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LA Quaker: Becoming a Friend of God: the Path of Sufism and Quakerism 2010

LA Quaker: Becoming a Friend of God: the Path of Sufism and Quakerism



Saturday, November 20, 2010

Becoming a Friend of God: the Path of Sufism and Quakerism



I have been busy these past few months working on a pamphleet/booklet about Sufism and Quakerism, two mystical paths that I have walked in my life and want to share with others. So far, I've written nearly 15,000 words and plan to keep writing as long as Spirit leads. It's been a joy to plunge into the ocean of mystical writings associated with Sufism and to discover many unexpected affinities with Quakerism. I will post my work as it evolves and would appreciate your feedback. My hope is to publish this work as a follow-up to my pamphlet "Islam from a Quaker Perspective."

Outwardly, Quakerism (the mystical branch of Christianity) and Sufism (the mystical branch of Islam) may seem worlds apart. Sufism is associated with dervish dancing, exotic Middle Eastern music, and the ecstatic poetry of Rumi. Quakerism is associated with peace activists, plain-dressed people sitting in silent worship, and William Penn, the founder of Pennsylvania, and the icon of oatmeal. But there are deep affinities between these two spiritual paths, and it is no accident that Quakerism and Sufism refer to its practitioners as “Friends.”

In this collection of short essays I explore the similarities between these spiritual paths and suggest how they can help us to become more intimately connected with our true selves and with Reality. These mystical paths also have a prophetic dimension—a social witness against materialism and injustice--that is much needed in today’s world. We live at a time when most people in the industrial world inhabit a “virtual reality”—a world of television, movies, and the internet—a world where we are defined by what we buy rather than who or what we are. In this unreal world of compulsive consumerism we become addicted to our desires, and eventually become prey to fears and anxieties. These fears become the seeds of bigotry, violence and war.

Mysticism, as practiced by Quakers and the Sufis, can help free us from our fears and our addictions and lead us onto the path of true freedom. As we come to know who we truly are and become acquainted with our true self, we can also form deep, life-transforming relationships with others, based on the realization that each person is sacred and therefore worthy of our deepest attention and respect. This is the way of Friends.

Sufism is the mystical heart of Islam. It emerged in the 8th century CE as an Islamic ascetic movement. Some scholars see connections between Sufism, Buddhism and Christianity and no doubt such connections exist, but most Sufis see their practice as deeply rooted in Islam. Early practitioners of Sufism include Hasan al-Basri (642-728) and Rabiah al-Adawiay (d. 801), the first great female Sufi teacher and poet. Perhaps the most famous Sufi is Jalal a-din Rumi who founded the Mevlevi order (known as whirling dervishes) and has become the most popular poet in America, thanks to Coleman Barks’ imaginative translations. Sufis played a political role in Islamic history, often standing up for the rights of the poor and oppressed. Sufism has also encouraged women to be spiritual teachers and leaders.

Quakerism began in the 17th century in England as part of the Puritan movement to reform Christianity by restoring it to its primitive roots. Quakers believe that each person can have direct access to God or Christ through the Inward Light and the practice of silent worship. Quakers are perhaps best known for opposing war and for championing the rights of women, African-Americans, homosexuals and other oppressed groups. Like Sufism, Quakerism is a mystical faith that emphasizes the direct experience of the Divine Within rather than outward rituals or the words of scripture.

I became a Friend, that is, a Quaker, in 1984 at about the same time that I encountered my first Sufi, a spiritual teacher from Sri Lanka named Bawa Muhaiyaddeen (who was known as “Bawa” to his followers). Coleman Barks, a student of Sufism known for his brilliant translations of Rumi, described Bawa as “one living in the state of union… and totally present in each moment… It was exhilarating to be there where he sat on his bed in Philadelphia, like breathing ozone near a waterfall” (Rumi, The Book of Love, p. 118).

I met this Sufi saint in Philadelphia, where he was well known and much appreciated by many Quakers. Some Friends even joined his Fellowship.

At that time I was editing a multi-faith publication called Fellowship in Prayer (now called Sacred Journey). The pay was modest, but the perks were priceless: thanks to this job, I had the opportunity to interview and worship with a remarkable array of spiritual teachers from various faith traditions.

One of my assignments was to interview Bawa, who first came to the United States in 1971 and established the Bawa Muhaiyaddeen Fellowship in Philadelphia. This Fellowship grew to over 1,000 followers in the Philadelphia area, with branches spreading throughout the United States and Canada, as well as Australia and the UK. I knew very little about Sufism at this time, but I was eager to learn more about it. Having just earned my Ph. D., I asked one of Bawa’s followers a decidedly academic question:

“I have heard that Eastern religion emphasizes union with God, while Western religion emphasizes communion with God. What does Sufism emphasize?”

The man smiled, paused to reflect, and then replied, “If a plane is flying at 30,000 feet, and another plane is at 20,000 feet, but you are on the ground, what difference is it to you the altitude of the planes?”

This zinger was just what I needed at this point in my spiritual journey. I realized that to understand Sufism (or any other mystical practice), it wasn’t enough to ask academic questions. I would need to walk the path, or at least one very much like it.

I’m not belittling academic studies. I have the utmost respect for scholars of religion, particularly ones like Huston Smith and Karen Armstrong, who have dedicated their lives to promoting interfaith understanding. If you want to know about Sufism, I heartily recommend the work of Seyyed Hossein Nasr, Laleh Bakthtiar, Carl W. Ernst, Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee, Idres Shah, Hazrat Inayat Khan, Kabir Helminksi, and Annemarie Schimmel. 

I have also provided a short list of books by and about Sufis for those who want to delve more deeply into this topic.
But books alone will not give you a taste of Sufism, any more than cook books will give you a taste of haute cuisine. To understand Sufism, or any other religious practice, you must acquire first-hand knowledge and experience. As the Psalmist says: “Taste and see!” (34:4). Fortunately, if you are interested, you can easily find opportunities to connect with Sufism and Quakerism and taste the Truth they seek to embody. The appendix lists some of the leading Quaker and Sufi organizations here in the United States.

For the past twenty five years, I have practiced Quakerism and had close friendships with Sufis who have opened my heart and mind to what it means to be a “Friend of Truth/God.” During this time, I also followed the example of Huston Smith and learned about various religions by practicing them. For nine months, I lived in a Zen Buddhist center in Providence, RI, and practiced meditation.

I also spent a year at Pendle Hill, a Quaker center for study and contemplation near Philadelphia, where I studied with many outstanding Quaker teachers, such as William Taber, Sonya Cronk, and William Durland.

Since 9/11, I have adopted many Muslim practices, such as fasting during Ramadan, praying five times a day, and worshipping with Muslims whenever I have the chance. I also make it a daily practice to read the Qur’an or some other Muslim devotional work along with the Bible.
Prior to 9/11 I didn’t have a single Muslim friend, but today many of my dearest and closest friends are Muslims and I have come to feel a part of the Muslim “family” here in Los Angeles. I owe an eternal debt of gratitude to kindred spirits such as Shakeel Syed, John Ishvardas Abdallah, Sherrel Johnson, Noor Malika Chishti, et al.

In 2002, I published a pamphlet called Islam from a Quaker Perspective which attempts to explain Islam to Quakers, and Quakerism to Muslims, in the most succinct possible way. This pamphlet was co-published by three Quaker organizations—Friends Bulletin, Wider Quaker Fellowship, and Quaker Universalist Fellowship—and circulated over 5,000 copies in 100 countries. It was even translated into German.

In this pamphlet, I focused on mainstream Islam and showed that there are many parallels between mainstream Islam and Quakerism. I deliberately omitted any reference to Sufism, however. I did this in part because I wanted to explain what the majority of Muslims believe and practice, and thereby help readers appreciate what James Michener called “the world’s most misunderstood religion.” In this current work I go deeper and explore the inner world of Islam and Christianity as I have experienced it through my study and practice of Quakerism and Sufism. I will examine a wide variety of motifs which are interwoven with the theme of spiritual friendship:

· Mysticism and the path of Friendship.
· The scriptural basis for becoming a Friend of God.
· What is the “Word of God” according to Sufis and Quakers?
· Yearning for the Divine and the Double Search.
· Simplicity, silence and becoming intimate with one’s true self.
· Find a balance between the male and female.
· Stories and Narrative Theology.
· Befriending the poor, the sick, the oppressed to become God’s Friend.
· Becoming a nobody in order to become a true Friend

My hope is that what I have to share abut Sufism and Quakerism will inspire you to go deeper in your spiritual life and to become more intimate with the source of truth within you and within every living being you encounter.

Posted by LA Quaker at 6:59 PM




10 comments:


Daniel WilcoxNovember 23, 2010 at 10:26 PM

Hi Anthony,

Thanks for the info on the simillarities/differences between Sufism and Quakerism.

I haven't studied Sufism, but it does seem very different from the Islam of killing.

If you remember last time I posted a comment about how I was surprised that you were supportive of the Islamic tradition.

You responded by saying Islam is peaceful.

Below is an example of why I still disagree. Notice this tragic evil isn't a case of insurgents but of the very government of Islamic Pakistan persecuting and planning to execute a Christian. Very tragic...

>>Muslim men working in the nearby fields ran over and began harassing Asia, pressuring her to renounce Christianity. When Asia refused, the men forced themselves into her home where they tortured Asia and her four children. Among other allegations, Asia was accused of denying that Muhammad was a prophet and was sent to prison. She has been condemned to die for her actions.

>>Her offense? She is Christian. According to a CNN reporter, “A town cleric in her home town declared Asia’s death sentence as one of the happiest moments of his life.”

Any comment?

Of all the Muslims I have known, I only knew one who was committed to peacemaking. All of the others were nice, but committed to Islamic war against Jews. And now more and more against Christians.

Any response?

In the Light of God,

DanielReply



AnthonyNovember 25, 2010 at 10:01 PM

Dear Daniel, I cannot condone the behavior you cite, nor would most Muslims I know. My Muslim friends would be the first to admit that there is deplorable amount of ignorance and bigotry in the Muslim world, but most of it is cultural, not intrinsic to Islam. There was a time when Christians behaved as badly, if not worse, than the Muslims you describe. Look at how the Catholic Church treated Jews and Muslims in Spain during the "reconquista." And look at the withhunts, inquisitions, witchhunts and religous wars. Even today many of those who fight under the American flag see themselves as Crusaders.

For a historical view of Islam during its golden age, I recommend Maria Menocal's book "The Ornament of the World" for a look at Muslim Spain as a model of what Islam could be.

I know of no Muslims who are committed to war against Jews per se, but many who oppose Zionism and support the legitimate rights of Palestinians.

Finally, when troops who are predominantly Christian invade Muslim countries, occupy their lands, and kill and torture many Muslims (with pictures for all to see), it is not surprising that poor, oppressed Muslims would resent Christians and treat them badly. If the United States were occupied by a Muslim army that killed those who opposed the occupation, I'm sure many Christians would retaliate against innocent Muslims. Sadly, that is what happens when empires wage war, or try to keep the peace, Roman style.Reply



AnonymousNovember 25, 2010 at 10:31 PM

There is nothing that exists, save The Divine One. There is nothing beside The One.
We are all, therefore, within this Oneness.
The major religions agree on this. It is in the scriptures.
The same message has been delivered, time and again, at different times, in different languages. Please, let us stop arguing about the languages, and heed the message.
And let us not heed those who would distort the message to further their own ambitions.
Peace, in every language.Reply



Daniel WilcoxNovember 26, 2010 at 12:03 PM

Hi Anthony,

Thanks for the book recommendation. I'll check it out.

I am glad you have met different Muslims than me:-) The ones I knew (who were nice persons) were dedicated to killing.

I certainly agree that Christians in history have been intolerant and killers in the name of God. And most of the Christians I know still are for killing:-(

But that is not reason for Muslims to kill hundreds of unarmed Christians his last year and with Muslim governmental support.

As for Palestine/Israel, I lived there. What all the religious people there need to learn to do is to SHARE. They are all so vindictively self-centered.

The place for them to start is for the Israeli government to stop stealing Palestinian land, to even offer back some of the land that they took in 1948.
And for the Palestinians to ask forgiveness for all the innocent civilians they've killed in cold blood (not in a battle but in markets, weddings, etc.).

Once the two groups start living by basic human caring they wouldn't need weapons.

The place for them to start is to ask forgiveness.

As for Muslim Spain, the last scholarly book I read on Islamic Spain was critical of the intolerance of the Islamic government.

True, Jewish persons had it better there than in Christian Europe, but Muslim Spain wasn't the nice place that so many think it was (at least not according to the last couple of books I read).

But I look forward to reading Menocal's book.

Thanks for the dialog,

DanielReply



AnonymousDecember 31, 2010 at 4:45 AM

As a Quaker married to a Sufi I look forward to reading your work. Would you be willing to publish some excerpts or share some resources for further inquiry/reflection?Reply



Ian WhitemanApril 5, 2012 at 2:19 PM

An interesting site to have stumbled upon.

I was brought up in a Quaker family, lived in an English Quaker town and went to a Quaker school. Good, impressive people but who ultimately couldn't answer the urgent questions of an 18 year old who wasn't going to take silence for an answer. Quakerism seemed to me like a sanctuary for principled souls who saw nothing they liked in the big wide world out there - of Royalty, Catholicism and Wars etc.

In the early 1970s Islam was a natural step for me, fresh from the 60s excesses but still protected somewhat by a Quaker childhood, although the inherited suspicions about holy war, oppression of women, prejudice about Turks and Arabs etc., had to be first laid to rest. Sufism is integrally part of Islamic law and very misunderstood (by Muslims as well). I have met other muslims like myself who came from Quaker families and who have said the same....Islam is the logical next step - it's the completion of true Christianity. A return to the primordial religion.Reply



AnonymousJune 12, 2015 at 4:53 PM

I have studied Islam with Timothy J Winter (Cambridge University) and in Istanbul on an MA program me there. I cannot agree with the positive assessment of Islam expressed by the author of this piece. Islam has always been committed to offensive war in order to expand the boundaries of Islamic rule. This is well documented. Those who do not submit to this rule are killed. The Christians and Jews who did unwillingly submit to Islamic rule in places like Spain, Syria and Turkey (the once Byzantine Empire) were put under a tremendous social pressure so that lots of Christians converted to Islam in order to alleviate these social constraints. Non~Muslims were humiliated when paying the jizyah tax (read All Ghazali on this). As for women in Islam: women do not have social equality with men. Worse is the fact that Islamic society condoned sexual slavery. Even the Sufi All Ghazali mentions that it is permissible to have sex with ones wive or wives and ones "slave captive". According to one academic source most slavery in the Muslim world was for this purpose. Indeed the Sultan in Constantinople had 1000 concubines! Many well known Sufis hasd slave captives who were obliged until sale to satisfy their master. This was all sanctioned by verses from the Qur'an. In short: I can see very little similarity between a religion that condones offensive war, social inequality of men and women, and sex slavery and Quakerism! ~ The author also described Quakerism as _"mystical Christianity"; but I would argue that both Orthodoxy and Catholicism are mystical in their deepest roots. All of the great saints who built these faiths were mystics. Mount Athos is the heart of modern Orthodoxy and its a mystical heart! The Jesus Prayer, etcetera. Most Catholic thinkers regard the Carthusian vocation as the highest and they are pure mystics. I spent some time in a Carthusian monastery and it is a life given over to prayer, asceticism and love of God. Quakerism in my opinion has yet to produce a mystic as pure or profound as Gregory Palamas or St John of the Cross.Reply



UnknownJuly 21, 2015 at 9:43 AM

Hello!

I just stumbled on to this site, and would love to know if you ever finished this pamphlet. And if so, how might I get a copy?

I'm a Sufi, and am currently researching the Quakers in the context of a piece I'm writing for lightningdpress.com on the poet Basil Bunting and how his lifelong relationship with the Friends informed his experience in terms of his long "Sonata" poems. But I am also personally very interested in that intersection where I believe I see Quakers, Catholic Workers, Sufis, Ismaili Muslims, radical mystic Jews, engaged Buddhists, and progressive (Neo)Confucians meeting. I'm fascinated by this this deeply ecumenical intersectionality, and multi-religious expressions of it in particular. I would love to hear any thoughts or experiences you'd like to share.

Please contact me, if you like, at xishraqx [at] gmail [dot] com.

Thank you!!

Peace,

JeffReply



AnonymousFebruary 4, 2017 at 9:07 PM

Hello. Janis Ian posted a Sufi quote on facebook about how words should go through three gates before leaving the mouth: 1)Is it true? 2)Is it necessary? 3)Is it kind? And immediately I thought how lovely & familiar it was to me even though I had never heard it before.

I'm Catholic, but always had an affinity with the Quakers and since the Sufi quote sounded Quaker-like, I wondered whether the Sufis were the Quakers of Islam in desperation, trying to find ways to make people understand that Muslims are not the monsters they are made out to be in the media. I often try to love and understanding against the hatred and incitements I encounter online so this page you have kindly maintained was a delightful find. Thank you & all the best. YC, London.UKReply



AnonymousOctober 3, 2017 at 7:58 AM

Islam is not the Gospel of Jesus Christ. It comes not even close to it.
A common name in Islam is Abdullah. It comes in many form and languages. It means: slave of Allah. A slave has no rights. If he does not do his job he is thrown out. He does not inherit.
Christians are Children of God (and that through Jesus Christ) Christians inherit the Kingdom of God.
Hans, a Quaker.Reply

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“Move beyond any attachment to names.

Every war and every conflict between human beings
has happened because of some disagreement about names.

It’s such an unnecessary foolishness,
because just beyond the arguing
there’s a long table of companionship,
set and waiting for us to sit down.

What is praised is One,
so the praise is one too,
many jugs being poured into a huge basin.

All religions, all this singing, one song.
The differences are just illusion and vanity.

Sunlight looks slightly different on this wall
than it does on that wall
and a lot different on this other one,
but it is still one light.

We have borrowed these clothes,
these time-and-space personalities,
from a light,
and when we praise,
we pour them back in.”

Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi, 13th century Sufi Muslim poet

“There is a principle which is pure, placed in the human mind, which in different places and ages hath different names: it is, however, pure and proceeds from God. It is deep and inward, confined to no form of religion nor excluded from any, where the heart stands in perfect sincerity.” – John Woolman, 18th century Quaker


“The humble, meek, merciful, just, pious, and devout souls are everywhere of one religion, and when death takes off the mask, they will know one another though the diverse liveries they wear here make them strangers.”
William Penn, 17th century Quaker and founder of Pennsylvania

As a student of world religions, it interests me to learn how people in various times and places have dealt with the questions that seem to perpetually and universally occupy humans, such as: How do we explain evil and suffering? Why are we all painfully aware of our propensity to fall short of our own moral ideals? What is the meaning of life, the universe and everything?

In the course of my studies, one of the many intriguing things I’ve stumbled upon are the parallels between Sufism and Quakerism. 
  • It strikes me that Sufis are to Islam what Quakers are to Christianity. 
  • Sufism and Quakerism are both based on the core idea that it is possible to directly and experientially encounter God. 
  • Both tend toward the inward and mystical in practice yet lead to compassionate engagement with the outer world. 
  • Both emphasize peace, equality, truth and simplicity. 
  • Both see God as loving, kind, merciful, gracious and always present. 
  • Both have often been viewed with suspicion or even contempt by the guardians of orthodoxy.

Of course, there are differences between Quakerism and Sufism. Each was born in a different place, time and culture, with a different religion as its seedbed. Yet the affinities strike me as remarkable. I think it is a subject worthy of further investigation.

Some Muslims and non-Muslim observers see Sufism–or something like it–as the future of Islam. What if, likewise, Quakerism–or something like it–(such as a Buddhist-Christian hybrid) is the future of Christianity? 
Christianity and Islam, in their more mystically oriented expressions (such as Quakerism and Sufism), see each other as fellow travelers (or even beloved siblings) together on the same journey home.

Maybe it’s a bit pie-in-the-sky-I’d-like-to-teach-the-world-to-sing, but imagine the implications if, someday, two-thirds of the world’s population–the Christians and Muslims–found common ground in the inwardly-experienced living presence of the God of Love–far above doctrinal barriers? As Rumi wrote, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”

Expanding beyond just Quakers and Sufis, there are similar sects with similar values within Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, etc. The mystics. The esoterics. Every religion has it mystics, who tend toward inclusivity and openness, as well as its non-mystic exoterics who tend toward exclusivity and literalism and fundamentalism. The fundamentalists see other faiths as competitors while the mystics of various faiths recognize one-another as kindred spirits.




What if the trajectory of our human story is toward interdependent unity with each other within God’s presence (in whom we “live and move and have our being”) without losing our wondrous variety? I find that narrative much more compelling–and indicative of the God whom Jesus revealed–than the doom and gloom Armageddon narratives espoused by so many literalists within both Christianity and Islam.

Is it possible for a Christian or a Muslim or a Buddhist or a Hindu or a Sikh or an atheist or whatever to entertain such ideas of non-exclusive access to the Truth while remaining true to their own belief system? I believe it is. In fact, I think doing so is truer to the heart of all the world’s religions and to the best in human nature. It is how we were meant to be and how we will survive as a species.

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This book is currently listed as #1 in Amazon's ichthyology category, so a potential reader might surmise that there's actually something to do with that subject is this book, or perhaps at least the taxonomy of fish generally. There is not. Instead this is a biography of taxonomist David Starr Jordan (also first President of Stanford, which is considerably more important to the book's content in several ways) melded with a personal memoir of the author. It is highly readable and engaging, and offers an interesting discussion of the philosophy of life from a non-religious perspective. However, I feel it is important to note that this book has essentially no information about science, the scientific process, or even Jordan's place in the history of science.

The only substantial discussion of ichthyology in this is text is in fact directly parroted from an different work Naming Nature, by Carol Kaesuk Yoon. I have read that work, this one contains hardly any original material on the subject and frankly rather abuses the fairly complex taxonomic point that 'fish' as referenced in common parlance do not form a monophyletic group using cladistic methods and in doing so completely fails to answer the question possessed by its title (something Yoon's text, for what it's worth, at least tries to do). Instead, it chooses to deploy this particular factoid as a rather complex metaphor.

There is much to recommend about this book, as a memoir of a young woman in the United States interlaced with a biography, and the illustrations by Kate Samworth used for the chapter headings are quite lovely (and quite non-creditted on main page, come on Amazon), but if you're looking for a book that's even remotely about fish, look elsewhere.

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3.0 out of 5 stars Good biography, bad memoirReviewed in the United States on June 1, 2020
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This book tries to do three things, and does one of them well. (1) As a mini-biography of taxonomist David Starr Jordan, it rocks. Among other fascinating findings, who knew that the (exceedingly gritty and persistent) first President of Stanford University may have murdered the wife of Stanford's founder? (2) As an account of fish and science and life, the book is OK, but it is not deep or original. (3) As a memoir, it belly-flops. On p.34 we are told that the author (at age 7) asked her father "What's the meaning of life?" And we are told that he told her, "Nothing!... as special as you might feel, you are no different than an ant. A bit bigger, maybe, but not more significant, except, do I see you aerating the soil? Do I see you feeding on timber to accelerate the process of decomposition?" How's that for realistically describing how a dad speaks to his first-grade daughter? And then at the the end of the book (p.190), after the author has told us about her frequent suicidal ideations and attempts, we are told that her enlightenment came in a flash, when she went swimming with her girlfriend in Bermuda, and the girlfriend removed her bikini shorts and "swam out before me, liberated, frog-kicking just to let me look...through the clarity of a snorkel...to look" (p.190). This, we are told, is when the author knew that she was done. In her own capital letters: "I NEVER WANT A LIFE WITHOUT THIS PERSON." After describing this remarkable event (which I paraphrase as "I saw her genitals underwater and now I feel fine!"), the author informs us that the best way of ensuring that *we* do not miss the gifts of life is "to admit, with every breath" that we have no idea what we are looking at (p.191). Given what was described on the preceeding pages, the conclusion would have more coherence if it recommended that readers go to Bermuda and find some genitals to look at through a snorkel.

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3.0 out of 5 stars Starts strong, ends like every other MillennialReviewed in the United States on May 8, 2020
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I was pulled in by the story of David Starr Jordan--I thought that was written very well--but about midway through the book I started to have issues with the details on the history of the science (I teach many of the topics), and then there was a good deal of author-interpretation of Darwin's intended meaning of life. The "author's story" and review of psychology is getting to be very popular in literature, and I have read enough of it that I knew precisely how this Millennial drama/love story would end.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Incredibly relevant for this moment in historyReviewed in the United States on April 29, 2020
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I love Lulu Miller's NPR's Invisibilia and started her debut prepared for a unique, informative, and laugh out loud story of this little known historical figure (taxonomist David Starr Jordan) and how his life story became interwoven with that of the author. I wasn't expecting it to be so deeply relevant to our current COVID-19 reality, and I consider it a must-read for anyone hoping to make sense of their time in social distancing/quarantine. At its core, Jordan (and Miller) are attempting to create order out of Chaos, and even in the book's introduction she speaks of how collecting and organizing can provide great solace during times of trauma and uncertainty. There are thousands of small and large lessons to be learned in these pages--many that can be implemented today--and it's simply a lot of fun to read Lulu's sentences. Grab this book and dive into the hidden order of life, you won't be sorry.

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5.0 out of 5 stars A right now So good BookReviewed in the United States on April 23, 2020
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This is truly one of the most profound books of our time, Lulu takes personal stories weaves them in science and contemporary histories, to tell a story of search and discovery, understanding and questioning
Funny at times, frustrating facts of humans history, a-ha moments, smiles, tears, googling, corner flipping, can't put it down, still thinking about it...kind of book

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1.0 out of 5 stars Not what I was hoping forReviewed in Canada on June 17, 2020
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I thought this book was about the entropic tendencies of life, and would help the reader shape a new perspective: one where everything is supposed to break/fall apart/ go bad, because the universe is not against you it is just entropy at work. I found a lot of comfort in this simple idea. Unfortunately the book is not about this idea. The author repeats researched stories a number of times while sliding in the buzzword ‘chaos’ whenever she thinks it has been too long. In reality I am not sure she had ever looked up the definition of chaos. Finally the author provides judgement of the main researched character of her book, who lived over 100 years ago, but of course should be judged with the smugness as if they lived today, and the world had not drastically changed in that time.
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4.0 out of 5 stars A good readReviewed in France on October 18, 2021
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Why Fish Don’t Exist; as mentioned above in one of the longest write-ups I have read for such a small book, is a book from the NPR reporter Lulu Miller on David Starr Jordan, a taxonomist who was also the first Chancellor of the Stanford University in California, US.

The book starts by simultaneously describing her own personal crisis and then introducing David Starr Jordan, a man born during the mid-19th century in the state of New York, who was highly interesting in observing an understanding nature during his childhood. Considering the author’s personal crisis, she wanted to seek inspiration from the life of David Starr Jordan, whom despite his circumstances, had immense levels of confidence and on the face of any crisis, looked for a solution to make the solution better. However, the more she learned about him, the more she learned of a dark side to his personality and the consequences of his actions.

I was initially apprehensive about the book considering I had heard of David Jordan, who was the first Chancellor of Stanford University and also an early proponent of eugenics. However, these fears did not last long as the writer explored all sides to him and it did not lead to unnecessary levels of glorification and in fact, quite the opposite.

The book did seem directionless in the initial phases and left me confused if the objective was to talk about herself or if this was a biography of David Starr Jordan. Portraying him as someone beating the odds did not sit well with me considering he seemed very successful at quite a young age. But as it went, I enjoyed reading the book, especially the latter half, where we learn a lot of dark aspects which most are unaware of – like the forced sterilisation programmes that were carried out in the United States inspired by scientists like Jordan.

The author also brought about her disillusionment over David Jordan very well, considering his work often involved exploiting the locals in Japan or Polynesia without giving them credit for the ‘discovery’ of the fish, a murder allegation against him, etc.

The ending justified the title and was also powerful as the author figures her own way to deal with her personal crisis. And I need to mention here that I loved the illustrations by Kate Samworth at the beginning of every chapter.

On that note, I would say that the book was an enjoyable read – has a beautiful cover and good illustrations, to add to the reading experience. Would recommend it as a light read (which deals with a lot of heavy topics) and on that note, I would award the book a rating of four on five.
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It's hard to describe this book. It's part biography, memoir and dabbles in science reporting as well. Lulu Miller made me laugh and moved me to tears in Why Fish Don't Exist.

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The Sweetest Fruits
by Monique Truong (Goodreads Author)
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An ingenious reimagining of Greek-Irish writer Lafcadio Hearn's migratory life through the voices of the women who knew him best, and who testify to their own remarkable journeys

A Greek woman tells of how she willed herself out of her father's cloistered house, married an Irish officer in the British Army, and came to Ireland with her two-year-old son in 1852, only to be forced to leave without him soon after. An African American woman, born into slavery on a Kentucky plantation, makes her way to Cincinnati after the Civil War to work as a boarding house cook, where in 1872 she meets and marries an up-and-coming newspaper reporter. In Matsue, Japan, in 1891, a former samurai's daughter is introduced to a newly arrived English teacher, and becomes the mother of his four children and his unsung literary collaborator.

The lives of writers can often best be understood through the eyes of those who nurtured them and made their work possible. In The Sweetest Fruits, these three women tell the story of their time with Lafcadio Hearn, a globetrotting writer best known for his books about Meiji-era Japan. In their own unorthodox ways, these women are also intrepid travelers and explorers. Their accounts witness Hearn's remarkable life but also seek to witness their own existence and luminous will to live unbounded by gender, race, and the mores of their time. Each is a gifted storyteller with her own precise reason for sharing her story, and together their voices offer a revealing, often contradictory portrait of Hearn. With brilliant sensitivity and an unstinting eye, Truong illuminates the women's tenacity and their struggles in a novel that circumnavigates the globe in the search for love, family, home, and belonging. (less)
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Jan 05, 2020Stacia marked it as abandoned
I should have liked it. I did like it. But I got halfway through & never really felt the urge to pick it up again. Shrug.
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Annie
Aug 11, 2019Annie rated it it was amazing
At one point in Monique Truong’s novel, The Sweetest Fruits, one of the narrators tells her interviewer that it’s not enough to just get the story of one person: you have to also get the stories of the people around them. And that’s exactly what we get in this novel based on the life of author Lafcadio Hearn and three of the women in his life. (Technically four, if you count the excerpts from Elizabeth Bisland‘s biography of her friend.) While we learn a lot about Hearn, I was more fascinated by the lives of the women who loved him than I was about a man who often struck me as selfish and fussy. The women tell us about love, sacrifice, abandonment, difficult choices, compatibility, and so much more. This book is an amazing piece of writing that, while it hews very close to actual history, amplifies it in ways that only faction can do...

Read the rest of my review at A Bookish Type. I received a free copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley, for review consideration. (less)
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Oceantide74
Jan 11, 2020Oceantide74 rated it did not like it
1.5 stars. I admit I was ignorant about Hearn. I liked the beginning chapters about his mother (what a sad and lonely childhood Lafcadio had) and then it went downhill from there. The sections of the book were not seamless and I was confused by who was who with all the different Japanese names. I especially did not like the biographical parts of Elizabeth. I found myself skimming towards the end and wanting to just finish it.
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Cat
Sep 14, 2019Cat rated it really liked it
I think Truong is a stunningly brilliant writer. Her Bitter in the Mouth is one of my favorite books, and I teach the luminous and melancholy The Book of Salt. Her gift with understated yet indelible narrative voices is displayed to full effect in The Sweetest Fruits, the story of Greek-Irish writer Lafcadio Hearn, whom I did not know at all, told by three women who loved him. That synopsis is accurate and yet utterly misleading; that summary sounds like an exhausting "Great Man" history, and indeed, the New Yorker, mentioning Truong's new book in a recent article, takes up that invitation and starts trying to define what it is that made Lafcadio's voice so memorable, his achievement great. But for me, this book was more about what Virginia Woolf famously called the tale of Judith Shakespeare, the women's stories that fall by the wayside in the construction of the Great Man narrative, and particularly the women of color. Truong does not villainize Hearn, and indeed, she implies that his disability (a childhood eye injury leading to partial blindness) and his dark skin gave him the negative capability to relate to marginalized peoples. He drinks and carouses in black neighborhoods in the US; he takes on a Japanese name and citizenship when he moves to Japan; he cherishes the Caribbean islands and mourns the hurricanes they face.

In spite of this receptivity and charm in Hearn, Truong also charts the sinister power of white masculinity. In the first section, narrated by Hearn's mother, the gradual dismissal of her by her Irish lover and his aunt's bribe to be rid of this inconvenient mother and gifted her boy child who could be the family heir are deeply disturbing. At first, she lives in veritable confinement as a young girl, and then when she seeks companionship and intimacy, her pregnancy launches her into a life of estrangement and isolation with little consolation from the Irish man who loved sleeping with a passionate young virgin in a barn but cherished far less the prospect of a dark-skinned, non-English speaking wife back home. You see the immediate physical and social costs of being a woman in this patriarchal, Anglophilic society, no matter the sympathies the Irishman initially has with languages and identities repressed by colonial powers.

In the second section, it is not Hearn's father who is the embodiment of white masculinity's privilege and cruelty, but rather Hearn himself. An African-American book named Althea describes her courtship by this unusual young man, the drawings he would make for her, casting himself as a crow alighting on her branch. Hearn devotes himself to Alethea and to her foster child, but after marrying her, resents the limits that her color places on his career and status. He internalizes the shame of a white supremacist society, and he ultimately abandons her. But Truong makes it clear that Hearn is not merely responding to external pressures; he imagines himself her author and instructor: he renames her, never calling her Alethea; he rejects her Southern cooking and insists that she prepare European fare (and then denigrates what she comes up with). The sweetness of the man who scribbled her drawings and insisted that color was no object to their love gives way to the autocratism of unearned arrogance. She is disillusioned when she realizes the full extent of his alcoholism and philandering. The whole section is also cast as a letter defending her legal rights to claim him as a husband, which underscores how she has been erased from the official narrative. (Truong extensively quotes Hearn's first biographer, which is a beautifully pointed reflection on historiography's power.)

Finally, the last section of the novel is narrated by Setsu, Hearn's Japanese wife. She is the mother of his children and his ambassador to a new world, which he would become famous in the West for documenting and preserving. Setsu's section establishes Hearn's figuratively blindness, which comes from his own sense of himself as a European explorer in a quaint, Oriental, authentic land. He blunders into rural regions and insists on viewing their folk traditions; Setsu lies to him in order to protect him from the villagers' rage and violence. Hearn cannot imagine that any of these religious and ritual observances should not belong to him. He coopts Setsu's personal stories in his literary works, rarely referring to her (as his son resentfully realizes). He also overlooks the blossoming love between his wife and his best friend and translator, who dies young of tuberculosis. Setsu skillfully allows her husband to believe in her unwavering and exclusive devotion, a loyalty that he both counts upon and discounts as he sees her as a tool establishing his own authorship and paternity.

Because I don't know Hearn's work at all, my overwhelming impression from the novel was of his arrogance and unwitting cruelty. I suspect that Truong has more sympathy with Hearn than I ended up feeling. Men get to tell the story and reap the rewards; Hearn writes a Creole cookbook (claiming Alethea's territory) and Japanese ghost stories (claiming Setsu's). Maybe there will be a point in my life where I see more pathos in the condition of the white dude caught between imperialism and alterity, nationalism and expatriatism, privilege and marginalization. But for now, I was much more taken--thanks to Truong's artistry--with these women and their stories of survival and insight. (less)
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Laura 
Nov 10, 2019Laura rated it liked it
I loved the first 2/3rds of this book so much! I found the last third, the final narrator, impenetrable. It took me weeks to get through that last section. I can appreciate the monumental task of this book and the first sections were truly great.
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Mrs C 
Jun 08, 2019Mrs C rated it it was amazing
This is a reimagined life of Patricio Lafcaido Hearn, a Greek-Irish writer with a storied life as told by three women. The first is his mom, a Greek woman who was later forced to abandon Hearn when he was 2. The second is Hearn’s first wife, a black cook whom he married while he was a young reporter in Cincinatti. The third is his second wife, a high-ranking Samurai’s daughter who was half Hearn’s age whom he married while living as a teacher for boys in Japan. Majestic and lyrical. Great for fans of Ernest Van der Kwast.

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Moumita
Oct 13, 2020Moumita rated it it was amazing
I did not like the man. I liked those around him. You can tell that this story was meticulously researched and I really enjoyed the range of voices.
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cat
Dec 20, 2019cat rated it it was ok
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SO BUMMED! Her novel the Book of Salt was one of my favorite books and I was incredibly excited to read this one. Nope. I can see how others may love it, and she is obviously an incredibly talented writer, but I could barely make myself care enough to finish the book. This is probably the saddest review of the year for me. I had such expectations. Both of her other novels won rave reviews from me and I recommended them to everyone I know, and then this book, which I could not connect with at all. Seriously bummed AND still excited for anything else she writes... (less)
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Ming
Dec 25, 2019Ming rated it really liked it
"Wait, are we talking about the same person?"  Ever hear that when two or more people compare notes about a supposed "common" other who is unrecognizable to each.

In three sections, women in different countries and cultures describe Lafcadio at different spans of his life.  Each depiction could not be more distinct from the other two.  The constants are food and an Elizabeth character.  Each section is actually the story about a woman than the man they had in common. He, the professional storyteller, is used as an instrument in the service of the women with the stories.

Truong's writing is beautiful and clever; and her imagined perspectives on Lafcadio sharp and witty.  She performs, in writing, a kind of channeling, rich with the flaws of humanity and insights into its irony and contradictions.  There's an affectionate acuity in Truong's writing. (And I often think about her book, Bitter in the Mouth, the only book I reread immediately after turning the last page on the first go. And thus, I anticipated this book and will eagerly wait for more from her.)

Several quotes:

...When my father was not an echo, he spoke in circles, a snake swallowing its tail.

At midmorning, the aromas , which hung like damp laundry over the street of villas, were the same as those coming from Kanella's kitchen. Onions and olive oil. The whole island by noon was a pan of sweet onions melting....

I was spare with my words when I was with Charles, as the fewer that I used, the better we understood each other.

....We understood one another. I understood them so well that I soon despised them both....

Believing a man doesn't mean making a fool of yourself. that was Aunt Sweetie talking. Molly taught me my kitchen skills but Aunt Sweetie taught me--or she tried to--what I would need to know in the other rooms of the house. She never married, and she told me that made her wiser than most women.

Religion, Pat had said to me and then I had repeated it to Charlotte, was for people who needed to believe that death was better than life. I was afraid to tell her what else Pat had said, but I did. Heaven is a good story, Mattie, and good stories get retold....

...Pat was a terrible storyteller, and I told him so.   Pat looked up, his eye aglow. On the contrary, he said. He was a very good storyteller, as the listener wanted to know more, which was the point of storytelling.

When you've been taught that you are lesser, there was another way to empty yourself of anger, the stubborn kind, the kind closer to shame. It was cheaper than drink, but it cost those around you more.  I didn't tell Pat about this other way. he came to it on his own.

...I don't know what Creole cooking is, but if these are colored folks, then I know a thing or two about what's on their tables. What I want to know is whether these were the dishes that they cooked in their own kitchens or whether these were dishes that they cooked in the kitchens of others. The two aren't the same. The first is what they hunger for, and the second is what their hunger make them do.

..."Facts are akin to fish bones," he said. "If what you want is to serve the flesh, then the bones can be discarded," he suggested. (less)
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Toni
Sep 11, 2020Toni rated it it was ok
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Barely 2 stars!

OMG it took reading almost 1/2 of the story before the line of writing became evident and made some sort of sense (that a journalist was taking the story of three women and their life connections to Patrick Hearn). Google Patrick Hearn to learn who he was; that's what I had to do in order to understand this story. I actually got more about the story from the GoodReads synopsis than from the book itself!

Truong has a very unorthodox writing style; I didn't particularly enjoy it. The beginning of the story and the end alike 9the stories of Casi and Setsu - mother and wife 2 ) were very confusing. Plus the interjections of Elizabeth (the journalist) only added to the confusion. It was like putting together a tough jigsaw puzzle.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO - I give Althea's story and almost 3 stars and the rest of the book I can only give one star which averages out to barely two stars! I wouldn't consider reading other books by Tuong. (less)
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Laurie
Jan 04, 2020Laurie rated it it was amazing
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Yes, I was immediately drawn to The Sweetest Fruits because Lafcadio Hearn (what is it that makes him so fascinating?) is the subject....but this is not a book about Lafcadio Hearn, or only tangentially. What the book is really about is the inner life of the women in Hearn's life and through telling their tales of their lives with him, we see their love, loss and pain; and Hearn's as well. Each woman, first his Greek mother, Rosa Antonia Cassimati, then his African-American wife, Alethea Foley and finally his Japanese wife, Koizumi Setsu share their reminiscences of life with Hearn with his first official biographer, Elizabeth Bisland. But that's only the story for the public; what makes this book so good is the second story that each woman relates; the story they've held back to keep just for themselves. Monique Truong brings to her characters an individual voice and pathos which makes each woman equally as fascinating as Lafcadio Hearn. (less)
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Rachel
Feb 18, 2020Rachel rated it liked it
Patrick Lafcadio Hearn is not fictional character, I did not know that until reading the other reviews of this book on Goodreads.

His life was peripatetic. His mother abandoned him and set him up for a lifetime of trying to feel at home. Born in Greece and raised in Ireland he always seemed to be a stranger in a strange land.

His life is recounted for us by the women who loved him. I found the first two thirds of this book fascinating and beautifully written. The work begins in 1823 and ends in the early years of the twentieth century. The women are his mother, his first wife and his last wife.

The last third, written by the last woman in his life to be confusing, as others have noted.
However, I found the book fascinating and I am glad that I read it. (less)
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Eric
Jun 21, 2021Eric rated it it was amazing
Excellent. Such good decisions about how to tell this story, and the cumulative effect makes for a really pleasing and (if the metaphor holds) thought-provoking aftertaste. This is a book about Lafcadio Hearn, and a book about so much more, as he is seen and heard and grieved by three (four?) women whose own lives are partly but by no means entirely involved with his. For me the Koizumi Setsu section is a masterpiece.
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Beth
Sep 29, 2020Beth rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Elizabeth Bisland is writing a story on the life of author Patrick Hearn as told by his mother Casi, his first wife Althea, and his second wife Setsu. I found the format of this book confusing with the sections of Elizabeth added in between the other three. It took me a while to follow along with the style of writing.
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Elizabeth
Sep 16, 2019Elizabeth rated it really liked it
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An interesting idea and format though, because I chose to read it mostly because of an interest in Lafcadio Hearn, I finished it feeling somewhat shortchanged.
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The Sweetest Fruits by Monique Truong
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The Sweetest Fruits relates a saga that apanned three generations and three continents around Lafcadia Hearn, also known as Yakumo Koizumi, by way of testimonies from his mother and his two successive wives.
Warning: SPOILERS
The saga started in the late 1940s on an island then under British rule in the Ionian Sea. Rosa, of noble descent, was a prisoner in her father’s house. Until she was twenty five “[he] forbade her everything except for the Villa Cassimati [where they lived] and a church in the Fortezza.”
But Rosa was not the kind of woman her father wanted her to be. She secretly dated a young Irish surgeon for the British army and they married when she was pregnant with Lafcadio. The child was two years old when Charles was reassigned to Dominica and he sent him and Rosa to Dublin to be taken care of by his mother. But nothing worked in Dublin, the coupled got estranged and Rosa returned to her home island, leaving his son, four years old, in the care of her husband’s family.
Lafcadio met Mattie in Cincinnati in the aftermath of the Civil War when she was a cook at a boarding house and Lafcadio became a boarder. She was a former slave and illiterate and he had arrived in the U.S. at nineteen with no money, left to fend for himself. By then he was a fledgling reporter for one of the city’s leading newspapers. They married when she was twenty and he was twenty three but life was complicated for a young mixed couple. He lost his job when the newspaper found out he lived with a black woman,and being together in the street was a risky venture. “If there were two or more of us, they would spot us without fail. Then, without fail, there would be trouble.” Their marriage lasted three years, more short-lived than his mother’s.
Lafcadia arrived in Japan at the age of forty in 1890, after the proclamation of the Meiji Constitution. He married Setsu, twenty two, a Samurai’s daughter, a year later. By then he had had a solid reputation in the U.S. as a writer and a journalist and he started a career as a teacher, eventually as a professor at prestigious universities. He also got Japanese citizenship and a Japanese name. Setsu and he had a happy, uneventful life, raising three sons and a younger daughter.
His only unhappy experience related to his work. Toward the end of his life “[he] wrote to friends in America for aid to find work there.” He then applied for a sabbatical leave he was entitled to for his travel to the U.S. and resigned when the leave was refused, “[c]convinced that [the refusal] was intended as a slight by the authorities in their purpose to be rid of him.”
The three testimonies are laced with large excerpts from The Life and Letters of Lafcadio Hearn by Elizabeth Bisland- for a reason.
Whereas Setsu’s testimony covers all the years she had shared with her husband until he died, Rosa’s last sight of her son had been of a four-year-old and Mattie had lived with LafcadIo only for three years. However close he had been to their hearts, Rosa and Mattie’s testimonies alone would not have been sufficient to shed enough light on the first four decades of his life.
Let the reader make no mistake, though. If there actually existed a biography entitled The Life and Letters of Lafcadio Hearn by an American writer and journalist named Elizabeth Bisland, the excerpts
in the novel are fiction, just like the women’s testimonies. Monique Truong said so in so many words since by her Acnowlegment all four protagonists including Bisland “kept Hearn’s secrets and theirs so close” and “divulged so little” “they made me work for every word.”
Ms. Truong’s mischievous sleight of hand notwithstanding, readers may find indeed hard to distinguish fact from fiction but they are warned beforehand: “Tell all the truth but tell it slanted” is the quote from Emily Dickinson that adorn The Sweetest Fruits’s frontispiece.

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Dec 22, 2021Lisa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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What a pleasure it was to read this book!

The Sweetest Fruits, by Vietnamese-American author Monique Truong, is a fictionalised life of Lafcadio Hearn (1850-1904). Of Greek-Irish heritage, Hearn was born on the Greek island of Lefkada; was abandoned by his father and then by his mother who unwisely left him under guardianship in Ireland.  From there he was tutored in Wales and educated in France; but learned the craft of journalism and translation in the US; and subsequently in Japan became a teacher who introduced its culture and literature to the West.  As we learn from the Afterword, Truong discovered the bare bones of his life story during research for a previous book Bitter in the Mouth.  The novel had to have an authentic cornbread recipe from the South not the North, and the brief but intriguing bio that she found in an encyclopedia of food alerted her to Hearn's La Cuisine Creole: A Collection of Culinary Recipes (1885).  As a child refugee from Vietnam, Truong is fascinated by people who choose to live in exile from country, family, language, and the physical and emotional assemblage of home so she had found the topic for her next novel and The Sweetest Fruits is the result.

A deft mixture of fact and imagination, Hearn's story is told in the distinctive voices of three women who were crucially important in his life, punctuated by the contrasting voice of his real-life biographer Elizabeth Bisland.  The effect is not to make the reader doubt the veracity of these women but to acknowledge that people present different versions of themselves to others for all sorts of reasons, dubious or otherwise.

BEWARE: MILD SPOILERS

The first narrator is the illiterate (real-life) Rosa Antonia Cassimati, (1823-1882) dictating her story to Elesa, who is nanny to her second but (so far) only surviving child, Patricio Lafcadio Hearn.  En route to Dublin where she hopes to reunite with the father of this child, Charles Bush Hearn, Rosa has escaped the bullying and cruelty of her childhood home where she was held to blame for her mother's premature death and destined to live out her days in a convent.  Naïve and inexperienced in the ways of men, Rosa has to learn the hard way that men like Charles care more about their military careers in far-flung places than they do about their families.

 Commemorative plaque to Lafcadio Hearn, 48 Gardiner Street Lower, Dublin, Ireland. (Wikipedia)

The reader does not learn about the betrayal of Rosa's hopes in this part of the story.  That comes later in the second narration, which is by (real-life) Alethea Foley (1853-1913) in Cincinnati.

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The Sweetest Fruits by Monique Truong is the imagined story of three women who were all attached to Greek-Irish writer Patrick Lafcadio Hearn. Ms. Truong came to the US as a refugee from Vietnam, and is an award winning, bestselling author.

The novel is divided into three parts, three women talking about their relationship to Lafcadio Hearn. The first is his mother, a Greek woman who married an Irish officer in the British Army to get out of her father’s house. She followed her husband to Ireland, only to be forced to leave him.

The second, a former slave, an African-American woman from a Kentucky plantation. Making her way to Cincinnati after the Civil war working at a boarding house cook. At the boarding house she meets, and marries Hearn who is trying to make his name as a reporter.

The third, a Japanese woman named Matsue who got married to the new English teacher… Mr. Hearn. Matsue, a samurai’s daughter, gives birth to four children and collaborates with Hearn in his literary ventures.

I knew nothing about Patrick Lafcadio Hearn, I actually only found out he was a real person after finishing to read this book. The Sweetest Fruits by Monique Truong is the author’s attempt to tell the readers about the Greek-Irish writer through the women who knew him throughout his life, through their words, acts, and deeds.

The book has its ups and downs, the last third took a bit of concentration and perseverance, but overall I though that the writing was witty, and the narrative sharp. The author does not shy away from showing the humanity and flaws in the women who tell the story, as well as Mr. Hearn who had a tremendous impact on each one of their lives.

I almost skipped this book because the synopsis made it seem like it would be a history of one of those “great men” no-one had heard about. Instead we get different view points of what made Mr. Hearn’s voice so memorable to his fans, through tales from the women who fell by the wayside, but have had as much an impact on the writer as he had on himself.

What I thought was remarkable is that the author did not make Mr. Hearn the villain, nor the antagonist even though the story is told through the eyes of the women who loved him, the ones he loved back, and did wrong during his life. The author simply implies that due to childhood disability and dark skin he can relate to people who were marginalized at the time, and some are still marginalized today.

Frankly, I had no sympathy for Hearn, I am not familiar with his work and – even though I don’t think it was the author’s intention – he comes off as a jerk, arrogant, and even cruel. Even though Mr. Hearn is the focus of the book, the women telling it, survivors one and all, are the ones to give the reader insight. (less)
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