으로 태어날지,
남자가 될지 여자가 될지, 오른손잡이가 될지 왼손잡이가 될지,
이성애자가 될지 동성애자가 될지 선택하지 않았다.
그것은 그냥 ‘주어진’ 것이다.

이 책은 슘 프로젝트의 결실이다. ‘슘’은 ‘쉼’과 ‘숨’의 의미를 담아 만든 이름이다. 차별없는세상을위한기독인연대에 참여하고 있는 목사들과 평신도들 그리고 한국성적소수자문화인권센터는 기독교와 동성애의 만남, 기독교인의 실천과 동성애자 인권운동 간의 연대가 절실히 필요하다고 생각했다. 그래서‘슘 프로젝트’라는 이름의 모임을 만들었고, 그 가운데 그들의 고민을 더 많은 사람과 공유할 수 있도록 책을 펴내자는 아이디어가 나왔다.

이 책의 내용은 크게 두 가지이다. 하나는 목사님이 말하는 동성애와 성경에 대한 이야기이고, 다른 하나는 동성애자 기독교인들이 들려주는 하느님과의 만남에 대한 이야기이다. 수줍은 고백과 가슴 시린 통탄이 있고, 절박한 호소와 눈물겨운 아픔이 있으며, 준열한 꾸짖음과 날선 반성이 있는 이야기들이 있다. 저마다 다른 사연을 지닌 필자들이 나름의 방식으로 풀어낸 다양한 이야기가 독자들의 가슴에 다가가리라 믿는다.


편집자 서평

이 책의 한 저자가 말하는 것처럼 동성애자는 내게도 낯선 존재였다. 우리 사회에 분명 존재하는 사람들이지만 소수자로서 살아가는 그들의 아픔과 번민에 제대로 귀기울여본 적이 없다. 이 책을 통해 우리가 성소수자들에게 얼마나 무관심했는지, 편견과 정죄의 시선 속에서 때론 자신을 부정하며 살았을 그들을 상처가 얼마나 깊었을지 깨닫게 되었다. 미움이 죄지 사랑은 죄가 될 수 없다고 믿는다. 이 세상에 차별받아 마땅한 사람은 없으며, 차별할 권리 또한 그 누구에게도 없기 때문이다.
현재 우리 사회에서 동성애는 뜨거운 감자다. 하지만 이처럼 논란의 중심에 서기까지도 많은 시간이 걸렸다. 그간 동성애자들은 철저히 소외된 존재였던 것이다. 소수자에 대한 담론이 모쪼록 관심과 존중, 배려라는 건강함 속에 펼쳐지길 바란다. 이 책은 그러한 소통에 좋은 밑거름이 될 것이다.

지은이(가나다순)
고상균/ 고성기/ 구미정/ 김진욱/ 도임방주/ 박총/ 양지/ 유연희/ 이경/ 이은/ 임보라/ 조순애/ 크리스/ 한채윤/ 호리에 유리
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임보라 목사님께서 귀천하셨다. 임목사님의 차별 없는 세상을 향한 숨가쁜 발걸음은 잠시 멈추었지만, 이제 남은 자들에게 더 많은 시대의 숙제가 주어지고 달음박질할 푯대가 새로이 게양된 듯하다.
황망한 사별의 소식을 접하며 임목사님과의 과거 만남을 반추해 보았다. 10여년 전 <기독교사상> 특집 글을 의뢰하며 처음 통화를 했다. 그렇게 두 편의 글에 대한 편집자와 기고자의 인연으로 임목사님과 소통했더랬다. 이 새벽에 문득 10여년 전 임목사님이 기고하신 글들이 떠올라 다시 꺼내 읽으며 애도의 밤을 보낸다.
임목사님, 더이상 차별도 증오도 분단도 없는 그곳에서 부디 평화를 누리시길 빕니다. (얇은돌 올림)
P.S. 10여년 전보다 더 엄혹하고 퇴행한 시대를 살고 있음에 가슴이 먹먹하다.
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기독교 신앙은 하나님의 자리에 올라서려고 하는 인간의 욕망에 대해 경종을 울리고 파괴되어가는 인간성을 회복시키는 이웃 사랑과 하나님 사랑을 두 축으로 구축 되어있다.
하지만 ‘사랑’이 입에만 머물러 있을 뿐 정작 포용해야 할 마이너리티가 누구인지 조차 잘 알지 못하며, 설사 안다 하더라도 동정심을 갖고 도와주어야 할 시혜적 대상으로 밖에 여기지 못하는 천박한 인식이 한국 교회를 잠식하고 있다. 이는 자신이 몸담고 있는 교회만을 지상 최고의 교회라고 여기는 배타성을 더욱 견고하게 하고, 교인 뺏어오기에 지나지 않는 수평이동을 전도라고 여기는 무개념의 뿌리만을 깊게 키우고 있다.
사랑, 생명, 정의, 평화 등등 좋은 미사여구는 교회만이 소유할 수 있는 용어인양 화려하게 남발하지만, 한국교회 곳곳에는 갈등과 폭력, 차별이 도사리고 있으며, 사회의 양극화 현상 또한 교회 내에 고스란히 적용 되고 있다.
차별받는 이들을 품는 넉넉한 가슴이 아닌 차별의 근원지, 연민과 자비가 가득한 따스한 가슴이 아닌 배제의 근원지로 지목받고 지탄받는 한국교회는 더이상 개혁 그 자체를 먼 훗날에 이루어야 할 과제로 여겨서는 안될 것이다.
"하느님께서는 자비로우시기도 하고 준엄하시기도 하다는 것을 알아 두십시오. 하느님께서는 당신을 거역하는 자들에게는 준엄하시지만 여러분에게는 자비로우십니다. 그러나 그것은 여러분이 하느님의 자비를 저버리지 않을 때에 한한 일이고 그렇지 못할 때에는 여러분도 잘려 나갈것입니다." (로마서 11:22)
- 임보라, "그렇지 못할 때에는 여러분도 잘려 나갈 것입니다! : 마이너리티와 한국교회" 닫는 글. <기독교사상>, 2012년 7월호.










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How to Practice: The Way to a Meaningful Life
Dalai Lama XIV

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As human beings, we all share the desire for happiness and meaning in our lives. According to His Holiness the Dalai Lama, the ability to find true fulfillment lies within each of us. In this very special book, the spiritual and temporal leader of Tibet, Nobel Prize winner, and bestselling author helps readers embark upon the path to enlightenment with a stunning illumination of the timeless wisdom and an easy-access reference for daily practice.

Divided into a series of distinct steps that will lead spiritual seekers toward enlightenment, How to Practice is a constant companion in the quest to practice morality, meditation, and wisdom. This accessible book will guide you toward opening your heart, refraining from doing harm, and maintiaining mentaltranquility as the Dalai Lama shows you how to overcome everyday obstacles, from feelings of anger and mistrust to jealousy, insecurity, and counterproductive thinking. Imbued with His Holiness' vivacious spirit and sense of playfulness, How to Practice offers sage and practical insight into the human psyche and into the deepest aspirations that bind us all together.
240 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2002
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How to Practice: The Way to a Meaningful Life

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“I accept everyone as a friend. In truth, we already know one another, profoundly, as human beings who share the same basic goals: We all seek happiness and do not want suffering.”

The Dalai Lama is incredibly quotable and there are so many fantastic examples of his simple wisdom in here. Well, I say simple but it can’t be that simple if people still fail to follow it after all these years. Despite living in an age of globalisation, we are still tragically divided. Senseless wars plague our history books and they continue to dog our steps. When will the world learn that we are all the same despite nationality, religion or skin colour?

The Dalai Lama preaches that all men are equal. Despite having his own philosophical beliefs, he respects all other belief systems and encourages members of other faiths to pursue their path and attain their ultimate goals of peace and happiness. Such things should never divide us nor should politics. It all sounds extremely idealistic, but if everybody adopted a similar approach then the world would be a more peaceful place. If we all called our neighbours our friends, and ignored the minor differences and strove towards human equality and peace, rather than goals such as wealth and power, then hatred would start to die.

“More dangerous than guns or bombs are hatred, lack of compassion, and lack of respect for the rights of others. As long as hatred dwells in the human mind, real peace is impossible.”

History, unfortunately, shows us the truth of these words. In this helpful guide, The Dalai Lama offers advice on how to cope with life and deal with such frustrating situations. Hating the hater achieves little. What is needed in such a situation is compassion, the first step on the road to inner-peace.
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I really needed this read right now. School has been very stressful this trimester and I feel constantly behind. Still, I did pass my comprehensive exam to graduate from the program once Clinic and classes are done. I still have the herbal program and doctoral work left to do. Then, all the hate pouring out of DC right now and just how ugly politics has become has taken a spiritual toll on me. It has really worn me down and I have had to disengage from news and stop watching and reading.

This book was a balm to me. I love to hear the wisdom from the Dalai Lama. He is such an amazing heart centered person. I have heard him speak and it was amazing. I did listen to this in my car on the way to school and back. I don't remember much from it, but I do remember how it lifted my soul up and calmed my aching spirit. His discussions on suffering were amazing and it did help me put my suffering in somewhat of a new perspective.

He had a great meditation in there and some good tips to raise my vibration spiritually - which I can use right now. I kept my eyes open, obviously, and I did do the meditation with the reader and the visualization. It's interesting, the traffic becomes part of the meditation. You observe the traffic and left go of the emotions of being in it. I feel like I need to line up books like this and read more healing stuff for my soul. I am stretched thin. This was a big help to me. I probably enjoy storytelling to much to give it up though. I need a balance.

If I can reach half the level of wisdom the Lama has, I will have done some amazing work in this life. I have much more to do. His holiness also speaks so openly about the pain and suffering caused him by losing his people and his city and country. It was a terrible pain he lives with. He has suffered plenty in this life. I suppose if he can survive that, then I can make it through my coarse work and stress.

Listening to master of this philosophy make everything sound so easy and simple. It is very simple until you try and live it and your emotions surge and take you along for the ride and then it feels like the most impossible thing in the world. I have so much to learn and so much to grow. It's simply one day at a time.
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This is an odd book that seems to span the entirety of Buddhist practice from beginning to end.

The first third of the book was easy to connect with. It talks about things in our daily lives, what the tenets or Buddhist practice are, how these two relate, and basically what Buddhism encourages people to do and why. Having studied Buddhism a little before, there were few surprises there for me but it was yet a welcome reminder and well structured.

The middle part of the book tackles subjects that are somewhat familiar and desirable to me but out of my reach as of yet, like deep meditative states, practicing extreme generosity and benevolence, complete non-harm and such.

The last third of the book flew right over my head. Among the subject were the luminous nature of the mind, the inherent emptiness of all things, concepts of (non-sexual) Tantra and other concepts I seem ill-equipped to fully grasp.


The feeling I get from this book is that the reader's experience is going to be extremely personal. It is suitable for newcomers to Buddhism, as all the basics are described in full detail in the first sections, but they might find themselves frustrated by the last few chapters.

Likewise, those that have practiced Buddhism for a long time might be bored with the level of details in the first basic chapters, but more interested by the last sections.

Worth reading, but don't expect the whole book to be useful and relevant to you at any one time.

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I find this man really fascinating, but this book didn't quite get there for me. I wonder if what he preaches is too simple to be interesting in a literary format. I would be interested in reading his auto-biography. His English isn't all that hot, but his occasional anecdotal digressions are very interesting.

I can't believe I'm giving the Dalai Lama TWO stars!? The good news is, I'm not going to Hell, but rather, I may be reborn as a desert rodent.

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Although I have immense respect for the Dalai Lama's teachings and for traditional Buddhist doctrine, I would not recommend this book as a primer for someone who wants to learn more about Buddhism and/or meditation. The first half of the book is very general, very lightly describing basic Buddhist tenets and advising on concentrated meditation. The second half focuses on the concepts of 'emptiness,' 'inherent existence' and 'dependent-arisings' - and I came away feeling like none of these were really adequately explained. I would imagine that they do not lend themselves to easy explanation. The fallout is that the reader could lose his/her way through this maze of abstractions and wind up at the end of the book blinking in confusion.

What this book did bring home to me was how little time we have in our lives to improve ourselves and be more compassionate, intelligent beings, and what a long, long road lies ahead of us. Perhaps the latter half of this book could make sense to someone who has achieved enough success with concentrated meditation to have somewhat more of a grip on the notion of emptiness. For a more detailed, less abstruse exposition of Buddhist doctrine, I would recommend Sogyal Rinpoche's The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.
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I still read this book. Recently, I needed something to bring me peace during a small conflict. I opened the book arbitrarily and found just what I needed. I love this little book. It can be a wonderful guide to living peacefully and spreading peace among others.

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"Na jei pasirodys, kad mano samprotavimai jums praversti negali, tiesiog numokite į šią knygelę ranka" - paskutinis šios knygos sakinys.

Visiškai nenumosiu ir parašysiu 2,5* ,nes didžioji dalis knygos turinio liko nesuprasta arba suprasta dalinai. Nepraktikuoju ir neplanuoju praktikuoti budizmo artimiausiu metu, tad aiškinimai apie dvasines praktikas, jų aprašymai kelyje nušvitimo link man buvo visiškai neaktualios ir dažnai nesuvokiamos.

Kas buvo pasakyta apie gerumą, atjautą, dvasinį tobulėjimą buvo geras priminimas daryti gerus darbus, rūpintis artimu, lavinti kantrybę, išmokti nuraminti sąmonę. Šitai man jau buvo aktualiau, tad iš tų nedideliu suprantamų man ištraukų pasiėmiau, kiek galėjau.

Į visą kitą kaip patarė pati jo šventenybė Dalai Lama - numosiu ranka :)

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To Practice Peace And Kindness

This book by H.H. the Dalai Lama may be read by those wishing an introduction to Tibetan Buddhism and by those wishing to begin or develop their practice.

The Dalai Lama attempts to answer the basic question: "How can people be happy?" His answer outlines a path of spiritual growth and practice. Although based upon Tibetan Buddhism, there is wisdom in the book for anybody seeking spiritual growth, within or without any specific religious practice.

The book consists of six short sections. It begins with a brief discussion of the life of the Buddha which, as the Dalai Lama points out, encompasses the basic teachings of the Buddhist path: morality, concentrated meditation and wisdom. The Dalai Lama then explains the basis of each teaching in short chapters. It is good that the book gives its focus to moral practice -- curing anger, lust, hatred, and aggression and wishing well to oneself and others.

Chapter III of the book discusses meditation practices and will introduce the beginner to the value of meditation and to several meditation techniques. The Dalai Lama stresses the need for consistent practice and for patience and for the need of controlling one's expectations.

There are several chapters which discuss the difficult but key Buddhist teaching of dependent origination. Much of this material the Dalai Lama also covers in an earlier book called "The Meaning of Life."

There is a concluding section on Tantra, a uniquely Tibetan practice. I think it is better for the average person to remain with the practices of morality and concentration described earlier in the book.

Some of the unique features of this book are the Dalai Lama's anecdotes of his life in Tibet before the Chinese Invasion of 1950 and of his teachers. There is a substantial discussion of sexuality in the book and of how it may be used (and abused) in the search for peace and kindness. (pages 192-196) There is a translation of the Heart Sutra, a key Buddhist text with a commentary by the Dalai Lama. (159-163)

I found the Dalai Lama's concluding paragraph captures much of the tenor and the value of this book (page 223):

"Though my own knowledge is limited and my experience is also very poor, I have tried my best to help you understand the full breadth of the Buddha's teaching. Please implement whatever in these pages appears to be helpful. If you follow another religion, please adopt whatever might assist you. If you do not think it would be helpful, just leave it alone."

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A bunch of quotes from this book I need to get down, because they are valuable.

"By greeting trouble with optimism and hope , you are undermining worse troubles down the line."

CONTENTMENT REGARDING FOOD< CLOTHES< SHELTER:

SHELTER "Lay people can reduce the neverending quest for a better home and for the funiture and decorations in it." Imagine! This is an outright unequivocal, unapologetic suggestion that we just stop acquiring things and be happy with what we have.

"Examine your attitudes toward food, clothes, and shelter. By reducing expectations you will promote contentment. The extra energy which is released should be devoted to meditation and to achieve cessation of problems."

"We should be contented in material areas, for those are bound by limitation, but not with regard to the spiritual which can be extended limitlessly."

"In a sense, all human beings belong to a single family. We need to embrace the oneness of humanity and show concern for everyone--not just my family or my country or my continenet. We must show concern for every being, not just the few who resemble us. Differences of religion, ideology, race, economic system, social system, and government are all secondary"


"When you are concerned about others your own welfare is fulfilled automatically."

Another one about SHELTER! "If you practice more kindness and tolerance, you will find more peace. There is no need to change the furniture in your house or move to a new home. Your neighbor may be very noisy or very difficult, but so long as your own mind is calm and peaceful, neighbors will not bother you much. However, if you are generally irritable, even when your best friend visits, you cannot become really happy. If you are calm, even your enemy cannot disturb you."

"Generating concern for others has vast power to transform your mind. If you practice compassion for the sake of all living beings--including animals--then that same limitless merit will accrue to you."

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A book replete with wisdom. Finding contentment in material things is undoubtedly the practice that has brought me the most happiness in this life.

I must agree with a lot of reviewers here: the last third of the book is far more advanced than the first two thirds. He provides no definitions, he just jumps right in, so if the reader isn't aware of topics such as dependency, emptiness, etc., it would prove to be a difficult read.

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How To Practice is a major inspirational work, by one of the world's greatest spiritual teachers. It is broken down into the basic steps to enlightenment: how to practise morality, how to practise meditation, and how to practise wisdom - at the same time, delving deeper into His Holiness' more general Buddhist teachings, his spirit, wisdom and sense of humour. The book, meant to be used as part of daily practice, is easy to understand and filled with anecdotes. It includes guidance on mental calm, altruism and compassion, refraining from harm, focussing the mind, and much more.

Beautifully packaged, this is the ultimate gift from the Dalai Lama, and a wonderful gift to give to anyone interested in having a richer, more fulfilled life.

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Jeffrey Hopkins, Ph.D., served for a decade as the interpreter for the Dalai Lama. A Buddhist scholar and the author of more than thirty-five books and translations, he is emeritus professor of Tibetan and Buddhist studies at the University of Virginia, where he founded the largest academic program of Tibetan Buddhist studies in the West.

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In this very special book, His Holiness the Dalai Lama will lead you towards opening your heart and finding true peace in a troubled world.


Set out in a series of distinct steps towards enlightenment, How to Practise is a constant and daily companion for spiritual seekers of all faiths in their quest to practice morality, meditation and wisdom. The Dalai Lama shows us how to overcome everyday obstacles, from feelings of anger and mistrust to jealousy, insecurity and counterproductive thinking. Imbued with His Holiness' vivacious spirit and sense of playfulness, this guide to a meaningful life offers his sage and very practical views on the way we live today and what binds us all together. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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His Holiness the Dalai Lama's important and accessible handbook on how to live a meaningful life --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.



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"Simple, clear advice" (Yoga and Health) --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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I've read a few Buddhism books but I am in no way an "expert" in it. But this book by the Dalai Lama was the best of what I've read so far. His cheeky humor plus his keen insights into the human condition made this a very enjoyable read. At the moment I've been simply trying to get a better understanding of the 8-Fold Path as a way to lead the middle way in my everyday life, and this book helped me understand how to do that a lot better. Highly recommended!
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5.0 out of 5 stars It's a mirror into your soul
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A must read for everyone who wants to learn about themselfs and obtain some self improvement. As for myself. Because I think differently as a result of reading this book it has produced more positive interactions with other people and has made them feel better as a result. I buy this book regularly as a present for others.
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I brought three books by the Dalai Lama and no disrespect but he does repeat what he has said in all three books so I might as well have just brought the one on this subject. He does like to elaborate the fact we don’t exist over and over. Well if we don’t exist then what is the point of being nice to anyone and Buddhist ways wouldn’t matter and karma wouldn’t bother us anyway ????????

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4.0 out of 5 stars An interesting account of the background and life of a Dalai Lama, and a basic guideline into Buddhism.
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I am still learning what Buddhism is about. Being a comparative beginner, I could not understand the chapters on Wisdom, though I did read through them. Besides that, the book is very informative, and gives us an idea of how we should conduct our lives, and lead towards the ulitimate Enlightenment.
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Clear, concise, and applicable knowledge. Wish I found this 20 years ago when I started practicing. Rest assured this guide will not lead you astray or abandon you. It will keep you on the path.
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Why? Sheer frustration at my own inability to put the contents into practice!
Leaving that to one side, it is clear to me that if everyone read and implemented this book, and showed compassion to each other for one's efforts in striving to do so, the world would be a so much better place. The great thing about this great man's writings is that they are disarmingly simple in their wording, without ever becoming simplistic nor conning yo uthat implementation is easy.
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The Wisdom of Compassion offers rare insights into the Dalai Lama’s life as he interacts with remarkable people from all walks of life. In these deeply engaging behind-the-scenes stories we see not only the Dalai Lama at his most human, and most humane, but also the way he approaches the world with humour and optimism.

As he empathizes with those who are suffering, and demonstrates the tangible benefits of practising forgiveness and compassion, the Dalai Lama reveals the many lessons he has learned, including how

* his collaborations with leading neuroscientists, psychologists, teachers and students from around the world have taught him how to educate the heart;

* his inspiring friendship with a blind Irishman, the only person he calls his hero, has taught him how one can overcome adversity;

* through his encounters with illiterate grandmothers learning how to harness solar power for their communities, a beggar girl, and his soulmate, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, he has discovered how compassion can be translated into action.

Enhanced by the Dalai Lama’s seven decades of practice and illuminated through captivating anecdotes, The Wisdom of Compassion can help readers to lead more fulfilling lives. The Dalai Lama also shows how, when we open our hearts and minds to others, we are on the surest path to true happiness.
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''Chan provides an insider's account of the spiritual master's teachings at venues large and small.... Leaving intact the Dalai Lama's distinctive English, Chan vividly conveys the world leader's intense curiosity, intelligence, explosive laughter, keen wisdom, and kindness; his account of the Dalai Lama's conversation with Archbishop Desmond Tutu crackles with energy. Throughout, His Holiness incisively conveys his core teaching that inner transformation is key to alleviating suffering and bringing peace to a violent world. He also listens intently to innovators who are committed to the same goals. Details provide immediacy; carefully placed background information gives context. These inspiring dialogues communicate His Holiness's worldwide appeal and essential commitment to compassion.'' -- Publishers Weekly

''Tales of kindness and understanding from the Dalai Lama...[Readers] will come away with a better sense of the importance of communication, forgiveness and empathy, regardless of the circumstances.'' --Kirkus Reviews --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.


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A rare and inspiring insight into the Dalai Lama's daily life and his efforts to translate compassion into action around the world. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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Tenzin Gyatso, His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama, is the spiritual leader of the Tibetan people. His tireless efforts on behalf of human rights and world peace have brought him international recognition. He is the recipient of the Raoul Wallenberg Congressional Human Rights Award, the Albert Schweitzer Humanitarian Award, the Congressional Gold Medal, and the Nobel Peace Prize. In 2006, His Holiness was recognized with Honorary Citizenship by the Governor General of Canada.



Victor Chan is the author of the Tibet Handbook: A Pilgrimage Guide. Together with His Holiness the Dalai Lama, he co-authored The Wisdom of Forgiveness: Intimate Conversations and Journeys (Riverhead, 2004). In 2005 he founded the Dalai Lama Center for Peace and Education in Vancouver with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.--This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.
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This is a must read book. It leads you to take a different view on life. Maybe it will change your life at least a little bit, for the better.
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Recollections of various interesting encounters the DL has had over the years and insights into compassion.
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Moving stories of overcoming adversity by cultivating an open heart and true compassion, even in hell. An enormous variety of encounters are described here ranging from ex-prisoners and terrorists to Aaron Beck, the father of cognitive behaviour therapy, and Desmond Tutu.

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The Wisdom of Compassion: Stories of Remarkable Encounters and Timeless Insights

Dalai Lama XIV
Victor Chan
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The Wisdom of Compassion offers rare insights into the Dalai Lama’s life and his efforts to translate compassion into action through deeply engaging, behind-the-scene stories about his interactions with remarkable people from all walks of life.

This is the Dalai Lama at his most human, and most humane. We see how he approaches the world with playfulness, optimism, and a profound empathy for the suffering of others. Through his own conduct, he shows us the tangible benefits of practicing kindness, forgiveness and compassion. And he demonstrates that opening our hearts and minds to others is the surest path to true happiness.

The Wisdom of Compassion is an intensely personal portrait of the Dalai Lama. It recounts the story of his friendship with a blind Irishman, how they first met and how in later meetings the Dalai Lama comes to call him his one and only hero. It explores the Dalai Lama’s collaboration with a neuroscientist and how it results in significant discoveries about the human brain. It also brings to life poignant accounts of his uncommon encounters with a little beggar girl, a disabled boy in a critical care ward, a man who trains grandmothers to become solar engineers, and many others.

The Dalai Lama’s wisdom principles revolve around the practical application of compassion. Enhanced by his seven decades of practice and elucidated through captivating anecdotes of his own experiences, they will help readers lead more fulfilling lives. As the Dalai Lama has written many years ago: if you want others to be happy, practice compassion; if you want yourself to be happy, practice compassion.


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Jetsun Jamphel Ngawang Lobsang Yeshe Tenzin Gyatso (born Lhamo Döndrub), the 14th Dalai Lama, is a practicing member of the Gelug School of Tibetan Buddhism and is influential as a Nobel Peace Prize laureate, the world's most famous Buddhist monk, and the leader of the exiled Tibetan government in India.

Tenzin Gyatso was the fifth of sixteen children born to a farming family. He was proclaimed the tulku (an Enlightened lama who has consciously decided to take rebirth) of the 13th Dalai Lama at the age of two.

On 17 November 1950, at the age of 15, he was enthroned as Tibet's ruler. Thus he became Tibet's most important political ruler just one month after the People's Republic of China's invasion of Tibet on 7 October 1950. In 1954, he went to Beijing to attempt peace talks with Mao Zedong and other leaders of the PRC. These talks ultimately failed.

After a failed uprising and the collapse of the Tibetan resistance movement in 1959, the Dalai Lama left for India, where he was active in establishing the Central Tibetan Administration (the Tibetan Government in Exile) and in seeking to preserve Tibetan culture and education among the thousands of refugees who accompanied him.

Tenzin Gyatso is a charismatic figure and noted public speaker. This Dalai Lama is the first to travel to the West. There, he has helped to spread Buddhism and to promote the concepts of universal responsibility, secular ethics, and religious harmony.

He was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1989, honorary Canadian citizenship in 2006, and the United States Congressional Gold Medal on 17 October 2007.

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I have long admired the Dalai Lama and the Tibetan people, who no longer have a country. This book has many incidents and meetings that showcase the Dalai Lama's sense of humor as well as his wisdom and compassion. It mentions in the book that just being in the room within twenty feet of his presence, one feels a deep sense of contentment. Would really like to check this out. Think I would really like to go to a Buddhist retreat, well maybe someday. I don't see myself meditating for five hours a day, which is what he does every morning, but I do feel that meditation will benefit not only myself but others as well. Many touching stories, such as his meeting with the Protestants and the Catholics in Northern Ireland. Compelling.

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This book was not what I was looking for. Parts of it were interesting, like learning about nonprofit organizations and humanitarian efforts. But I would have been better off reading a book actually written by the Dalai Lama and not someone that choose to include so much unnecessary detail (I don't care about a gift visor that doesn't fit the Dalai Lama's head). I did enjoy the stories about Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama acting like two little kids together and their discussions. Other than that I found it hard to stay interested.

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I love this book, it gives you so much respect for His holiness. He is such a inspirational compassionate person. This books is told by his friend and translator, about them 2 traveling together and what his experience with the dalai lama is like. Its so much more than that though, it definitely is a spiritual break through, and by the end of the book you will want to be a better person. I gave it 4 stars though because, there are some area where the dalai lama is talking and its kind of hard to understand him, but thats how he really speaks- its not a bad book , but more of a heads up to readers. :)

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This is the book that started my obsession with the Dalai Lama. It's unfortunate that the author did not do too well in the fluency of his writing, but the essence of the Dalai Lama and what he stands for can clearly be felt. The author also introduces too many characters in a way that makes it difficult to remember and keep track of them. But that still does not detract from the sheer awesomeness of the book. Read it.

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This, just as the first book by this author (Wisdom of Forgiveness) is breathtaking, you can feel the warmth and authenticity of the Dalai Lama as if he were there in front of you. The stories told on the various humanitarian projects are amazing, motivating and also very humbling and made you truly think about your own life. Definitely a must read for any human being!

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It is always good to hear what the Dalai Lama has to say. The message comes through as a heartbeat on all the pages. A warm-hearted attitude will provide the happiest life. Women have a special obligation to promote it, and we all need to focus especially on children.

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Profound and thought provoking teachings and philosophies, exciting and fascinating characters (Tutu, catholic and protestant religious leaders from north Ireland, Murray Gell-Mann, Sir Ken Robinson, Eckhart Tolle, Aaron Beck, Sir Fazle Hasn Abed, the founder of BRAC, the Bangladesh Rural Advancement Committee, and many etc.). At one point I burst into tears over a speech from the African bishop Tutu.

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The writing is at times boring and tedious in spite of the excitement of the events and people. Puzzling behaviors of the Dalai Lama.

Excerpts:
1. Major causes of suffering are overinflated egos, heightened sense of our own importance, our selfish needs... our over attachment for our wants, our needs. Therefore, any change of perception that leads to a more balanced view of our ego and the world around us is helpful to our mental well-being.

2. We get the angriest with those we love the most, because we expect too much from them.

3. Differences always there. Even with myself, morning one idea, evening another idea. Conflicts always there. Everybody wants happy life, safe life... Try to make peace with more patience... Do u think some sense? If make sense, then pls implement.

4. We pursue short-lived pleasures instead of meaningful happiness... For the Dalai Lama, The only way to achieve sustained well-being and inner-peace is through the cultivation of altruism, through the cultivation of love and compassion.

5. There is a gap between reality and appearance... With the old way of thinking, we try to deal with new problems. But reality has changed and the method of dealing with it is old-fashioned. Reality is always changing.

6. Some kinds of compassion are tinged with attachment. It changes with circumstances. Unbiased compassion, however, is based on the realization that others, even our enemies, have the right to be happy and avoid suffering, just as much as we do.

7. Through training of mind, using intelligence. I understand the value of compassion. I realized the harmfulness of anger, hatred. Use education to train your mind. With practice, my own experience deepen. More unbiased compassion brings me inner peace. Result, better physical health.

8. Love grows brain and brain grows love.

9. Tutu: The glory of God is mind blowing. He can sit and not intervene because he has such an incredible, incredible reverence for our autonomy. He is prepared to let me go to hell. Freely. Rather than compel me to go to heaven.
He weeps when he sees us do the things that we do to each other... God says, I can't force u, i beg u, please for your own sake, make the right choice. I beg u.
When you do the right thing, god forgets about God's divine dignity and he rushes and embraces you, "You came back, you came back. I love you. oh how wonderful you Came back." (Here is where I cried...)

10. Tutu: religion is a morally neutral thing. It is what you do with it. It is like a knife, a knife is good when you're using it for cutting up bread for sandwiches. A knife is bad when you stick it in somebody's gut.
I would not have survived without the faith of knowing that this is God's world and that God is in charge, that evil is not going to prevail despite all appearances to the contrary... Sometimes you want to whisper in God's ear... "we know that you're in charge, but why don't you make this more obvious?"

11. When somebody is sick, there is external medicine and there is internal medicine.

12. The higher beings develop higher energy because of their practice of altruism. The ultimate source of energy is altruism. This energy is always ready, like electricity, we just need to be receptive.

13. A rabbi: We have to do what we can do. Then god helps... If we don't take the initiative, we cannot accept the power.

14. When negative emotions(e.g. Anger) develop, ur whole self becomes like that emotion. So when this strong emotion develops, try to separate urself from that emotion. Then can watch that emotion. Then much easier to see the faults of that emotion. Look from distance and that emotion's intensity weaken.

15. CBT cognitive behavior therapy: for Beck (Aaron T. Beck wrote "Prisoners of Hate"), the driving forces of our psychological malaise are ideas that are unrealistic and self-defeating. He called them "automatic thoughts." Like tinted lenses, they can color and warp people's perceptions and affect their reactions.

16. Beck: we have to be good people, not right people (Not thinking we are right, ur wrong, etc.)

17. CBT is similar to analytic meditation. When emotion comes, use analytic meditation to not let it dominate or influence. But rather analyze its consequences, its benefits, its destructiveness.

18. Get away from selfishness, de-centering; switching, exchanging oneself for others. Group self-centeredness

19. Once afflictive emotion develop, then u can't see the reality. Strong mental projection. 90% of the time, the person who gets angry is wrong.
Beck: when I get angry, I first think that I'm wrong, not from a moral standpoint but from a reality standpoint... My reality is wrong (gap btw truth and appearance)

20. Addiction, being caught up in desire is like drinking salt water. The more u drink, the more u get thirsty.

21. Vernedoe pointed out that in modern art, u don't play by the rules, u play with the rules, and that's an aspect of creative thinking.

22. The Dalai Lama has always attached great importance to developing a realistic approach to life, to our interaction with others around us. He thinks that seeing reality accurately and unflinchingly contributes to our sense of well-being. It's a helpful antidote to distorted thinking.

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It is interesting to contrast this book with https://www.goodreads.com/review/show.... 

Both of the are about spiritual leaders who are doing good for the people. There is no doubt about it. Both have been written by authors who are in awe of the leader that they have written about. But the one by Namrita and Francois Gautier is a pure panegyric on Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, whereas while it is adulatory, it provides concrete examples of discussions of Dalai Lama with various personalities and the adulation is based on these unlike the one on Sri Sri Ravishankar where it just goes on an on how the organizations setup by Ravi Shankar have done this here and done that there.

The surprise about the book is that the author is a Chinese, well not exactly from mainland China but from Hong Kong, probably that explains. The author is a follows Dalai Lama's activities closely when he is not organizing a meeting between the spiritual leader and other towering personnel who are either intellectuals or are out helping people in need.

Of the various meetings that are related in the book some of them are with Ken Robinson, Archbishop Desmond Tutu a neuroscientist from the University of Wisconsin, Richard Davidson, Aaron Beck, interactions with University students in Canada, Sanjit Roy from India who has setup a Barefoot College to educate and empower the poor in the rural India.

In a very interesting conversation between the Dalai Lama and Aaron Beck has Beck stating this "I think, I have been wronged; you did wrong to me. So I have to examine: Did you really wrong me? You may not have, I may have misunderstood what you did, so we have to analyze. And then the second thing is: Even if you did wrong, does that make you a bad person? And, if you are a bad person, do I have to kill you, do I have to punish you! So that is the whole sequence". Profound is the apt word.

Another snippet that stuck in my mind is from the chapter on Matthieu Ricard who was a personal attendant of Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, one of the foremost meditation masters of Tibetan Buddhism and the tutor of Dalai Lama. In meeting arranged by the author and Matthieu in Delhi with a group of humanitarians in Delhi the following is stated by the Dalai Lama. The Dalai Lama states "My approach: Today's reality is whole world just one body. Everything is a part of me. Understanding this helps reduce negative emotions. Hatred comes because we don't appreciate interdependence. We cause harm, sometimes unintentionally, because we are greedy for money, power. We think these things will make us happy. This is a misunderstanding. Real happiness comes from peace of mind. The only way to obtain is to be altruistic, be compassionate". The author interprets this as "We need to actively help others and we should do t with a genuine sense of compassion, not pity. At a minimum, we should not harm others. Not harming others is a logical extension of idea of interdependence. Since everything is a part of us, harming others would hurt ourselves". He then quotes the following commentary "A human being is part of a whole, called by us 'Universe', a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty." While it appears to be a commentary by Dalai Lama, it is a quote by Albert Einstein in 1954.

A wonderfully written book. Do Read

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September 28, 2013
I love the message of the Dalai Lama and therefore, this book: "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion; if you want to be happy, practice compassion." It also amuses me that the author asks himself the question in everyday life "What would the Dalai Lama do?" I suspect the answer isn't much different when answering the "What would Jesus do" question.

Author Victor Chan (obviously a fan) describes the Dalai Lama as attuned to human suffering, always aware of his surroundings, having an always active compassion radar and emanating goodness. I love the comment that the Dalai Lama notices that Chan can't sit cross-legged for long and gets him a chair. (I guess I love that because I can't do it either.) The Dalai Lama sees himself as a simple Buddhist monk without special powers and only a limited ability to help. He looks at things from multiple perspectives fostering a sense of care and mindfulness in thinking and interacting. Apparently, he is also something of a joker - Desmond Tutu playfully chastises him for behaving like a naughty schoolboy rather than a holy man! And he shares dirty jokes with his brother! Really?!

According to Chan, the Dalai Lama is a great believer in empiricism and scientific method. I hope this is true. I also hope that the studies that show that more compassionate people have better health; do better in school if they learn empathy, altruism and compassion; and altruism is the clearest way to genuine life satisfaction. I would certainly like these things to be (scientifically) true. Chan and the Dalai Lama are also big believers in meditation practice triggering compassion. I'm going to have to work on my compassion without meditation because I just have no interest!

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This isn't going to break any new ground, since the Dalai Lama has been writing for decades, and his teachings are many thousands of years old. The book's jacket is a bit deceptive, too - the primary author here is Victor Chan, the Dalai Lama's co-writer. Chan recounts recent public lectures given by the Dalai Lama in recent years and summarizes important contextual information; His Holiness figures substantially in the dialogue portions of the book. My best guess is that the Dalai Lama selected the particular incidents to discuss, proofed the transcripts of his speeches & descriptions of his moods at different times, and then Chan filled in the rest. Still, it's a fun book to read, and the Dalai Lama's Buddhist teachings should be of interest to both Buddhists and non-Buddhists. Chan is an engaging, earnest writer. Of course, this book is hagiography, but since the subject certainly deserves hagiography, it's OK. A worthwhile read that may make readers seek out more material co-authored by the Dalai Lama.
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