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The Holy Spirit, Chi, and the Other: A Model of Global and Intercultural Pneumatology - Kindle edition by Grace Ji-Sun Kim. Religion & Spirituality Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

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"Are there correlations between the Holy Spirit of the Christian tradition and the Chi of the Asian traditions? In tackling this huge and complex question Kim boldly and provocatively opens up whole new vistas on pneumatology and shows that in our global age theology can no longer be done from just one, up to now Eurocentric and androcentric, perspective. We are all in Kim's debt for this enlightening and enriching theological adventure." - Peter C. Phan, The Ignacio Ellacuria Chair of Catholic Social Thought, Theology Department, Georgetown University

"Any pluralist Christian may draw energy and insight from Kim's comparative theology of Chi. She offers a spirited strategy, always clear and hopeful, for at once decolonizing our old exclusivism and empowering a fresh and healing planetary cooperation." - Catherine Keller, Professor of Constructive Theology, Drew Theological School; author of On the Mystery: Discerning Divinity in Process

"The Holy Spirit, Chi, and the Other is well researched, theologically creative, interdisciplinary, and cross-cultural. The book is rich in both content and meaning. Kim's sophisticated treatment of the Spirit is a welcome addition to the growing literature on Global Theology. This book will be extremely useful for students and scholars in religious studies, theology, and cultural studies. It is a telling testimony to Kim's intellectual vitality, fine scholarship, and daring originality." - Akintunde E. Akinade, Visiting Professor of Theology, Georgetown School of Foreign Service, Doha, Qatar

"It is in taking just such a wide angle view of its subject, and doing it with considerable attention to detail, that The Holy Spirit, Chi, and the Other maps out a rich landscape for further exploration. It will be an excellent resource for students and

teachers, and a very helpful point of departure for scholars in theology, religious studies, and social and cultural criticism." - Stephen Simmons, Moravian Theological Seminary

"Whether one agrees ultimately with Kim, The Holy Spirit, Chi, and the Other does the hard work of bringing Christian theology into dialogue with Eastern traditions. In an increasingly shrinking global village, Christians can no longer avoid doing theology only with Western resources. Kim provides one model of how this essential work is to be done. May many others take up this important task." - Amos Yong, J. Rodman Williams Professor of Theology, Regent University School of Divinity

"I highly recommend Kim's work as a fine piece of the kind of contextual theology we very much need today in the area of the Holy Spirit and Chi, given the widespread awareness and culture of Chi in so many parts of the world, especially in East Asia. She should be complimented on a very promising pioneering work." - Anselm K. Min, Dean and John D. and Lilian Maguire Distinguished Professor of Religion, The School of Religion, Claremont Graduate University


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Grace Ji-Sun Kim received her M.Div. from Knox College (University of Toronto) and her Ph.D. from the University of Toronto. She is an Associate Professor of Theology at Earlham School of Religion.

Kim is the author or editor of 16 books, Intersectional Theology (Fortress) co-written with Susan Shaw; Healing Our Broken Humanity (IVP) co-written with Graham Hill; The Homebrewed Christianity Guide to the Holy Spirit (Fortress Press); Mother Daughter Speaks (FAR Press) co-written with Elisabeth Sophia Lee; Planetary Solidarity (Fortress Press) co-edited with Hilda Koster; Intercultural Ministry (Judson Press) co-edited with Jann Aldredge-Clanton; Making Peace with the Earth (WCC); Embracing the Other (Eerdmans); Here I Am (Judson Press); Christian Doctrines for Global Gender Justice (Palgrave) co-edited with Jenny Daggers; Theological Reflections on “Gangnam Style” (Palgrave Macmillan) co-written with Joseph Cheah; Contemplations from the Heart (Wipf & Stock);Reimagining with Christian Doctrines (Palgrave Macmillan) co-edited with Jenny Daggers ; Colonialism, Han and the Transformative Power (Palgrave Macmillan); The Holy Spirit, Chi and the Other (Palgrave Macmillan); and The Grace of Sophia (Pilgrim Press).

She is a co-editor with Dr. Joseph Cheah for the Palgrave Macmillan Book Series, “Asian Christianity in Diaspora”. Kim has also written over 70 book chapters, journal articles and book reviews. Kim is a much sought after lecturer and has given papers/lectures throughout the United States and in Korea, Myanmar, Spain, Qatar, Brazil, Switzerland, France, Peru, England, South Africa and Canada.

Kim served on the Board of Directors for the American Academy of Religion as an At-Large Director. She is a co-chair of AAR’s steering committee, “Women of Color Scholarship, Teaching and Activism Group.” She sits on the editorial board for the Journal for Religion and Popular Culture and is a referee for 3 journals: Journal of Race, Ethnicity, and Religion, Journal of Religion and Popular Culture and The Global Studies Journal. She is an Advisory Board Member for the Center for Reconciliation at Duke Divinity School.

Kim writes for The Huffington Post, Sojourners, EthicsDaily.com, Wabash Center and Feminist Studies in Religion (co-editor).

She has also written for TIME, The Feminist Wire, Feminism and Religion, The Forum for Theological Education, 99 Brattle and The Nation.

Grace Ji-Sun Kim is an ordained minister of word and sacrament within the PC (USA) denomination. She is married to Dr. Perry Y.C. Lee (Associate Professor of Mathematics, Kutztown University) and they have 3 children Theodore, Elisabeth and Joshua.

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HALL OF FAME
5.0 out of 5 starsNew Look at Enriching our Idea of the Holy Spirit.October 11, 2011
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Dr. Kim's book addresses the post-colonial dialectic between the center versus the marginal, the coming together versus the preservation of identity, and what insights that Eastern understandings of Chi (wind, breath) can offer to our often neglected third of the Trinity, the Holy Spirit. Feminist and other contextualist theologies devalue the un-knowable, transcendental aspects of Christian philosophy, inherited from Plato, and sustained up until Kant's critique. They also abhor the negation of self found in Kenosis. To preserve the self and celebrate the praxis required by the conditions in which we find ourselves, Dr. Kim raises the banner of the ancient disciplines of China, India, Japan, and Korea in understanding that way in which the spirit acts on and with us. The Christian scriptures say much about the healing power of the spirit, yet they say not one jot or tittle regarding how it is that happens, possibly due to the scripture's devaluing the physical, the "flesh". Eastern thought never makes that separation, so it devotes deep thought to Chi as a vital spirit, and thousands of years of praxis on physical disciplines treating the "whole person" such as acupuncture and Tai Chi.

Please note: I am a student of Dr. Kim, and I assisted to some extent in helping to edit this book.

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5.0 out of 5 starsboundary crossing bookDecember 14, 2012
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Dr.Kim sets the agenda for the coming century of theological research by boldly urging that reflection and catechisis draw on the "hybridity" characteristic of today's world. She challenges the legacy of an attenuated and vapid platonism within christian tradition, with its implied denegration of the body. As a leader of adult education classes in a very multicutural parish, i find her concepts refreshing and liberating. As a deep reader of Calvin, i am delighted that dr. Kim, an ordained minister in the Presbyterian church, shares Calvin's belief that we cannot know who is "saved"; she suggests with PANNIKAR that revelation is complex and infinite, not bound to western categories of thought , and always opening us to freedom and newness. In that sense she breaks new ground, as Amos Yong has done, in the emerging and exciting field of pneumatology.

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Mihee Kim-Kort

5.0 out of 5 starsAn Accessible PneumatologyApril 17, 2012
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Dr. Kim does a comprehensive work in presenting the multi-layerd connections between Holy Spirit and Chi. It's highly technical, but still accessible and compelling. Her incorporation of an Eastern notion of "spirit" thickens and deepens the Christian theological understanding of Holy Spirit in practical ways. These days when so many cultures and religions are interfacing on a regular basis it is refreshing to have a resource that does so honestly, articulately, and courageously. There's no loss of authenticity or faithfulness to Christian faith here, nor any inkling of dilution, which is often a concern for those who criticize inter-religious dialogue. This is the age of the Holy Spirit, and engaging and allowing ourselves to be open to the work of the Holy Spirit is crucial for the sake of God's Kingdom.


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5.0 out of 5 starsA suggestionNovember 27, 2014
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Hi Doctor Kim, reading these reviews and meditating on this subject extensively I sense that this is indeed a pivotal work. It is my belief that the body of Christ will be immensely edified by the truths it contains. Please do us a great justice and make this book's price point and format more accessible I.e. publishing in kindle friendly format. The lost profits will be more than made up for in transformed understanding, which I believe is more important to you. Thank you, Ben.

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I wanted very much to like this book, but every page was a disappointment. As comparative theology, it's painfully thin and naive, even totalizing. (The Holy Spirit is similar to chi! They must be different names for the same reality! So are prana and ha, while we're at it!) As postcolonial/hybridity theology, it's derivative, repeating the theses of Bhabha et al. with very little addition. Worse, I don't see how the author's reifications of "East" or "West" or "Asian" (e.g. "the Asian concept of chi"-- which one?!) can survive the sort of critical analysis her theoretical basis requires.

There is absolutely material here for a terrific book. I want to read a postcolonial pneumatology, or an ethnography of chi practices among North American Christians, and preferably something that combines them. This ain't it.
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Mohammad Akram Nadwi - Wikipedia
Mohammad Akram Nadwi
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Mohammad Akram Nadwi

Personal
Born 1964 (age 54–55)

Jaunpur, India
Religion Islam
Nationality British
Alma mater University of Oxford
University of Cambridge
Nadwatul Ulama
University of Lucknow
Occupation Former Research Fellow at the University of Oxford, Islamic scholar, author, professor


Shaykh Nadwi lecturing at the Markfield Institute

Mohammad Akram Nadwi (born c. 1964)[1]is an Islamic scholar and the Dean of Cambridge Islamic College, Principal of Al-Salam Institute, and an Honorary Visiting Fellow at the Markfield Institute of Higher Education.[2][3][4]


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Education[edit]

Nadwi was educated in one of the most famous madarsa and islamic University, Darul Uloom Nadwatul Ulema, Lucknow, India and then in Saudi Arabia and Britain.[5]

Writing and views[edit]

He has written over 25 books in Arabic in the fields of hadith, fiqh, Islamic biography, and Arabic grammar and syntax. Most recently he has completed a 53-volume biographical dictionary of the muhaddithat, the female scholars of hadith. Expecting to find a handful, after eight years he had discovered more than 8000, from as long ago as Umm al-Darda, the wife of one of the companions of the Prophet.[1][6]

Nadwi says he does not advocate unrestricted mixing between the sexes, but acknowledges that Muslim societies and families often limit the potential of their girls and women. He compares this limitation to the "live burial" (female infanticide) practised in pre-Islamic Arabia.[7] He attributes to the "decline of every aspect of Islam" an insecurity and weakness which leads to these restrictions on girls' education and women's rights.[1]

Publications[edit]

Shaykh ’Abū Al-Hasan ‘Alī Nadwī – His Life & Works (Nadwi Foundation, 2013) The book covers all the various aspects of the life and works of ’Abū al-Hasan ‘Alī Nadwīincluding the background of Muslims in India and the rest of the Muslim world from a political, intellectual and educational perspective.[8]

Al-Muhaddithat: The Women Scholars in Islam (Oxford: Interface Publications, 2007) A translation of the muqaddimah (preface) of his magnum opus above.[9][10]

Abu Hanifah: His Life, Legal Method and Legacy (Leicester: Kube, 2010)[9][11]

Al-Fiqh Al-Islami: According to the Hanafi Madhab: Purification, Prayers and Funerals v. 1(London: Angelwing, 2007) An original compilation of the fiqh of Imam Abu Hanifah and his school. For the first time in English, the detailed rulings of this school are presented together with the evidence on which they are based; every argument is fully and carefully referenced. Nadwi takes current circumstances into consideration, making this book the first authentic, reliable and relevant account of Hanafi practice in English.[12]

Madrasah Life (London: Turath, 2007) The translation (from Urdu) of his memoir of a student’s day at Nadwat al-Ulama.[13]

The Garden of the Hadith Scholars (London: Turath, 2007) by Imam Abd Al-Aziz Ad-Dihlawi. Translated from Persian into Arabic and annotated by Mohammad Akram Nadwi. Translated into English by Aisha Bewley.[14]
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^ Jump up to:a b c Power, Carla (25 February 2007). "A Secret History". New York Times Magazine. Retrieved 8 September 2018.
^ "College Dean | Cambridge Islamic College". www.cambridgeislamiccollege.org. Retrieved 11 August 2017.
^ "Dr. Akram Nadwi | Al-Salam Institute". Al-Salam Institute. Retrieved 6 May 2017.
^ "Personnel | Markfield Institute of Higher Education". www.mihe.ac.uk. Retrieved 6 May2017.
^ Power, Carla (15 September 2015). "What the Koran really says about women". ISSN 0307-1235. Retrieved 22 April 2018.
^ Ato Quayson, Girish Daswani, A Companion to Diaspora and Transnationalism, Chapter 29. ISBN 1118320646.
^ Karin Klenke, Women in Leadership: Contextual Dynamics and Boundaries, p 174. ISBN 0857245619
^ Shaykh ’Abū Al-Hasan ‘Alī Nadwī – His Life & Works at Mecca Books.
^ Jump up to:a b "Reclaiming history: Oxford Centre for Islamic Studies produces 40-volume work on Muslim women scholars and prayer leaders", Women Living Under Muslim Laws.
^ Mecca Books.
^ Abu Hanifah: His Life, Legal Method and Legacy at Kube Publishing
^ "Al-Fiqh Al-Islami Vol 2", Angelwing.
^ Madrasah Life at Mecca Books.
^ The Garden of the Hadith Scholars at Mecca Books.

Bonds that Make Us Free: C. Terry Warner

Bonds that Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships, Coming to Ourselves: C. Terry Warner: 9781629722153: Amazon.com: Books



Bonds that Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships, Coming to Ourselves: C. Terry Warner: 9781629722153: Amazon.com: Books

Life can be sweet. Our relationships with friends, spouses, colleagues, and family members can be wonderfully rewarding. They can also bring heartache, frustration, anxiety, and anger. We all know the difference between times when we feel open, generous, and at ease with people versus times when we are guarded, defensive, and on edge.

Why do we get trapped in negative emotions when it's clear that life is so much fuller and richer when we are free of them?

Bonds That Make Us Free is a ground-breaking book that suggests the remedy for our troubling emotions by addressing their root causes. You'll learn how, in ways we scarcely suspect, we are responsible for feelings like anger, envy, and insecurity that we have blamed on others. How many times have you said,You're making me mad!

Even though we fear to admit this, it is good news. If we produce these emotions, it falls within our power to stop them. But we have to understand our part in them far better than we do, and that is what this remarkable book teaches.

Because the key is seeing truthfully, the book itself is therapeutic. As you read and identify with the many true stories of people who have seen a transformation in their lives, you will find yourself reflecting with fresh honesty upon your relationships. This will bond you to others in love and respect and lift you out of the negative thoughts and feelings that have held you captive. You will feel your heart changing even as you read.

It would not be accurate to describe this book as supplying the truths upon which we must build our lives, writes author C. Terry Warner. Instead it shows how we can put ourselves in that receptive, honest, and discerning condition that will enable us, any of us, to find these truths on our own.

Finding these truths is the key to healing our relationships and coming to ourselves, and Bonds That Make Us Free starts us on that great journey.

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About the Author


Dr. C. Terry Warner holds a Ph.D. from Yale University and is a professor of philosophy at Brigham Young University. He has been a visiting senior member of Linacre College, Oxford University, and in 1979 founded The Arbinger Institute, a widely respected group that devotes itself to helping organizations, families, and individuals. he and his wife, Susan, have ten children.


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Miss F

5.0 out of 5 starsThinking outside yourself is so freeingFebruary 20, 2016
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I love this book. I bought the hard copy and the the kindle edition to keep on my phone. Reading it helped me think about people in ways that are more generous and kind to people in general. It also helped me think about how I react to others in general. I don't reread a lot of books, but I try to reread this one at least once a year.
If you are frustrated with your relationships, the people you work with, or even just the people in line at the store, READ THIS BOOK!


One of the main principles:
"Others will detect little clues of tone and expression, revealing how we really feel, even when we take pains to pretend otherwise....[T]hey're not likely to respond gratefully, but more likely to accuse us in return. And then we, in turn, will take offense, convince by their accusing response to us that we were right to accuse them in the first place!"

It all goes back to the golden rule. If we treat people well and with genuine good will and charity in our hearts, they will react to us in kind.We can all take a few seconds to give someone the benefit of the doubt before accusing them of being out to get us as they cut us off in traffic, say something hurtful, or do something we don't like or understand.
I actually had a major chance to apply these principles recently.
I was in a bad car accident recently because someone dropped a queen size mattress on the freeway and I had to slam on my brakes and was rear ended. I was so mad at the stupid idiot who didn't take the time to properly secure their load and obviously didn't care about others. When the mattress owners showed up to pick up their mattress, not knowing they had caused an accident, they were a young married couple who probably didn't know that much about properly securing loads on a borrowed truck. Although there were consequences that needed to be faced, I was not killed or seriously injured, and I had been judging them as though they had intentionally dropped the mattress maliciously. I realized that I was wrong to think of them in that way. It was an accident. Everyone involved had insurance, and they probably learned a very valuable lesson from the experience.

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Jonesy

5.0 out of 5 starsI would give it ten stars if I could.July 20, 2017
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I have read and reread this book, and need to read it again. It is beyond my ability to describe the changes it can make in your heart and in your relationships. I have already given away a few copies, and this one will go as a gift to someone very special in my family. I recommend this to anyone who has ever wondered what they can do to enhance their relationships, relate better to all those they interact with or learn to forgive past hurts. It does not, contrary to what a few reviewers have said, suggest that we become doormats or victims in any relationship, but read thoroughly and completely it empowers us to grow stronger and become part of the solution. After reading this I picked up Leadership and Self-Deception, Anatomy of Peace and the Outward Mindset by the Arbinger Institute, which C. Terry Warner helped to create. They fit beautifully with Bonds That Makes Us Free

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irondori

5.0 out of 5 starsLife changing! Can't recommend it more!May 16, 2018
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I love this book and how it opened my eyes to my relationships and more importantly, how I respond to outside circumstances. It teaches how to effectively make the changes that will bring more control to your life, better relationships and made me happier. I couldn't recommend it more!

At first, it felt like it was repetitive, but each lesson added nuances to situations and helped me to see myself more clearly. It was hard to do that without seeing some of the control and change encouragement along the way in the first half, but truly changed my life for the good! I think I went through an entire highlighter and will read this book again- and I never reread books! I also listened on audiobook.

Last, I got this to help me learn more about codependency and how to change it. I learned the skills I was lacking and didn't feel a need for a therapist after learning this. What a blessing!

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5.0 out of 5 starsPowerful & Profound; 10 years later and I still consider this book the jumpstart of my transformationMarch 14, 2017
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This is my FAVORITE relationship book I've ever read. It has changed my life in powerful ways, and I continue to use it as a resource and recommend it to anyone asking for ways to find greater peace in their lives and relationships. I learned so much about myself, and so much about how to find greater happiness and love with the people I interact with. The author is gifted with an ability to share stories and experiences that I related to, and I found myself having numerous lightbulb moments of understanding with ways to change my own behavior, thoughts, and feelings allowing me to have a happier life and relationships. I didn't know how much I needed this book when I began reading it, but it changed my life for good and has continued to be a strong foundation for the joy and freedom I experience today. I consider this book as a more in-depth version of The Anatomy of Peace and Leadership and Self-Deception. It's a life-changer!

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I purchased this book during a particularly rough period in my life. I was seriously considering divorce after 23 years of marriage. I was not able to see past my own hurt and pain and after reading the book, I was able to honestly access my role in our issues and almost like a light bulb going on, was able to begin to change me and how I was reacting to my wife which made a world of difference. This book literally saved my marriage. If you're looking for a book that will make you feel good about "standing your ground" or gaining some kind of advantage at the expense of others, this isn't it. However, if you are looking for a book that will literally change the way you view your role in the lives of the people that surround you every day, I have read nothing better. I have purchased additional books for my older children and consider this the best book that they could possibly read as a "pre-marriage" help guide. This extends to relationships with friends, relatives and co-workers. Apart from scripture, the most inspired book that I have ever read.

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Life can be sweet. Our relationships with friends, spouses, colleagues, and family members can be wonderfully rewarding. They can also bring heartache, frustration, anxiety, and anger. We all know the difference between times when we feel open, generous and at ease with people versus times when we are guarded, defensive, and on edge.

Why do we get trapped in negative emotions when it's clear that life is so much fuller and richer when we are free of them?

Bonds That Make Us Free is a ground-breaking book that suggests the remedy for our troubling emotions by addressing their root causes. You'll learn how, in ways we scarcely suspect, we are responsible for feelings like anger, envy, and insecurity that we have blamed on others. (How many times have you said, "You're making me mad?")

Even though we fear to admit this, it is good news. If we produce these emotions, it falls within our power to stop them. But we have to understand our part in them far better than we do, and that is what this remarkable book teaches.

Because the key is seeing truthfully, the book itself is therapeutic. As you read and identify with the many true stories of people who have seen a transformation in their lives, you will find yourself reflecting with fresh honesty upon your relationships. This will bond you to others in love and respect and lift you out of the negative thoughts and feelings that have held you captive. You will feel your heart changing even as you read.

"It would not be accurate to describe this book as supplying the truths upon which we must build our lives," writes author C. Terry Warner. "Instead it shows how we can put ourselves in that receptive, honest, and discerning condition that will enable us, any of us, to find these truths on our own."

Finding these truths is the key to healing our relationships and coming to ourselves, and Bonds That Make Us Free starts us on that great journey.
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Jun 29, 2011Alan rated it it was amazing
Authored by the same man who founded the Arbinger Institute, the pages are drenched with emotionally wrenching truths. In his words, you find lenses that slowly correct the our distorted view of ourselves, and those around us.

If you intend on getting anything at all from this book, it will first ask you to lay on the table all of your habits, behaviors and perceptions, and re-examine them under a magnifying glass held by the author. Having done so, you will likely find what you see difficult to swallow - you will discover that many things you do in your life, which you might otherwise ascribe to love, concern, or otherwise pure motives... are at least to some degree driven by a distorted sense of self, and a distorted perception of others. It becomes our Achilles Heel - tainting and undermining our relationships with others.

It will be a difficult read - with the good news being that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We have the capacity to reveal those distortions and correct them. In that process we start to heal ourselves, and heal our relations with others. The end result being, we find ourselves enlaced with bonds of true friendship, of deep and lasting love, of trust and charity. The bonds which in the end prove to be liberating. The bonds that make us free.(less)
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Mar 28, 2009Tricia rated it it was amazing
Can I give this book six stars? Seven? Hands down, the best self-help book I have ever read. I hate to even put it in the "self-help" category, because it sounds entirely too trite for what this this book is really about. At the very least, I would say it's more like a "how-to" manual for life.
My friend Stephanie gave it to me years ago, and while I started it, I never finished. I just wasn't in a place that I 'got' it. But now I am reading it for the second time, this time taking notes. Honestly, I feel like I've never read anything that resonated with me so much! Every page felt like a new adventure, every paragraph absolutely filled with insight and new understanding. I feel like my eyes have opened for the first time and I see every relationship in my life differently. Now if I can just be humble enough to apply it! (less)
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Apr 06, 2008Valerie rated it it was amazing
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Life Changing Book. I've read it twice and as soon as I get my lent copy back, I'm going to read it again. It's a book that peels the blinders off our eyes so we see our true motivations for what they really are--in order to be better afterward. A bit of a painful read (I'm attached to some of my delusions about myself :) ), but it's been life changing and very rewarding in my relations, familial and friend. Read it!
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Apr 01, 2008Mehrsa rated it it was amazing
I recommend this book to anyone who has ever been in any relationship. It will change the way you view the world, yourself, and every one of your relationships. It's genius.
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Sep 24, 2017Jacob rated it liked it
Shelves: from_librarynonfictionpsychology
This book has some very interesting and groundbreaking ideas if you haven't encountered them elsewhere. As the back text says, it presents the idea that "we are responsible for feelings like anger, envy, and insecurity that we have blamed on others." And it's not wrong. From a certain perspective, that's very true, and from that same perspective it is indeed "within our power to stop them." I think everyone should at least be exposed to these ideas, because they can be incredibly useful to improve one's own life.

The author even presents examples and descriptions, so you can know if his advice applies to you, if you "identify with the many true stories of people who have seen a transformation in their lives". This is helpful if you are self-aware enough to recognize you are identifying with what the author says and honest enough to admit it.

I have two problems with this book. One is that the advice is narrower in scope than the author would like to believe. Don't get me wrong, it can be incredibly useful; there are many cases where, if you are angry, or hurt, or jealous, etc. it is more because of you than anyone else and you can change your life powerfully by opening yourself up and loving and appreciating others for who they are. However, there are cases where that isn't the problem, and while the author grudgingly admits abuse isn't the victim's fault, in general he insists that if you don't think his advice applies to your situation, then you are simply blind and need to realize that it does (he feels the applicability of his advice is nearly universal). I think there is space for people who hurt but don't hate, and who love but don't express it in unhealthy ways, and it's not helpful to tell those people that their problems are their own fault and they're just not recognizing it when they are not in fact feeling jealousy, envy, or insecurity. Maybe I'm just naive in thinking there are people like that, to whom the advice doesn't apply. However, I can think of another case where the advice doesn't apply that I don't remember the author addressing: mental illness.

The other problem I have with the book is that, as an engineer, it's too much a "proof of concept", where it is expressed as something that *can* work if everything happens correctly, but not as something that can *reliably* work if not all the conditions are right. The author has spent a lot of time working on this, developing the idea, giving seminars, and yet has no advice for how to achieve his described nirvana if things don't work the way he says. The only advice is to keep trying, in perpetuity if need be. The example he uses took 5 years to work out. It would have been more convincing if the author had included failure stories, where things didn't work out, and if he'd had some idea why.

Other than a need to better define the situations in which this advice applies and to provide some support for making it work in non-optimal situations, the advice here is good and powerful and a lot of people's lives would be better off if they learned these ideas. (less)
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Mar 24, 2008Cherry rated it liked it
This book is SO heavy, SO wonderful, but SO heavy. I cried and cried and cried when I read this book, because I always what to be So much better than I am and this book really HIT me in the face with a lot of things that I do incorrectly in relationships and when I read it I was just so hard on myself that I knew it would be good for me to read again when I felt a little better about myself. It is also hard to read and then observe people not taking responsibility for their actions and feelings because you want to point it out to them (and you know how people enjoy having you point out things like that to them). I really think that this book helps people look at themselves in a deeper way. It is one that I feel I should attempt to read every couple of years. (less)
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Aug 09, 2007Rachel Wagner rated it it was amazing
Shelves: religionself-help
I dare you to read this book and not be changed. There were a few points I disagreed with- such as his unique views on abuser/abused forgiveness. However, that is a small flaw in a very insightful book.
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Feb 21, 2010James rated it it was ok
Why only 2 stars? It was an easy read and worth the time. However, it was not super original. The main point is about "self deception." When you do not get along with another person, you are deceiving yourself [etc...:]. You can feel better if you treat people with love, and others will respond well. The book can be summed up with, forgive others and think of them positively (especially when you are cheezed off or hurt because of them). [Additionally it gives some advice that I disagree with.:] However, the book is full of generally sound advice for people looking on ways to live in harmony with others, especially their family members. Remember, 2 stars is not a bad rating, I just do not like it as much as the 3 star books. - I did not think it was as good as Seven Covey but he makes some good points. (less)
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Dec 29, 2007Megan rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone seeking a more positive world view
For me, this book was fantastic, perhaps even life changing. It's a psychological discussion based on LDS principles, and it really does show a way to improve relationships in all circumstances. The basic premise of the book is that WE are usually the source of any problem situation we're having with people, because we choose to take offense or hold a grudge. Warner postulates that when we betray our inner sense of right and wrong, our compass is then mixed up, and sometimes we think we're doing "good" things when really we're doing them for the wrong reasons and worsening the situation by doing so. Hence, self-righteousness and perfectionism. The meat of the book is better than its jacket made it sound, I thought. The only down side is that it's a bit lengthy, and it takes him awhile to get to the point. The first six chapters are all about defining the problem, so you don't get any solution thoughts at all until halfway through. Be patient! It's worth it. I found the last chapters in particular to be extremely helpful. And there are stories in here that are unforgettable, that apply to so many people, and that will wrench your heart. I truly believe this approach can be successful for healing all types of relationships, even the most troubled.(less)
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Nov 13, 2017Keri rated it it was amazing
In terms of being inspired to be a better person, the only book better than this—for me, at least—is “To Kill a Mockingbird.” If you have ever yearned to be just like Atticus Finch, this is the how-to book to make that happen. Even in moments when I might not have wanted to hear it, the raw truth contained in the principles, the stories, and the inspiring invitations hit home with such clarity that I could hardly keep from letting go of any bonds of resentment I have ever had, and replace them with empathy, forgiveness, and unconditional love. (less)
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Feb 17, 2008Kim rated it liked it
Recommends it for: those seeking change
Shelves: non-fictionpersonal-growth
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Wow, this is a powerful book with brilliant insights. But, as with anything that makes us stop and evaluate ourselves, it was a very difficult read. In fact, it's probably time for me to return to its pages (if I could just get "out of the box"...)
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Aug 05, 2018Aria rated it it was amazing
Warner’s thoughtscape is very reminiscent to me of The Work laid out in Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is, which changed me. I can feel my heart space shifting in its seat as I listen, looking forward with heaviness for all the changes that Truth will ask of me but somehow excited to feel my spirit grow toward a homecoming with its true self. As I worked through the material presented here I knew it was asking me to change my heart because I could hear myself noticing all the changes my loved ones needed and few of my own. It is encouraging to hear from Warner say that just being willing to notice the gift of other’s humanity and vulnerability and suffering, to see them as a You and not an It is enough to give our heart fodder to change, even it we can’t directly be in charge of the timing of our shift. I can see Christ in this work and hope to know Him better and be more free and whole as He is by loving bigger and throwing my pride into the fire. Deeply loved his thoughts on intent and how serving others to make ourselves feel validated will never be true life-giving service and leaves us empty still. My home is where I struggle the most with these issues and I’m full of hope that I can find more inner peace and stillness by implementing these reminders, despite how anyone responds to my trying. (less)
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Apr 22, 2018Jackie rated it really liked it
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Jan 12, 2019Sean Taylor rated it it was amazing
Everyone should read this book, especially those that have been seriously hurt by others.
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Nov 11, 2009Tracy rated it liked it
Another book in my never-ending quest to improve my communication and relationship skills. When it is good, it is very, very good, but when it is bad it is horrid. And by horrid I mean too over-simplified for my liking.

Very good insights on how easy it is to blind ourselves to our own wrongdoing by pointing to the wrongdoing of others. I like these two quotes:

"The fable is that our accusing, self-excusing feelings such as anger, frustration, bitterness, self-pity and so on are signals that we are in the right. The fact is, such feelings are signals that we are in the wrong."

"Understanding self-betrayal and self-victimization can soften our accusations of others, open us to acceptance of their efforts, and enable us to let go of our accusing attitudes and emotions."

The author suggest that we find ourselves feeling accusatory and blaming others, we should always ask ourselves "Might I be in the wrong?" and "What is the right thing to do?" There is a whole lot more about HOW to do that.

All of this is well and good. Very applicable skills for use in everyday life and relationships for sure. My family is already benefitting from my improved attitude and efforts to abandon blaming and to be more aware of my part in any negative collusions we might have going on around here.

What bothered me was some of the stories he used to illustrate his point. I thought he went too far when he used stories where someone who was the victim of verbal abuse and even sexual abuse and then suggested that those people needed to "repent of their unforgiving feelings about what had happened and even ask their abusers to forgive them for those feelings." I am not a psychiatrist, but I think that there's a whole lot more to it than that. Some of the examples really stunk, and even took away power from the ideas the book was suggesting we adopt.

I MADE myself finish this book. Because the good ideas were so helpful to me, I made myself gut through the parts I disagreed with. (less)
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Apr 28, 2012Karene rated it it was amazing
I read this for the first time in college, and again about six months ago. It is life changing. I identified deeply with the fundamental concept that each person is responsible for the nature of his/her relationships with others. The book is full of real life examples of how this plays out in many types of relationships, and I found myself able to identify right away the ways this was happening in my life. Not only that, but the book is written in such a way that I found it crystal clear what I needed to do to make changes. The difficult part: keeping it fresh in my mind so that I can apply it on a regular basis. This is a book I will want to reread on a regular basis. (less)
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Apr 15, 2012Ruth rated it it was amazing
Don't read this book if you don't want to be confronted by your own self-deceptions--or if you don't want to be aware of your pride and work to change your behaviors. It's a tough book, mostly because it's so unflinchingly honest. It's a book that most of us probably need to read and ponder daily in order to confront the oh-so-common ways we deflect, dodge, and weave away from the things we need to do to make our lives and relationships better. However, if you're prepared to be honest and open, you'll be amazed. Life changing--but only if the reader is open and humble, and ready to become responsible. (less)
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