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Breaking Open: Finding a Way Through Spiritual Emergency by Jules Evans

Breaking Open: Finding a Way Through Spiritual Emergency by Jules Evans


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The first book in which people discuss their own spiritual emergencies and share what helped them through. Our authors are the experts of their own experience, and they share their wild journeys with courage, insight and poetry. There are fascinating parallels in their experiences, suggesting minds in extremis go to similar places. These are beautiful postcards from the edge of human consciousness, testaments to the soul’s natural resilience. Our authors have returned from their descent with valuable insights for our culture, as we go through a collective spiritual emergency, with old myths and structures breaking down, and new possibilities breaking open. What is there beyond our present egocentric model of reality? What tools can help us navigate the emergence?



"This book is essential reading for anyone who wants to understand the connection between spiritual awakening and what we normally term 'mental illness.' It is full of inspirational and moving stories that show that psychological disturbances often lead to significant personal growth, if supported properly. As a culture, we urgently need a new paradigm of mental illness and treatment, and this and this book makes an important contribution to that shift.'



Steve Taylor PhD, author of The Leap and Spiritual Science

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Jules Evans is an author, broadcaster and academic philosopher. He is a research fellow at the Centre for the History of the Emotions at Queen Mary, University of London, where he researches the history and philosophy of flourishing. He was a BBC New Generation Thinker and a Times book of the year author. He is the author of 'Philosophy for Life and Other Dangerous Situations' (2012) and 'The Art of Losing Control' (2017). He blogs at www.philosophyforlife.org

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Tim Read is a medical doctor, psychiatrist and psychotherapist based in London. He was Consultant Psychiatrist at the Royal London Hospital for 20 years leading the Emergency Liaison service and the Crisis Intervention Service. He has trained in psychoanalytic therapy (IGA) and in transpersonal therapy (GTT). He is a certified facilitator of Holotropic Breathwork and has a special interest in working with expanded states of consciousness. His book 'Walking Shadows: Archetype and Psyche in Crisis and Growth' was published in 2015.

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Spiritual emergencies are moments of messy awakening, crises of ego dissolution and rebirth that are often misunderstood and unskillfully managed by materialist psychiatry. As more Westerners meditate and are drawn to psychedelics to foster their psycho-spiritual growth, mystical experiences are becoming more common--yet some of them will be disturbing and difficult. There is an urgent need for our culture to upgrade its understanding of what these experiences are like and what helps people through the turbulence. Breaking Open is the first book in which people discuss their own spiritual emergencies and share what helped them through. The contributors are the experts of their own experience, and they share their wild journeys with courage, insight, and poetry. There are fascinating parallels in their experiences, suggesting minds in extremis go to similar places. These are beautiful postcards from the edge of human consciousness, testaments to the soul's natural resilience. These people have returned from their descent with valuable insights for our culture, as we go through a collective spiritual emergency, with old myths and structures breaking down, and new possibilities breaking open. What is there beyond our present egocentric model of reality? What tools can help us navigate the emergence?

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Topher
3.0 out of 5 stars could be called how the other half suffer
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 9 February 2021
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An interesting book about how very well resourced people manage suffering - let me tell you its nothing like the shocking, pathalogising, dangerous nonsense encapsulated in the medical model that most have little choice in let alone any informed consent.

In fact these well resourced people are able to float above the ordinary barbarism of modern services and consider themselves to be having a 'spiritual emergency' none of your pseudo medical sounding 'disorders' or 'treatment' for 'symptoms' here.

Here people have resources of relative wealth, good relationships, travel, meaning, purpose, an ability to explore an expansive melting pot of possible solutions - not the five minutes with the stressed out GP labelled depressed and handed a prescription for the brain damaging but highly profitable drugs marketed as 'anti depressants' or being referred to IAPT - a relative production line of nonsense where 'recovery' means how you score on a tick box questionnaire. And god forbid you ever end up in secondary care - there the medical model is completely out of control.

Taken together our mental health systems for 'normal' people are casing more harm to both the people they are tasked to work with and to the people that work within them - with massive and relentless stress - such a happy state of affairs but great for maintaining power and internalising suffering - nothing to see in the culture - move along now - no cultural disorders here its all about you and your dysfunctional thoughts, behaviours, beliefs and attitudes - just keep taking the drugs and make sure you do your homework.
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Alastair McIntosh
5.0 out of 5 stars Such an important topic, such well written first-person experience chapters
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 26 September 2020
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So far I've read 3 of the contributors' chapters and the editors' material. This covers such an important topic, building on the Stanislav & Christina Groff "Spiritual Emergency" classic. What this adds, is case studies written up by folks who have been through spiritual emergencies, with harrowing honesty about the often psychotic stages these took them through. It is common to find short accounts of such experience in anthologies, or accounts written up third party. What this book adds is it gives percipients the space to expand and reflect on their experiences at their own pace and in their own words.

Whether you consider that spiritual experience constitutes evidence for the spiritual or not - (or whether you believe material experience constitutes evidence for the material or not) - this book is an important and original contribution to the contemporary literature on transpersonal psychology and applied religious studies.
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Catherine I
5.0 out of 5 stars Brave and rich in anecdote.
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 13 March 2021
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"Breaking Open" is a collection of the accounts of fourteen individuals' Spiritual Emergencies. It is topped and tailed by a sensitive and intelligent commentary by editors the philosopher Jules Evans and psychiatrist Tim Read. Despite describing their own sample pool as being restricted by their white, middle-class and culturally-literate backgrounds there is a tremendous amount of variety in the subjects' experiences. This is not an especially privileged grouping and to dismiss it is as such is a knee-jerk criticism [Disclaimer - I do not personally know any of them.]

Just as it would be meeting a crowd of new people, there are some characters who are more appealing to one than others. I particularly liked the accounts of nightclub-visionary Deborah Martin and the mysterious Rob Charles who movingly describes a childhood locked in fears over how he smelt. It is brave of Jules Evans to add his own account to the fray; he strikes just the right chord of solidarity. Evans' description of the aftermath of an Ayahuasca trip is mercifully less disturbed than others (which can be hair-raising) but contributes to the impression that, despite what the cheerleaders would have us believe, psychedelics fracture the ego in ways which are broadly unhelpful.

However, rather than individual accounts it is the general impression of the collective voice which matters. The phenomenon of the nervous breakdown inflected by spiritual overtones, or conversely the religious experience with a traumatic dimension, is glimpsed as though from many perspectives ranged around a craggy peak. The book is an extremely useful contribution to the steadily-swelling intellectual literature (as opposed to that which sets off on a superstitious footing) which examines this fascinating topic. It is a topic which demands our urgent attention.
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Elise Wardle MA, Jungian Psychotherapist
5.0 out of 5 stars Losing mind, finding soul
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 23 May 2021
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My sincere thanks to Tim Read and Jules Evans together with those who shared their most powerful transformative experiences through the journey of awakening. This book is much needed at a time when millions are personally and collectively experiencing spiritual crisis in a variety of different forms. For those who need to know they are not alone, not becoming insane but travelling a journey into losing their 'mind' and finding their soul, it offers guidance and resources whereby we may continue our journeys towards wholeness with insight, the right support and understanding from others who have been where we are, 'worn the t-shirt' and have 'come out the other end'!
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GLC
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome book
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 24 June 2020
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This book is life affirming and even life changing, especially to the reader who has been through a spiritual emergency themselves. Jules himself has a poetic yet warm and open style, and I am now addicted to his weekly newsletters (which you can sign up for on his website). But each of the stories has a resonance that transcends normal literature on this topic and opens your mind to the great vastness of consciousness in all its various manifestations. I would recommend this book to anyone, even if new to the topic. I believe you will come away enlightened and also moved by what you read.
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scientific spirituality, science & spirituality

Helminiak, D. A. (1996). 
A scientific spirituality: The interface of psychology and theology. 

International Journal for the Psychology of Religion, 6(1), 1–19. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327582ijpr0601_1

Abstract

Applying B. J. Lonergan's (1957, 1972) analysis of human consciousness or spirit, this article presents an interlocking set of distinctions that specifies spirituality as a normative or prescriptive discipline on the boundary between theology and psychology and different from psychology of religion as generally conceived. Central to the argument is an array of analytic viewpoints, within which the human can be studied, and a tripartite model of the human that represents spirit, and so spirituality, as inherent to humanity as such. It is argued that the study of spirituality so conceived meets demanding criteria that qualify it as science, a specialization within psychology.

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Embracing spirituality with a scientific mind

Satish Kumar | 20th November 2018


https://theecologist.org/2018/nov/20/embracing-spirituality-scientific-mind

Science and spirituality are mutually illuminating, and mutually dependent.

We are on a journey: a journey from separation to relationship and from dualism to unity.

One of the domin­ant dualisms of our time has been the idea of disconnection between science and spirituality. Since the age of pure reason, our educational system has been working hard to establish the conviction that science has to be free of spirituality, and that spirituality should have nothing to do with science.

The latest edition of Resurgence & Ecologist magazine is out now!

For the past hundred years, graduates in their millions have been coming out of universities brainwashed with the belief that either spirituality is a matter of personal and private life, or it is pure ‘mumbo jumbo’. This mainstream view has ignored the scientists of the past and the present who see no dichotomy between science and spirituality.

Holistic science

The outstanding German poet and scientist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe worked with a profound scientific spirit. In his books The Metamorphosis of Plants and Theory of Colours, he challenged the narrow and linear view of science.

With his phenomenological understanding of Nature, he expounded a more interrelated, cyclical and holistic science. But Goethe’s ideal­istic and spiritual science was neglected by students of science in most universities. He was appreciated as a great poet, but not as a scientist!

The same is true of Leonardo da Vinci. Everyone thinks of him as a great artist, but hardly anyone recognises him as a scientist.

However, our contemporary science of complexity and systems thinking finds its roots in the work of Leonardo because he was concerned with living forms and therefore embraced the science of quality as well as quantity. The moment we think of a science of quality, the word ‘spirituality’ comes to mind.

Albert Einstein was also a spiritual scientist. He said: “Everyone who is seriously involved in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that a spirit is manifest in the laws of the universe […] one in the face of which we, humans, with our modest powers must feel humble.”

Unmanifest intuition

Einstein respected the religious dimension of human experience. He said: “Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.” Einstein was not talking about institutionalised and organised religious establishments - he was talking about religious experience, which is beyond measurement.

Bringing spirituality and science together will help to bring meaning and measurement together. These two should not be fragmented or separated.

A sense of unmanifested wonder and curiosity, and a sense of intuition and inspiration exist before there is empir­ical knowledge through experiments, evidence and proof to create a scientific hypothesis and a theory.

Dismissing that unmanifest intuition or inspiration, as some materialist scientists do, is a grave folly.

The word ‘spirit’ simply means ‘breath’ or ‘wind’. We cannot see the wind, we cannot touch it, or measure it, but we can feel it. As trees are moved by wind, humans are moved by spirit. Breath or wind is the invisible and subtle force that makes life possible. The visible is sustained by the invisible.

Spiritual guidance

The outer and material reality is held together through the power of the inner and spiritual reality. Acknowledging one and denying the other is like wanting a bird to fly with only one wing.

The reality of wholeness is composed of two interrelated aspects. The Chinese called it the harmony of yin and yang. The Indians called it the balance of Shiva and Shakti: positive and negative, dark and light, silence and speech, emptiness and fullness, spirit and matter, unmanifest and manifest are part of one single whole.

Uniting science and spirituality has a very practical purpose. Science without spirituality can easily lose the ethical, moral and values-based perspective.

Scientists without the guidance of spirituality can engage in the invention of nuclear bombs and other weapons of war, genetic engineering, artificial intelligence, factory farming where animals are reared in cruel conditions, and technologies that create waste, pollution and the destruction of Nature.

Science without the guidance of spiritual values has created many of the problems the world faces today. Science by itself is not benign, value-free or neutral. Therefore, science needs the helping hand of spiritual wisdom in order to maintain its integrity and modify its power. Without spiritual wisdom, science can be dangerous. Spirituality gives meaning, value and purpose to science.

Religious exclusivity

As science needs spirituality, spirituality needs science. Without science, spirituality can easily and quickly turn into blind faith, dogmatism, sectarianism, and fundamentalism.

Unscientifically minded people may claim: “My god is the only true god and I have the truth. Everybody must be converted to my truth.”

Such narrow religious exclusivity has led to wars, conflicts, terrorism and divisions. Science helps to keep our minds open so we can seek truth and act for the benefit of the whole of humanity and for the good of all living beings, human, and other-than-human.

Do we want to live in a fragmented way, either as materialists discarding the subjective dimension of spiritual wisdom or as spiritual seekers denigrating the objective world of scientific discovery?

The choice is ours. I choose to embrace spirituality with a scientific mind. For me, science and spirituality are complementary parts of the whole.


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Satish Kumar is editor emeritus of Resurgence & Ecologist magazine. He was interviewed by Richard Dawkins on the subject of science and spirituality. The interview is available to watch here. The latest edition of Resurgence & Ecologist magazine is out now!

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Science & Spirituality

Meenakshi

MAR 30, 2020

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/readersblog/eyescream/science-spirituality-11274/

The road to science& spirituality are opposite, but we should trend both.

India launched its most awaited scheduled of Chandrayaan 2, not that long ago.The chairman of ISRO K.Sivan was at Tirupati Temple to offer puja for the success of the moon mission. It apparently leads us to question ;

Why a super efficient scientist organisation , renowned and globally appreciated needs blessings from God , for its success?

Isn’t it very contrasting, and isn’t the continuousendeavour and pursuit to scientific knowledge enough?, Why does support of something to back science required? specifically, which science deniesof in particular?

In this essay we’ll analyse, what science and spirituality stand for ?? Despite being opposite, why is it necessary to keep a balance of both ?? Their differences and similarities will be decoded and also, what humanity needs to choose in present scenario ?

Most of us tend to confuse spirituality with religion, Religion is based on scriptures certain teachings, has limits, has rules and laws prescribed.

It guides us to the way of life and their is a boundary, a course of rigidity which a religion provides

Whereas, spirituality is an experience. Like Swami Vivekananda said “ you have to grow from inside out, None can teach you, make you spiritual, there are no teachers but your own soul “

Adhyatm consists of two words ‘Adhi’ and ‘Atman’ which simply means pertaining to soul. Spirituality deals with the nature of soul and information related to the soul. A soul that is absolute and the ultimate truth. It is a process of leading the total energy in the body to the soul.

spirituality is about integrity. It helps us to find meaning in life, provides a foundation of our values to guide us in the way we behave with self, others and the world around us. Spirituality is the science of human growth for self transformation & also for world transformation through Peace & Purity. Albert Einstein said once: “No problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it. We must learn to see the world a new “

• Spirituality is an attitude that is positive and looking at the best in everyone and everything

• Spirituality is an inner journey to discover inner peace & is all about expanding our capability to live love and learn.

• Spirituality is the process of balance between Dharma & Karma.

• Spirituality is the “process of Self-Transformation from impure consciousness to pure consciousness to achieve inner peace, happiness & prosperity.

Therefore, spirituality is pious, it provides stabilityto oneself, and keep us moving in positive direction, being our own teacher and guide in the process of life.

Whereas, when we talk about science, it not only brings true knowledge, factual knowledge with logic and evidences. In pursuit of rational knowledge people started questioning religious beliefs. More the scientific discoveries, more the question on belief system. Science has a more rational approach it is a work of logic and proofs.

From the cosmos to the shape of the Earth , time , light , sound, as well as life . Which once was believed to exist because of various superstitions, and religious centuries back, All this is more of a scientific discovery with proven facts.

The shift from religion to science, the Industrial revolution, millennial lifestyle, rise of individual living, aloofness , emotionally weak . Mentally unhealthy.

So, people sought refuge to spirituality for solace .

No matter what amount of scientific knowledge we may possess, it’ll be very little compared to the vast mysteries of the world , and this void will be filled by spirituality. Which has been unanswered by science time and again . Spirituality fills those gaps and curiosity positively.

Spirituality itself is extremely scientific because it wants to examine the world and its nature, just like the scientist. t wants to look at the world; it wants to observe the world and see –

· What the world really is?
· Where does it come from?
· What happens to it?
· How does one perceive it?
· How does it change?
· How does it end?

It observes all its processes, its dissolution, its making, everything.

Spirituality is very scientific. And then spirituality goes beyond science.

How?

Science stops at the world.

Spirituality looks at the world, then looks at the self, then sees the direct relation between the world and the self and hence, sees the two as one.

So, there are the two aspects of spirituality.

1. The first is a very-very scientific observation of the world.

If the mind is not scientific enough, it cannot be spiritual. If the mind does not know the world, it cannot move to something beyond the world. Knowing the world, its movements, its games, its suffering and its cunningness is very important. The spiritual mind must deeply understand the world. That is one aspect of Spirituality.

2. The second aspect is Faith.

I understand the world. I see that I am made of worldly influences but I also have faith that there has to be something beyond these influences; influences which give me nothing but suffering.

This is Spirituality; attention and faith.

And both are just helping you to go towards something that is of the beyond; something that is not merely a mental apparition.

Social Context

Science will help the industries in growing of wealth , which might lead to in equality but spirituality promotes brotherhood, social cohesion and equality.

In contrast, science encourages people to think rationally devoid of superstitions.

Hence, conditions of two will definitely enhance the standards of living& well-being.

Environment

Coordination of science & principle holds importance . Science and technology facilitating, mining, felling of trees etc.

But remember, Chipko movement, or Appiko movement, which were geared by the spirituality that saved the trees.

In contrast, blind faith spirituality comes in the way of growth & Development in modern world.

Technology

Science led to evolution of artificial intelligence, robotics, machine learning.

Becoming nuclear power countries, creating differences among other states. Being war ready . In contrast, spiritual diplomacy needs to be promoted, technology with science plus spirituality.

For e.g. : India’s “ no first use “ policy for nuclear weapons for the prosperity of humanity as a whole. This is because India’s nuclear policy is not to harm others but for the purpose of self defence from thehostile neighbour’s.

For science that which cannot be detected, does not exist. If something can just not be detected, absolutely undetectable it is, then science will say, “It does not exist”.

Spirituality says, “My instruments for detection are very limited. I detect using my senses and my intellect which are quite limited. Something that cannot be thus detected may also exist; in fact it may be more real than what the senses announce as real.” Spirituality thus lacks the arrogance of science.

Science says if my eyes can see, look at it, only then it exist.

Spirituality says but first of all am I sure that my eyes are an instrument capable enough to tell me the truth?

Spirituality is an honest, brutally honest search for the truth.

Spirituality is deeply scientific and so very scientific that it transcends science.

Science without spirituality is not only incomplete but also vulnerable.

Such science is more likely to be misused and exploited by vested interest.

It works for only those who can pay for it. It aims to satisfy one’s greed rather than need.

In a nutshell, to meet the crisis of humanity, the coordination of science and spirituality is inevitable.

M.K Gandhi said “ that if both science and spirituality go hand in hand then one can create heaven on the holy earth “

Sustainable development is the need of the hour and this is possible only with the coordination of science and spirituality.

Let’s believe in building a better tomorrow and take steps towards it .

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Making connections between science and spirituality


A workshop followed by a public conversation helped scientists find new ways to talk about their scientific research to audiences they do not often communicate with. Religion and spirituality can be agents for scientific learning.

BY DANIELLE TORRENT TUCKER

February 01, 2019

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How do you communicate science to people who hold different worldviews? While there is no single answer, one crucial element can make the difference between hearing and listening: connection.

Most Americans are supportive of science and also identify as religious or spiritual, but scientists can be uncertain about how to foster dialogue with people who hold worldviews different than their own. At two events hosted by Stanford’s School of Earth, Energy & Environmental Sciences (Stanford Earth) and the Office of Science Outreach on Jan. 25, participants gained insight into how to make scientific connections in new ways.

The events – a workshop for Stanford researchers followed by a public discussion – were sponsored by the American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS), the world's largest multidisciplinary scientific society with a mission of advancing science, engineering, and innovation throughout the world for the benefit of all people.

“We want to encourage more scientists to reach beyond their normal audiences,” said Stanford Earth’s Director of Outreach Education Jennifer Saltzman, who helped bring the AAAS events to Stanford. “Whatever your belief systems, I want everyone to have the opportunity to learn – I don’t want it to be a border.”

The two events were part of the AAAS Dialogue on Science, Ethics, and Religion (DoSER), which facilitates communication between scientific and religious communities. The morning workshop, which was open to students, faculty and postdoctoral researchers at Stanford, included discussions and tools for having inclusive dialogues. About 30 participants heard lectures from DoSER facilitators, workshopped their science talks with their peers, and discussed how to approach challenging questions, such as “What if climate change is part of God’s plan?”

“It just hit me what a rarified atmosphere we live in as scientists,” shared one workshop participant. “It’s just not the world around us.”

Alexandra Bausch, a postdoctoral researcher in Earth system science with professor Anne Dekas, echoed the importance of stepping outside academia. As her next step following the workshop, she committed to updating her blog about finding beauty in everyday science.

We scientists feel so sure of ourselves because we have data to back it up…it’s very hard for us to listen.

Workshop facilitator Rob O’Malley, a DoSER senior program associate and primate behavioral ecologist, noted the importance of speaking with empathy, respect, cultural awareness and humility. He encouraged participants to find common ground and reminded them that debates don’t often change minds.

Attendees at the evening public lecture in Encina Hall heard ideas about how religion and spirituality can be agents for scientific learning. Nalini Nadkarni, a professor of biology at the University of Utah, and Willis Jenkins, a professor of religious studies at the University of Virginia, discussed their outreach in a conversation moderated by Stephan Graham, the Chester Naramore Dean of Stanford Earth and a professor of geological sciences.

Willis Jenkins

“Place science within the context of what might be considered holy or important to religious communities,” advised Nadkarni, referencing how different religions celebrate trees and other aspects of the natural world through rituals.

Jenkins discussed how creative experiences with science – such as meditating on nature sounds and creating music based on natural phenomena – can foster connection on a deep level.

“Integrating this spiritual openness is not rivalrous to scientific endeavor – in fact, it might even add to it,” he said.


Nadlini Nadkarni

Through illustrative stories about their work in academia and with local communities, they opened an honest exchange of ideas.

“We scientists feel so sure of ourselves because we have data to back it up…it’s very hard for us to listen,” Nadkarni said.

She emphasized the importance of engaging in conversations whenever possible, such as asking if the person next to you on a flight wants to hear about your research. It’s important to approach the topics with which people are already engaged, she said. For example, what kind of wood is used in baseball bats – and are those species endangered?

“The critical issues that we’re facing today require every tool,” Nadkarni said. “I’m willing to keep my palms open.”

Danielle T. Tucker
SCHOOL OF EARTH, ENERGY & ENVIRONMENTAL SCIENCES
dttucker@stanford.edu, 650-497-9541
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Science and Spirituality: two sides of a coin

Physical and spiritual scientists both aim to find the hidden laws of nature and use their discoveries to better the lives of others

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Hidden within human beings is a desire to prove the existence of a force that brought us into creation.Hidden within human beings is a desire to prove the existence of a force that brought us into creation.

By Sant Rajinder Singh Ji Maharaj

Most people think that science and spirituality are totally opposite fields of studies, but I can speak from my experience in both areas that they are two sides of the same coin. To me, the aim of science is to uncover the deepest spiritual truths, and the aim of spirituality is the search for the cause behind scientific fact. Physical scientists who have chosen science as their field are not much different from spiritual scientists who spend time engaged in the spiritual search.

They are both seeking the answers to the same question, but in different ways. They are both here to find the hidden laws of nature, the higher power that created everything, and use their discoveries to better the lives of others.

The physical scientists are trying to prove God to themselves through the outer eyes and ears, while the spiritual scientists are trying to prove God to themselves through their inner eyes and ears. While physical scientists gaze at the stars through powerful telescopes and listen to radio waves from distant stars through instrumentation, spiritual scientists gaze at the inner stars and listen to the inner music of the spheres through meditation. They both sit in silence, watching and waiting.

The Search for Answers

If we look at science today, we find that one of the goals scientists have is to discover how creation came into being, and how human beings came into being. By picking up signals from light-years away, we can get a glimpse of activity from the distant past whose light is only just reaching us now, billions of years later. Scientists are vying to see who can be the first to discover what happened at the moment of creation.

Why?

Hidden within human beings is a desire to prove the existence of a force that brought us into creation. Few are satisfied with the theory that creation was a mere accident, combustion of cosmic dust. Secretly, in every heart lies the desire to have proof that there is God and we are soul, a part of God.

Science exists to uncover these deepest spiritual truths. On the other hand, those engaged in spirituality are trying to find the hidden cause behind what is scientific fact. They are interested in the scientific laws of nature, but wish to go behind the laws to find the divine law that brought everything into being. While scientists search through outer instrumentation, spiritual scientists search through the technique of meditation, using the instrumentation of their attention.

The Scientific Method to Find God

In the scientific method, we test a hypothesis and carefully make observations. This scientific approach can help prove the validity of spiritual experiences. Meditation helps us come in touch with a level of intuition and revelation that gives us the inspiration to uncover scientific truths. As most scientists report, their discoveries came as inspiration. What is inspiration but tapping into the spiritual laws? Some of the greatest scientists, when questioned about their discoveries, point to spiritual inspiration or a divine power as the force behind their findings. Albert Einstein, who revealed the theory of relativity and made this nuclear age possible, once said, “I assert that the cosmic religious experience is the strongest and the noblest driving force behind scientific research.”

How Science and Spirituality Work Together

Science and spirituality make a great partnership. If those engaged in science spend some time in the silence of their own selves, inspiration will come and lead them to the answers for which they seek. Similarly, if those interested in spirituality apply the scientific law of testing hypotheses in the laboratory of their own body and soul, they will find the results.

Meditation to Reduce Stress

If we look at modern medicine, we find a whole new approach to healing. In the past we thought healing occurred by the administration of certain drugs. Those in a new field of medicine talk about the mind-body connection. They speak of healing the body by healing the mind and using the power of the soul. In some of the greatest medical institutions in the world, doctors are advocating meditation as a way to reduce stress and eliminate stress-related illnesses. Studies reveal that people who spend time in meditation recover sooner from surgery than those who do not. We are living in a wondrous age in which the lines between science and spirituality are being blurred.

Testing the Power of Meditation

As scientists, we can test the power of meditation for ourselves and see where it leads us. To meditate we only need to sit in silence. We can sit in any pose most convenient, close our eyes, and look into the middle of darkness lying in front of us. We need to still our mind from thoughts that can distract us and take our attention away from the inner gaze.

Just as we stay focused in looking through a microscope or telescope, we need to stay focused in looking into a still point lying in front of us. Just as scientists see outer stars, we may be able to catch glimpses of inner lights of any colour, inner stars, moons, and suns.

Scientific pursuits can lead both to the discovery of ways to help make the world a better place as well as to the answers to the questions burning within us to uncover the greatest truths of all time—God, our soul, and the purpose of our life here on earth. The writer is a spiritual leader with a scientific approach to spirituality

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Everyday Mysticism, Interview with EunSung Kim

Everyday Mysticism





Everyday Mysticism


Thoughts about spirituality and faith. My own struggles and descriptions of my spiritual journey within my everyday life.


About Me     eunsung k

Gender         MALE
Occupation Stay at Home Dad
Location         Richmond, VA, United States
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I love writing and creating art. I also love noticing beauty and art in hidden places. 





Sunday, November 1, 2015

the Cloud of Unknowing

Can people who are married and have kids be contemplatives? I used to think that contemplatives only existed in the walls of a monastery, whether it be a Christian or Buddhist monastery. I do not live in a cloister, but my home is the community in which I am spiritually growing.

My daughter Winnie is almost a year old. The days of holding her in the early morning while she naps on my chest and praying silently are long gone. Winnie wakes up rearing to go and walks from corner to corner exploring each cranny, and un-shelving most of her favorite books. It is hard to center and sit in silence and open oneself to contemplative prayer, when you are utterly exhausted most of the time.

The anonymous author of Cloud of Unknowing writes in the 43rd chapter about forgetting the self and to "let nothing stir your mind or will other than God. Attempt to suppress all your thoughts and feelings regarding subjects less than God. Put distracting ideas under a cloud of forgetting. In contemplation, forget everything, including yourself and your accomplishments." How do I focus on God and let everything else go?

For me, getting out of my own thoughts come usually the way of helping others and being of service to them, and eventually I get out of my own head in the action of helping others long enough that I remember to consciously contact God with my thoughts, words, and eventually someday with my whole being.

Being a father to a young toddler is often hectic and frenzied. :) But there are opportunities to open yourself up to the moment and let go of "distracting ideas" and "forget everything." Kids are wonderful teachers in opening yourself up to the present moment. My daughter Winnie and I have been lately taking morning walks. Winnie does not go very far until she inspects the tiny spec she sees on the side walk, or stumbles towards the grass to see a leaf, rubbish, or something that caught her eye; she is in awe of everything. If I put down my cell phone long enough, because I am usually busy capturing these cute moments digitally, I am invited to be present and put my focus on here and now. I see with new eyes, eyes of my daughter, a piece of discarded wrapper becomes treasure and a thing of fascination.

Children are also good teachers in giving and receiving love. I am not sure where Winnie learned this, but sometimes spontaneously as I or my wife, Jocelyn holds her, she will cry "hug" and give the most warm heartfelt hug. Winnie gently lays her head on your chest and wraps her arms around you. In those little moments, I am not thinking about myself, how tired I am, but just being in the presence of love. This sort of love I think are glimpses of how God loves us. This sort of Holy Love only exists now, in the present moment. It is love that one has to experience and open up to, and let go of one's defenses. Kids and puppies are good at disarming most of us, and a random act of kindness from them will melt even the coldest of hearts (not all, but most).

I am not a monk. I am a father and a husband. But I too am a contemplative. I happen to be Quaker and also Catholic. I grew up in the great tradition of the Methodist Church, but even then I was drawn to moments of silence. The contemplation that finds me in my current experience is sporadic, but it still nurtures me. It is the type of silence that opens me up and connects me to something bigger, and gives me hope even in the worst of days. I carry this silence that lives in my heart and is nurtured at home, to the hospital when I encounter folks in crisis as a Chaplain Intern. I am grateful to have my wife, Jocelyn and my daughter, Winnie as teachers in giving and receiving love with all my heart and soul.

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Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Living Here and Now

Spiritual identity is not something far off, not something we need to go to Tibet to find. It is here, in the way we walk on the earth, the way we see our life, the way we care for ourselves and others. Our true nature is not something extraordinary; in fact, it is quite ordinary, an inevitable portion of our daily life.--Muller (How Then Shall I Live?, 64)


Spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it.--Anonymous (Big Book, 83)


It is hard not to run away, when things get hard. Even good things like being a dad, being married to the person i love, pursuing a career that feels natural to who i am, and seeking spiritual growth in the community i have been placed can be all very "hard." I learned very early on to check out when i feel overwhelmed and stressed. I escaped into my room, and would day dream being a super hero, or a famous country music star traveling the world singing in juke joints. I escaped into my mind to disconnect from the unbearable discomfort of what was happening in the now.

I find it sometimes impossible to pray where I am, because I feel like where I am is not enough. I judge the hell out of myself, and this self judgement keeps me disconnected from God, myself, and others around me. I am slowly, but surely learning to take a deep breath during these moments of self-pity and as I get grounded into my breath, my body, I become more aware of the here and now. I start to connect to myself, and then able to connect to something greater than myself. Quakers have a saying "that of God in you," and I forget in these moments of disconnection that the Holy Spirit dwells within me.

I still daydream sometimes about practicing a "real" spiritual life when I have time, so I can go on prayer retreats, visit monasteries, and learn from holy people. I do not discount the value of going on spiritual retreats, but my wish for escape from spirituality in my daily life robs me of growing and practicing a spiritual life in this very moment. I pray in the now, even when I am changing my daughter's poopy diaper, and even after or during hurtful words being spoken. I pray, when all I can utter are a few words, because I am so sleep deprived.

God accepts me even when I am cranky and not at my best, and the question is whether I can accept myself as I am. I am working on this, and it's a work in process. But this "work" is often joyful work that I undertake, because the work of a spiritual life is my life as it is. So here I am, trading on this road the best I can, and making tons of mistakes as a first time father and husband. I try to be a good son to my parents and a good brother, but sometimes I get caught up in my own life and go a long time without reaching out to them. But even in all my little failings, I know that God is walking with me and through me.

I hope these words are helpful to others who are struggling to live a spiritual life here and now in the messiness of their lives.


Lord Grant me the serenity to be myself. Give me the courage to grow, and the wisdom to trust in You, myself, and others. Amen.(http://julianofnorwich.blogspot.com/2012/01/day-56.html)

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Sunday, July 19, 2015

Growing Pains

"Communities need tensions if they are to grow and deepen. Tensions come from conflicts within each person--conflicts born out of a refusal of personal and community growth, conflicts between individual egoisms, conflicts arising from a diminishing gratuite, from a clash of temperaments and from individual psychological difficulties. These are natural tensions. Anguish is the normal reaction to being brought up against our own limitations and darkness, to the discovery of our own deep wound...There are a thousand reasons for tension. And each of them brings the whole community, as well as each individual member of it, face to face with its own poverty, inability to cope, weariness, aggression and depression. These can be important times if we realize that the treasure of the community is in danger. When everything is going well, when the community feels it is living successfully, its members tend to let their energies dissipate, and to listen less carefully to each other. Tensions bring people back to the reality of helplessness; obliging them to spend more time in prayer and dialogue, to work patiently to overcome the crisis and refind lost unity; making them understand that the community is more than just a human reality, that it also needs the spirit of God if it is to live and deepen." --Jean Vanier (120, Community and Growth)

I think of myself as a caring and loving person, and yet at times I find myself deeply self-centered and selfish. I don't set out to be selfish or self-centered, but it often starts with "Yes, but..." or "Well, you could have said it this way..." My need to be right sometimes gets in the way of unity within my current community, my life with my wife, Jocelyn and our 8 months old daughter, Winnie. I have been experiencing these tensions that Jean Vanier described in the quote above, and they do indeed bring me a place of what he calls "reality of helplessness," or what I choose to call an experience of powerlessness. I lack the power sufficient to solve the problem of my own making, which is my aversion to growth and change; when I deny this fundamental reality of life, change, then I experience pain and suffering.

I agree with Jean that the movement from tension, conflict, to growth comes from opening to a power greater than ourselves, which he calls the spirit of God and what I choose to call the Divine Presence. My own deep wounds come out, as I share my life on a daily basis with the people I love and that love me. Sometimes, our wounds rub up against each other, and we react out of fear and pain. I experienced the discomfort of my wounds being rubbed at L'Arche Daybreak and then at L'Arche GWDC, when I shared my life with other members of our community. One conflict I had early on as an assistant at Euclid House was over dishes with another assistant, and he had soaked by beloved cast iron skillet in soap! I am not sure why something so small, evoked so much anger in me, but it also brought out anger in him when I confronted him about it. We were eventually able to work it out, slowly but surely, and talk through our tensions and own inner conflicts. We realized that we were both hearing the voices of critical father figures.

I am no longer at L'Arche, but I find myself reliving the lessons I learned in community within my life as a husband and as a new father in Richmond, VA. I am learning that I cannot make decisions on my own, because my actions affect the whole family. I know this seems very simple, but seeing that I cannot act selfishly and that I have to choose unity of the whole does not come easy for me. I sometimes want to make my own choices and not run it by my wife, or just drag my daughter along to activities I want to do. On most days I do not make these selfish choices, but it sometimes takes a lot of prayer and dialogue to make this happen. I also fall prey to going on rants or long winded monologues with my wife, instead of actually opening myself to listen with love.

Most people see me as a nice and polite person, and it's true that I can be very nice and polite. However, sometimes underneath my layer of quiet politeness, lies a deep seated anger and frustration. I am slowly learning to express anger and frustration in healthy ways, along with other feelings and verbalizing other range of emotions. I feel like a immature teenager when it comes to communicating feelings, and navigating conflict.

I am currently working on getting accredited as a chaplain, and the experiences as a chaplain intern and course work has been very helpful in exploring naming tensions within myself and groups that I am part of. I still find tensions between people, whether it be with me and someone else, or tension among people I am with very uncomfortable. But lately, I am learning to stay put and listen deeply, and patiently explore ways to clear up miscommunication. Hopefully I can allow the Divine Presence to live and deepen within my life and deepen my commitment to the folks around me. What a blessing it is to share life with Jocelyn and baby Winnie.

published 7/19/15




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Saturday, May 16, 2015

Spiritual Life: Clearing Away the Poop


Everyone poops. Most TV shows leave out characters doing mundane things like using the bathroom, cleaning their homes, because they want to suck you into a world that you want to escape to. I watched a lot of Star Trek: the Next Generation, and I don't know if anyone poops or pees in the future. Similarly, great works of spiritual writing and theology often leave out the very practical mundane reality of our existence like cleaning up a 6 months old baby's poopy cloth diaper, after she has started eating solids. Maybe the early Church Fathers and Mothers did not have this problem, but they do talk about daily tasks in the monastic setting. However, my community like the majority of us does not occur in an Christian monastic setting, Buddhist monastery, or in an Ashram.

My immediate community I wake up to everyday, the people I am sharing life together in a very intimate way, consist of my wife and daughter. I never imagined while I was studying theology at Duke Divinity School, which for the most part was really academically focused, that my prayer life includes wiping my daughter's rear and spraying off her poopy cloth diapers. What am I ranting about you ask? Simply put, my spiritual life is here and now in my very reality. I pray now, connect to God at this very moment as I write this blog, as I laugh with my daughter, and when I practice forgiveness.

I think God is with me even when I get angry or say a hurtful word to the very people I love, but in those moments I choose disconnection and separate from a loving God that holds me and others gently. I can choose to reconnect, sometimes slowly and other times quickly by looking at my part and admitting where I was wrong. If you know me, I rarely like to be wrong. I am always trying to figure it out and talk my way into being right: a way of being that served me well before, but does not create a happy or healthy marriage. Sometimes the most spiritual thing to do is hold my tongue and swallow my pride, and just shut up and listen. It sounds simple, but really difficult to do in the moment when you are sleep deprived, and start taking everything personally.

I wonder if the Buddha or Jesus ever changed poopy diapers? Jesus was not married, but surely he must have been around little babies. The historical Buddha was married and had kids before he awakened, but he probably had servants who did all that stuff since he was a prince. Most of us are not the Son of God or the awakened one, but like them we can embody love in the here and now, even at the most difficult moments.

I used to think I would become a spiritual person by becoming a monk, then later by living in community at L'Arche. What I am experiencing now is that God, which I prefer to call the Divine Prescence invites me into holy silence in moments of boisterous cries from my daughter, to the still quiet mornings when my wife is asleep upstairs, and I am holding our daughter, Winnie. close to my chest as she peacefully naps. Like I said before, it's not all about cleaning poop, but my life includes the day to day stuff that needs to be done. I can't always see the everyday stuff as spiritual. I don't always experience how sacred this very moment is, but sometimes my heart breaks open for just a little bit and I truly experience everything as a gift. But if I am not careful, I collect resentments, fears and judgments that turn the very things and people in my life I am grateful for into burdens and hassle. Sometimes, I need to clear away the "poop" within myself, metaphorically speaking, to be open to gratitude for my life as it is. It's much easier to live life clear and free, so I can be grateful for now instead of living in the past or living in the future.

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Saturday, April 18, 2015

Spiritual Lessons from a Teething Child



Me and my daughter.

Teething is a painful process and very uncomfortable. My daughter's ear piercing screams make my heart wrench as I try to soothe her as her new bottom teeth are coming in. While spiritual growth is not exactly like getting your first baby tooth, it can also be a very painful and down right uncomfortable process.

In my 20s, I had a mistaken belief that a spiritual awakening or some sort of "aha" moment, which Zen describes of kensho would somehow make my life more easy. I confused spiritual growth as somehow comfort and ease. Don't get me wrong, sometimes spiritual experiences are very pleasant in that they provide a sense of clarity.

In my early 30s, I was given a moment of clarity, where I saw for the first time that the way I was living my life was not working. I could no longer blame everyone else for my misery, and maybe just maybe I was willing to try another way before I tried killing myself yet again. It seems funny now to me looking back at how delusional I was thinking I was somehow in control, and I could figure my life out. I had tried many spiritual paths at this point from Anarchist philosophy, Stoicism, Buddhism, Taoism, and different strains of Christianity like Methodism and Catholicism.

I moved to a L'Arche community in DC also hoping that somehow coming to a spiritual community would fix me. The reality was I did not want to truly let control, and my mind started seeing all the ways in which my L'Arche community was the problem and not really helping me. I once again fell into a common pattern of mine, blaming others for the dissatisfaction, restlessness, and internal discomfort I felt. I was spiritually sick and I did not even know it, until I finally came to the jumping off place. At this point, I was praying everyday for a God of my understanding to kill me in my sleep. Why do the dirty work if someone else will do it for you? It upset me each morning that God was not merciful and took me in my sleep, but I had to face life which felt like a chore...a living hell.

I am like a baby in that I thought the world revolved around me. A 31 year old man behaving like a helpless baby leaves one angry entitled human being. Luck for me, I was given a gift of desperation...hitting a spiritual bottom. In a moment of clarity I became aware that the common denominator in all my misery no matter where I went was me. I had to change or get busy dying, because I did not want to continue living this way.

No one, not even a loving community could make me surrender, nor could they then do the work of inner change. I opened myself to a God that I did not really believe, because this God of my childhood, God I studied in seminary was a God of my own making...ultimately I still ran the show. My way did not work and luckily enough I was able to reach out for help and be desperate enough not to control who or what that form of help came.

I experienced a state of admitting I was powerless and being open to another way, which meant admitting my way, my thinking, and the way I was living was not thinking. I was my worst enemy. I am not sure if babies think these thoughts as they experience pain and suffering, maybe they just cry because they hurt. My daughter goes from extreme distress to belly laughs, and I truly envy how she is so much in the moment. She is powerless over the pain and discomfort of teething, but it is my hope that she trusts that she has loving parents that are looking out for her and walking with her through the process. I sometimes forget that I have a loving Power in my life that walks with me through the pains and joys of life, and sometimes that Power reaches out to me through friends and sometimes strangers. I truly believe and have experienced how we can be channels of God's peace, especially in moments we are honest and vulnerable.

Teething like spiritual growth can be very tiring, and sometimes we need a nice long nap cuddled up to someone we love.






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Saturday, March 28, 2015

getting Winnie to nap: lessons in humility

I've faced many challenges in my life: depression, paying taxes, getting beyond suicidal iterations, finding a job, and etc. But none of them compare to getting a little baby to nap on her bed. :)

Winnie loves to nap on my chest, but based on the wisdom of all the parents before me and especially at the suggestion of my lovely wife, I am trying to be consistent about teaching her how to nap in her own bed. The problem arises a few minutes after I lay her down, and she abruptly wakes up either smiling and laughing or screaming and wailing.

What does this have to do with spirituality? There's nothing like a lesson in humility and a call to practice love and tolerance like the presence of a young infant. I am learning a lesson that my life in community keeps teaching me, which is that I cannot control other people. However, I can try to be centered and stable inside, so I can show up on a consistent basis.

The other day, my daughter and I napped in our bed for a whole freaking hour. It was amazing, and especially needed because she had woken up around 3:30 that morning. I am learning that we are called to love and practice love, even when we are sleep deprived and tired, and I feel like I have nothing to give.

I never thought I was a rigid person, but I've realized as this lovely new person is constantly changing my routine that I have doggedly become a creature of habit. I want things to happen when I want them to, even when I have a roughly fluid schedule. I am working on this with my wife practicing love and tolerance with me. I don't always see how selfish I am being. I'll offer up a story to illustrate. Few months after Winnie was born, we planned to visit our friends in DC. I had organized a lunch with friends and also set up a place for us to stay, and sort of roughly mapped out what we'd do that weekend. The night before we were going on the trip, Winnie was not feeling well and I was also starting to feel slightly not so well. I sort of threw a tantrum when my wife Jocelyn told me we probably should not go tomorrow.

I was really upset and could not get past the plans I had made. My plans became more important than the people right in front of me, and even my own body telling me to rest. The morning came and my daughter was snottier and I was worse, and I finally had the sense to realize that my wife was wise and spoke the truth. It is so humbling to admit that you are wrong, and then the hard part is trying to change and not repeat the same mistake.

Winnie's naps similar to the story I shared, is another experience of me not being able to control the situation or a person. Little babies have good days and bad, and my job is to show up with an open heart. Laugh when my daughter wakes up smiling and laughing, and soothe her when she wakes up crying. Back to this great experiment called parenting... :)



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Monday, March 9, 2015

prayer and meditation

I have been practicing some form of meditation since 1999, my first year as an undergraduate at UNC-Chapel Hill. I read a book on Taoist meditation techniques and started sitting. I then I about Zen and started sitting zazen. My meditation practice was off and on until 2008, when I entered a Methodist seminary in Durham, NC. I began to be interested in contemplative practices within the Christian church and sought out a mentor for Centering Prayer and started a centering prayer group along with new friends at seminary. I would say that my love for contemplatives started initially when I discovered Taoist sages, Zen monks, Hindu ascetics, and later early Church Fathers and Mothers.

I was drawn to the writings of Thomas Merton and encountered Trappist Monks when I was in seminary during a spiritual retreat. I used to visit Mepkin Abbey (http://mepkinabbey.org/wordpress/) on a more regular basis, and spent a month there as a Monastic Guest while in seminary. My last year in seminary, I became Catholic. I tell people that I came into the Catholic Church through the back door, being pulled by the contemplatives of the monastic tradition.

Currently, I am a member of the Religious Society of Friends. In the eyes of the Catholic Church, I remain Catholic, and only a confession away to be an upstanding member.


My prayer life consists of daily starting my day with intercessory prayer and silence. I have set prayers I have memorized, and I go through them to open my heart and mind to the will of a God of my understanding. I prefer the Quaker term of Divine Presence. I then sit in silence about 20 minutes, and sometimes invoking the sacred word as taught by Fr. Keating in practicing centering prayer if I get distracted. I intersperse my prayer life with zazen, more specifically a sitting practice called shikantaza, which roughly translates to just sitting. I became more disciplined in my sitting while I was in seminary, and often sat with the Buddhist student group.

As a father of a 4 months old daughter, I've had to be little more flexible with my prayer life and meditation practice. When I awake in the morning, I am often waking up to my daughter getting up to start her day. I usually change her diaper, read to her, play with her and sing to her about an hour before she takes her first nap of the day. I pray and meditate while holding her. I am sitting on a couch rather than on a meditation cushion. My sitting on a zafu has been irregular, but I still try to just sit when I hold my daughter on my couch.

My night time prayer has been also more fluid and flexible. I rarely sit on the cushion, but I try to pray and do some deep breathing as I lay in our bed. I try to open myself to my body sensations, to my own breath and the breathing of my daughter and wife.

I will try to return to a more disciplined meditation practice, especially with the sitting posture on the zafu once my daughter sleeps through the night [keep your figures crossed :)].

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Let’s Grow Together: Interview with EunSung Kim

October 1, 2015
By Jon Berry

https://www.friendsjournal.org/eunsung-kim/



EunSung Kim, 35, is in chaplain residency training in Richmond, Virginia. He was introduced to Quakerism in college. He and his wife, Jocelyn, married under the care of Friends in Washington, D.C. They were accepted into membership of Richmond (Va.) Meeting last year. They became parents last November, and are raising their daughter, Winnie, in meeting. 
The son of a Methodist minister, EunSung went on to try different traditions, including Catholicism and Zen Buddhism, before settling into Friends. EunSung holds a masters of divinity degree from Duke University.

Jon Berry: How did you and your family come to Quakerism?

When Jocelyn and I began dating, I suggested we try different faith communities. I felt it was important for us to share our spiritual lives. Bless her heart, she agreed. We were living in Washington, D.C. We went to a number of churches—Catholic, Russian Orthodox, evangelical. Then we tried Friends. It felt to both of us a community we could be part of. For her, I think, it was the Quaker principle of simplicity and the social activism of Friends. I was drawn to the silence and communal worship. It was nice to sit in silence and experience God for myself. I was so tired of people telling me what to believe or how to experience God. In Friends meeting, I could just come, and sit, and listen.

Jon: What is meeting for worship like for you?

It depends on the Sunday. I usually sit in the back in a rocking chair. Sometimes my daughter falls asleep and sleeps the whole meeting. Having a little human being next to my heart and feeling that person’s warmth while in silence brings such deep gratitude. There’s a wonderful sense of connection in being in silence with my daughter and my wife. Recently we’ve started using the nursery; Winnie is getting older and wants more stimulation. So we’ll bring her into meeting for the first 20 minutes, when the children are present, then take her to the nursery when the older children go to First-day school.

Jon: How do you center yourself?

Just sitting and being still is the first thing. I try to close my eyes, breathe, and feel my body. Then I try to tune into the sound of my own breath. Sometimes, when I’m distracted, I say a prayer, like the Jesus prayer: “Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.” Or a Hawaiian prayer I’ve learned that goes, “Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” Sometimes I just say the first part, “Thank you. I love you,” over and over, until my mind calms and I center into silence.

Jon: What happens to you in meeting?

There are times I feel awakenings. The sense of time in meeting can feel different. Last week, I felt tense coming into meeting. But the silence was really deep. Two Friends broke silence, asking for songs to be sung. After the first song, I settled more deeply. Sometimes I go into meeting thinking I just want silence, but then someone speaks and it connects me to the God of my understanding, and I leave meeting in peace. I hope that as she grows up my daughter experiences this kind of silence. I hope meeting can be a safe place for her to experience, experiment, and discover. I remember being surprised when I first saw young Friends sitting in silence, some as young as six or seven sitting for the whole hour. It’s nice to worship in an intergenerational space.

Jon: How do you see Quakerism working in your life?

I love the Quaker belief in letting our lives speak. It can be at home with family. When we eat, we pray a silent prayer. Recently Winnie has been able to hold both our hands so we make a circle. In my professional life, I’m working toward being a chaplain. I’ve been doing my clinical hours in a hospital setting. I try to see the encounters I have with people in moments of crisis as being a meeting for worship. It’s a sacred space. Something happens that you can’t put into words. I love chaplaincy. It feels natural to who I am and the spiritual life I’ve been practicing. Often I’m the first Quaker people have encountered. Coming to a ministerial role, as a Quaker, is interesting. People want to put authority on me, but it’s not necessarily something I want. Authority is something I see as shared. In meeting, everyone is a minister, even children. Someone once said, after a meeting in which Winnie had been making baby noises, that they really enjoyed her share. Whether you use words, or sounds, or presence, you have a place in Friends. 

Jon: Have you gotten involved in your meeting?

We went to one young Friends meeting in D.C. before moving to Richmond, and after moving went to a few Friendly Eight suppers. But then we became parents and life got busy. We made a conscious decision not to be on a committee when Winnie was a baby. I’ve recently talked with Jocelyn about taking on a role, and have been holding in the Light what that might be. The meeting has been really welcoming. From the time we began coming, people wanted to hear our stories and what drew us to Friends. We really appreciated the process of becoming members. One of my favorite parts was writing the letter to the meeting declaring I wanted to become a Friend. Before we applied for membership, Jocelyn and I took the time to go to the mountains. We stayed in a bed and breakfast, and wrote our letters in a beautiful place. We sat in silence before we wrote.

Jon: Has anything you’ve read about Quakerism especially impressed you?

Thomas Kelly’s writings really speak to me. I particularly like A Testament of Devotion, in which he talks about holy silence and holy obedience. I’ve been drawn to the contemplative life, monastic spirituality, centering prayer. Kelly describes that contemplative spiritual life. I appreciate the importance on living out belief. Silence is not just inner peace but to be useful to God.

Jon: What would you like to see for Quakerism in the years to come?

I hope more young families can come into meeting and feel welcome, with children, even younger children, like we have. Quakerism can be such a safe and welcoming space for families. As for myself, I hope I can become involved with the larger meeting. We attended our first regional meeting last year. It was great. Seeing a huge business meeting done with the help of the Spirit in a discerning way was wonderful. I love the practice of not moving forward if we’re not in unity; it’s not majority will but the will of a Higher Power. I love how people are drawn to Quakerism. Many of the people I’ve met in Quakerism didn’t grow up in meetings. They came to meeting and encountered a particular experience of the sacred. It felt like home. It’s what happened to me.




Jon Berry

Jon Berry is a Friends Journal trustee. He lives and worships in New York City.

Quaker spirituality - The Australian Friend, Reg Naulty, Canberra and Regions Meeting

Quaker spirituality - The Australian Friend

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Reg Naulty, Canberra and Regions Meeting


There is a strong interest in mysticism out there. That is shown by the huge public acceptance given to the work of Eckhart Tolle who writes about Zen Buddhism. His first book The Power of Now made the New York Times best seller list and was translated into thirty languages. A later book, A New Earth, has been published in forty-four languages, and an in-depth webinar he made with Oprah Whitney about its main themes has been watched thirty-five million times.

Friends have a strong mystical tradition, and it has been there from the beginning. A mystical experience is a powerful inward feeling which the person who has it spontaneously believes to be an experience of God. Thus George Fox as he was led away to jail:

I was ravished with the sense of the love of God, and greatly strengthened in my inward man. But when I came into the jail where those prisoners were, a great power of darkness struck at me; and I sat still, having my spirit gathered into the love of God.[1]

The word “ravish” has connotations of being overwhelmed and delighted. Among first generation Friends such experience seems not uncommon.
Thus Marmaduke Stephenson in 1655: “I was filled with the love and presence of the living God… for it did increase abound in me like a living stream.”[2] 
There were other mystics in the early heroic period of Friends, Isaac Pennington and William Ledra, for example, so that the time seems to have been something of a Pentecost.

Mysticism keeps recurring in Quaker history. In the eighteenth century, John Woolman had “fresh visitations of heavenly love” which flowed through his various concerns into the social environment. In the nineteenth century there was Caroline Stephen, who identifies a pejorative sense of “mystical” employed by bluff, hearty defenders of common sense:

…a mild term of reproach, to convey a general vague dreaminess. Nothing, certainly could be less applicable to early Friends. They were fiery, dogmatic, pugnacious and intensely practical…[3]

In the twentieth century there were two prominent Quaker mystics, Rufus Jones (1863-1948) and Thomas R. Kelly (1893-1941). Jones wrote books about mysticism; Elizabeth Gray Vining devotes a chapter to his mysticism in her biography of him. Jones believed in a state of unification met with “a burst of joy, of rapture and of radiance”. Those who had seen God, he held, should gird themselves for service.

Thomas R. Kelly wrote vividly about mysticism in his book A Testament of Devotion. “I have been literally melted down by the love of God[4] he wrote, and, at greater length:

… Holy Fellowship reaches beyond {intellectual assumptions} to the immediacy of experience in God, and seeks contact in this fountainhead of real, dynamic connectedness[5].

Why do Friends have this mystical tradition? 

The habit of centring down in Meeting for Worship has a lot to do with it. 
Once we have centred down, it is easy to move into deep prayer, which is one of the main pathways to mystical experience. 
Many of us, when we pray, pray in a perfunctory way with the top of our minds, which is no way to mystical experience.

Some Friends have the idea that mystical experience is reserved for famous people, not for ordinary people. That is not the case. 

The Quaker writer, Howard Brinton, had three hundred journals by non-famous Quakers in his personal library, and he wrote that they were as valuable a source of material on the history and nature of mysticism as are the writings of many more famous mystics.[6] 

A good book on mysticism is Douglas Steere`s Quaker Spirituality.

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[1]Rufus M. Jones[ed] The Journal of George Fox. Friends United Press. Richmond. Indiana. 1976.p.116

[2] Christian Faith and Practice in the Experience of The Society of Friends. London Yearly Meeting. 1972. Entry 32.

[3] Douglas V. Steere. Quaker Spirituality. Selected Writings. SPCK London. 1984. p.248

[4] Thomas R. Kelly. A Testament of Devotion. Quaker Home Service. London.1979. p. 19.

[5] Thomas R. Kelly op. cit. p.77

[6] Howard H. Brinton. Quaker Journals. Varieties of Religious Experience Among Friends. Pendle Hill Publications. Wallingford, Pennsylvania. 1972. p.25

내리사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없다

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내리사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없다
기자명   등록일 2013.11.20 

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독일 속담에 `한 부모는 열 자식을 거느려도 열 자식은 한 부모를 못 모신다`는 말이 있다. 사랑이나 인정은 물과 같아서 위에서 아래로 흐르기는 쉬워도 역류하기는 어렵다. 그래서 `사랑은 내리사랑`, `내리사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없다`는 말이 인구에 회자하는 것이리라.

“은유, 내가 봐주마. 너희 둘이 열심히 벌어서 빨리 일어서기나 해라” 엄마는 기꺼이 손녀를 돌보겠다고 했다. 옛말에 “애 볼래? 밭맬래?” 하면 밭매러 간다고 할 정도로 육아는 힘들고 어려운 일이다. 처음에는 어린이집에 맡길 생각이었지만 연일 터져 나오는 아동학대 뉴스도 그렇고 무엇보다 은유가 너무 어렸다. 환갑이 다된 엄마에게 은유를 맡기자니 마음이 무척 아렸다. 스무 살에 시집와 자식 셋 뒷바라지도 모자라 여동생 손주, 손녀도 돌봐주셨는데 이제 나까지 엄마에게 멍에를 지우게 됐으니 불효도 이런 불효가 없다 싶었다.

죄송한 마음에 틈날 때마다 갖가지 먹거리를 사 들고 들어갔다. 많지는 않지만 매달 용돈도 드렸고 안부 전화도 빼먹지 않았다. 고생하시는 엄마를 위한 나름의 치사랑이라고 생각했지만 큰 오산이었다.“손녀 봐주는 통에 요즘 내가 효도를 다 받는구나!” 엄마의 그 말이 우레처럼 가슴에서 울렸다. 그랬다. 사실은 엄마를 위한 게 아니라 은유를 위해서였다. 부끄럽지만, 아프지만, 그랬다.

지난여름은 참으로 대단했다. 생전에 이런 더위는 처음이라며 어르신들이 혀를 내두를 정도였으니 2013년 여름은 사람들에게 가장 뜨거웠던 해로 기억될 것이다. 그 와중에도 건설 현장 일용직 노동자인 아버지는 하루도 쉬지 않고 일을 나가셨다. 온종일 뙤약볕에서 비지땀을 흘리고 돌아온 아버지의 검붉은 목덜미를 보노라면 그렇게 애잔할 수가 없다. 이제 연세도 있고 하니 그만 쉬시라고 해도 돌아오는 대답은 한결같았다.“너거한테 손 벌리고 싶지 않다. 일 할 수 있을 때까지는 할 끼다”

전국학생 주산경연대회에 군 대표로 나가 상을 받아 올 정도로 영민했던 아버지의 운명은 1959년 9월17일 추석 아침, 한반도를 관통한 태풍 `사라`로 완전히 뒤바꿨다. 태풍 `사라`는 지금까지도 한반도에 상륙한 가장 강력한 태풍으로 기록되어 있다. 당시 사망자가 849명, 실종자가 206명에 이를 정도로 그 피해는 막대했다. 실종자 206명 중의 한 명이 바로 할아버지였다. 태풍 `사라`는 할아버지의 시신도 돌려주지 않았을 정도로 아버지에게 가혹했다. 그것뿐만이 아니었다. 할머니가 개가하면서 삼촌 집에 얹혀살게 된 아버지는 그때부터 줄곧 눈칫밥을 먹으며 머슴처럼 살았다. 어릴 때부터 얼마나 지게질을 했던지 지금도 어깨에 그 자국이 남아있다.

그때 태풍 `사라`가 오지 않았더라면, 그래서 할아버지가 돌아가시지 않았더라면 아버지의 삶은 지금과는 많이 달랐을 것이다. 태풍 `사라`가 아버지의 운명을 잔인하게 짓밟았다고 나는 믿었다. 적어도 아버지가 그렇게 말씀하기 전까지는.

요즘 들어 부쩍 기력이 쇠하신 거 같아 아버지를 모시고 한의원에 갔다. 한의사가 진맥하더니 “이제 몸 쓰는 일은 그만 하세요. 몸이 많이 상했어요”라고 잘라 말했다. 그러자 아버지는 껄껄껄 웃으시더니 대꾸했다. “내가 다른 복은 없어도 일복 하나는 타고났소. 거기다 내 이름이 목숨 명에 목숨 수자 아니요. 질긴 목숨에 일복 하나는 타고났으니 내 한 몸 움직일 수 있을 때까지는 부지런히 벌어야지요. 안 글소?”

태풍 `사라`가 아버지의 운명을 바꿔놨다고 생각했는데 그게 아니었다. 아버지는 아버지 대로 자신만의 운명을 당당히 개척해온 것이다. 하지만 환갑을 넘기고도 “너거한테 손 벌리고 싶지 않다”며 매일 새벽, 일터로 나가시는 아버지의 그 말이 참으로 아프게, 아리게, 쓸쓸하게 내 가슴에 와 메아리친다.

정말 내리사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없는 것인가!

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내리사랑만 있고 치사랑은 없다
 중부매일 승인 2019.04.08 

[기고] 유종렬 전 음성교육장
독일 속담에 '한 부모는 열 자식을 거느려도 열 자식은 한 부모를 못 모신다.'라는 말이 있다. 자식들의 이기적인 태도를 꼬집는 뼈아픈 말이다. 이와 같은 뜻을 가진 우리말 속담으로는 '내리 사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없다.'라는 말이 있다. 부모님은 우리에게 존재의 근원 그 자체이다. 그런데도 조금만 머리가 커지면 다들 부모님의 은혜는 안중에도 없고 자신들의 편의만을 생각하는 것이 요즘의 세태다. 오죽하면 요즘 부모님을 지극정성으로 모시는 사람을 인간문화재라고 부른다는 우스갯소리가 있다고 한다. 과연 우리 주위에서 인간문화재가 몇 사람이나 있을까.

어느 업체에서 설문조사를 했더니 '부모들이 자식에게 가장 많이 하는 거짓말'은 '아픈 데 없다(33%)', '선물 필요 없다. 니들 살림에 보태라(30%)'였다고 한다. 세월은 흘러도 변치 않는 것이 부모의 마음인 것 같다.

이 세상의 그 무엇이 아무리 아름답다 한들 어머니의 사랑보다 더 아름다운 것이 있겠는가. 부모에게 끝이 없는 사랑을 받고서도 그 1%도 갚지 못하는 것이 우리들이다. 그래서 부모가 자식을 사랑하는 내리사랑만 있고 부모를 위하는 치사랑은 없다고들 하는 것이 아닌가 생각한다.

유종렬 전 음성교육장
유종렬 전 음성교육장
이율곡 선생의 전기를 보면 5살 때에 어머니의 병환이 위독하게 되자 밤중에 사당에 나가서 "신이여, 내 몸을 바쳐 어머니 병환이 나을 수만 있다면 기꺼이 드리겠습니다."하고 기도를 드렸고, 11살 때는 아버지가 병환으로 눕게 되자 대꼬챙이로 자기 팔을 찔러 피를 뽑아 아버지에게 먹였다는 기록도 있다.

미군이 필리핀 상륙전을 할 때에 어떤 섬에서 군함에 타고 있던 병정 한 사람이 웃옷을 벗고 바람을 쏘이다가 웃옷을 바다로 떨어뜨렸다. 함장에게 달려가 저 웃옷을 꼭 건져 달라고 부탁을 했으나 함장은 시간이 바쁘다고 그냥 가자고 했다.

그러자 그 병정은 죽음을 무릅쓰고 다이빙을 해서 뛰어내렸다. 자살하는 줄 알았는데 웃옷을 붙잡아 가지고는 살려 달라고 해서 살렸다. 그리고 그는 군법 회의에 회부가 되었다. 군법 회의에서 "어찌하여 너는 그토록 어리석은 짓을 했느냐?"고 묻자, 그 병사는 젖은 웃옷 포켓 속에서 사진 한 장을 꺼내며 "이것이 우리 홀어머니의 사진인데 어머니의 사진을 물에 빠뜨리고 싶지 않아 들어갔습니다."라고 대답했다. 그래서 모든 사람이 감동하여 그를 무죄로 석방해 주었다는 이야기가 있다.

미국의 대통령 가운데 제임스 가필드라는 대통령이 있었는데 그는 취임식을 할 때 나이가 많아서 잘 걷지도 못하는 그의 어머니에게 '어머니가 취임식에 안 가시면 저도 취임식에 안 나가겠다'고 고집하여 거의 업다시피 하여 취임식에 모셨다. 그리고 모든 군중 앞에 어머니를 앉히고는 대통령 취임식의 모든 영광을 나이 드신 어머니께 돌렸다. 그러자 참석했던 모든 사람들이 "가필드는 과연 효자구나. 그러기에 축복을 받았다."고 칭송했다. 자식이 아무리 효도한들 부모 은혜에 어찌 미칠 수 있으랴. '나무는 조용히 있고자 하나 바람이 멈추지 않고, 자식이 공양하고자 하나 부모는 기다려주지 않는다.'는 옛 성현의 가르침이 새삼 귓전을 울린다.

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치사랑과 내리사랑!익산열린신문 | 승인 2014.02.17 09:16댓글0icon트위터icon페이스북
순 우리말 중 ‘치사랑’이란 단어가 있다. 손아랫사람이 손윗사람을 사랑함 또는 그런 사랑을 일컫는다. 여기서 ‘치’는 아래에서 위로를 뜻하는 접두사다. 주로 ‘눈을 치켜뜨다’는 표현에서 많이 사용된다. 치사랑의 반대로는 우리가 자주 사용하는 ‘내리사랑’이라는 표현이 있다. 손윗사람이 손아랫사람을 사랑함. 특히 자식에 대한 부모의 사랑을 말한다.
예문으로는 속담 ‘내리사랑은 있어도 치사랑은 없다’를 들 수 있다.
‘안갚음’이란 단어를 들어 봤을 것이다. 까마귀 새끼가 자라서 늙은 어미에게 먹이를 물어다 주는 일. 즉 자식이 커서 부모를 봉양하는 일을 말한다. 발음상 혼동할 수 있는 ‘앙갚음’은 남이 나에게 해를 준 대로 그에게도 해를 준다는 뜻으로 사용한다. ‘안갚음’과 ‘앙갚음’. 전혀 다른 뜻이니 잘 기억해야겠다.


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'내리 사랑은 있어도 치 사랑은 없다' 과학적으로 규명
입력2018-04-12 


‘부모의 자식 사랑’ 과학으로 설명할 뇌부위 발견

美 하버드대 연구 성과 ‘네이처’에 발표

“뇌 시상하부의 전시각중추가 담당…총각 쥐도 아빠 쥐로 변신”


viewer새끼를 돌보는 쥐의 모습. /사진제공=Dulac Lab/Howard Hughes Medical Institute/Harvard



‘내리 사랑은 있어도 치 사랑은 없다.’(부모가 자식을 위하는 마음은 많지만 자식이 부모를 위하기는 쉽지 않다는 뜻)

미국 하버드대학교 연구진이 어버이의 자식 사랑을 과학적으로 설명한 논문이 국제학술지 ‘네이처’(Nature) 11일자에 실렸다.

연구진이 쥐를 대상으로 실험한 결과, 쥐는 부모가 되면 보금자리를 만들고 새끼들과 함께 시간을 보낸다. 새끼 쥐를 보듬어주는 시간이 늘어나는 반면 다른 쥐에 대한 관심은 줄어든다. 교미 경험이 없는 젊은 수컷 쥐는 다른 새끼 쥐를 물어 죽이는 등 매우 공격적인 성향을 보이다가 자신의 새끼가 태어날 때쯤 되면 공격성이 현저히 줄어든다.

연구진은 이번 연구에서 쥐의 부모 행동이 뇌 시상하부의 전시각중추(medial preoptic area)와 관련돼 있음을 밝혀냈다. 이 부위는 수컷 쥐의 성적 행동을 담당한다고 알려진 곳이기도 하다.



연구진은 여기 있는 세포 중에서도 ‘갈라닌’(galanin)이라는 물질을 만들어 내는 신경세포가 부모 행동과 관련돼 있음을 실험으로 입증했다. 갈라닌 발현 세포를 인위적으로 활성화하자 젊은 쥐도 마치 아빠 쥐처럼 공격성이 줄어들고 새끼를 보듬는 행동을 보였다. 연구진은 암컷 쥐 역시 수컷 쥐와 같은 뇌 부위가 부모 행동을 유도한다는 것을 확인했다.

연구를 진행한 캐서린 듀락 교수는 “포유류의 부모 행동 같은 복잡한 사회적 행동을 세부적인 수준에서 설명할 수 있게 됐다”며 “이 연구는 언젠가 산후우울증이 있는 엄마와 아기의 유대를 돕는 방법을 고안하는 데 도움을 줄 수 있을 것”이라고 밝혔다.

이은경 기초과학연구원(IBS) 시냅스뇌질환연구단 연구위원은 “이번 연구에서는 바이러스 및 형광단백질을 이용해 뇌 회로를 시각적으로 보여줬다”며 “칼슘 이미징을 통해 부모 행동이 나타날 때 시상하부 내 특정 세포의 활성을 현미경으로 확인했고 광유전학적인 방법으로 세포의 활성을 조절하며 나타나는 쥐의 행동을 관찰했다”고 설명했다. /고광본 선임기자 kbgo@sedaily.com

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