2016/03/30

Meeting for Learning reflection: Kerry O’Regan | Quaker Learning Australia

MfL reflection: Kerry O’Regan | Quaker Learning Australia


MfL reflection: Kerry O’Regan

Reflections on Meeting for Learning

It wasn’t what I expected. I don’t mean the structure, activities and processes; they were all as we had been told. It was my experience of them that didn’t go quite as I’d planned. I was approaching retirement and thought MfL would provide a space to clarify the shape and structure of that next phase of my life. It wasn’t till much later that I remembered that this had been my goal. 

I went off (was led?) in a totally different direction. 

From the first reflective activity, from my first dip into A Testament of Devotion, I realised that what I wanted was to experience the sacred in the secular, to bring the stillness of the retreat into my everyday life thereafter. And I found ways to do that; ways to do that found me. For months after, I couldn’t bear to turn on the TV or radio, and even now it’s just for little bits. It seems like so much unnecessary noise and clutter.
The people were special too; getting to know one another in eternal things. And the time between the two retreats. Those of us from Adelaide who did the first retreat together continued to meet every two weeks to work through Quaker Basics, and then found a way to stay a group by becoming Quaker Learning Australia

Then my other group (supposedly my support group, but I refused to call it that); that was special too as we met through the intervening year. And of course the retreatants and facilitators. Special bonds were formed that light up when I encounter these folk at YM or wherever.
Somewhere in the midst of all that I happened upon the idea of walking the Camino, and what an adventure that turned out to be. I now live life at a slower pace; I do bits and pieces of stuff; I no longer have a car. 

My life is different; I am different. I don’t know how much of that is because of MfL, but some of it certainly is.
I’m happy to be contacted if you would like to explore these reflections further.
Kerry O’Regan
kerry.oregan@adelaide.edu.au
0408 881 617

Meeting for Learning project: Heather Herbert | Quaker Learning Australia

MfL project: Heather Herbert | Quaker Learning Australia


MfL project: Heather Herbert

As is usual, I had a local support group encouraging and questioning me with my project about the Conversations with God books. At one point they wanted to know what I believed that made me so interested in that series. If you have tried to spell out what you believe, you’d know it’s not easy. When the meeting closed, I said to my husband – ‘Perhaps I could tell my grandchildren!’ – meaning I think that I certainly didn’t feel up to compiling anything weighty. When I woke in the morning I found it more or less compiled in my head. Obviously my grandchildren were young at the time – eight, four and three! – but I did get some thoughtful responses.
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Letter to my Grandchildren

Dear Wywandy, Burraga, and Tully,
I was there to say ‘Hello and welcome!’ when each of you came out of your mother’s tummy and into this world — and who knows, you might be there to say ‘Goodbye’ to me when I leave it. But there’s no knowing for sure when any of us will leave it — so what do I want to say to you while I can?
I love you, love you, love you! and I’m very proud of each of you for how well you manage in not very easy situations — and how you care about and look after each of your parents, and other people.
All of you are lucky because you have parents who know that there’s a spiritual world around us as real as the physical one we see and touch every day, and who let that spiritual world help them to love you better.
We see this beautiful and wonderful physical world, and we can hear and taste and smell and touch it with our five senses. We can measure it, and use it, and eat it, and swim in it, and enjoy it in all manner of ways, and we are part of it. We can help keep it going well, or damage it in ways we don’t always realise.
Because all kinds of people explore and study and photograph it, we are getting to know more and more about this earth we live on all the time. Your encyclopaedias and other books tell you all sorts of things that have been learned about it.
With different kinds of telescopes and space ships we are also finding out more about what’s out there in the sky we look into at night — and how enormous and wonderful and mysterious the physical universe is. You might have seen photos of glorious looking galaxies, and of the millions of them there are. If you haven’t, Duncan could show you some.
Some people, like your cousin Robert, are studying the very tiny bits of energy inside atoms that are inside everything. We are getting to know more and more, and as we do, we are realising there are more and more things we don’t know. That’s how knowledge works:
You might notice that there are many different kinds of spider’s webs. That could make you wonder which kind of spider spins which web, or how they look after their babies. You could see about 50 baby spiders hatching out from a web ball, which might make you wonder what those babies eat until they are big enough to spin their own webs. Different people wonder about different things.
Also we each have a sixth sense inside us (intuition), that sometimes knows when someone’s coming, or knows that someone is sad or lonely or frightened and needs helping. It seems to operate out of our heart more than our eyes and ears. Sometimes we can feel our guiding spirits help us to be brave or kind or OK when things are hard. This world we know in our hearts is just as real as the outside world, and it’s what helps us to be gentle and peaceful and wise.
The great power that made all the universe and keeps it going (we call it God; other people have other names they use) is wisdom and energy and love itself — and made all the universe out of itself (because that is all there is) — so we are made of wisdom and energy and love, too.
We are made of that spirit stuff, and we have bodies to help us learn how to use it — how all of us spirits in bodies can best live together and enjoy this life, and relate to all the creatures on the earth and help it to flourish with us.
When our body wears out, or is killed by something, we go back into the spirit world where our guides live —and we learn more about everything from where they are, which is a bit nearer to God at the centre of things. We might become a guiding, helping spirit ourselves, or perhaps we might decide to go into another baby body and have another turn down here on earth some other time. Sometimes people remember things that happened when they were here before.
That all sounds pretty good, but you know that people aren’t always kind and gentle, and some horrible things happen to children and to all sorts of people, and to all sorts of creatures, and sometimes we ourselves do things that aren’t so kind, too.
We can understand better the horrible things other people do if we think about what’s happening when we do horrible things. We are hurt or scared or hungry or wanting something, or angry because someone we love is hurt, and we forget that the spirit inside us wants to help us, and their spirit wants to help the person who is hurting us — and that things will work out better the sooner one of us remembers, and shows the other how things can be.
Sometimes some people seem to be horrible a lot of the time, and that’s very sad, because usually they haven’t had much kindness, and they’ve forgotten we are all really spirit people made for helping each other. They can get all kinds of wrong ideas about how things work, and can make their world a miserable place.
We might have to stop them from hurting other people, or get someone to stop them hurting us, and keep them away until they remember the world works out better with respect and sharing. They’ll only remember that if we treat them that way, and that’s not always easy.
Sometimes people can get ill or hurt or killed because of the way nature works. We wouldn’t realise how good being well is if we weren’t sometimes sick, or what warm is if we weren’t sometimes cold, or what being brave is, if we weren’t sometimes frightened, and so on. We are learning all the time to understand more about nature — ours, as well as nature out there — and better ways to look after each other.
So life presents us with plenty of problems, and none of us is wise enough to solve them all. We have to put our heads and hearts and spirits together, and be very honest with each other — so we see what each problem is about as clearly as we can, to be able to do something about it. Then we have to use our spirit wisdom to be brave and strong to do it. It often won’t work out the way we hoped, and we have to keep thinking together truthfully to try again. It’s worth it — things do improve — and that kind of listening lovingly to each other is a big part of what life’s all about.
God is always loving us, and wanting to help us. She made all this universe and us, and wants to see it working well, and bringing us all joy. That is joy for her. God is not a person, but the great spirit that contains all the shes and hes and its — we just use ‘he’ or ‘she’ to talk about God more easily. God and the universe are really a long way too big for us to fully understand, but there are lots of clues to help us with this life we live.
In some parts of India some people greet one another by putting their hands together, bowing a little, and saying ‘Namaste’. It means ‘the God in me greets the God in you’.
So, Namaste, my dears.
I love you,
Heather

Meeting for Learning 2016 – 2017 Brochure | Quaker Learning Australia

Meeting for Learning 2016 – 2017 Brochure | Quaker Learning Australia

Meeting for Learning 2016 – 2017 Brochure

 Meeting for Learning
living Quaker Community
An intensive exploration of Quaker life experiences.
Spiritual nurture in community guided by three or four facilitators.
Friends reflecting on what it is to study, worship and be transformed by the Spirit.
Quaker processes practiced faithfully in everyday life.
The year-long program begins and ends with two six-night residential retreats.
Forming a listening group for support in living with intention through the year between
Facilitators continue their nurture through the year with contact as needed.
Retreat Weeks at Don Bosco Retreat Centre, Lysterfield,
at the base of the Dandenong Ranges, Google 465 Lysterfield Rd
hosted by Victoria Regional Meeting
18-24 September 2016
24-30 September 2017
Meeting for Learning is an Australia Yearly Meeting program quakers.org.au and hosted in 2016/17 by Victoria Regional Meeting under the care of Quaker Learning Australia (Tasmania).
Go to qlau@quakers.org.au  for more learning and resource options.
Quaker Meeting for Learning is year-long program book-ended by week-long residential retreats. 
It is an extended time to explore the Spirit and learn about Quaker ways, together with members and attenders from around Australia.  Sometimes others from different faith communities join Meeting for Learning. For most of the year-long program, you remain part of your regular community.  Residential retreats give the opportunity for you to commence and complete this journey by sharing experiences with others.
Themes for the retreats alternate; participants can start with either. The 2016 Retreat will focus on our individual inner journey.  In 2017 the Retreat will focus on the spiritual life of our faith community.
Listening to ourselves and each other is a practice which often leads to deep insights, transformation and discernment.   Much time is devoted to deepeninglistening skills among other practices that are based on Friends’ long history of spiritual nurture and faith in action.
A feature of each retreat is a mid-week silent day and night.  Some participants feel nervous about this beforehand, and then find that extended silence in community is an enriching experience.  A facilitator is always available during the Silent Day for reflection or conversation.
 Between retreats your learning processes go on with a Support Group that you choose from your local Meeting and/or from friends and family.  You will select members for your group who will listen, empathise and encourage while you give attention to specific areas of your life where you can feel the spirit moving.  Local members of support groups regularly report how gratifying it is to share with the participant. Sharing this journey is then a rich part of the next Retreat.
The size of the group at each retreat is up to 12 participants, who are guided by three or four volunteer facilitators during the retreat. The facilitators providereading materials, sessions, exercises and pastoral guidance to assist each participant’s spiritual journey. The resources provided allow retreatants to develop their knowledge of Quaker writings and beliefs, and to reflect on their own journey. Each day allows time for discussion, exploration, rest and reflection. During the retreat, some activities are carried out as a whole group, some are conducted in small groups and some exercises are undertaken as a personal activity. Structured and unstructured time is included in the retreat.
Meeting for Learning: Where?
The 2016 Retreat will be held at Don Bosco Centre, Lysterfield, Victoria.  It is in the Dandenong Ranges east of Melbourne and accessible by suburban train
Accommodation and Cost
Each participant will have a private bedroom for the 6 nights.  All accommodation, meals and a resource book are included in the price, which will be approximately $850.  You may apply for financial assistance through your Regional Meeting.  Talk with your Clerk or Ministry Convener if you are considering registering for the course and applying for support.
When?
Sunday 18 September to Saturday 24 September 2016.
How to apply – for this or a future year
The Retreat is open to Members, Attenders and others in sympathy with the Quaker way.
If you think this retreat might be for you, please take these three steps:
  1. Talk to a previous participant in your local Meeting, or your Regional Meeting clerk, to ask about their experience.
  2. You could also contact the Meeting for Learning support group via Stephanie Farrall sfarrall@netspace.net.au  to discuss it further.
  3. Write to Fiona Gardner f.gardner@latrobe.edu.au   expressing your interest in participating. If possible this should be by February 2016.

Some participants’ reflections:
The first retreat was the safest, most nurturing, most healing group of that size that I had experienced – thanks to the skilled and loving facilitators, Fiona Gardner, Sue Wilson, Jenny Spinks and Catherine Heyward, and the openness and courage of the participants. In addition to stimulating, and sometimes challenging, individual and collective spiritual exercises and explorations, I received emotional/spiritual support from daily Meetings for Worship, and facilitators and participants alike. Practicing compassionate listening in a spiritual context in small groups, and being listened to in the same way, was a privilege. I felt a sense of belonging that has been rare in my life, and I left the retreat encouraged, inspired and on a high.
As a result of the year-long process I began the second retreat more nurtured, relaxed and open than I had on the first. I felt even more affirmed and, yes, loved. I left, not on a high this time, but with a fullness of mind, heart and soul that continues to sustain me. 
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Meeting for Learning was a turning point in my Quaker life, not only the retreats, also working with my support team for the year and these people still play an important role in my spiritual growth.

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