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Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith
20 May 2008 | Kindle eBook

by George Vaillant


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In our current era of holy terror, passionate faith has come to seem like a present danger. Writers such as Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, and Christopher Hitchens have been happy to throw the baby out with the bathwater and declare that the danger is in religion itself. God, Hitchens writes, is not great.

But man, according to George E. Vaillant, M.D., is great. In Spiritual Evolution, Dr. Vaillant lays out a brilliant defense not of organized religion but of man’s inherent spirituality. Our spirituality, he shows, resides in our uniquely human brain design and in our innate capacity for emotions like love, hope, joy, forgiveness, and compassion, which are selected for by evolution and located in a different part of the brain than dogmatic religious belief. Evolution has made us spiritual creatures over time, he argues, and we are destined to become even more so. Spiritual Evolution makes the scientific case for spirituality as a positive force in human evolution, and he predicts for our species an even more loving future.

Vaillant traces this positive force in three different kinds of “evolution”: the natural selection of genes over millennia, of course, but also the cultural evolution within recorded history of ideas about the value of human life, and the development of spirituality within the lifetime of each individual. For thirty-five years, Dr. Vaillant directed Harvard’s famous longitudinal study of adult development, which has followed hundreds of men over seven decades of life. The study has yielded important insights into human spirituality, and Dr. Vaillant has drawn on these and on a range of psychological research, behavioral studies, and neuroscience, and on history, anecdote, and quotation to produce a book that is at once a work of scientific argument and a lyrical meditation on what it means to be human.

Spiritual Evolution is a life’s work, and it will restore our belief in faith as an essential human striving.




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I read slowly and reread which is not like me. I found much of myself and my ...July 10, 2015
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As a "Buddhist/atheist/humanist I have strong suspicions and negative experiences with organized religions. This man looks the the ineffable, non- verbalizable experience of "connectedness" through the portholes of neuroscience, socialization and personal intuition. I read slowly and reread which is not like me. I found much of myself and my thinking concretized in there. A+

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Dale Floody

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A blend of science, spirituality, AA, and prosocial behaviorMay 29, 2009
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If you want to read just one good book about spirituality, I highly recommend George Valliant's (2008) Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith. Vaillant is a research psychiatrist (which means the book is crammed with neurobiology) and directed Harvard's Study of Adult Development for 35 years. His conception of spirituality revolves around the eight positive emotions that involve human connection. He argues throughout that prosocial behavior is part and parcel of natural selection, that positive emotions both promote and follow prosocial behavior, and that this process occurs in the limbic and parasympathetic systems and the amygdala (rather than in conscious, cognitive thought processes), and that humanity is moving (from an evolutionary perspective) in the direction of greater spiritual (prosocial) interaction.

Vaillant would argue that spirituality defies rational, cognitive description. Vaillant's final chapter, entitled "The Difference Between Religion and Spirituality", is primarily a fascinating discussion of Alcoholics Anonymous ("AA"), which he concludes is mostly a spiritual rather than a religious program. AA certainly has its detractors, but it has also helped an awful lot of people to maintain sobriety, and Vaillant's discussion of the spiritual aspect of the program was most interesting. Given my emphasis on the importance of humor, I was also pleased to note his comment that AA meetings tend to be filled with laughter and humor (although, beneath it all there is a "deadly seriousness"). Excellent book.

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5.0 out of 5 starsA great book from a legendAugust 13, 2015
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Wow - a great book from a legend in the field of psychological and well being research. Vaillant has really outdone himself with this book. Using data from the last 80+ years (much of it from the Harvard men's study), he talks about love, joy, passion, faith and other elements of our spiritual lives in easy-to-understand, yet impactful ways.

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Difficult reading, befitting a psychiatrist who is writing a defense of Spirituality (as opposed to religion). It's good enough I am re-reading it, this time highlighting the noteworthy text. There's a lot of noteworthy text. Highly recommended for thinkers.

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4.0 out of 5 starsAn Inspirational ReadFebruary 4, 2013
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It is difficult to bring clarity to the difference between religion and spirituality, but he has done it. Simple yet powerful concepts in this book fill each page and help us to understand ourselves better. A good example of one of these concepts is that normal human development is actually a spiritual progression. He shows with great success how religion harnesses our positive emotions and how cults abuse them. After reading his book I have renewed hope that we can all coexist, and that we can put the nonsense to rest.

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5.0 out of 5 starsSpiritual Evolution; how we are wired for faith, hope and loveFebruary 21, 2012
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I have never read anything by this author that I didn't like. This book arises out of his experience with a longitudinal study on the natural history of mental illness. Within this study was around 180 alcoholics that he followed through most of their life. His finding that Alcoholics Anonymous was superior to professinal treatment led him to consider how spirituality contributed to his process. I have been dealing in these issues for 30 years and find his book breathtakingly to the point. It is a must read for Ministry and Professional's involved in recovery.

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Aug 07, 2008Patrick Tracey rated it it was amazing
This is a book by George Valliant, a Harvard scientist following in the footsteps of thinkers like E.O. Wilson who started the whole movement to "biologize" spirituality.

The key point is the difference between the brain's mammalian limbic system and its reptilian amygdilla. Apparently the brains of reptiles have no limbic region, and this explains why they don't cry out for their parents. They remain silent, frozen in the fear that if they make but a peep, their daddies might eat them.

It turns out that the reptiles are missing the limbic region that contains the brain's hard wiring for the most important things that make life worth living -- empathy and compassion and a willingness to care for people who are not our blood relatives. It's also the part of the brain that embraces the unselfish maternal care for the young (love, we could call it) and play (joy, we could call it) and the separation cry of babies for their parents

So the good news is that we mammals have moved up the evolutionary spiritual chain with the limbic region, but we still have the reptile's old amygdilla region to drive us nuts with fear.

What I like as well is that Valliant takes on the arrogance of fashionable post-modern intellectuals who, as the blind followers of Freud, have rejected positive psychology and, with it, any serious consideration of how we are hard wired for positive emotions like love and joy.

Until very recently, in fact, positive emotions have been entirely absent from psychiatric textbooks. In the bargain, love has been overlooked

How unexpected that the biologists -- along with the quantum physicists -- are leading the psychologists back to God these days.

God, of course, is just a word--and words are but symbols of symbols. People get hung up on it, but why bother? I'd rather conceptualize God as The Force of Ever Giving Love and keeping pumping that nonreligious love through my own brain's limbic region.

What I take away from this book is that at every moment in our lives there are only ever three basic options before us: We can feel fear through our amygdalla. We can feel love through our limbic. Or we can argue about it all day through our prefontal cortex . . Peace . . . PT


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Jan 27, 2009John Schneider added it
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Dr. George E. Vaillant M.D., a psychoanalyst, research psychiatrist, and professor at Harvard University, breaks new ground in the age old controversy between science and faith. The book convincingly defends, through reference to historic data and recent research, the proposition that the positive emotions of faith, love, hope, joy, forgiveness, compassion, and awe and mystical illumination are a product of Darwinian evolution and natural selection. The premise is put forward that the mammalian capacity for love and commitment has grown out of the survival need to propagate and nurture children in a hostile environment. Dr. Valliant makes the case that these positive emotions are produced in the more primitive limbic system of the brain rather than the more highly developed neocortex, basically that we are hardwired for selflessness. The development of these positive emotions is largely responsible for the tendency toward more complex relationships and community building in our society.

Dr. Valliant is obviously committed to the theory of Darwinian evolution, yet seems to be open to the existence of God, though loosely defined in his book. As anyone who has read Darwin's abstract On the Origin of Species knows, Darwin himself concedes that the evidence put forth to prove the theory of evolution could just as well apply to the existence of an all powerful creator, and that much more observation would be required to prove his theory. Unfortunately, Darwin died before he could accumulate his further evidence. Dr. Vaillant seems just as content with this conclusion.

The book urges that not only can and must these two perspectives on the nature of our universe peacefully coexist, but that science and spirituality actually have much to contribute to one another. It is of course an answer to both the fundamentalist extremes of the religious right and the radical atheism or anti-theism of Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens.

Dr. Vaillant draws a distinction between genuine spirituality and dogmatic religious belief, which actually reside in different parts of our brain. According to Dr. Vaillant, "the former engages with a formal religious group's doctrines, values, traditions, and co-members, while the latter relates to an individuals connection with something transcendent. Like culture and language, religious faith traditions bind us to our own community and isolate us from the communities of others; while our spirituality is common to all of us. Religion asks us to learn from the experience of our tribe; spirituality urges us to savor our own experience. Religion causes us to mistrust the experience of other tribes; spirituality helps us to regard the experience of the foreigner as valuable too."

Dr. Vaillant predicts that spirituality will continue to evolve through the power of positive emotions and will increasingly contribute to making our world a more communal-minded place. Not only have we evolved spiritually as a species, but as we age as individuals we evolve from the exclusive positions of religious dogmatism to the more inclusive tendencies of openness and tolerance for the beliefs of others. Spirituality, then, the belief in something transcendent, is a net positive for the human race and anyone who suggests otherwise (Dawkins, Harris, and Hitchens) would do well to read this book.

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Sep 08, 2014Pam rated it it was amazing
Beautifully written. There are eleven chapters as follows: Positive Emotions, The Prose and the Passion, Three Evolutions, Faith, Love, Hope, Joy, Forgiveness, Compassion, Awe and Mystical Illumination, and finally The Difference Between Religion and Spirituality. Each chapter/concept flows into the next as the author details why he believes that we are spiritual creatures. In chapter eleven he writes: "In this chapter, I reach for the conclusion that I hope has come to seem inevitable: that the human capacity for positive emotions is what makes us spiritual, and that to focus on the positive emotions is the best and safest route to spirituality that we are likely to find." Highly recommended reading. (less)
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Apr 19, 2011Sandra rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
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This book... very profoundly changed the way i think, or at least it has for now. I read it at exactly the right time that i needed to, just when i was wondering how exactly one harnesses the emotional part of your brain in truth-seeking, how exactly a characteristic like faith is valuable, and why in the hell does God seem like a big fat mean jerk 98% of the time?

It starts out very heavily, laying down the basic groundwork around which the rest of the book is written, so there's a lot of neuroscience and genetic/cultural evolution stuff which, while fascinating, my brain had difficulty synthesizing in the wee hours of the morning that i'd read. So i think that's why it took me so long to actually become absorbed in the book, but once i got past that and into the nitty-gritty of things, i could not put it down.

IMPORTANT THINGS I PICKED UP:

1. Post-formal operations. Um, holy crap, this completely changed the way i think about the entire "God is good" conundrum. The second i read this portion, i had to put the book down to write about how absolutely dickish i felt. He doesn't even explicitly state it as an explanation for that mental dilemma, but when i got to thinking about it, i understood.

In late adulthood, cognitive development may continue beyond Piaget’s formal operations into what Harvard psychologist Michael Commons has termed “post-formal operations”. Post-formal operations involve appreciation of irony and of paradox. By paradox, I mean learning to trust a universe in which the uncertainty principle is a basic axiom of quantum physics, in which good and evil exist side by side, in which innocent children die from bubonic plague, and in which to keep something you have to give it away. As in quantum mechanics, certainty is an impossibility. Only faith and trust remain. The frontal cortex, the seat of our social morality, can be both limbic and neocortical at the same time. It took the Catholic Church two millenia of cultural evolution and John Paul II eighty years of personal maturation for a Vatican pope to master paradox and finally refer to Jews and Muslims as “brothers.” If the bad news is that maturation takes a long time, the good news is that once you learn to ride a bicycle or fully understand that all women and all men are created equal, it is hard to forget.

I have no understanding of paradox. I'm not that mature. I think that just by knowing that that sort of thinking is possible - and also necessary - i am better equipped to deal with that particular mental stress.

2. Some emotions are inarticulate. Profound joy, love, faith... none of these things are available for cognitive explication. We can talk about those things til we're blue in the face but it's not going to make any sense until we immerse ourselves in it. He also did me the kindness of separating the cognitive functions from the emotional ones in the positive emotions he delves into, such as the difference of faith from delusion, faith from belief, happiness from joy, spiritual awe from drug states, forgiveness from tolerance, wishing from hoping, compassion from projection. THANK YOU FOR THAT, DR. VALLIANT.

3. Real faith/hope/love/positive emotions are empathic and focus on the other rather than ourselves. It also leads to action, not just to prayer. It's a Karen Armstrong thing i guess, where valid religiosity must lead to practical compassion. I'm with that. My only issue is then we ourselves are making that value judgment - can everyone really tell when they're just being selfish? I guess i trust myself to. I don't know if i trust everyone else.

4. I've stopped trusting people. This book has illuminated my profound mistrust of others and the lengths to which my independence has separated me from my community. Time to learn to get it back.

I can understand how some other reviewers might have found it distressing and disappointing, but i don't think it ever claimed to hold scientific defense of religion. And it's important, too, that he made that distinction between religion and spirituality. I think spirituality validates religion where science cannot, but only with a proper examination and understanding of exactly why faith and other inarticulate positive emotions are necessary in certain portions of our cognitive imaginings.

All in all, a very profound and thought-provoking read. I've gotten so much from reading it, and anyone who considers themselves to be on a spiritual journey will greatly benefit from a day or two of going through this book.(less)
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Jun 06, 2013Terry rated it really liked it
Dr. Vaillant directed Harvard's longitudinal study of adult development and followed hundreds of men over seven decades of their lives. From his pioneering research work, along with research from the fields of neuroscience, psychology, and history Dr. Vaillant has developed interesting and important insights into human spirituality. He maintains that humans have evolved to experience spirituality and a concept of God at three levels: biological (genetic evolution), societal (cultural evolution) and individual (personal evolution through aging/adult development). He clearly delineates spirituality from religion. He sets out eight "positive" emotions that he believes comprise our experience of spirituality: faith, hope, love, joy, compassion, forgiveness, awe and gratitude. He outlines a biological basis for why these pro-social behaviors tend to improve as we age.

The book is a disquisition on how our brain is wired to experience both negative (fight/flight) emotions and positive emotions. The brain retains precise details of both traumatic experiences (PTSD) and strong mystical experience. Strong negative and positive emotional experiences have the capacity to significantly influence our future relationships and interactions with others. The good news is that we can affect our of positive emotions. The experience of positive emotions does not have to be associated with religion (Vaillant has worked with people in AA and discusses the spiritual basis of AA). I found the chapters that discussed each positive emotion to be the most interesting. Vaillant discusses the importance of spiritual practice and how spirituality and community building (strengthening our relationships with others) go hand-in-hand. One of my favorite quotes in the book (p. 165) is from Steven Post of Case Western University: "All true virtue and meaningful spirituality is shaped by love, and any spiritual transformation that is not a migration toward love is suspect."

This book provides a very hopeful view of humankind. Vaillant believes that human beings, as individuals and as cultures, are growing in compassion and generosity for each other. While newscasts may carry a different perspective, Vaillant provides evidence that mankind is becoming more spiritually oriented and that the positive emotions are one of the reasons for our success as a species.
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Aug 18, 2010Odile rated it liked it
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[...] Another recent book dealing with cultural, but particularly emotional, evolution is George E. Vaillant‘s Spiritual Evolution. It focuses mainly on the relationship between a range of positive emotions and different areas of the brain. For each of these emotions (among others love, joy, and compassion) Vaillant shows the ties to different stages in evolution ranging from basic impulses we share with reptilians to more recent developments in neo-cortex unique to humans and (some) other mammals. The style of the book is informal and anecdotal, ultimately not geared towards a scientific proof of all the author’s assertions, but more towards an emotional and spiritual resonance in the reader, which makes it a stimulating read anyhow, although a more rigorous scientific treatment might make the book more convincing to some people.

Vaillant’s main point is that a revaluation of the positive emotions will enable us to lead spiritual lives that benefit both ourselves and others around us. By examining the basis of emotions in biological evolution, we award them also the scientific appreciation they are due, something which has been sorely lacking in psychology and other sciences until now, as the author points out. The distinction Vaillant makes between spirituality (which he ties to the experiencing of specific positive emotions, e.g. love, hope, joy, awe, and mystical illumination) and religion (a more rationalistic social institution geared towards the propagation of ethical values, group identity, and indeed spirituality) is a very valuable one, and one which I have espoused myself for years. I, too, would argue that while religion, in particular the (pseudo-)rational and social aspects of it, may be responsible for great suffering in the world (as are certain non-religious social movements), it does not mean we must denounce spirituality along with it.(less)
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Sep 01, 2009Gavin rated it liked it · review of another edition
This is a very interesting book. I have learned a lot from it. It makes a good case for religion most religion as a force of good in the world from an evolutionary context.


Interesting small points in this book:

• Positive Emotions are essential to the survival of Homo sapiens as a species

• Increasing education and intolerance for patriarchal dogma has steadily eroded membership in most mainstream religions.

• If the world is going to function as one small planet, the development of some kind of consensus regarding human nature is essential.

• Religions have provided communities with a unifying view of the human condition and have often procided the portal through which positive emotions are brought to conscious attention.

• Positive emotions, especially joy make thought patterns more flexible, creative, integrative, and efficient. These emotions have been experimentally shown to help humans behave more communally and more creatively and to learn more quickly.

• We are learning to live peaceably with each other in greater in greater numbers.

• Positive emotions are more important than parental social class, religious, denomination, and IQ to human development.

• Rituals and cultural formats of the world's great religions form the surest way to pull our positive emotions into conscious reflection.


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Apr 05, 2009David rated it it was ok
In this book Vaillant chronicles the journey modern social sciences have taken from total denial of the instincts of compassion and love to a (grudging) acceptance. Along the way, Vaillant argues how fundamental these emotions are. He also emphasizes how the human instinct for love and compassion can be taken as a scientifically defensible basis for religion.

One of Vaillant's cases in point is the Alcoholics Anonymous organization. He notes how AA has somehow been able to avoid the fate of many ...more
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Mar 27, 2017Robert Bogue rated it really liked it · review of another edition
In Destructive Emotions, the Dalai Lama pondered with Daniel Goleman about whether we are generally selfish or generally compassionate creatures. He framed it from the perspective of a classic philosophy question and shared his own idea that we’re both compassionate and selfish and that we operate from a place of compassion until we experience a scarcity. It’s this passage of Destructive Emotions that resonated most with me as I was reading Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith. Spi ...more
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Jun 08, 2012Melinda rated it it was amazing
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This is probably in my top 5 books of all time. I have been searching for a book like this and have probably marked a dozen or more pages in in. It is straightforward and I love the way he writes and uses so many disciplines and all of his many years of study and vast knowledge to bring so much heart to a scientific case for the need for love, compassion, faith, joy and hope in the human realm and scientic pursuits. His thought process and writing style were wonderful and although he encompassed ...more
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Aug 11, 2012Michael rated it really liked it
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Another beautiful contribution from Vaillant. He looks at positive experience connected with spirituality--faith, hope, love, joy, forgiveness, compassion, awe and mystical illumination--as essential to human thriving. That may seem obvious, but I was shocked to learn how blatantly academics (and, by extension, the law) have ignored or dismissed so many of the things that make life worth living. For example, Freud defined love as "object relations" and dismissed joy (his cocaine use may have had ...more
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Jul 22, 2015James Beck rated it it was amazing
My client (who leads the oncology department at a major hospital in Los Angeles) gave me this book. I'll be honest... It looked boring. However, we always have lively philosophical conversations so I gave it a whirl.

Few books truly impact me. This one changed the way I approach life.

*** Warning ***if you aren't the type of person that chats until sunrise over philosophical conversation, then this book may not be for you. However, If you are looking for words that separate spirituality from religion, and breath new life into faith then this is a book you should sink your teeth into. (less)
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May 07, 2009Tim rated it really liked it
Very interesting book that debunks the ideas of modern athiests that spirituality is dangerous. Vaillant lays out a case that our brains have evolved over the last few thousand years to foster the capabilities of compassion, faith, hope and love as positive improvements to human kind. Not an evangelical title, but a very good read.
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Mar 05, 2013Jesse rated it did not like it
Ooof. There's a pretty good book to be written on this topic. Unfortunately, this isn't it. I so wanted this book to be better than it actually is. And the S*** about autistics is downright offensive at times.
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Sep 29, 2011Jenny Brennan rated it liked it
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I greatly admire Valliant and his work. I love his tendency to incorporate poetry and literature into his arguments. However, while he raised some interesting points, I think that faith and particularly religions are probably more detrimental than helpful to our continued evolution.
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Oct 30, 2012Diane rated it it was ok · review of another edition
With my current search for what the basis is for us to be walking upon this earth, I enjoyed the reference to the human development.

I enjoyed the history & literature references made
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Between 1939 and 1942, one of America's leading universities recruited 268 of its healthiest and most promising undergraduates to participate in a revolutionary new study of the human life cycle. The originators of the program, which came to be known as the Grant Study, felt that medical research was too heavily weighted in the direction of disease, and their intent was to chart the ways in which a group of promising individuals coped with their lives over the course of many years.



Nearly forty years later, George E. Vaillant, director of the Study, took the measure of the Grant Study men. The result was the compelling, provocative classic, Adaptation to Life, which poses fundamental questions about the individual differences in confronting life's stresses. Why do some of us cope so well with the portion life offers us, while others, who have had similar advantages (or disadvantages), cope badly or not at all? Are there ways we can effectively alter those patterns of behavior that make us unhappy, unhealthy, and unwise?



George Vaillant discusses these and other questions in terms of a clearly defined scheme of "adaptive mechanisms" that are rated mature, neurotic, immature, or psychotic, and illustrates, with case histories, each method of coping. (less)



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Oct 29, 2012Luke rated it really liked it

This book is a like a wide-lens biography. There are dozens of men we learn about and we see them live and change over decades. With the breadth of characters it was not hard to see myself in many of them and begin to wonder about the influences that were shaping me, right here, in real time. It was deeply confronting to stare this in the face. Without ever giving any direct life advice, this book was the best of self-help books because it lets you to take from it what particular wisdom you need and will teach different people in different ways.



The main lesson I found in the book is that character is not formed by large isolated events but the slow, steady effect of relationships. Freud’s idea of mental health as the ability to love and work is found to be true, but deeper than that. By loving and working we find it ever easier to love and work, or by falling out of this positive cycle, we become more isolated and selfish and ever more unable to join it. Life builds on momentum. Experiences in childhood and temperament may create the outline of a person but it is how the world acts upon that person that moulds them slowly, over decades. Friendships, relationships and worthwhile work are the benevolent winds that gently steer a happy course. Someone without them increasingly turns inwards to seek comfort and that source is shallow and will soon be propped up by fickle, destructive pleasures which can quickly slide into addictions.



There is much in this book which supports traditional values as the best way to live. A stable and faithful marriage, for example, is crucial to a good life; solid, honest friendships as well. The evidence illuminates why these ancient codes are the way they are. Honesty, for example, is a mysterious virtue which at first glance seems to have no clear benefit for the person who has it. Yet when we look closer we see that honesty is the gateway to close relationships. Without it, a person can never truly share and blend with another and so they remain cut off and alone, isolated from the engines of life which shape a good and happy character.



These are the main conclusions that leap from the pages to me, but someone else will draw something else from these men’s lives. In a curious aside, one of the men studied is JFK, so he must be hidden in the pages somewhere. I found myself looking for hints for him. He might be there with his name and details changed but character intact, or he may have faded into the statistics, just a number in a column somewhere. That thought however was enough to remind me that these were real men with real lives and I should certainly be able to learn something from them.

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Feb 28, 2013Ariadna73 rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

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Adaptation to life

Little Brown USA ISBN 031689520-2

Following 268 of the healthiest college students through all their lives.

Study conceived in 1937.

The author joined the staff in 1967.

Part I the study of mental health Introduction

1937 Philanthropist William T. Grant.

Previous study Frank Barron.

Conclusion -> problems exist always. The difference is how do we react to them.

The hypothesis was that health had a lot to do with success.

Ego mechanisms = keep affects, restore emotional balance, master changes in self-image, handle conflicts, survive major conflicts.

Author bias -> the experiment had too much candor.

Mental Health

How you adapt to life.

What do we do to make lite tolerable? -> Sublimation, altruism (Makes you warm).

Dissociation and Projection (make, you cold)

Thesis of the book: “A man's adaptative devices are as important in determining the course of his life as are his heredity, his upbringing, his social position, or his access to psychiatric help"

Five ideas:

1. Not the isolated traumas of childhood shape our future, but the quality of sustained relationships with important people.

2. Lives change and life is discontinuous

3. Key = understand adaptative mechanism. One defensive style can evolve into another.

4. Humans evolve. Truths are always relative.

5. Health exists and can be discussed.



Chapter 3 HTWS Six considerations on how small the sample was.

The men of the Grant study

This, book describes 95/268.

Many biases.

Did not pretend to be representative.

Kind of stoic. Kind of privileged.

How they were studied

We cannot be taught self-esteem. We absorb it

Sublimating the conflicts and wishes.

Forget or "Repress" passions.

Health redefined-sex-anger.

Questions about the mechanisms

How to identify them?

Defenses are a major means of Managing instinct and affect.

Do they exist?

They are unconscious.

How many are there?

Discrete from one another

Dynamic and reversible s.

They can be adaptative or pathologic.



The mechanisms 4 levels.

Level 1

Psychotic (childhood)

Denial

Distortion

Projection

Level II

Immature (Adolescents or people with personality disorders)

Fantasy

Projection

Hypochondriasis

Passive aggressive (masochism)

Acting out.

Level III

Neurotic

Intellectualization

Repression

Reaction formation

Displacement

Dissociation

Level IV Mature

Sublimation

Altruism

Suppression

Anticipation

Humor



What is the diff. between pathological defense Mech. and adaptive coping Mech?

Practical consequences?

Are they immutable through life?

What to do when seeing one?

Since these mechanisms are unconscious we can try to make the person shift to another one, but having the time and love to do it.

Part two Basic style, of adaptation

Adaptative ego mechanisms: A hierarchy

Sublimation

Makes instinct acceptable, makes ideas fun.

Every failure bring, something new and exciting.

Suppression, Anticipation, Altruism, and humor

Anticipation-Attenuates anxiety

Suppression-Always seeing the bright side.

Humor: elegant defense

Sup or Ant. = Positive

Sublim and Altruism = Poorly adapted

The neurotic defenses

Freud contribution.

Unusual human behavior could be Compensatory and adaptative. rather than immoral or derranged.

Repression = Prototype "Just forget it"

Suppression' Element of choice that differentiates it from repression

Intelectualization = Most clearly relates to the OCD

Displacement -> displace sexual arguments with money arguments.

Reaction formation Rigidity, change the perception. For example start hating the smell of cigarettes.

Dissociation = More dramatic Drugs, alcohol, Stanislavski method of acting

Important = The defense mechanism affect the interior of the user these neurotic mechanisms are the most widely used.

The immature defenses

Character disorders never learn

Projection -> Assign our own responsibilities to someone else.

Paranoia. Men who used it were terrified of intimacy.

Obsessive over involvement with the enemy.

Fantasy: Making events alight in our head

Acting out Giving in to impulses permits to express avoiding control drinking, killing, etc.

Hypochondria-Accuses and punishes others. Conversion of affect into a somatic equivalent.

Can't show hurt, so they sommatize it.

Masochism: Gandhi was a bad husband and a bad father

Guilty and paranoids are two ends of the same circle.

Part THREE Developmental consequence) of adaptation

The adult lifecycle: in one culture.

Caterpillars and butterflies

The passage of time renders truth itself relative.

Opinions change with aging.

Maturation makes liars of all of us.

There are patterns and rhythms in life. Not easy to discover, but they are the answer.

Adult development is still a mystery.

Adult life patterns outlined by Erik Erikson in "Childhood and society"

Basic trust

Autonomy + Initiative

Industry

Identity

Intimacy (40)

At 10 we pay attention to what our parents say. At 16 to what they do.

Adolescence- the first time around

Real responsibility -> after consolidation the career.

Parents are very important to achieve maturity.

By nature they are spontaneous, gregarious and idealistic

Intimacy and career consolidation

Marriage, before 30 (intimacy age) are more likely to fail.

Important change in Career consolidation> Acquisition, assimilation and finally casting aside of mentors.

Generativity-A second adolescence

At 40 extramarital affairs reach their peak.

Some fathers are more rigid.

At 55 one can only do 60% of watt could do at 40.

Implies responsibility for fellow creatures.

The keepers of the meanings

50 s are quieter than 40

50 sound terrifying for the younger readers.

However, don't forget that this is a limited study. .

Paths into health

Actors are masters al disociation

Hypocondriacs rarely connect their disease to emotions but theydo with maturity and dissociation from the parent-like figures.

Successful adjustment

"Occasionally, I would start thinking how such dull people could make money. I should have known that money making has more to do with emotional stability than intellect."

JP Marqland "Women and Thomas Harrow"

Blanche is sick. Stanley is healthy

It seems that people that don't self analize much, are happier.

Defense, of the best outcomes: Chanel rather than block inner life = suppression, anticipation, altruism, displacement

Poor outcomes = Defenses that remove, denies. Reaction formation, disociation, immature defenses.

P. 277 Photo Mental health is not predictable

The child is father to the man.

Selfishness occurs in people that got too little when children.

Children with less love grow into men that have 10 times prescription meds and spend 5 times more hours with the phyisichiatric.

Friends, wives and children.

Mental health and the capacity to love are linked.

In our era emotional attachments are overrated

Friends

Lives of friendly and lonely are very different.

Lonely are more frightened-more likely to feel nervous.

Friendly took full vacations.

Fatherhood

Family is a treasure for the successful.

Marriage

Less successful = Reaction formation = substitute happy myths to deny sadness.

More successful: supression

Fear of sex is linked with mistrust of the universe.

Love and the capacity to love is KEY

Part Four: Conclusions

The maturing Ego

Maturation of mind cannot be separated from maturation of body.

Criminals mysteriously reform between 25 and 40

The evolution of mature defenses is shockingly independent of social and genetic good fortune.

Evolution is independent of good fortune.

Biological maturity is necessary but not sufficient.

Maturity is accompanied with deeper relationships and love.

Environment influences

Suppression, anticipation and altruism are enhanced by apprenticeship

Defenses cannot be taught. They can be absorbed.

Adaptational maturity and ego are the agents of morality.

Belief in the species without generativity is impossible.

The ethical rule of adulthood is to do to others what will help them, even as it helps you to grow.

Association between maturation and external adjustment

Trust, autonomy and initiative are the most important tasks of childhood.

Pessimism, self-doubt and fear of sex are features of the worst lives.

What is mental health

Important = Internalize fathers as role models.

Master intimacy for good outcomes

Worst outputs gave less back.

Working and loving are still the goals of our society.

Health is success at living know when to stop.

Summary

Isolated traumatic events rarely mold individual lives.

Breaks of luck = interaction between our choice of adaptative mechanisms and our sustained relationships with other people.

Mental illness is more like the red tender swelling around a fracture that immobilizes so that it may heal.

Mental health exists.

Those who pay their internists the most visits are also most likely to visit psychiatrists.

Individual capable of homeostasis survive.

It is not stress what kills us. It is effective adaptation to stress that permits us to live.

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Jun 27, 2018Robert W. rated it really liked it

The chapter that really resonates with me is about Alan Poe. He breaks the study open and gives Valiant the most pause.

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Mar 18, 2018Jonathan rated it it was amazing

Re-read after 32 years. Did not duplicate the sense of revelation I had reading it at the age of 24, but that’s a measure of how deep the imprint was left.

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Apr 29, 2013Alex Ball rated it really liked it

Adaptation to Life provides an insightful look into the maturing ego defenses of a group of well-adjusted young men studied from the early 20th century through their later years ending in 1977. Vaillant, a psychologist, expands on Freud's (Anna's and Sigmund's) and Erikson's development theories, defining and illustrating such mechanisms as neurotic denial, suppression and altruism and how these mechanisms, or adaptive styles, impact the objective qualities of the men's adult lives.



Vaillant, writing in a clinically accurate but friendly style, makes some interesting points backed by extensive anecdotes and statistical data. For instance, a childhood characterized by stable but distant or immature parenting can in fact be more harmful in the long run than one traumatized by the death of a mother or father. Mental health, as defined by impartial professionals blind to particular variables, was not significantly correlated to socioeconomic stratum. Finally, a man's adaptive style (essentially, his ability and fashion of realistically (stoically?) facing and overcoming long-term personal challenges) predicts a vast number of variables, including career, social and marital success.



Adaptation to Life is really unique in that its longitudinal approach trumps all the snake oil and cross-sectional preaching you might hear from shrinks of one life-coaching camp or another. Great read if you're into psychology.(less)

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Jan 10, 2013Michaela rated it it was amazing

Shelves: nonfiction

A longitudinal study of adults, of what constitutes mental health. Fascinating, terrifying, freeing, what other adjectives can I throw at it? I am now slightly more apprehensive of middle age, when apparently both my children and I will be going through adolescence at the same time. But there is also incredible relief for a parent when he claims that single traumatic events are unlikely to result in poor development. As long as I am not subjecting them to ongoing trauma for decades, my children should turn out ok… Maybe I should classify this book as parenting… ;)



In all seriousness, this book was eye-opening and useful. The criticisms I could hurl at it the author has anticipated (showing great adaptive maturity?) and acknowledged. The biggest being that it is so very biased by the selection process of the study: privilege, college-educated white males born after WWI. There were paragraphs where I ached as he described a level of mental health based on criteria I can (still!) only imagine. In curiosity I longed to also know the mental health of the wives of some of the mentally healthy men, suspicious of what I would find. And yet. You won't be disappointed in Vaillant's treatment of that shortcoming. And the majority of his findings and conclusions I think do apply to humanity, not just a subset. So much in here to learn, even with the timeliness of some of the theories. (Those too, the author acknowledges) (less)

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Feb 16, 2016Alexei G rated it really liked it

When I first opened the book and read the first couple of chapters, I was initially stunned by the parochial narrow-mindedness of the notions and judgements the author passes upon his subjects. I was about to skim the rest of the book and was already gearing myself up to writing a scathing review.

And yet. As I read further and further on, I realised that the book is indeed very valuable. The simple access to a very unique and undervalued study gave the man insight and material to work with few o ...more

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Jun 05, 2011Ryan rated it it was amazing

Two quotes from the Conclusion sum up this book quite well:



"Neither a sextant nor a celestial map can predict where we should go; but both are invaluable in letting us identify where we are."



"Contrary to popular belief, lucky at work means lucky in love; lack of overt emotional distress does not lead to headache and high blood pressure but to robust physical health; and those who pay their internist the most visits are also most likely to visit psychiatrists. Inner happiness, external play, objective vocational success, mature inner defenses, good outward marriage, all correlate highly - not perfectly, but at least as powerfully as height correlates with weight." Though there is the occasional (1 in 1000) exception.



Fantastic insight into how we tick and where we, as individuals, are currently ticking. The book acknowledges its weaknesses (mostly in its cohort selection), but it provides some very useful broad swaths. The second to last chapter is also incredibly heartening. It should almost be read first, but acts as a sort of tension release valve for the rest of the book.



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Aug 19, 2011Pepe rated it really liked it

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Jul 11, 2007Ben rated it really liked it

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In this book George Vaillant analyzes adaptation techniques (aka coping strategies aka defense mechanisms) using the lives of men in the Grant Study (the Grant Study undertook the task of profiling 250+ male college graduates in the United States from 1940 to the end of their lives; this book was written in the 1970s, when the men were in their fifties). He covers 14 adaptation techniques, from altruism and sublimation to delusional projection and denial. The really fascinating aspect of this book is the author's ability to show how one defense can evolve into another one, for better or worse. He also gives a good picture of how different defenses work within the same person simultaneously. This book is an introduction to the defenses, so you don't need to know much about psychology to get into it. Vaillant cites Anna Freud and Sigmund Freud throughout the text, but also indicates that he is influenced by the writings of Harry Stack Sullivan, Erik Erikson, and Adolf Meyer. (less)

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Sep 11, 2013Jim Angstadt rated it liked it

Shelves: dnf

This is a topic that should be a some concern to all of us. How do we adapt to the curve-balls that life throws up? What are the important factors that point to successful adaptation? Or un-successful adaptation?



The author has a very organized approach to evaluation of a longitudinal study of some young men.



For me, the author's approach seems scientific and realistic. And yet, that was not my take-away learning.



My bottom-line was that we are all thrown curve-balls. The difference is our adaptability. Are we reasonable, or something else? Is our adaptability of a healthy kind or an unhealthy kind?



I bailed early, but this topic is still in my mind. (less)

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Jan 03, 2013Emma rated it it was ok

A book adhering to outdated Freudian analysis, where you can feel how the author manipulates /misrepresents characters in order to fit his overarching theme - positive coping mechanisms (defined rigidly) trump bad ones. Okay, after 50 pages we already get the idea, but the whole book repeats it over and over again, using caricatures, so one-dimensional it is like reading a horrible teen novel.

The idea is worth knowing, an excerpt/ review is all you need. With the advent of more scientific psychology theories, the ideas proposed here seem increasingly simplistic, sometimes laughable.



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Sep 20, 2010Michael rated it it was amazing

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LIFE-CHANGING. I beg you to read it! Rarely has a book affected my view of the human condition so profoundly, and never so precisely. It approaches perfection; not for universality or omniscience, but because it shines within the acknowledged limits of the study. Erudition and grace transform what could have been a dull academic text into something approaching a novel. I felt both highly vulnerable and hopeful while reading it, and I doubt anyone could finish without becoming a more complete person. (less)

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Aug 15, 2014Rebecca rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Very interesting. I was more interested in immature and mature adaptation styles than neurotic so skimmed through a few sections. Reading about the men in the study, with the deft use of contrast and comparison, was enlightening. The conclusions resonated and are held up but what we have since learned about mental health, imho. Nothing mind-blowing here except for the depth and breadth of the study, which is remarkable.

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Apr 21, 2010Kristie Castellini rated it it was amazing

The detailed history behind my favorite article in years: What Makes Us Happy? It's a 72-year longitudinal study of Harvard grads and the long-term drivers for health & happiness.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/a...

This book is a skimmer but great detail behind the article if you get as interested in it as I did.

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Dec 26, 2009Andrew Pace rated it it was amazing

The best non fiction book I have ever read. Covers key events in the lives of dozens of intelligent, successful Harvard graduates. Describes the ways even the best of them manage to make themselves miserable, or how those who started with so little build rich, fulfilling lives.

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Apr 16, 2016Mugizi Rwebangira rated it liked it

This one talks a lot more about their quasiFreudian theories of how humans adapt than the follow up Triumphs of Experience.





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Sep 06, 2014Michele rated it it was amazing

Shelves: psychology, freud-is-alive, leadership

A genius longitudinal study that created a very effective way at viewing defenses. The taxonomy of defenses is fascinating. I have to go look at this again.

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Dec 23, 2013Adrian Herbez rated it really liked it

I found this to be fascinating- great take on what really matters in life, and what contributes to success and happiness.

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Jul 29, 2011Catherine Woodman rated it really liked it

Interim analysis of a very interesting longitudinal study

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1.0 out of 5 starsOf historic interst onlyFebruary 17, 2015
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Interesting premise that might have been an informative read, were it based on what we now know about mental health. Unfortunately, this analysis is just out-dated. We have all been struck, at one time or another, by the incongruities of existence. The high school valedictorian who fails at everything he or she tries. The mediocre student who attains great success in business. Such outcomes have traditionally defied explanation. The author takes the position that our ultimate success is largely due to the use of appropriate, healthy defense mechanisms. While there is a small nugget of truth in that, there is nothing here about the impact of one's vulnerability to such things as anxiety, depression or alcoholism and nothing about the luck factor when picking our careers or life's partner. In reading these life stories, it seemed to me that most of the "losers" were in fact depressed individuals. There is also no mention of sentinel spiritual events and life- changing epiphanies. In summary, while the Grant Study may offer some useful insights, I did not find it particularly enlightening, nor is it of any clinical utility for the mental health professional.

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5.0 out of 5 starsI liked this work (and found it personally insightful as I ...April 2, 2015
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As you read this, you need to review what the types of behavior are meant by the different "defense mechanisms" (there is an Appendix A that lists them, but often without sufficient examples). However, as the book essentially covers case studies, you come to see the different defense mechanisms used. People who use "immature" type defense mechanisms (denial, acting out, etc.). do less well than those who use more mature defense mechanisms (various ones are covered). There is an interplay of the individual and the environment, too. I liked this work (and found it personally insightful as I think about how I react and progressed through life's hardships and everyday events). If you're interested in this type of research and material you'll be enthralled. Mr. Vaillant's work, I believe, is considered seminal and he has additional (more recent) follow up books on living as an older adult. Many of the other higher rated reviews also summarize various aspects of his conclusions nicely (including avoid alcohol/drug abuse, etc.). However there is much more to this book than that and you can think about how you tend to react to life's events and get some insights from his work.

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5.0 out of 5 starsExcellent book I hadn't read in yearsJuly 10, 2015
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Excellent book I hadn't read in years. Important insights into "being able to live in your own skin type of success" in a narrow sector of the society. The study needs repeated (expensively) in a coed, broader population.
I love his book on spirituality. As a Buddhist/atheist/humanist I found myself slowing down and rereading in spite of the fact I'm 70 and feel I have much yet to read in a short time. He's a kind man, a good writer and someone I'd love to have lunch with.

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5.0 out of 5 starsThis book changed my lifeOctober 2, 2005
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This book is amazing. It provides concrete examples based on a wonderful study of a group of Harvard graduates of how different psychological coping methods helped people succeed or fail during their lives.

Its most important finding, in my view, is that peoples circumstances in life play no role in their eventual success or failure. Instead, it is the coping methods that people develop, and the positive effort they put in, that decide their outcomes and happiness.

Most chapters contrast 2 real people from the Harvard study, identifying the opposing psychological methods each used (i.e. one is a procrastinator and another gets things done) and shows how their lives played out. Their behaviors correlated directly with their happiness and success in life. The procrastinator wandered from one job to the next, did not have satisfactory relationships, and did not build wealth. The person who got things done succeeded in business and in personal life.

This book identifies the key mental characteristics necessary to adapt to life, using concrete examples based on a long-term study. It provides a positive message that the circumstances of these subjects birth and background did not matter nearly as much as how much effort they put into life. It is well worth reading.

On the other hand, it is worth noting that these graduates were predominantly white, at least middle-class, often Protestant, and were part of the "greatest generation" that as WWII veterans worked during a time when the US economy was booming.
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James

5.0 out of 5 starsUseful framework to think about your lifeApril 3, 2011
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I loved this book. I'm not a psychiatrist nor a psychologist but just a very introspective person who struggles with identity and liminality. Being a very skeptical person, I usually discredit a lot of these "prescriptive" books, and assure you that this is not one of them. I call this a self-help book not in the ordinary sense of the term, but b/c I read the book with "self-help" in mind - how can I use the experiences of these men in the Grant study to guide me to become the happy (which I define for myself, not necessarily as the study defines happiness). The book does well by laying out a framework of how to think of adaptive mechanisms and how they should evolve over time from the immature to the mature, but instead of trying to judge the reader and put the reader in this framework, the book tells the stories of the Grant men and how their adaptations made them or ruined them. This makes the book a far more enjoyable read and one whose lessons I am more willing to accept. Instead of preaching, it allows these men to lead by example. The longitudinal study gives the reader a unique opportunity to see it (read it) so as to believe it, which makes the lessons that much more effective. For anyone who knows something is wrong in their lives but can't put a finger on it, this book is a must read. While some of the cultural zeitgeists have moved dramatically from the date of its publication (and from the period in which these men grew), an intelligent reader will know how to apply their life lessons to the current struggles in our modern society. Even if everything seems right in your life, I would still urge a reading. I think you will definitely learn something about yourself.

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