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Anne L. Macdonald
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I am 94, and I loved every thought in this book! My summary of the book would be what my mother always told me, "There are two words that will get you not just THROUGH life but enjoying it as you are living it: attitude and gratitude. "They seemed to be a theme of this book! I felt a real sense of peace as I turned these pages and found myself agreeing saying, "yes, that is right." They work for me.
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Richard Barbieri
5.0 out of 5 starsWisdom for the Aging -- and for the AgesAugust 17, 2014
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I have read this book fully twice in the past decade. It is both the most solidly based research on what makes for a happy old age, and one of the most humane and thoughtful records of elders speaking for themselves to a sympathetic, wise, and literate hearer. As I move into the age group discussed by the book, I find it an invaluable guide to self-care in both the physical and the mental/spiritual dimensions. Thank heaven George Vaillant started this work at a young age and has continued it for so many years. Give it to anyone you know who hopes or expects to live into their 60s or later.
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Several of the critical reviews are misleading.June 8, 2014
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I think this is an outstanding book, and would like to briefly respond to several of the critical reviews.
1. The author is quite conscious of the impact of privilege on the lives of the Harvard graduates he studies, and repeatedly makes efforts to determine what kinds of success are, or are not, the result of privilege. He pays close attention to the lives of the women in the Terman study, and the "Inner-City" men who were not born into privilege, to compare them with the experience of the white male Harvard graduates.
2. The methods of the study (as, I assume, with the field in general) repeatedly make efforts to correct for the bias of individual observers, including the author. Over the decades, there have been many efforts by "blind" raters to examine one part of the subjects' files, with no knowledge of the rest of that subject's file. I.e. a physician reads the file to evaluate the subject's physical health, with no knowledge of that subject's childhood, professional or personal life, etc. This is not simply about the author interviewing people and confirming his pet theories, although you could superficially get that impression.
3. The author is very frank and aboveboard, that he, like every one of us, has certain biases and prejudices in how he sees the world: he is a liberal East Coast academic. However, it is absurd to say that the book is simply a reflection of his prejudices. He writes sensitively and appreciatively about business-executive Republican types (though he is an academic liberal) and about religious believers (though he is not one). I personally am acutely sensitive to the ubiquitous and un-self-conscious liberal bias in the media and academia, and I really did not find any here. Any given page of the New York Times is 100x worse than this book, if liberal bias is something that bothers you.
Finally, a couple of interesting points that I believe the book proves well:
* Within the cohort of (those who were privileged enough to be) Harvard grads, there was little or no correlation between social status at birth and at the end of life. Many men began with trust funds and boarding school, and ended up scraping by; others from small country towns wound up wealthy.
* Many of the "Inner-City" men, who were raised in or near poverty, with few opportunities or privileges, were able to have healthy, rewarding, inspiring lives, with happy marriages, satisfying work, community ties, grandchildren, rewarding hobbies, etc. On average, they had worse physical health, less prestigious occupations, and lower incomes than the Harvard cohort, but were in no way less happy -- again, on average.
What I take away from this book is the idea that although gifts, talents, luck, personal, physical and intellectual qualities, looks, social status, and privilege are all very unequally distributed in life, it is possible to respond well or badly to life's slings and arrows, and that the nature of this response can have a huge impact on your later life. (i.e.: Avoid alcoholism at all costs!!! Seriously.)
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5.0 out of 5 starsProgressive and meaningful perspectives for Aging WellMarch 17, 2014
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The areas that were the "intellectual set up for the "Aging Well" documentation were the deeper and least entertaining of this book but quite necessary for providing what would be required for drawing the meaningful conclusions for this book! However I will say that that without this documentation the conclusions drawn for the "Aging Well" premise would not be as well understood. I found the conclusions drawn and recommended to be very insightful and will be helpful on a personal basis. I will retread several of the last chapters where the major conclusions are shared and given meaning that I will personally benefit from for my own "Aging "Well" perspective. I can see where after having lost my wife last year after 50+ years of marriage this information will help me in dealing with my own personal grief reconciliation. Anyone needing a healthy perspective for aging and beginning to face their own immortality would also benefit from reading this book!!
I would never have found this book if it had not been on the end table of the Assisted Living Facility and caught my interest while awaiting an opportunity to talk with the Administrator of the facility where my wife was living prior to here passing.
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5.0 out of 5 starsWisdom & ClarityNovember 4, 2013
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This is the latest volume reporting the findings of a decades long study about how we "grow up". Two conclustions: 1. we should give a copy to every twenty-year old, but it would be a wasted effort!, 2. I found my perceptions re. my view of both the sources of success and the sources of wounds largely confirmed. There is comfort in both end points: that we may be gratified at the first and left with a clearer understanding that so much of our discomforts about who we are arose from many events and persons which were beyond our control. There is conentment to be found in these pages.
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4.0 out of 5 starsImportant SubjectMarch 15, 2011
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The first half of this book is excellent. The author explains the value of the longitudinal study and then demonstrates its value over and over through the stories of the study's participants. The second half of this book is not as clear or specific as to what the author is trying to tell us. The theme seems to be happy, be outgoing, have a lot of friends and family, have a lot of activity, and you will age successfully. Also, there is an inordinate emphasis on cultivating a garden which is difficult for apartment and city dwellers.
The book is written for a lay person and the author clearly explains any technical information the reader needs to know. It is definitely worthwhile to read this book and glean from what you can that fits with your life.
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Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Study of Adult Development
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George E. Vaillant
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In a unique series of studies, Harvard University has followed 824 subjects from their teens to old age. Professor George Vaillant now uses these to illustrate the surprising factors involved in reaching happy, healthy old age.
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Dec 15, 2014Richard Weijo rated it really liked it
Aging Well by George E. Vaillant, MD. (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2002).
I am very impressed by this book. The findings from Aging Well are based on a longitudinal study of the lives of three different groups of elderly men and women. One group is 268 male Harvard University sophomores selected between 1939 and 1942, most of who continued to participate in this study for nearly 60 years (or until their death). The second group is a sample of 456 disadvantages Inner City men born in 1930 studied for 70 years. The third group, a sample of 90 middle-class gifted women participating in the Terman Study conducted at Stanford University in 1922, were studied for almost 80 years. The male groups had periodic physical exams to evaluate their health. All groups completed periodic written surveys as well as participated in personal interviews to evaluate their mental health over the 60-80 year period.
With a background as a manager of marketing research, you can imagine why I would be so impressed with this qualitative and quantitative study. It is unprecedented to track respondents over a 60-80 year time period. The book is very clear and well-written. I don’t want to be a spoiler, so I will let you read the book. This book extensively uses the adult development process conceptualized by Erik Erickson. I was impressed by the importance of social and emotional maturation to adult well-being and healthy aging. (less)
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Jul 21, 2013Celia rated it liked it
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I might have given this book two stars. It was readable but I thought me and the author had a personality clash.
Some of the Harvard men led such remarkably good lives that I felt had not much relationship to mine or many "ordinary" people.
Also I know many people who have enoyed their retirement so seeing what made people enjoy retirement was not an issue for me.
The author stresses the importatance of family and children in sucessful aging. While I am married(which he also said was important), I don't have children or siblings so I could not relate/found disturbing about the importance of siblings and children when aging. (less)
May 21, 2016Frank rated it really liked it
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A lot of anecdotes, but they are useful in demonstrating the author's ideas. A summary chapter would have been useful.
It is a hopeful book, in that Vaillant writes that your childhood has diminishing influence on your mental and physical health as you get older.
Having a large social circle that you care about is definitely good for maintaining a long life of health. Of course, you read about the usual suspects: don't smoke, don't abuse booze, have a great marriage, guide the young. So much of what he wrote agrees with what I read in Thirty Lessons for Living. I recommend you read both. (less)
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Dec 18, 2012Al rated it it was ok · review of another edition
I undertook this book after reading a favorable review of its recently-published sequel, Triumphs of Experience, in the WSJ. For over 40 years, Dr. Vaillant has led a Harvard study extending across the entire lives of a large (250+) group of Harvard graduates. Those subjects who are still alive are now in their late eighties or older. In this book, published in 2002, Dr. Vaillant reports on his findings as to what factors influence how lives (mostly men's, but a few women's as well) turn out. The book is full, perhaps overly full, of extended case studies of individuals. The meat of his arguments could have been served much more concisely and, for me at least, more effectively if the book had been less ad hominem. But then it wouldn't have been long enough to be a book, would it? Another concern was my perception that Dr. Vaillant, who has spent most of his adult life on this project, seemed so deeply involved with the study and its subjects that it raised a question about his objectivity. All in all, some interesting points, but not what I had hoped.
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Jun 06, 2012Rebecca rated it liked it
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Adult development, what an interesting idea! Fun to read about people in their 80s whose lives were followed in one of three studies, all brought together in this book. Some had very difficult childhoods; others began their lives with every advantage. We learn--Meeting up with good people can improve your life; alcohol and cigarette abuse are really bad for you; it's good to make new friends as the old leave or die; helping others can be really good for you. I read this at a good age. I was telling my mom about it; I think she could have written it. It has lots of good nuggets. Here's an example: Stuart Little listed 3 important rules: (1) Be a true friend. (2) Do the right thing. (3) Enjoy the glory of everything. (less)
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Feb 15, 2011Michael rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
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A masterpiece, a special blend of empirical research and wisdom from the humanities; it's firmly among the greatest in my pantheon of great books. Vaillant writes with grace, and this book is even better than his landmarkAdaptation to Life. The vignettes are revealing, joyous, sad, moving, and beautifully perceptive. It is a book I'll be rereading and giving as a gift many times throughout my life. VERY highly recommended!
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Mar 28, 2012Jean rated it liked it · review of another edition
I have always loved Self-Help books and nothing has changed there except I'm now reading books such as Aging Well!!!!! This would be a great read for someone in their late 40's/early 50's to learn from the well-documented longitudinal studies of three different groups of people from their childhood or teens into their late 70's or older. The author, Dr. George E. Vaillant, illustrates his points well with actual histories and it is interesting to have stories of actual people, although most names have been changed. I can't say that I learned anything really new and am glad that the predictive factors for a happy "old age" seem intact for me and my husband. Read the book to find out about your own! (less)
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Apr 01, 2013Kathryn Bashaar rated it liked it
I read this book about 10 years ago when it first came out and I thought it was really good, so I wanted to re-read it now that I'm closer to being old. I didn't get as much out of it this time. I think I had already absorbed most of its lessons 10 years ago and am living them. Still, some of the bios were interesting, and it did re-affirm NOT to get stale as I age, and especially not to allow my social circle to shrink, which I imagine is pretty hard when everybody you knew starts dying. Also encouraging to hear that many people are happiest after 60, still satisfied with their marriages and, if healthy, many people are even still happy with their sex lives. Woo hoo! (less)
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Sep 11, 2011Ryan rated it really liked it
Great statistics and great anecdotes, both working together to give a general picture of healthy aging. Made me both hopeful and apprehensive (still) about the topic of aging and eventually passing on. You could some it up, more or less, into six basic statements: don't be an alcoholic, don't smoke, be very generous with what you have, develop social connections at every step of life, continually play regardless of your age, and love deeply and freely. Always good advice.
As with most non-fiction, I feel like a good essay would have done the job. What made this better was that the anecdotes were really entertaining and interesting. (less)
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Jan 25, 2008Buffy added it
I learned from this book that aging well relies on more that just the physical care of the body. Relationships are another key aspect of living a healthy life, and this book reminded me that I do not want to get to the end of my life and not have had good friendships in it. I was also surprised to learn in this Harvard study that level of education played a role in aging well. I am a committed life-long learner.
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Nov 13, 2011Bumbierītis rated it did not like it
This book made me very upset. Alright, it was an experiment and I assume some of the data were useful/interesting. But the whole narrative is just stupid. The author marks all introvert people and especially the ones that aren't hyped about his little study as failures. You must have a wife and preferably still work 40 hours a week at the age 78 to be deemed successful. One model fits all, oh yea...
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Jan 12, 2011Lam rated it it was ok
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I skimmed a lot of this and skipped one or two chapters entirely. I read it for a book group and would never have chosen it to read it on my own. Some of the stories of people's lives were interesting. However,I am very suspicious of studies like this when they try to draw conclusions about people in general. And the longitudinal studies used as the basis for this book had a very narrow base.
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Jun 09, 2013Nuala rated it it was amazing
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George Vaillant is one of my thought-heros. A leading academic, researcher and writer, he does not seek the spotlight but earns complete trust. The findings in this book have stood up to a decade of active research in numerous disciplines. If you want to age well, and who doesn't, read it for yourself and be creative in finding ways to share these essential findings with those you love.
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Aug 22, 2008Peter rated it liked it
The author teaches at Harvard, so the explanations of the research methods and analysis were, at times, a little over my head. But overall, the text was accessible, I found the discoveries fascinating...and what a great topic!
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Feb 16, 2008Joy Fox rated it liked it · review of another edition
George E Vaillant is a medical doctor who followed a longintudinal study of three cohorts or individuals as they aged. It is full of inspiration albeit, a tad dry of a read.
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Dec 30, 2010Joe rated it it was amazing
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Fascinating empirical study of what factors really make a difference towards enjoying old age.
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Jun 24, 2012Paul L'Herrou rated it really liked it
Very good (in most respects) based on human development research following populations over a long period of time.
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Jan 05, 2014Douglas rated it liked it
There is some excellent wisdom in this book, but it is hidden in lengthy anecdotes and rambling. Here's hoping all my goodread friends "age well".
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Mar 07, 2018Summer rated it liked it
"It's not the bad things that happen to us that doom us; it is the good people who happen to us at any age that facilitate enjoyable old age."
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Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith
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by George Vaillant
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In our current era of holy terror, passionate faith has come to seem like a present danger. Writers such as Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, and Christopher Hitchens have been happy to throw the baby out with the bathwater and declare that the danger is in religion itself. God, Hitchens writes, is not great.
But man, according to George E. Vaillant, M.D., is great. In Spiritual Evolution, Dr. Vaillant lays out a brilliant defense not of organized religion but of man’s inherent spirituality. Our spirituality, he shows, resides in our uniquely human brain design and in our innate capacity for emotions like love, hope, joy, forgiveness, and compassion, which are selected for by evolution and located in a different part of the brain than dogmatic religious belief. Evolution has made us spiritual creatures over time, he argues, and we are destined to become even more so. Spiritual Evolution makes the scientific case for spirituality as a positive force in human evolution, and he predicts for our species an even more loving future.
Vaillant traces this positive force in three different kinds of “evolution”: the natural selection of genes over millennia, of course, but also the cultural evolution within recorded history of ideas about the value of human life, and the development of spirituality within the lifetime of each individual. For thirty-five years, Dr. Vaillant directed Harvard’s famous longitudinal study of adult development, which has followed hundreds of men over seven decades of life. The study has yielded important insights into human spirituality, and Dr. Vaillant has drawn on these and on a range of psychological research, behavioral studies, and neuroscience, and on history, anecdote, and quotation to produce a book that is at once a work of scientific argument and a lyrical meditation on what it means to be human.
Spiritual Evolution is a life’s work, and it will restore our belief in faith as an essential human striving.
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Dave Shumway
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I read slowly and reread which is not like me. I found much of myself and my ...July 10, 2015
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As a "Buddhist/atheist/humanist I have strong suspicions and negative experiences with organized religions. This man looks the the ineffable, non- verbalizable experience of "connectedness" through the portholes of neuroscience, socialization and personal intuition. I read slowly and reread which is not like me. I found much of myself and my thinking concretized in there. A+
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Dale Floody
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A blend of science, spirituality, AA, and prosocial behaviorMay 29, 2009
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If you want to read just one good book about spirituality, I highly recommend George Valliant's (2008) Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith. Vaillant is a research psychiatrist (which means the book is crammed with neurobiology) and directed Harvard's Study of Adult Development for 35 years. His conception of spirituality revolves around the eight positive emotions that involve human connection. He argues throughout that prosocial behavior is part and parcel of natural selection, that positive emotions both promote and follow prosocial behavior, and that this process occurs in the limbic and parasympathetic systems and the amygdala (rather than in conscious, cognitive thought processes), and that humanity is moving (from an evolutionary perspective) in the direction of greater spiritual (prosocial) interaction.
Vaillant would argue that spirituality defies rational, cognitive description. Vaillant's final chapter, entitled "The Difference Between Religion and Spirituality", is primarily a fascinating discussion of Alcoholics Anonymous ("AA"), which he concludes is mostly a spiritual rather than a religious program. AA certainly has its detractors, but it has also helped an awful lot of people to maintain sobriety, and Vaillant's discussion of the spiritual aspect of the program was most interesting. Given my emphasis on the importance of humor, I was also pleased to note his comment that AA meetings tend to be filled with laughter and humor (although, beneath it all there is a "deadly seriousness"). Excellent book.
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5.0 out of 5 starsA great book from a legendAugust 13, 2015
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Wow - a great book from a legend in the field of psychological and well being research. Vaillant has really outdone himself with this book. Using data from the last 80+ years (much of it from the Harvard men's study), he talks about love, joy, passion, faith and other elements of our spiritual lives in easy-to-understand, yet impactful ways.
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Don K in Alaska
4.0 out of 5 starsExcellent, but challenging textJanuary 14, 2016
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Difficult reading, befitting a psychiatrist who is writing a defense of Spirituality (as opposed to religion). It's good enough I am re-reading it, this time highlighting the noteworthy text. There's a lot of noteworthy text. Highly recommended for thinkers.
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jcrafts
4.0 out of 5 starsAn Inspirational ReadFebruary 4, 2013
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It is difficult to bring clarity to the difference between religion and spirituality, but he has done it. Simple yet powerful concepts in this book fill each page and help us to understand ourselves better. A good example of one of these concepts is that normal human development is actually a spiritual progression. He shows with great success how religion harnesses our positive emotions and how cults abuse them. After reading his book I have renewed hope that we can all coexist, and that we can put the nonsense to rest.
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5.0 out of 5 starsFive StarsAugust 3, 2017
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4.0 out of 5 starsFour StarsDecember 26, 2016
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Good, but complicated science.
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Scott Henderson
5.0 out of 5 starsSpiritual Evolution; how we are wired for faith, hope and loveFebruary 21, 2012
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I have never read anything by this author that I didn't like. This book arises out of his experience with a longitudinal study on the natural history of mental illness. Within this study was around 180 alcoholics that he followed through most of their life. His finding that Alcoholics Anonymous was superior to professinal treatment led him to consider how spirituality contributed to his process. I have been dealing in these issues for 30 years and find his book breathtakingly to the point. It is a must read for Ministry and Professional's involved in recovery.
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Aug 07, 2008Patrick Tracey rated it it was amazing
This is a book by George Valliant, a Harvard scientist following in the footsteps of thinkers like E.O. Wilson who started the whole movement to "biologize" spirituality.
The key point is the difference between the brain's mammalian limbic system and its reptilian amygdilla. Apparently the brains of reptiles have no limbic region, and this explains why they don't cry out for their parents. They remain silent, frozen in the fear that if they make but a peep, their daddies might eat them.
It turns out that the reptiles are missing the limbic region that contains the brain's hard wiring for the most important things that make life worth living -- empathy and compassion and a willingness to care for people who are not our blood relatives. It's also the part of the brain that embraces the unselfish maternal care for the young (love, we could call it) and play (joy, we could call it) and the separation cry of babies for their parents
So the good news is that we mammals have moved up the evolutionary spiritual chain with the limbic region, but we still have the reptile's old amygdilla region to drive us nuts with fear.
What I like as well is that Valliant takes on the arrogance of fashionable post-modern intellectuals who, as the blind followers of Freud, have rejected positive psychology and, with it, any serious consideration of how we are hard wired for positive emotions like love and joy.
Until very recently, in fact, positive emotions have been entirely absent from psychiatric textbooks. In the bargain, love has been overlooked
How unexpected that the biologists -- along with the quantum physicists -- are leading the psychologists back to God these days.
God, of course, is just a word--and words are but symbols of symbols. People get hung up on it, but why bother? I'd rather conceptualize God as The Force of Ever Giving Love and keeping pumping that nonreligious love through my own brain's limbic region.
What I take away from this book is that at every moment in our lives there are only ever three basic options before us: We can feel fear through our amygdalla. We can feel love through our limbic. Or we can argue about it all day through our prefontal cortex . . Peace . . . PT
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Jan 27, 2009John Schneider added it
Recommends it for: Open-minded people of faith
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Dr. George E. Vaillant M.D., a psychoanalyst, research psychiatrist, and professor at Harvard University, breaks new ground in the age old controversy between science and faith. The book convincingly defends, through reference to historic data and recent research, the proposition that the positive emotions of faith, love, hope, joy, forgiveness, compassion, and awe and mystical illumination are a product of Darwinian evolution and natural selection. The premise is put forward that the mammalian capacity for love and commitment has grown out of the survival need to propagate and nurture children in a hostile environment. Dr. Valliant makes the case that these positive emotions are produced in the more primitive limbic system of the brain rather than the more highly developed neocortex, basically that we are hardwired for selflessness. The development of these positive emotions is largely responsible for the tendency toward more complex relationships and community building in our society.
Dr. Valliant is obviously committed to the theory of Darwinian evolution, yet seems to be open to the existence of God, though loosely defined in his book. As anyone who has read Darwin's abstract On the Origin of Species knows, Darwin himself concedes that the evidence put forth to prove the theory of evolution could just as well apply to the existence of an all powerful creator, and that much more observation would be required to prove his theory. Unfortunately, Darwin died before he could accumulate his further evidence. Dr. Vaillant seems just as content with this conclusion.
The book urges that not only can and must these two perspectives on the nature of our universe peacefully coexist, but that science and spirituality actually have much to contribute to one another. It is of course an answer to both the fundamentalist extremes of the religious right and the radical atheism or anti-theism of Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens.
Dr. Vaillant draws a distinction between genuine spirituality and dogmatic religious belief, which actually reside in different parts of our brain. According to Dr. Vaillant, "the former engages with a formal religious group's doctrines, values, traditions, and co-members, while the latter relates to an individuals connection with something transcendent. Like culture and language, religious faith traditions bind us to our own community and isolate us from the communities of others; while our spirituality is common to all of us. Religion asks us to learn from the experience of our tribe; spirituality urges us to savor our own experience. Religion causes us to mistrust the experience of other tribes; spirituality helps us to regard the experience of the foreigner as valuable too."
Dr. Vaillant predicts that spirituality will continue to evolve through the power of positive emotions and will increasingly contribute to making our world a more communal-minded place. Not only have we evolved spiritually as a species, but as we age as individuals we evolve from the exclusive positions of religious dogmatism to the more inclusive tendencies of openness and tolerance for the beliefs of others. Spirituality, then, the belief in something transcendent, is a net positive for the human race and anyone who suggests otherwise (Dawkins, Harris, and Hitchens) would do well to read this book.
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Sep 08, 2014Pam rated it it was amazing
Beautifully written. There are eleven chapters as follows: Positive Emotions, The Prose and the Passion, Three Evolutions, Faith, Love, Hope, Joy, Forgiveness, Compassion, Awe and Mystical Illumination, and finally The Difference Between Religion and Spirituality. Each chapter/concept flows into the next as the author details why he believes that we are spiritual creatures. In chapter eleven he writes: "In this chapter, I reach for the conclusion that I hope has come to seem inevitable: that the human capacity for positive emotions is what makes us spiritual, and that to focus on the positive emotions is the best and safest route to spirituality that we are likely to find." Highly recommended reading. (less)
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Apr 19, 2011Sandra rated it it was amazing · review of another edition
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This book... very profoundly changed the way i think, or at least it has for now. I read it at exactly the right time that i needed to, just when i was wondering how exactly one harnesses the emotional part of your brain in truth-seeking, how exactly a characteristic like faith is valuable, and why in the hell does God seem like a big fat mean jerk 98% of the time?
It starts out very heavily, laying down the basic groundwork around which the rest of the book is written, so there's a lot of neuroscience and genetic/cultural evolution stuff which, while fascinating, my brain had difficulty synthesizing in the wee hours of the morning that i'd read. So i think that's why it took me so long to actually become absorbed in the book, but once i got past that and into the nitty-gritty of things, i could not put it down.
IMPORTANT THINGS I PICKED UP:
1. Post-formal operations. Um, holy crap, this completely changed the way i think about the entire "God is good" conundrum. The second i read this portion, i had to put the book down to write about how absolutely dickish i felt. He doesn't even explicitly state it as an explanation for that mental dilemma, but when i got to thinking about it, i understood.
In late adulthood, cognitive development may continue beyond Piaget’s formal operations into what Harvard psychologist Michael Commons has termed “post-formal operations”. Post-formal operations involve appreciation of irony and of paradox. By paradox, I mean learning to trust a universe in which the uncertainty principle is a basic axiom of quantum physics, in which good and evil exist side by side, in which innocent children die from bubonic plague, and in which to keep something you have to give it away. As in quantum mechanics, certainty is an impossibility. Only faith and trust remain. The frontal cortex, the seat of our social morality, can be both limbic and neocortical at the same time. It took the Catholic Church two millenia of cultural evolution and John Paul II eighty years of personal maturation for a Vatican pope to master paradox and finally refer to Jews and Muslims as “brothers.” If the bad news is that maturation takes a long time, the good news is that once you learn to ride a bicycle or fully understand that all women and all men are created equal, it is hard to forget.
I have no understanding of paradox. I'm not that mature. I think that just by knowing that that sort of thinking is possible - and also necessary - i am better equipped to deal with that particular mental stress.
2. Some emotions are inarticulate. Profound joy, love, faith... none of these things are available for cognitive explication. We can talk about those things til we're blue in the face but it's not going to make any sense until we immerse ourselves in it. He also did me the kindness of separating the cognitive functions from the emotional ones in the positive emotions he delves into, such as the difference of faith from delusion, faith from belief, happiness from joy, spiritual awe from drug states, forgiveness from tolerance, wishing from hoping, compassion from projection. THANK YOU FOR THAT, DR. VALLIANT.
3. Real faith/hope/love/positive emotions are empathic and focus on the other rather than ourselves. It also leads to action, not just to prayer. It's a Karen Armstrong thing i guess, where valid religiosity must lead to practical compassion. I'm with that. My only issue is then we ourselves are making that value judgment - can everyone really tell when they're just being selfish? I guess i trust myself to. I don't know if i trust everyone else.
4. I've stopped trusting people. This book has illuminated my profound mistrust of others and the lengths to which my independence has separated me from my community. Time to learn to get it back.
I can understand how some other reviewers might have found it distressing and disappointing, but i don't think it ever claimed to hold scientific defense of religion. And it's important, too, that he made that distinction between religion and spirituality. I think spirituality validates religion where science cannot, but only with a proper examination and understanding of exactly why faith and other inarticulate positive emotions are necessary in certain portions of our cognitive imaginings.
All in all, a very profound and thought-provoking read. I've gotten so much from reading it, and anyone who considers themselves to be on a spiritual journey will greatly benefit from a day or two of going through this book.(less)
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Jun 06, 2013Terry rated it really liked it
Dr. Vaillant directed Harvard's longitudinal study of adult development and followed hundreds of men over seven decades of their lives. From his pioneering research work, along with research from the fields of neuroscience, psychology, and history Dr. Vaillant has developed interesting and important insights into human spirituality. He maintains that humans have evolved to experience spirituality and a concept of God at three levels: biological (genetic evolution), societal (cultural evolution) and individual (personal evolution through aging/adult development). He clearly delineates spirituality from religion. He sets out eight "positive" emotions that he believes comprise our experience of spirituality: faith, hope, love, joy, compassion, forgiveness, awe and gratitude. He outlines a biological basis for why these pro-social behaviors tend to improve as we age.
The book is a disquisition on how our brain is wired to experience both negative (fight/flight) emotions and positive emotions. The brain retains precise details of both traumatic experiences (PTSD) and strong mystical experience. Strong negative and positive emotional experiences have the capacity to significantly influence our future relationships and interactions with others. The good news is that we can affect our of positive emotions. The experience of positive emotions does not have to be associated with religion (Vaillant has worked with people in AA and discusses the spiritual basis of AA). I found the chapters that discussed each positive emotion to be the most interesting. Vaillant discusses the importance of spiritual practice and how spirituality and community building (strengthening our relationships with others) go hand-in-hand. One of my favorite quotes in the book (p. 165) is from Steven Post of Case Western University: "All true virtue and meaningful spirituality is shaped by love, and any spiritual transformation that is not a migration toward love is suspect."
This book provides a very hopeful view of humankind. Vaillant believes that human beings, as individuals and as cultures, are growing in compassion and generosity for each other. While newscasts may carry a different perspective, Vaillant provides evidence that mankind is becoming more spiritually oriented and that the positive emotions are one of the reasons for our success as a species.
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Aug 18, 2010Odile rated it liked it
Shelves: religion-mythology-spirituality, science, evolution
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[...] Another recent book dealing with cultural, but particularly emotional, evolution is George E. Vaillant‘s Spiritual Evolution. It focuses mainly on the relationship between a range of positive emotions and different areas of the brain. For each of these emotions (among others love, joy, and compassion) Vaillant shows the ties to different stages in evolution ranging from basic impulses we share with reptilians to more recent developments in neo-cortex unique to humans and (some) other mammals. The style of the book is informal and anecdotal, ultimately not geared towards a scientific proof of all the author’s assertions, but more towards an emotional and spiritual resonance in the reader, which makes it a stimulating read anyhow, although a more rigorous scientific treatment might make the book more convincing to some people.
Vaillant’s main point is that a revaluation of the positive emotions will enable us to lead spiritual lives that benefit both ourselves and others around us. By examining the basis of emotions in biological evolution, we award them also the scientific appreciation they are due, something which has been sorely lacking in psychology and other sciences until now, as the author points out. The distinction Vaillant makes between spirituality (which he ties to the experiencing of specific positive emotions, e.g. love, hope, joy, awe, and mystical illumination) and religion (a more rationalistic social institution geared towards the propagation of ethical values, group identity, and indeed spirituality) is a very valuable one, and one which I have espoused myself for years. I, too, would argue that while religion, in particular the (pseudo-)rational and social aspects of it, may be responsible for great suffering in the world (as are certain non-religious social movements), it does not mean we must denounce spirituality along with it.(less)
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Sep 01, 2009Gavin rated it liked it · review of another edition
This is a very interesting book. I have learned a lot from it. It makes a good case for religion most religion as a force of good in the world from an evolutionary context.
Interesting small points in this book:
• Positive Emotions are essential to the survival of Homo sapiens as a species
• Increasing education and intolerance for patriarchal dogma has steadily eroded membership in most mainstream religions.
• If the world is going to function as one small planet, the development of some kind of consensus regarding human nature is essential.
• Religions have provided communities with a unifying view of the human condition and have often procided the portal through which positive emotions are brought to conscious attention.
• Positive emotions, especially joy make thought patterns more flexible, creative, integrative, and efficient. These emotions have been experimentally shown to help humans behave more communally and more creatively and to learn more quickly.
• We are learning to live peaceably with each other in greater in greater numbers.
• Positive emotions are more important than parental social class, religious, denomination, and IQ to human development.
• Rituals and cultural formats of the world's great religions form the surest way to pull our positive emotions into conscious reflection.
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Apr 05, 2009David rated it it was ok
In this book Vaillant chronicles the journey modern social sciences have taken from total denial of the instincts of compassion and love to a (grudging) acceptance. Along the way, Vaillant argues how fundamental these emotions are. He also emphasizes how the human instinct for love and compassion can be taken as a scientifically defensible basis for religion.
One of Vaillant's cases in point is the Alcoholics Anonymous organization. He notes how AA has somehow been able to avoid the fate of many ...more
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Mar 27, 2017Robert Bogue rated it really liked it · review of another edition
In Destructive Emotions, the Dalai Lama pondered with Daniel Goleman about whether we are generally selfish or generally compassionate creatures. He framed it from the perspective of a classic philosophy question and shared his own idea that we’re both compassionate and selfish and that we operate from a place of compassion until we experience a scarcity. It’s this passage of Destructive Emotions that resonated most with me as I was reading Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith. Spi ...more
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Jun 08, 2012Melinda rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Seth Kadish
Recommended to Melinda by: Melinda Krupa
This is probably in my top 5 books of all time. I have been searching for a book like this and have probably marked a dozen or more pages in in. It is straightforward and I love the way he writes and uses so many disciplines and all of his many years of study and vast knowledge to bring so much heart to a scientific case for the need for love, compassion, faith, joy and hope in the human realm and scientic pursuits. His thought process and writing style were wonderful and although he encompassed ...more
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Aug 11, 2012Michael rated it really liked it
Shelves: brain-body-science, thought-religion
Another beautiful contribution from Vaillant. He looks at positive experience connected with spirituality--faith, hope, love, joy, forgiveness, compassion, awe and mystical illumination--as essential to human thriving. That may seem obvious, but I was shocked to learn how blatantly academics (and, by extension, the law) have ignored or dismissed so many of the things that make life worth living. For example, Freud defined love as "object relations" and dismissed joy (his cocaine use may have had ...more
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Jul 22, 2015James Beck rated it it was amazing
My client (who leads the oncology department at a major hospital in Los Angeles) gave me this book. I'll be honest... It looked boring. However, we always have lively philosophical conversations so I gave it a whirl.
Few books truly impact me. This one changed the way I approach life.
*** Warning ***if you aren't the type of person that chats until sunrise over philosophical conversation, then this book may not be for you. However, If you are looking for words that separate spirituality from religion, and breath new life into faith then this is a book you should sink your teeth into. (less)
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May 07, 2009Tim rated it really liked it
Very interesting book that debunks the ideas of modern athiests that spirituality is dangerous. Vaillant lays out a case that our brains have evolved over the last few thousand years to foster the capabilities of compassion, faith, hope and love as positive improvements to human kind. Not an evangelical title, but a very good read.
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Mar 05, 2013Jesse rated it did not like it
Ooof. There's a pretty good book to be written on this topic. Unfortunately, this isn't it. I so wanted this book to be better than it actually is. And the S*** about autistics is downright offensive at times.
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Sep 29, 2011Jenny Brennan rated it liked it
Shelves: mapp-program-recommendations
I greatly admire Valliant and his work. I love his tendency to incorporate poetry and literature into his arguments. However, while he raised some interesting points, I think that faith and particularly religions are probably more detrimental than helpful to our continued evolution.
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Oct 30, 2012Diane rated it it was ok · review of another edition
With my current search for what the basis is for us to be walking upon this earth, I enjoyed the reference to the human development.
I enjoyed the history & literature references made
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