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The Art of Growing Old: Aging with Grace: Hennezel, Marie de

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How should we accept growing old? It?s an inevitable progression, and yet in Western society the very subject is often taboo and shrouded in anxiety and shame. In this timely and essential book internationally renowned psychologist and bestselling author Marie de Hennezel offers a fresh perspective, confronting the inevitable grief we experience at the loss of our youth and showing why we should look forward to embracing everything aging has to offer.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Thorndike Press; Large Print edition (August 8, 2012)
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Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 255 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1410449025
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1410449023
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 15.7 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 1 x 8.5 inchesBest Sellers Rank: #1,009,703 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)#2,623 in Aging (Books)Customer Reviews:
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Beatriz

5.0 out of 5 stars A Real Gem!Reviewed in the United States on April 3, 2013
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This is a great book, and it should be a must read for all baby boomers. It should also be a best seller and the only thing that's preventing it from becoming one is the price. I purchased it for 14.99 or something like that, and that was steep for a kindle book. I see now that it went down and I'm sure she'll sell a lot more. That said, this book is written with keen intelligence, a great heart and a lot of compassion for the difficult transition people of my generation are experiencing right now. The loss of one's youth is a bitter pill to swallow and she explores this in detail in this marvelous book. As we have to bravely confront the loneliness and terrors of old age, we need all the help we can get. Her book provides that and more, always stressing that it isn't all bad, that they are many rainbows, meadows and rays of sunshine ahead of us yet, and that the exquisite sensitivity we develop with age can also help us live out the time we have left on this earth more intensely and richly. The "fecundity" of our mind as she calls it, is a rich tapestry we've accumulated during our lifetimes, and the key is to accept the final journey with all its aches, pains, and infirmities. It's a process and it will take time, but if we look back with gratitude rather than bitterness over what we've become, we'll end our lives peacefully, perhaps even joyfully. I couldn't recommend this book enough. Her book has helped me personally and I'm very thankful I have it with me to read and reread whenever I need it.

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C D

4.0 out of 5 stars Just as the title reads. Informative.Reviewed in the United States on November 10, 2019
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Informative read.



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5.0 out of 5 stars Delivered as promised.Reviewed in the United States on October 26, 2020
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robert eckelkamp

5.0 out of 5 stars Best advice ever.Reviewed in the United States on June 11, 2018
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Written very well. Great read. No BS or filler pages.Use this book and read it as many times as it is needed for your situation. If you can only afford one book....buy this one.



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nancy a.

3.0 out of 5 stars Not for everyone...Reviewed in the United States on May 14, 2012
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I found this book to be a bit much for the ordinary person seeking encouragement in the process of aging. It appears
to be more likely to be read by professionals seeking to encourage clients.
First half is filled with the down side of aging, it gets better toward the end but still seems more for the professional.

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michigoose

4.0 out of 5 stars Positive View of Old AgeReviewed in the United States on April 6, 2013
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This book thoroughly discusses the various aspects of aging and how to make the later years into something positive. I gained a better understanding of this stage of life.



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S. Fox

5.0 out of 5 stars aging gracefully...Reviewed in the United States on April 18, 2013
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Can I really do that? I've embraced much of the teachings in the book, and found I had already been doing things the right way all along. So this book helped to encourage me on my way.

I find I smile a lot more, now that I am "old"..

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Karen Haugen

4.0 out of 5 stars The Art of Growing OldReviewed in the United States on January 17, 2013
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Written sort of like a thesis, but lots of information that makes you think. I am almost 60 and am hoping I can grow old gracefully and with joy.



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Sam Shingleton
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book!Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 3, 2014
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I really appreciated reading this book. Much of it is the thoughts of the author regarding her own aging as well as writing the book. I have read two other books by the author which I found excellent.

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JenC
3.0 out of 5 stars As describedReviewed in the United Kingdom on April 1, 2019
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Leslie redman
5.0 out of 5 stars great book, informative and helpfulReviewed in Canada on January 4, 2014
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An excellent, informative book written in a warm and caring style. Deals with the fears many of us have and then talks about the proactive things you can do and provides wonderful examples. Makes you want to move to France, though

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The Warmth of the Heart Prevents Your Body from Rusting: Ageing without growing old : de Hennezel, Marie: Amazon.com.au: Books

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The Warmth of the Heart Prevents Your Body From Rusting
Ageing without growing old
By: Marie de Hennezel
Narrated by: Anna Bentinck
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Release date: 07-02-2012
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The inevitable ageing process does not have to condemn us to solitude, suffering, degradation or dependency. In this eloquent meditation on ageing, Marie de Hennezel guides us through a true 'art of growing old'. She recalls her encounters as a clinical psychologist with extraordinary people who 'grow old gracefully' -- and through her experience shows us how to make the most of this time in our lives, to avoid depression and to stay happy. She believes that wherever we grow old and whatever our circumstances, if we can maintain energy in our hearts and believe in the power of joy and human warmth, this can transform us and the way we look at the world. This is a wonderful book with a powerful message that applies to everyone no matter how old they are. A bestseller in the author's native France, critics said: 'Marie de Hennezel explores the secret of eternal youth and provides us with the keys for a happy, free and spirited old age. A must read.' La Croix 'A message of happiness and wisdom for all ages.' Nouvelles Cles 'Marie de Hennezel delivers a wonderful lesson that will inspire anyone who wants to age without becoming old.' Le Figaro Magazine

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Marie de Hennezel is a respected psychologist and psychotherapist entrusted with the mission for raising palliative-care awareness by the Ministry of Health in France. She has written nine books about the end of life, including Seize the Day (previously Intimate Death), and is the author of two ministerial reports about caring for those with terminal illnesses. Her book The Warmth of the Heart Prevents Your Body from Rusting: Ageing without growing old was a Number One bestseller in France and a Top Ten bestseller in the UK.

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Evidence-seeker
5.0 out of 5 stars Cheering and lovely bookReviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 9 February 2022
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I found this is a cheering and lovely book . The french author, who is a therapist, gives a series of commentaries on issues of ageing, sexuality, affection and friendship based on different people she has encountered . Her opinions and conclusions are encouraging and optimistic. I am in my early 70s and was delighted to read this .

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Summer
4.0 out of 5 stars Ageing without growing oldReviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 9 September 2011
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Like many others I heard extracts from this book on radio 4 and jotted down a note to buy it.
Typically I forgot about it for quite a while, then came across the note, ordered the book and read some reviews before it was delivered. Depressing! burnt it, binned it, put it on the compost! Oh dear I have wasted money.

Not so. Of course the early signs of growing old are depressing and the author illustrates this, maybe too much. But then she helps us to accept and work with these signs and to use them to our advantage, to enjoy ourselves and help others do the same. I was going to lend my book to a friend, but had filled the margins with stars and comments, so bought her a copy instead. So why only four stars? Well I have younger friends with debilitating illnesses. Marie de Hennezel gave little to discuss with them.Also she seems to assume that as we grow older we become wiser, calmer and quieter and I haven't noticed that happening to me. However I found much to value in this book and will certainly read parts of it again.

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Katkin
5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring!Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 10 November 2012
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This wonderful book is an inspiration to those of us of a certain age as we speedily and inexorably progress towards what we all hope will be an old age as stress free as possible.
Despite the inevitability of aches, pains or more serious conditions, the author, through her interviews with elderly people, reveals that attitude is all important to maintaining a positive outlook on this time of life.
The book is filled with poignant, tender and sometimes very funny, as well as frank, revelations from those in the autumn of life.
A delightful read and, I would suggest a "must" for anyone working with the elderly in any capacity.

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patricia gracey
5.0 out of 5 stars A heart-warming and challenging bookReviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 31 March 2014
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This book could be written for people approaching old age, but would be of interest to any thoughtful person. After reading it I felt less anxiety about approaching old age but also more sense of responsibility for what I make of my life in the present. I have recommended it to several friends who all, apart from one, agreed with my judgment. I can recommend it as a book to read through and then, at various times, to pick up and reread a chapter here and there.

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Josephine
4.0 out of 5 stars Thought provokingReviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 20 December 2011
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I bought this book after hearing it featured on woman's hour on Radio 4. It deals with the difficult question of how to get old with dignity and grace in a society which places so little value on it's elderly and their care.

I found it both thought provoking and interesting although possibly somewhat idealistic in places. It does no harm to be reminded from time to time about the things in life which are of real value and there is nothing wrong with having something to aim at providing we don't give ourselves too much of a hard time when we inevitably fall short.

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The inevitable ageing process does not have to condemn us to solitude, suffering, degradation or dependency. In this meditation on ageing, Marie de Hennezel guides us through the true 'art of growing old'.
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Marie Gaultier de la Ferrière dite Marie de Hennezel, est née le 5 août 1946 à Lyon, est une psychologue, psychothérapeute et auteur française. [http://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marie_de...]

Marie de Hennezel may not be a household name in America, but in France she's a trailblazer. The therapist who helped the late French President Jacques Mitterand through the final stages of his cancer, she's been leading the crusade to help people grow old gracefully, with dignity, and with joy. De Hennezel, who believes that we become truly old when we refuse to age, is the author of many books, including the international bestseller Intimate Death. [Huffington Post]

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I enjoyed reading this book about ageing, in that it gave me some perspective on the "elderly" people I know as well as some insight as to what I might need to focus on as I grow older. The author approaches this uncomfortable subject with honesty and grace, showing us what makes the difference between becoming an old person and aging. Despite the sometimes painful, lonely, and depressing possibilities involved as we approach the end of our lives, there are ways of looking at things, of understanding our selves and our lives and the world around us that might make a difference between being happy at the end of it all, or not. Reading this book provided me with some ways of growing old better.
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Marie De Hennezel's The Art of Growing Old is a fascinating book geared towards older individuals. Much of the author's descriptions address how people can age gracefully. She doesn't refrain from giving the good and bad experiences of growing older. It's a work that challenges the beliefs that old age is mostly depressing and unhappy. It aims to build a reader's confidence that there's also joy and the growth of wisdom with older folk. True, as people age their bodies become less strong, but many continue to have sharp minds. Some describe their senior lives as opening new experiences to enjoy their freedom more fully. Through this reality, there's time to embrace nature, friends, and the environment with a renewed appreciation. These gifts lead many of the older generation to fully embrace life and prepare for a happy death.
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A book I saw advertised in the Daily Mail and was captured by the title. As I am passed the half century mark I thought it would be good to read about how to embrace life at any age and how to stay happy and what it really means to grow old gracefully. Its a great message of happiness and wisdom for all ages and its a wonderful lesson that will inspire anyone who wants to age without becoming old . . . that's definitely me!!

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Very French. An absolutely lovely approach to aging. Looking forward to reading her previous book, "Intimate Death".

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I am not reading any more of this.. it's too boring, life is too short
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The huge problems associated with an ageing population in the rich countries is upon us already. For everybody, the financial implications are enormous. Attitudes to the elderly are largely negative in a culture preoccupied by youth, maintainance of youth and health, and the pervasive beliefs that becoming old brings nothing but misery, almost a loss of humanity. Provision for the elderly (in the UK) is patchy. Some families do ensure excellent levels of care and dignity, many do not. "Homes" can be awful places.

Marie de Hennezel, psychotherapist and hospice worker, describes the negatives clearly and makes positive suggestions for changing things. The problems I have with her book are largely to do with the examples she chooses to offer of individuals who have gone on to live a happy and fulfilling old age. She is highly cultured, and her network of friends and acquaintances numbers high achieving philosophers and artists. She's aware that lifestyle - reducing calories, avoiding alcohol and tobacco etc - is important - while acknowledging the inevitable slowing down of the body and propensity to disease, but she seems less focused upon those many of us who have not the beneficial bulwarks of healthy lifestyle, cultural capital and adequate finances to negotiate the final stages of life satisfactorily.

She is perfectly right I think to emphasise the power of quite small things such as 'a smile', and more generally the responsibility of carers to listen, engage intimately, and have the utmost respect for the individual. This we can all do. It is to be welcomed that the book marks a contribution to the much-needed yet scarcely begun broader discussion about age which must have inevitable overlap with the political and broader cultural contexts. I fear, however, that without urgent attention to radical provision of money, including the costs of providing high quality education and training, and accommodation, there will be millions who will be well rusted long before they reach 60.
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Well, I would say that I read this book to understand more about my mother. The book deserves to be at the ranking of top ten bestseller. It deals about a lot of matters on the old age. On how most people perceive old age, how you should perceive old age, the fear of getting old, the rights of old people who request for euthanasia, how carers should treat the old, keys to a happy old age and also knowing how to die. I folded so many pages and highlighted so many sentences in this book as a reminder for me as a carer and soon to be an old person. Who knows if I might want to read this book
again in another 35 years old perhaps?

There was an island in Japan called Okinawa and it has been named by the World Health Organisation as the ‘island of long life’. The oldest one is 115 years old and they live their life happily. It is due to the combinations of mild climate, dietary habits, exercise and having well-developed social life and good cultural state of mind.

The title of the book itself was actually taken from a song sung by the old people of Okinawa “The Warmth of the Heart Prevents your Body from Rusting”
There are some of the ideas from this book that I totally love. For instance, the author recalls the story of one of her friends. In one shopping mall in the US, there is a public spave where parents can leave their babies while they do their shopping. The young children are cared for by elderly volunteers, and assisted by a qualified paediatric nurse.
Overall, 4/5

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There is much in this book to recommend it--good reminders about the importance of approaching aging in a different, more positive way. There are some very encouraging examples that the author uses. I would have liked to have seen the book organized differently--as it was it seemed to be 100 pages of a string of anecdotes with some important information weaved in between. This is a book I'd recommend to anyone who holds to negative attitudes about aging to encourage a more positive outlooks, as studies show that these attitudes can make a difference as to the quality of a person's life after 60.

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This is a French best-seller about how to age well. It's quite philosophical in many ways, but has some interesting stories about particular elders and some very intriguing information about alternative retirement homes that exist in Europe and even in the United States. There is a strong emphasis on developing spiritual life (not religious; but positive outlook, keeping mentally engaged, connecting with people, becoming less attached to outcomes, etc) in order to have a fulfilling aging--and even dying experience. This makes sense to me. The book is a bit "airy" and ethereal for my taste, but I am nonetheless glad that I read it.
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알라딘: 검색결과 'Marie de Hennezel' Sex and Sixty두번째 서른살

알라딘: 검색결과 'Marie de Hennezel'






[국내도서] 살맛 나는 나이 - 심리학자 마리의 노년행복 프로젝트
마리 드 엔젤 (지은이), 백선희 (옮긴이) | 학고재 | 2009년 6월


(2) | 세일즈포인트 : 125








[국내도서] 두번째 서른살, 사랑을 이야기 할 나이 - 프랑스 심리학자가 전하는 여성의 사랑과 성에 관한 따뜻한 통찰
마리 드 에느젤 (지은이), 유정애 (옮긴이) | 베가북스 | 2017년 1월
세일즈포인트 : 63

이 책의 전자책 : 9,660원


원제 : Sex and Sixty

책소개

사랑을 갈구하는 욕망과 성의 즐거움. 육체적인 내밀한 소통에서 비롯한 친밀한 관계 맺기는 성별이나 나이 제한이 없다. 성에 대한 욕구는 근원적으로 행복한 삶을 위한 필요충분조건이기 때문이다. 이제부터 사랑의 세계를 경험하게 될 젊은이든, 문화적 편견과 억압에 의해 욕구를 누르고 있는 여성들이든, 육신의 노화를 조금씩 경험하고 있는 시니어들이든, 이제 우리는 누구나 ‘내 삶의 주체’로서 사랑과 성을 추구해야 한다.

시니어들의 경우, 육체의 성적 노화가 성생활의 장애로 다가온다. 성적 매력이 없어지는 자신을 들여다본 시니어들은 성에 관한 흥미를 스스로 억제한다. 하지만 성에 관한 시니어의 자학적 자기검열은 ‘젊음 위주’의 섹슈앨러티를 벗어나 노년에게 적합한, 아니 모두에게 더 행복한 새로운 섹슈앨러티의 존재를 찾을 수 없게 만든다. 저자는 시니어의 에로틱한 성생활에 대한 아이디얼리즘을 경계하면서도 여러 연구와 인터뷰, 대담 등을 통해 인생에서 맞이할 수 있는 두 번째 사춘기인 시니어의 에로스에 대해 확신을 얻었고, 그 통찰을 이 책으로 전한다.

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추천하는 글 / 들어가는 말 / 서론 : 친밀한 성애의 미래

하나 | 욕망과 쾌락을 위한 나이
섹스를 ‘수행하는’ 단계에 머물러서야, 결과는 빤하지! /
에로틱한 능력을 개발하라 / 일상에서 친밀감을 쌓아가라 /
누구에게나 주어진 것은 아니다 / 어떤 것들이 제동을 걸까?

둘 | 제2의 사춘기
시니어의 성, 왜 ‘붐’인가? / 우선 몸과 마음을 젊게 하라 /
이상적인 사랑에 대한 환상 / 빈번한 ‘체인징 파트너즈’ / 다자간 연애의 유혹

셋 | 노후에도 끄떡없는 이 커플들
행복하게 살기로 마음먹다 / 어깨를 나란히 맞대고 꿈꾸기 /
‘한 마음 되기’의 즐거움을 위한 ‘한 마음 되기’

넷 | 섹스라면 ‘이제 그만’이라는 사람들
우리, 이제 섹스는 그만하기로 했어 / ‘깃발 내린’ 욕망 / 쾌락이라는 지상명령에 저항하기 /

다섯 | 고독, 그리고 자유
감내해야 할 고독 / 스스로에게 과감히 쾌락을 허하라 /
여자들끼리 누리기 / 사랑을 가르치는 여자들 /

여섯 | 또 다른 성과 섹스
진짜 쾌락? 60이 넘어야 알 수 있지! / 야성적이지 않고 완숙한 섹슈앨러티 /
에로틱한 세계의 공유 / 삶의 재료로써 선택한 기쁨 / 은밀한 연애의 윤리 /

일곱 | 에로틱한 세계로 가는 또 다른 길들
느릿느릿한 섹스 / 탄트라 여인들 / 가만 둬도 성기는 사랑할 줄 안다 / 에로틱 캠프/ 테이레시아스의 여행 / 정중동靜中動으로 하나 되기?
젊음 지상주의 때문에 사는 게 힘들어! / 오르가즘 명상

여덟 | 시니어들의 사랑
마음이 인도하는 섹슈앨러티 / 틀림없어, 아직도 섹스를 하고 있는 거야! /
우린 80대지만, 섹스를 원하는 80대! / 애정 만들기? / 평생 지속될 수 있는 욕망 /
죽음까지 넘어선 에로틱한 관계 / 멈추는 것이 슬기로운 선택 / 호의적인 시선 /
사랑의 즐거움은 양로원에서도 / 사생활 존중, 하지만 어디까지?

결론

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책속에서

“진정한 만남이란, 그 만남이 이루어질 정도로 성숙해졌을 때 우연히 일어납니다. 전 중요한 걸 깨달았어요. 인생에서 만날지 안 만날지도 모를 동반자를 찾는 데만 몰두할 게 아니라, 사랑하는 중요한 사람들과 친밀한 관계를 유지하는 능력을 키워야 한다는 겁니다.”
60대가 되면 감각은 여러 모로 쇠약해지니까 40대였을 때만큼 강렬하게 느낄 순 없지만, 쾌락은 둘의 관계가 지닌 정서적 특질에 영향을 받는다. 바로 이런 이유 때문에 여자들이 60세 이후에 느끼는 쾌락이 훨씬 ‘격格이 높다’는 말을 종종 듣는 거다. 여태껏 경험해보지 못한 새로운 쾌락에 도달한 것 같은 인상을 주는 것은 바로 그런 사랑의 차원, 두 사람 외에는 이해할 수 없는 친밀감, 에로틱한 교감과 연결되어 있는 정서적인 상상의 세계다.  접기

욕망은 ‘하늘에서 뚝 떨어지는 것’이요, 피할 수 없는 숙명, 하나의 운명이다. 그러니까 욕망은 우리 마음대로 좌지우지할 수 있는 게 아니다. 우리에게 허용된 유일한 자유는 욕망하는 여자나 남자를 향한 사랑을 받아들이거나 받아들이지 않을 자유다. 사랑은 욕망과 아무 관계가 없다. 사랑과 욕망은 서로 다른 두 나라다. 커플관계에서는 계속 서로를 욕망하지 않고도 계속 서로를 사랑할 수 있다. 우리는 그걸 잘 안다.  접기

우리는 전혀 상대를 다양한 각도로 바라보지 않았다. 그래서는 상대를 완벽하게 알지 못할 것이다. 타인을 향한 우리의 욕망은 아직도 우리 눈에 그가 갖고 있는 것으로 보이는 신비함의 크기와 비례한다.
여자가 남자에게 자신감을 줄 수 있는 훌륭한 방법은, 자신이 느끼는 쾌락에 몰입하는 모습을 남자에게 보라고 하면서 자신의 쾌락에 동참시키는 것이다. 사랑의 ‘하나 됨’이란, 여자가 자기를 지켜보는 남자에게 자신의 쾌락을 선사할 줄 아는 이 방법에 다름 아니다.

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‘사랑한다’는 것은 자신의 모습을 상대에게 있는 그대로 보여주고, 상대의 모습을 있는 그대로 받아들일 수 있는 관계의 신뢰와 친밀감을 포함하는 일이다. 그것은 상대의 몸과 영혼을 깊고도 진지하게 알아가고자 노력하는 일이다. 또 서로의 나약함을 인정하고 오랜 세월을 함께 하며 그의 인격과 한계를 받아들이는 일이고, 애정을 가지고 그 사람이 늙어가는 것을 바라보는 일이다.
사랑은 이렇게 한결같은 마음을 갖는 일이고, 오래 걸리는 일이다. 그저 바라보는 것이 아니라 끊임없이 나의 영혼과 몸속에 상대를 각성하고 새겨 넣는 일이 바로 사랑이고 섹스다. 이 책은 섹스가 바로 그런 사랑의 표현이고, 사랑의 마침표라는 것을 말해준다.
노년뿐 아니라 사랑을 시작하는, 지금 사랑에 빠진 젊은이들과 함께, 그리고 사랑이 무엇인지, 우리가 어떻게 사랑해야 하는지 알고 싶어 하는 모든 이들에게 권하고 싶다.
죽을 때까지 아름답고 진실하게 그리고 행복하고 싶은가?
그러면 섹스를 하라! 몸과 마음을 다해. 
- 배정원 (성 전문가) 


저자 및 역자소개
마리 드 에느젤 (Marie de Hennezel) (지은이) 

1946년 프랑스 리옹에서 태어난 저명한 심리학자이자 심리치유사. 풍부한 임상 경험, 삶에 대한 따뜻한 통찰, 편안한 문체로 인기 있는 베스트셀러 작가이기도 하다. 1986년 프랑수아 미테랑 대통령이 직접 제안한 시한부(말기) 환자 진료를 위한 호스피스 서비스(임종시설)의 파일럿 프로젝트를 맡아 다년간 봉사했다. 이때의 생생한 경험을 책으로 옮긴 『친근한 죽음(La Mort intime)』으로 커다란 반향을 일으켰으며, 당시 전립선암으로 투병 중이던 미테랑 전 대통령이 서문을 써서 화제가 되기도 했다. 죽음을 앞둔 에이즈 환자들을 심리적·영적으로 동반해주는 것이 얼마나 필요한지를 절감한 그는 1992년 이들의 짧은 여생을 보살피는 기구를 설립하여 다년간 이끌기도 했다. 시한부 환자 및 노령인구에 대한 그의 각별한 관심과 봉사의 노력은 유럽 전역의 인정을 받았고, 마침내 1999년 리오넬 죠스팽 총리의 천거로 프랑스 최고 훈장인 레지옹 도뇌르 슈발리에를 수상했다.

다른 저서로 낭시 인권도서상 수상작인 『타인에 대한 배려(Le Souci de l'autre)』, 『죽는 법(L'Art de mourir)』, 『나이, 욕망, 그리고 사랑(L'Age, le Desir et l'Amour)』, 『다시 보자는 말은 하지 않았다(Nous ne nous sommes pas dit au revoir)』, 『영혼의 힘에 대한 신뢰(Croire aux Forces de l'Esprit))』, 『두 눈을 뜨고 죽다(Mourir les yeux ouverts)』, 『열정이 육체의 노화를 막는다(La chaleur du coeur empeche nos corps de rouiller)』 그리고 『누구나 품위 있게 죽고 싶다(Nous voulons tous mourir dans la dignite)』 등이 있다.

드 에느젤은 열한 명으로 이루어진 대가족의 다섯 번째 아이였으며, 자신의 세 아이와 여덟 명의 손자·손녀를 두고 있다. 접기
최근작 : <두번째 서른살, 사랑을 이야기 할 나이>,<살맛 나는 나이> … 총 8종 (모두보기)
유정애 (옮긴이) 

덕성여대 불어불문학과 및 동 대학원을 졸업하고 파리 8대학 여성연구과에서 박사과정을 마쳤다. 현재 전문번역가로 활동하고 있다. 옮긴 책으로는 《트위스트》 《소년들》 《사람들 앞에 서면 왜 나는 작아질까》 《성의 정치》 《개미: 말의 가치를 일깨우는 철학동화》 등이 있다.


출판사 제공 책소개

성은 우리 삶을 완성하는 길이다!

여성이나 시니어의 사랑과 성생활을 존중하지 않는 것일까?

그것은 일종의 학대행위라고도 할 수 있다. 애써 그들의 성을 외면하고 박탈하는 여러 가지 ‘이유들’은 사랑의 욕구가 평생 지속한다는 사실을 받아들이지 않는 데 그 배경이 있다. 또는 한 세대에서 다음 세대로 이어져오면서 이 주제를 애써 외면하고 터부시해온 데에 문제가 있을지도 모른다. 이러한 편견과 그늘 속에서 위태롭게 매달린 여성과 노년의 성적 욕망은 ‘주책’이거나 ‘노망’이라는 언어적 폭력의 대상이다. 우리는 이들의 성을 존중해야 한다.
그러나 각 개인 차원의 자각과 노력 또한 필수적이다. ‘당사자’인 여성과 시니어의 의식 전환이 있어야 한다는 얘기다. 인간의 몸은 시간이 지나면 늙고 병들어 없어지는 껍데기가 아니라, 인간 그 자체이다. 더는 성적인 욕망과 육체의 소통을 탓하지 말자. 우리 몸은 아무런 죄가 없다. “우리 몸은 잘못도, 저주도 아니요, 몸은 우리 일부이자 서로 주도록 만들어졌습니다. 서로에게 주며 자신을 발견할 때 행복을 만납니다.” 교황 요한 바오로 2세의 말이다.

건강한 쾌락과 행복을 위한 참된 나르시시스트 혁명을 만나다!

사랑을 갈구하는 욕망과 성의 즐거움, 그리고 육체적인 내밀한 관계에서 비롯한 친교에는 남녀의 제한도, 나이의 제한도 없다. 특히 자유와 주체성의 회복을 갈망하는 여성들의 경우, 억압되고 짓눌려 왜곡된 섹슈앨러티의 틀을 벗어던져야 한다. ‘의무 수행’으로서의 섹스와 오르가즘에 대한 강박관념에서 스스로를 해방시켜야 한다. 마음의 문을 열어 진실한 사랑의 의미를 마주하고, 살아있는 내 삶의 주체로서 성을 추구해야 한다. 이 새로운 발견은 달성하게 될지 아닐지도 모르는 쾌락의 한 순간을 지향하는 게 아니라, 사랑과 섹스의 진정한 의미를 찾아가는 나르시시스트 혁명을 일으키고, 그리하여 각자 완성된 성의 주체로 가는 길이다. 그것은 상대의 몸과 영혼을 깊고도 진지하게 알아가고자 하는 노력이다.
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서른이 되어버렸지

마흔이 되어버렸는 걸
제목이 그렇길래 피식 웃었다
마흔은 기억도 나지 않는구나
하지만 서른은 기억하지
나이 쇼크는 그때 있었지
삼십세란 책을 선물했더니
친구는 정색하고 울상이 되었지
모두 도살장 문턱에 있는 듯싶었지
스무살에 으스대던 우리였는데
십년만에 모두 고개를 떨구었네
끈 떨어진 신세 같았지
그때는 또 세기말이 코앞이었네
무슨 생각으로 버텼던가
차라리 마흔은 두번째 스무살이었네
(오십은 이도저도 아니구나)
마흔이 되어버렸는 걸은
서른이 되어버렸지로
고쳐 읽는다
아직 한창이었지만 뒤로
가는 일만 남은 듯했던
서른살
아무것도 아니었던 그 시절
아직 인생이 백지였던 때
나는 왜
절망이라고 적었던가
잎사귀 하나조차 아까워서였을까
나는 얼마나 오래 살고 있는 것인지!

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Marie de Hennezel - Wikipedia translation from French

Marie de Hennezel - Wikipedia


Marie de Hennezel

Marie de Hennezel , born Marie Gaultier de la Ferrière 1  onin Lyon , is a French psychologist , psychotherapist and writer .

She is known for her commitment to improving end-of-life conditions. His works, his two reports to the government and his speeches on the subject have contributed to the evolution of the image of aging and old age in our society.

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A former student of the Legion of Honor educational establishments , Marie de Hennezel is a graduate of the Institute of Intercultural Management and Communication (ISIT) (1966) and holds a master's degree in English from the University of Paris III . .
After teaching English, she resumed studies to become a clinical psychologist. She obtained a diploma of specialized higher education (DESS) in clinical psychology at the University of Paris IV then Diploma of advanced studies (DEA) in psychoanalysis at the University of Paris VII .in 1975. From 1975 to 1984, she worked as a clinical psychologist in several social welfare offices and in Family Planning, it was the time of the Veil law . Then from 1984 to 1986 she was a clinical psychologist in a psychiatric department at the Villejuif Regional Hospital Center 2 , 3 , 4 .

Through her brother Jacques de la Ferrière, then chief of protocol at the Élysée , she made the acquaintance of President Mitterrand inMeetings with François Mitterrand will follow during the last twelve years of his life until3 . — For the 20th anniversary of her death, Marie de Hennezel publishes her book “Croire aux forces de l'esprit” Believe in the forces of the spirit”   which draws the contours of her little-known inner personality.  5 , 6 .

In 1987, she joined the first palliative care unit created in France, at the International Hospital of the University of Paris , by François Mitterrand. From 1992, she divided her time between this unit and an AIDS care unit at the Notre-Dame-du-Bon-Secours Hospital. She recounts this experience with people at the end of life in a book prefaced by François Mitterrand: Intimate death 7 , 8 , published by Robert Laffont () and translated into twenty languages ​​2 .

Her work in various associations N 1 , and her commitment to end-of-life support for people affected by HIV N 2 led her to complete her training in Jungian psychoanalysis with training in hapno-psychotherapy at the International Center for Research and Development of Haptonomy ( CIRDH ) in 1992 4 .

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Ofat, it transmits the experience of support, acquired with people at the end of life, through conferences 12 , 13 , 14 and training courses intended for health professionals.

In, the Minister of Health, Family and Disabled Persons, Jean-François Mattei entrusts him with a mission and a report to be written on the end of life. This "End of life, the duty to support" report (15 inspired the parliamentary mission on end-of-life support 16 , and the law of"Rights of the sick and end of life" is an extension of this. Heard by the parliamentary mission, Jean-François Mattei, regretted that "the solidarity which was once manifested around the dying has been replaced by a solitude, an each for himself which does not encourage trust in others and which means that we prefer to rely on ourselves .

InPhilippe Douste-Blazy , Minister of Health, entrusted him with the mission of disseminating palliative culture 18 . He implements one of the measures of his report, the creation of an azur number  : "Accompanying the end of life: getting informed, talking about it", which he inaugurates theMarie de Hennezel then toured the regions of France for two years to assess the progress of palliative care and lead information forums on the Leonetti law and awareness of good end-of-life practices. She gave Roselyne Bachelot her mission report “la France palliative” 19 , in which she denounced “the unequal distribution of palliative culture in our country” and the lack of means to implement it. However, it mentions “interesting initiatives that we could draw inspiration from” and concrete proposals 20 . She concludes by recalling that these measures “assume the political will to make this pedagogy of the law a priority” 21.

Inshe was appointed as a member of the steering committee of the national end-of-life observatory . She resigned from this committee in 2012, following a disagreement concerning the methodology of the observatory, she disputes the usefulness of multiplying expensive reports which risk remaining a dead letter. As for her, she would have favored meeting “in the field” with people who are directly confronted with the difficulties of the end of life 22 , 23 , 24 .

Marie de Hennezel regularly leads seminars on “the art of aging well” for Audiens 25 , the mutual insurance company and pension fund for entertainment, audio-visual and press professions. She is a member of the honorary committee of the collective More Dignified Life 26 and is also an administrator and a member of the scientific committee of the Korian Foundation 8 . 28 .

In, at the request of the NGO Elise Care, Marie de Hennezel went to Iraqi Kurdistan to train psychologists in charge of psychological support for Yésidi refugees, and in particular women who have returned from Daesh camps 29 [insufficient source] .

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In, like Élisabeth Roudinesco , she is a candidate for chair 36 of the French Academy , left vacant by Philippe Beaussant 35 . Barbara Cassin was elected 36 .

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  1.  From 1984, she participated in a prayer group of the Invitation to Life movement , without being part of the organization, and left this prayer group in 1987. Marie de Hennezel is sometimes confused with Marie d'Hennezel , shareholder of Sevene Pharma and member of the Invitation to Life movement . This confusion would have led in 1996 to an article published in the weekly L'Express 9 which Marie de Hennezel considered defamatory and to which she replied 10 . This homonym was also noted in an article in Figaro 11 .
  2.  As in 1992, with Jean-Louis Terrangle, the foundation of the Association Bernard Dutant - Sida et Ressourcement to help HIV-positive people, established in Marseille and of which she remained honorary president, until its closure in 2018.

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  1. ↑ Return higher by:a and “  Decree of December 31, 1998  ”  [ archive ] , on Legifrance , (consulted the).
  2. Return higher by:a and Collective Psychoanalysis and Politics, under the direction of Jacqueline Sag, “  Marie de Hennezel  ”  [ archive ] , on dictionary-creatrices.com , nr (consulted on).
  3. ↑ Return higher by:a and Marie de Boëton, “  Marie de Hennezel, listening as a vocation  ”, La Croix , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  4. Return higher by:b and Christine Brisset, “  reading note - Hennezel Marie de. The wisdom of a psychologist. Paris: Jean-Claude Béhar (Wisdom of a profession), 2009, 105 p.  », Crossroads of Education , no .  31,p.  253 read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  5. ↑ Anne-Laure Barret, "  Marie de Hennezel, Mitterrand's confidante  ", Le Journal du dimanche , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  6. ↑ Marie-France Chatrier, "  Marie de Hennezel and Mitterrand: "It was like love at first sight"  ", Paris Match , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  7. ↑ Return higher by:a et b (en) Brigid McConville, « An intimate until the end »The Independent,‎  read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  8. Return higher by:a and “  Marie de Hennezel  ”  [ archive ] , on fondation-korian.com , nr (consulted on).
  9. ↑ Annie Kouchner, "  Those who "harmonize" death  ", L'Express , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  10. ↑ Hennezel Marie de, "  Marie de Hennezel writes to us  ", L'Express , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  11. ↑ Marc Mennessier, "  GMOs: the dangerous liaisons of Pr Séralini  ", Le Figaro , read online  [ archive ] Free access , accessed).
  12. ↑ Agnès Reffet, "  Being human until the end (summary of the conference given, January 31, in Geneva, by Marie de Hennezel on the theme "Human until the end"  ", InfoKara , vol.  18, o  1.‎p.  27-28 read online  [ archive ] ).
  13. ↑ Dr.Jean Martin, "  Aging is interesting!  », Swiss Medical Review (Reflections) , read online  [ archive ] [PDF] , consulted on).
  14. ↑ Eric Vrin and Jici Lord-Gauthier (academic work), “  Analysis and reflection around the text of Marie de Hennezel: “Psychic work and transformation on the threshold of death”  ”, University of Quebec at Montreal, department of psychology, via Researchgate ,‎ read online  [ archive ] [PDF] , consulted on).
  15. ↑ “  Mission “end of life and support”  ”  [ archive ] , on vie-publique.fr , (consulted the).
  16. ↑ Hélène Brocq, "  The clinical psychologist: A key player in the development of an ethical culture of listening in the hospital  ", "Le Journal des Psychologues" , vol.  3, no . 266  ,p.  27 read online  [ archive ] )
    “In 2003, the report on the end of life, written by our colleague Marie de Hennezel, responded without any ambiguity to [the] request to listen to suffering. This report implied that the doctor could not, on his own, respond to all the requests that were made about him and that it was necessary to surround him with collaborators, including clinical psychologists, specially trained in listening and taking care of the suffering of patients, families and carers[…]. Despite the great relevance of this document, which made a rigorous and fair analysis of the situation on the ground, things have changed little. Clinical psychologist positions have remained relatively rare in medical services, given the immense needs.
    .
  17. ↑ "  Report n° 1708, tome 1  "  [ archive ] , on assemblee-nationale.fr (consulted on).
  18. ↑ "  Report 29668 - La France palliative  "  [ archive ] , on vie-publique.fr .
  19. ↑ "  Report on palliative care by Marie de Hennezel: La France palliative  "  [ archive ] , sur solidarites-sante.gouv.fr , (consulted the).
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  21. ↑ Martine Perez, "  Palliative care the French backwardness  ", Le Figaro , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  22. ↑ Le Parisien, "  "It's wasted time and money  ", Le Parisien , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  23. ↑ René Schaerer, "  Press review, book reviews  ", Until death accompany life , no 109  ,p.  85 read online  [ archive ] ).
  24. ↑ Marie de Hennezel, "  The Leonetti law on the end of life remains poorly applied  ", Le Monde , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  25. ↑ “  Chroniques de Marie de Hennezel  ”  [ archive ] , on audienslemedia.org (consulted on).
  26. ↑ "  Comité d'honneur  "  [ archive ] , on plus-dignelavie.com , nr (consulted on).
  27. ↑ “  Domitys innovates for its Senior residences  ”  [ archive ] , on www.aladom.fr (consulted on).
  28. ↑ Lille-actu, Philippe Courcier, "  Marie de Hennezel in Cambrai: "Our sensitivity, our sensuality and our perception do not age  "  [ archive ] , on Actu.fr , (consulted the).
  29. ↑ "  Training of 6 young female psychologists - EliseCare Association  ", EliseCare Association , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  30. ↑ Sophie Bernard, "  Marie de Hennezel & Jean-Yves Leloup: The art of dying  "  [ archive ] , sur Université de Liège , campus.uliege.be .
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  32. ↑ 6Medias, "  The confidences of François Mitterrand's shrink friend  ", Le Point livres , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  33. ↑ "  Living with the invisible  "  [ archive ] , on ActuaLitté , (consulted the).
  34. ↑ DH.be , “  FUNDP: 175 years, with the King  ”, DH.be , read online  [ archive ] , accessed).
  35. ↑ “  Candidatures for the chair of Mr. Philippe Beaussant  ”  [ archive ] , on academie-francaise.fr , (consulted the).
  36. ↑ "  Election of Mrs. Barbara Cassin (F36)  "  [ archive ] , sur academie-francaise.fr , (consulted the).

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