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The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Haemin Sunim

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The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader
by Haemin Sunim, Chi-Young Kim (Translator), Youngcheol Lee (Illustrator)
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"Is it the world that's busy, or is it my mind?"

The world moves fast, but that doesn't mean we have to. In this best-selling mindfulness guide - it has sold more than three million copies in Korea, where it was a number-one best-seller for 41 weeks and received multiple best book of the year awards - Haemin Sunim (which means "spontaneous wisdom"), a renowned Buddhist meditation teacher born in Korea and educated in the United States, illuminates a path to inner peace and balance amid the overwhelming demands of everyday life.

By offering guideposts to well-being and happiness in eight areas - including relationships, love, and spirituality - Haemin Sunim emphasizes the importance of forging a deeper connection with others and being compassionate and forgiving toward ourselves. (less)
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Published February 7th 2017 by Penguin Books (first published January 13th 2012)
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Rebecca Jane Brown
Jun 28, 2017Rebecca Jane Brown rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. To summarise my thoughts: this book is what you reach for when you're feeling low - it's a hug in book format. I recommend you don't read from cover to cover in one sitting - read when you need a little inspiration or pick me up. It's such a sweet and simple book - anyone could read and glean the wisdom it provides.... I recommend <3.

(My book had an updated cover, it was blue and hard back.) (less)
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Syeda Ahad
Jun 03, 2017Syeda Ahad rated it it was amazing
Heart warming, soothing, simple, yet full of wisdom :) Started reading it at a difficult time and this book helped me find myself back again. I wouldn't say it is filled with extraordinary enlightenment, but that is the best part about it. There are some simple yet powerful truth which we all know deep down inside, but it is so easy to loose our connection with those when we are too wound up in our busy life. This book was a kind a gentle reminder to those truths for me. A small book, but I took my time reading and thinking about the lines. Will definitely read again and again. And also will recommend to anyone who is distressed with anything in their life right now. This book is a gem indeed :) ! (less)
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Brandice
May 07, 2019Brandice rated it liked it
I listened to the audiobook of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader after seeing a few positive reviews for it. It’s a short audiobook (approximately 3 hours) and while worth a listen, once, it didn’t offer any groundbreaking or novel new ideas. At best, it’s a reminder to be present in the moment. For example:

- Be aware of your emotions as you experience them. They are passing through.

- Witness the emergence of a thought. ...more
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Chaimaa 
Sep 26, 2021Chaimaa rated it it was amazing
Sincerely simple things have their own magic, right book at the right time.
When you read it you will feel like probably you have already met some of the advices mentioning here, but sometimes it's good to remind yourself, and this book is here for this reason.
❤ (less)
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Katie
Oct 08, 2017Katie rated it really liked it
Nothing new here but I somehow felt lighter as I kept reading.

Don't dwell on negative thoughts.
Forgive others.
Remember to treat yourself with compassion.
Perspective can change any stressful situation.
Choose happiness, not success.
Always take time to listen.

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Montzalee Wittmann
Aug 22, 2021Montzalee Wittmann rated it it was ok
The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual Leader
by Haemin Sunim

I picked this up at the library thinking this would be a good book for inspiration or at least a feel good book. I was disappointed. It was really just common sense. Nothing I haven't thought of and try to do on my own now.

I did think the author was a bit full of themselves, lol, even in the title! If I already am thinking and doing these things does this make me a spiritual ...more
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Kent Winward
Sep 01, 2017Kent Winward rated it it was ok
Chicken Soup for the Fortune Cookie.
Home cooked homilies with an Eastern flavor.
Slow down and you'll not see anything new here. (less)
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Jokoloyo
Aug 30, 2020Jokoloyo rated it really liked it
A universal feel good book. I recommend this book for everyone. There is a reason why this book is pretty popular on general bookstores.

This book has a lot of calming illustrations. Indeed this is a book for slowing down and ease our minds.
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Kirsty
Jun 03, 2017Kirsty rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: received-as-gifts, june-2017
I was given a copy of Haemin Sunim's The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down by a dear friend after she undertook a stint of work experience at Penguin. Thoughtfully, Abbie wrote in her note that she thought this tome would be a good antidote to in-depth thesis reading, and it was.

Nearly three million copies of the book have been sold worldwide since its publication in 2012, and it has been translated from its original Korean by Chi-Young Kim in collaboration with the author himself. This year, in fact, marks the publication of its first English translation. It is essentially a guide to mindfulness, of how to make the most of oneself despite outside factors sometimes wishing to throw us off course. The subtitle of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, 'How to Be Calm in a Busy World' will, I am sure, speak to many of us in the modern world. I am personally a very calm person, and rarely get stressed out, but I find books like this lovely to dip in and out of; they are soothing, almost.

Sunim is a Buddhist monk, who lives between his native South Korea and the United States, where he lectures. Building on a large Twitter and Facebook presence, where he tweets missives and guidance, he has aimed to offer 'advice on everything from handling setbacks at work to dealing with love and relationships'. His 'simple, compassionate teachings transcend religion, borders and ages, and serve as a calming reminder of the strength and joy that come from slowing down'. This inclusivity is admirable, certainly; one thing which we dearly need in this world is a demonstration of the things which unite us, rather than divide us.

The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been split into several sections - 'Rest', 'Mindfulness', 'Passion', 'Relationships', 'Love', 'Life', 'The Future', and 'Spirituality'. Each chapter opens with an essay, which muses upon the subject in question and how best Sunim thinks we should approach it, and is then followed by a series of short pieces, 'words of advice and wisdom'.

To me, a lot of the short sections felt a little cheesy and patronising, which I'm sure was unintentional on part of the author; we are told, for example: 'Pat yourself on the back for the hard work you are doing. Then go to bed one hour earlier as a gift to your body'. I preferred the essays, which were largely thoughtful and well thought through. There are some nice pieces of advice given about how best to take notice of the world around us, and spending time with loved ones. Occasionally, though, this advice is just plain odd, and blunt in its delivery: 'A good family trip can prevent divorce'.

Much of the book, as one might expect, spirals around spirituality and religion, two topics which do not particularly appeal to me as an atheist. I did find that Sunim came across as rather preachy at times, which did not endear me to him. However, he suggests meditation as a way to grasp one's own consciousness of the world and their place within it, which, I felt, was quite a nice piece of advice which could be easily worked into even a hectic day. Some of his ideas are nice, and he is clearly passionate about what he is writing about, however, so there is a nice balance to be found within. It does seem at times as though Sunim was merely working through his own insecurities whilst writing, and several of the asides seem downright obvious.

On an aesthetic level, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been beautifully designed, and put me in mind of the recent craze of lovely hygge hardbacks. Lovely illustrations have been included throughout, which add yet another dimension of calm to the tome.

I believe that The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down will be of most use to those who suffer with anxiety disorders and depression; it is a rather light but fitting book that can be read one small part at a time, and offers useful advice for seeing positives and focusing upon things of importance to the individual. The author, in fact, recommends that it is not read all in one go, from cover to cover; rather, he says, sections should be digested and reflected upon by the reader before he or she moves on. The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down would be a very thoughtful addition to a loved one's bedside table or reading stack, to provide respite from hectic lives, stresses, and other problems. (less)
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Myrthe
Jun 04, 2019Myrthe rated it it was ok
Shelves: nonfiction, kobo-plus
Alright, so this really disappointed me to be very honest. However, I don't think that's the book's fault, but rather my own: I went in with very wrong expectations. You see, I actually thought that this book would be full of things that you would see only when you slowed down: I was thinking things such as the way the moon reflects in the water on evening walks, or something. That's definitely not what this is: it's a book full of tiny quotes (or guideposts) on how to be happy. If you want to read this, please make sure you know that that is what you're gonna get! 1 star for enjoyment, but with an extra star because I know full well it's my own fault. (less)
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Diana Long
Feb 01, 2018Diana Long rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A philosophy of promoting peace and tranquility into our lives regardless of religious beliefs. The author is a Buddist Monk from Korea and yet he is comfortable quoting favorite passages from the Bible or making references to Kalil Gibran. Enlightening and Inspirational.
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Michelle Curie
May 24, 2018Michelle Curie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
This is a lovely and sweet collection of aphorisms and essays phrased by a Buddhist monk and teacher. It is essentially a guide to mindfulness, comprising spiritual advice on dealing with anything from relationships to stress and a book that is easy to dip in and out of.



It is divided in eight chapters, each focussing on a different topic: Rest, Mindfulness, Passion, Relationships, Love, Life, The Future, Spirituality. Each part starts with a short personal story by Sunim before moving on to a collection of advices and occasionally relevant quotes from other influential people. I guess it is one of the books that make the most sense if you refer to it whenever you find yourself in a situation of needing some words of wisdom on something specific, as it just quite dense with information and sometimes too specific to gain from if there is no relevance.



I personally found especially the chapters on Rest and Mindfulness interesting, but in general Sunim advocates being a gentler, empathic and more perceptive person. There was one passage that I particularly enjoyed, which made me think about how similar every humans experience of being human ultimately is, despite how different all of our lives may seem:

"[N]o matter how many wonderful accomplishments one has had, we all have our share of setbacks, heartbreak, and loss. We have to face challenges we have no control over. Loneliness and the fear of death will accompany us to our final days. Everyone is on the same treacherous journey of life's tainted glory."

All in all, this is a genuinely kind collection to refer to sometimes and that might provide comfort to some in times of need for a voice of both reason and heart.

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Hákon Gunnarsson
Mar 02, 2018Hákon Gunnarsson rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
It’s a nice book, with some interesting insights into mindfulness, but I thought it was slightly repetitive. In the beginning the author, Haemin Sunim, says that it’s best read slowly to get the most out of it, but I read it pretty quickly. Maybe that’s why I found it a little repetative. Anyway, I liked it for most parts.
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Deepti
Jan 18, 2022Deepti rated it really liked it
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Milan
Nov 12, 2019Milan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, tn, spirituality
This is a small book of practical thoughts from a Buddhist monk. Haemin Sunim's book should be read slowly. I had to keep the book aside many times and think about how I behave in certain situations. The book is divided into eight sections: Rest, Mindfulness, Passion, Relationships, Love, Life, The Future and Spirituality and any topic can be read first. The wisdom contained in this book cannot be absorbed in one reading. It should be read multiple times. “We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is, too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world.” (less)
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Viv JM
Feb 03, 2019Viv JM rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: z2019-atw-trans-lit-genre-challenge, z2019-atw-trans-lang-challenge, in-translation, read-in-2019, buddhism, author-male, non-fiction
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3.5 stars

This is really quite a sweet little book. Each chapter contains a very short essay, followed by an illustration and then some short soundbites to ponder on (kind of in the style of the Dhammapada, perhaps). It's not breaking new ground and there are other more comprehensive guides to mindfulness, but it's nevertheless a nice book to have and dip into for subjects for meditative thought. I particularly liked the author's open-minded attitude to other religions and beliefs. The illustrations are rather lovely too. (less)
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Lisa Shultz
Jul 03, 2017Lisa Shultz rated it really liked it
A book that is meant to read slowly. I found reading a few pages before bed, upon rising or in the bath to be a good time. It helped me to ground and balance.
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Nyamka Ganni
Sep 06, 2018Nyamka Ganni added it
Shelves: non-fiction, self-help, spirituality
"Knowledge wants to talk. Wisdom wants to listen."

“What makes music beautiful is the distance between one note and another. What makes speech eloquent is the appropriate pause between words. From time to time we should take a breath and notice the silence between sounds.”

“Do not fight your negative emotions. Observe and befriend them.”

"When blinded by anger, we make choices we later regret. Leaving the room before the bridge is burned is a sign of maturity."

“We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is, too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world.”

“The most dangerous people are those who have passion but lack wisdom.”

“It is a sign of great spiritual strength to keep someone else’s secret.”

"When conversation turns to someone's flaws, try not to participate and gently redirect the conversation." (less)
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Lau
Mar 04, 2021Lau rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: did-not-finish, dutch, donated, received-gifts
Highly unsuitable if you've got mental health problems (like me), with advice such as:

"If work is making you unhappy
And you're sacrificing mind and soul
Consider how your work is helping others
And keep sacrificing yourself for them ✌🏻☺️🥰"

“If you're unhappy
Go to sleep
I swear
It works ✌🏻"

"Are negative memories haunting you?
Live in the present
And keep running away
From your past 🥰❤️🏃”

"Having trouble falling to sleep?
Think of all your loved ones
And you'll sleep right away
They're boring as fuck 🛏😴💤"

...ok I may have interpreted this a little different but I SWEAR this gave me anger issues. It's clearly written by someone who's not experienced PTSD or any other form of mental illness. I genuinely needed to meditate AFTER reading pieces of this to get rid of all my anger.

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Lana
Nov 16, 2016Lana rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
soothing and heart-warming, this is the book young people can seek for in search of understanding, healing and warmth ~
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Gearóid
Jan 16, 2019Gearóid rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very nice little book.
Full of good advise and common sense.
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Nathania
Sep 01, 2021Nathania rated it it was amazing
I don't know what stars i should give for this book.
This book make me consider that life become harder when me think out of my control.

This book teach me to stop and look at when I feel tired of this life. This book encouraging me to understand people's feeling. Life is not about talk but also is about listen people.

This book also tell about passion, being happy , forgiveness , relationship, love , life, future, spirituality. I am thankful for Haemin Sunim to write this book. Really amazing and make me more humble to other person.

There is some words from this book, that amazed me :

"Has something disappointed you?
Has something made you sad?
It's the school of life trying to teach you an important lesson. When you feel ready, take the time to understand the lesson"

"But if you calm yourself and look more deeply, you will see that the person who hurt you is suffering, too."

"Do not try to control those around you. When you can't control even your own mind, what makes you think you can control others?"

"Choose happiness, not success as your life's goal. If you become succesful but aren't happy, then what is the point?"

"Does the person you hate deserve to be carried around in your heart? Keep in your heart only those who love you. If you carry around with you people you hate, it causes only angst and depression"

"Love need to be balanced. If you like him more than he likes you, give him time and space to catch up. It is important to hold back your emotions when your feelings are not balance with his."

"We should love people like sun loves the earth. The sun loves the earth without choosing to
It nourishes tree and flowers, expecting nothing in return. It doesn't withhold its rays but brightens everything with its presence."

"Life is like a slice of pizza. It looks delicious in an advertisement, but when we actually have it, it is not as good as we imagined." (less)
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Marina
Jul 01, 2019Marina rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019, english, compilation, bookmate, self-help, borrow, adult, novels, e-book, non-fiction
** Books 68 - 2019 **

3,8 of 5 stars!

“The more grateful we feel, the happier we become. This is because gratitude helps us realize we are all connected. Nobody feels like an island when feeling grateful. Gratitude awakens us to the truth of our interdependent nature.”

I dunno why but i think the situation is around me is not getting better (especially my working place) and i just need some books that lighten and enriching my minds. so thats why reading this pieces is makes me more grateful in just a small things. I try to be more happier than before with such a small stuff (Winning over Rock-paper-scissors) or even i got chance reviewed an ARC Books can give me a small butterflies in my stomach

I try to not really care about what people think of me. I just wanna to be myself. I know what things that makes me happy. I wanna spread more kindness since i dunno why but i think somehow i get the kindness in others form without i am notice. I realize i just happy with a small things that happen around me. It can be i am more into to get an simple life? yes life is already giving me such a hardships and i just wanna to stay away for an complicated stuff.

This books is really help me to get more peaceful minds. I recommend this books to you if you have an foul moods and needs to be reminds how to be more grateful in your life for a small things :)

Thankyou Bookmate! (less)
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Nikki Sarrat-O'Connell
Feb 14, 2017Nikki Sarrat-O'Connell rated it it was amazing
Good things come in small packages. This is one!! ✌
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ngoc nguyen
Aug 03, 2021ngoc nguyen rated it it was amazing
i don't often read self-help books but this one was so eye-opening and beautiful. i'm not a spiritual person but the advice this book gives is so true
it also talks a lot about mindfulness and gratitude which are things that i absolutely need to focus more on. other that that, the book gives amazing advice about love, relationships, etc. i honestly think everyone can benefit from reading this book
oh and the illustrations in this book??? so so beautiful and elegant (less)
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KLC
Jan 25, 2021KLC rated it it was amazing
I'm definitely not in the demographic for this. It was specifically written for people born and raised in the Korean work culture, but also resonated with Chinese and Japanese citizens (according to the author's introduction). That makes a lot of sense to me. I don't know if it's because I'm from the West or because I've read several self help books, but all the information in here seems like common sense.

If you're in the demographic, this is a great book. It's also not very long, so even if you're not in the demographic, you can read it in an evening. (less)
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Zarina
Mar 24, 2018Zarina rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down comprises of a series of inspiring essays by Zen Buddhist teacher and author Haemin Sunim, interspersed with thought provoking quotes by him and other influential people in the world of mindfulness. Alongside these there is also stunning art by Youngcheol Lee, which not only beautifully compliments the writing but provides a serene backdrop for contemplation in its own right.

Divided in eight distinctive chapters – rest, mindfulness, passion, relationships, love, life, future and spirituality – this is a book that can be read back to front (like I did to be able to review it), but I would advise instead to dip in and out of relevant chapters depending on your own current needs. That way you can soak up the inspiring words much better and apply the teachings and ideas within your own life, rather than all of the advice and 'aha' moments blending together.

I'll definitely be returning to a few of the chapters that are particularly poignant to my own life right now to be able to get more value out of the wise words captured within.

I personally found the essays more interesting than the individual snippets of advice blended in through the medium of short quotes, just because there were so many of them and it did become difficult to distinguish one from the other after a while. They would work great as individual quote cards or posters, but within the book there were just too many together on the same page.

There were a few that particularly stood out, but I had to write them down separately to remember them. One that I especially loved and try to stand still by more now is:

"Those who work in a playful, relaxed manner tend to work efficiently and creatively, those who work nonstop, driven only by stress, work without joy."

The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down is a very inspiring read, filled with poignant advise and calming art work. But to get the most value out of each of the chapters, I definitely recommend consuming them in bite-sized chunks rather than all in one go. (less)
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A multimillion-copy bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about slowing down in our fast-paced world

The world moves fast, but that doesn't mean we have to. In this timely guide to mindfulness, Haemin Sunim, a Buddhist monk born in Korea and educated in the United States, offers advice on everything from handling setbacks to dealing with rest and relationships, in a beautiful book combining his teachings with calming full-colour illustrations. Haemin Sunim's simple messages - which he first wrote when he responded to requests for advice on social media - speak directly to the anxieties that have become part of modern life and remind us of the strength and joy that come from slowing down.Hugely popular in Korea, Haemin Sunim is a Zen meditation teacher whose teachings transcend religion, borders and ages. With insight and compassion drawn from a life full of change, the bestselling monk succeeds at encouraging all of us to notice that when you slow down, the world slows down with you.
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All the world's major religions emphasize the importance of the practice of love, compassion, and tolerance. This is particularly true in the Buddhist traditions, which unanimously state that compassion and love are the foundation of all paths of practice. To cultivate the potential for compassion and love inherent within us, it is crucial to counteract their opposing forces of anger and hatred.

In this book, the Dalai Lama shows how through the practice of patience and tolerance we can overcome the obstacles of anger and hatred. He bases his discussion on A Guide to the Bodhisattva Way of Life, the classic work on the activities of Bodhisattvas—those who aspire to attain full enlightenment in order to benefit all beings.
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Winner of the 1989 Nobel Peace Prize, the Dalai Lama discusses the subject of patience, drawing on a chapter from an important Buddhist classic, Shantideva's "Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life." He helps readers examine how anger arises to destroy much that is positive and good, proposing that gentleness is fundamental to human nature. Through active self-discipline, and not meekness as is commonly misunderstood, we can transform anger through compassion and to be reconciled with ourselves and others. Recommended for public libraries.
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"The writings of His Holiness the Dalai Lama have done more to familiarize the general public with Shantideva than any other teachings. I am indebted to his commentaries, and especially to his book Healing Anger."—Pema Chödrön, author of When Things Fall Apart


"The Dalai Lama teaches with clear and forceful language."—Publishers Weekly

"The techniques and methods presented here are relevant not only for Buddhist practitioners, but for all who seek to improve themselves. Through these teachings and by his own example, the Dalai Lama shows the power that patience and tolerance have to heal anger and to generate peace in the world."—Indian International Journal of Buddhist Studies "Healing Anger shows that Shantideva's teaching many centuries ago can still speak to this generation and be a source of strength to change our society."—Asian Thought & Society
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"The techniques and methods presented here are relevant not only for Buddhist practitioners but for all who seek to improve themselves. Through these teachings and by his own example, the Dalai Lama shows the power that patience and tolerance have to heal anger and to generate peace in the world."--The Indian International Journal of Buddhist Studies
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"The theme of healing anger has great relevance to our lives. It is what we all seek."--Values & Visions Magazine
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"These teachings help us practice the ideals of the Bodhisattva."--NAPRA ReView
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"Healing Anger shows that Shantideva's teaching many centuries ago can still speak to this generation and be a source of strength to change our society."--Asian Thought & Society
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Buddhist traditions unanimously state that compassion and love are the foundation of all paths of practice. To cultivate the potential for compassion and love inherent within us, it is crucial to counteract their opposing forces of anger and hatred. The Dalai Lama shows how patience and tolerance overcome the obstacles of anger and hatred. His Holiness presents the practice of the Six Perfections, the central role of bodhichitta, the twelve links of dependent origination, and offers a clear road map for the practitioner to achieve the goal of liberation. The techniques and methods are relevant for everyone--the Dalai Lama shows the power that patience and tolerance have to heal anger and to generate peace in the world.
"The Dalai Lama teaches with clear and forceful language."--Publishers Weekly

"The techniques and methods presented here are relevant not only for Buddhist practitioners but for all who seek to improve themselves. Through these teachings and by his own example, the Dalai Lama shows the power that patience and tolerance have to heal anger and to generate peace in the world."--The Indian International Journal of Buddhist Studies

"The theme of healing anger has great relevance to our lives. It is what we all seek."--Values & Visions Magazine

"These teachings help us practice the ideals of the Bodhisattva."--NAPRA ReView

"Healing Anger shows that Shantideva's teaching many centuries ago can still speak to this generation and be a source of strength to change our society."--Asian Thought & Society

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His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama is considered the foremost Buddhist leader of our time. The exiled spiritual head of the Tibetan people, he is a Nobel Peace Laureate, a Congressional Gold Medal recipient, and a remarkable teacher and scholar who has authored over one hundred books.
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this book as regards the destructive habit of anger is the only one that has ever made a meaningful difference in my life. the binding is horrible and will fall apart (mine is held together with clothes pins and rubber bands) but the content if practiced could change your life. my method has been to read a couple pages, write down the most salient point i can extract 5 times, walk around the house for five minutes memorizing that point word for word (as i toss a baseball in the air), and then meditate for 15 minutes on those words (critical analysis style). i have a notebook dedicated to these meditations with dates written in the margin. i don't consider myself a Buddhist but the logic presented here has served to educate my mind and heart.

"hatred is the ultimate enemy. this feeling not only destroys my immediate calmness and peace of mind, but it also throws me into a state of confusion." sometimes my meditations are nearly word for word from this book, sometimes they are my own analysis.

i give this book as a gift to people whom i believe will use it.
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It's surprising how simple I thought practicing "patience" would be. But as the book indicates,"there is something very biological within our body that obstructs us from trying to get out of that bondage, almost like something in-built, a sort of lethargy or something which makes it heavy. This also obstructs our clarity of mind."

Reading this book provided me with clear methods in obtaining patience and tolerance, along as reasons to why we respond the way we do. I enjoyed the balance provided between two opposite extremes and their relevance. I look forward to practicing a harmonized approach to grounding my emotions and having a realistic view of my presence, in the moment, based on facts rather than false perceptions.
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I can honestly say that this book is second only to the Dhammapada for me in significance. I learned so much from this book on dealing with issues of anger and jealousy and highly recommend it to any one who is seeking words of wisdom and a path for dealing with their own anger and personal issues.

The only way for this book to really work for you is to open up to what is being said and follow. Realizing that patience is the key in overcoming anger is the fundamental. When dealing with people or situations that anger you because of the way that person is behaving is simply a test.

I had an experience where I was in a hospital and told to use a phone to contact one part of the hospital. When I went to use it some staff member who likely did not like the way I looked informed me that I shouldn't be using that phone and that I should go to another location not far away and use that phone instead because Hospital staff used this one. The sign by this phone clearly stated that this is the one I was to use. Rather than getting angry with this person and ignoring her and using the phone blatantly in her presence I smiled and agreed to use the other phone even though there was no other reason to do so except to put this person at ease. The other phone worked perfectly well as it turned out. At the time this occurred I thought on what I learned from this book and realized that anger at this person is not necessary and to lash back would have only worsened the situation. I looked for the positive and followed it and sure enough there were no problems.

Everyone could learn from this book only if they take to heart what is being said. I highly recommend it. Definite 5+ stars.
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First, I'll say that I really enjoyed this book, and it was very helpful as I tackled anger around various issues I was dealing with (hence the 5 stars).

One word of "caution", though, is that if you are used to many of the Dalai Lama's other books, you are probably used to the very conversational, almost simplistic, descriptions he gives of the subject matter, which makes those books very accessible and, I think, very effective at exposing a broader audience to Buddhist ideas. This book is not like those, and in this you can really get a glimpse of the theological scholar side of the Dalai Lama. The text is fairly dense, and somewhat difficult to understand unless you have a pretty good understanding of Buddhist principles. I had to go brush up on those and come back to this book to really get through it. If you've only read The Art of Happiness or How to See Yourself as You Really Are then this may be a bit overwhelming and frustrating. To get up to speed, I'd recommend  Buddhism for Beginners  followed by  The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberation .
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His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama very often speaks of himself as a "simple Buddhist monk." Despite his rank and the great regard in which he is held by the world, he has no pretensions. Like all of us, he gets angry, has stomachaches, and breathes. That is what makes him so accessible to us all.

Shantideva was an Indian Buddhist, a sage who lived in the Eighth Century. His Holiness' reflections on Shantideva's "Bodhisattvacaryavatara" (also known in English as "A Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way Of Life" or "Entering the Path of Enlightenment") are the subject of several of his books, including this one, which focuses on cultivating patience.

Although HEALING ANGER is a brief book, it is a very full book. Lay readers may find themselves a little lost among the unfamiliar cultural reference points, but whether you are a practicing Buddhist or not, this book is a major contribution to the cultivation of compassion in our lives. This is not, in the Western sense, a Self-Help book, nor does it respouse any form of pop psychology. This is not a manual on "Anger Management."

Rather, the Dalai Lama investigates the lessons that Shantideva teaches. Through a lucid discussion of Shantideva's meaning and through suggested practice exercises, the Dalai Lama guides us toward actualizing patience and compassion in our own lives. To work toward such actualization is the Bodhisattva's Way; to actualize these lessons in your own life IS to attain Nirvana.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Quite interesting to see how a bodhisattva deals philosophically with anger and wrongdoing
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Very interesting, but certainly esoteric. This isn't a self help book, it's an analysis of verses from a chapter on patience from Shantideva's Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life, which was originally given as a lecture by the Dalai Lama. There are Q and As which are quite often totally off topic or totally disregarding what had just been discussed in the lecture!

There is definitely wisdom that the lay person can take from the teachings but on a whole it is more interesting than helpful and the Q and As dilute the focus of the book.
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Oct 02, 2007Jessica marked it as to-read
Recommended to Jessica by: my buddhist friend anthony from social work school
Back in social work school, my buddy Anthony recommended this book to help me deal with my subway rage; he said it'd really helped him, and Anthony always seemed very calm, so I thought he knew what he was talking about. I even checked it out of the library and started the introduction, but then some other stuff came up and I got distracted, and it was due back. Then I'd put this book on the back burner because I sort of felt like I was a grownup and had successfully mastered my temper problem without any weird hippie self-help books by the Dalai Lama.... except I totally just flew into a frustrated rage a few minutes ago and smashed a piece of furniture that I really needed, and now I regret that.

So I am going to read this book! I hope it helps me solve my patience problem so I won't fly off the handle just because it's too hot and something's irritating me. I couldn't get this bureau thing out of my closet, plus the closet door's messed up and it was really driving me nuts, and it was dark, and stuffy, and my neck hurts, and the whole ridiculous situation kept going on just far too long, and my roommates kept yelling, "What's all that noise? Everything okay in there?" and finally I was like, "This fucking thing's coming OUT," and I smashed it, which felt kind of great at the moment and did solve the immediate problem -- it came out of the closet -- but now I have nowhere to put all my clothes so I'm sort of a little bit screwed. I definitely need to read this book if I'm going anywhere near that Red Hook Ikea to replace the thing. Just thinking about that place makes me want to scream and throw things.... I don't really have to go there, do I? There must be some other place where I can get some crap bureau thing to put all my stupid clothes in.

I think I'm a little on edge because I messed up my neck doing something dumb and I couldn't go running today. That kind of turns me into the Insufferable Hulk. Still, even without exercise I should be less of a child about things. This is ridiculous. Maybe the Dalai Lama will help me chill out. Maybe his Buddhist principles will guide me through the process of finding a new bureau. Lord knows I'll need all the help I can get.

I should finish cleaning up my room and putting my laundry away, except.... I have nowhere to put it!

AAHGHGHHHHH! FUCK!


AAGHHH! (less)
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Julieta
Jan 21, 2009Julieta rated it it was ok
If you are trying to learn about dealing with your anger from a book, you might try the Robert Thurman book called Anger. He approaches it from a Buddhist perspective, too.
No disrespect towards the Dalai Lama, but it seems that maybe Thurman has been there himself. I'm sure the Dalai Lama has been angry, but he's the Dalai Lama! If you're really struggling with anger, the Thurman book might be more useful. Thurman teaches you to use it--turn it into something positive.
I love you, Dalai Lama. But you learned to overcome anger like 6 lifetimes ago so it's probably hard for you to rekindle that emotion.
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Two Readers in Love
Sep 23, 2019Two Readers in Love rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: religion, meditation, self-help, borrowed, added-during-migration
"Since disrespect, harsh speech,
And unpleasant words
Do not cause harm to my body,
Why mind, do you become so angry?"

-Guide to the Bodhisattva Way of Life, as quoted by Dalai Lama XIV (less)
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Ilaria
Dec 16, 2011Ilaria rated it really liked it
This book reports about a conference that was held by the Dalai Lama in Arizona almost 20 years ago. The topic, however, is always current: it’s about patience, or even better tolerance. It is not a manual, in the self-help style, but a text that is inspired by the Buddhist doctrine and that can even be difficult sometimes. In four days the Dalai Lama explains, answers questions and leaves some moments for the meditation. The spiritual leader follows the teachings of Shantideva, commenting all verses of his book. The sentence from where all of this comes from is one of the most famous in Buddhism: “One moment of anger can destroy all of the virtue that you have accumulated”. This is the basic message of the book, a universal one to which the Dalai Lama adds practical considerations that are easy to understand and follow. The ideal way of reading this book would be in a quiet place, with all the time at hand to stop and meditate when he says so.

If you want suggestions for Xmas presents that are far from the Bestsellers list please check http://www.developingreport.it/2011/1... (less)
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Regina Mastrogiacomo
Jul 14, 2021Regina Mastrogiacomo rated it it was amazing
This is worth the read. It was a slow process because there is a lot to think about and absorb. But what I found the more I was trying to apply the process of dealing with healing anger and patience the more events popped up that allowed me to look at the situation differently, but its hard and I didn't succeed very often.
It's a book I will be reading again. (less)
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Bish Denham
Jul 13, 2015Bish Denham rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Most anyone can meditate and strive for compassion on a daily basis. But to really delve into Buddhism, to study it, to become a Buddhist, one has to be willing to set aside one's beliefs in order to explore logically and/or rationally, the origins of ones mind, ones ego and where (if anywhere) the ego resides. And THAT I believe takes a certain amount of intelligence and a great deal of diligence.

This was not an easy book to read and understand, but then, I'm not a practicing Buddhist. But what I learned from it taught me something about what Buddhism is. It is, in one sense, more a science of the mind than a religion. (less)
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Erik Williamson
Jul 26, 2021Erik Williamson rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Still impatient

Does not help with patience. Its more on how to deal with anger and meditation. I recommend the book if you need help with anger.
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Manuela
Nov 27, 2018Manuela rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I purchased this book with a “hint” of irony, because being myself not very patient at all in my real life, I said: “Wow, Dalai Lama is my healer…LOL!”
Instead, according to Buddhism, there are rules and theories on the very concept of “patience”, how to gain it, how to “feed” it, how to keep it. According to Buddhists patience brings beauty and health and it can improve our society.
Actually I read about their concept of “soul”, “afterlife”, “prayers”, God”, which are not the same as in my religion, but similarly.
The essential things to know about Buddhism are the last 15-20 pages, where there is also a glossary, which features the key words from A to Z about the religion.
By the end of the book you won't be a Buddha folower, a bodhisattva, but you will have learnt amazing things on the religion.
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Patrick Moore
Jan 01, 2022Patrick Moore rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favourites
He tells vulnerably about his anger, and what he does about it.

There is a technique he uses called Tong Len or Tonglen. It involves inhaling and exhaling. It's the opposite of the old saying, "out with the bad air, in with the good." Instead you breathe in all the things you don't want, and exhale all the things you'd rather keep. You imagine another person and you take all the things from them that are unwanted, and give them with your breath all the things that are valued.

Why would you do that? It turns around your perspective. Healing anger is a nice side effect of tonglen which is really designed to awaken compassion and dissolve self-importance. The book is worth it just for the chapter on tonglen. Highly recommend.

Apparently this workshop was held in Tucson, Arizona, but a decade before I got here . . I am curious to know where, how . . ?
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Tenzin  Phurdrön
Jan 25, 2021Tenzin Phurdrön rated it it was amazing
In this precious commentary of the Sixth Chapter of the Bodhicharyavatara from Shantideva, His Holiness explains all the verses on the disadvantages of anger and the advantages of the development of patience, and He also speaks deeply in several ocassions about emptiness and karma, as well as giving the answers to questions on social issues.
A jewel for the non-Buddhist and Buddhist practitioners.
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Jim Infantino
May 20, 2017Jim Infantino rated it it was amazing
Cannot recommend this book strongly enough for anyone who feels slighted or betrayed by someone. It is strong strong strong strong stuff. Transformative if you can follow it. A study of Shantideva's The Bhodisattva's Way of Life that explores the meanings of that great work. Read it if you are ready to transform your pain into something much greater. (less)
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Paige Lacy
Nov 22, 2019Paige Lacy rated it it was amazing
I read this book again and again to understand how anger works. The Dalai Lama recounts brilliant teachings from Shantideva, a historical figure who taught how to tame anger in oneself. This is a critically important message in today's world and it's essential to managing day-to-day responses to circumstances that are frequently beyond our control. Highly recommended. (less)
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Cody
Sep 03, 2018Cody rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2021-reading-list
Pretty good. A lot of it went over my head but I felt that I took enough away to do some good in my life.
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Tara
Sep 17, 2019Tara rated it it was amazing
Very thought provoking.
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Wilhelm 
Jun 19, 2020Wilhelm rated it it was amazing
Well written with several easy to understand examples, clear explanations/reasoning and scriptural support. Better than any cookie cutter self help book.
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Natalie
Nov 27, 2019Natalie marked it as to-read
A bit too hard for me to understand. Stop at page 14.
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Demi
Sep 03, 2013Demi rated it it was amazing
Shelves: buddhism-emotions
When it comes to Patience, who better to share this important insight than His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama? I quite enjoyed His Holiness' commentary on the Patience chapter of the much-loved Buddhist text, Shantideva's Guide to the Bodhisattva's Way of Life. If you're new to Buddhism or not yet familiar with the basic Buddhist teachers, this can make for a bit of a heavy read as there are quite a few technical terms introduced. However, even if you're NOT a Buddhist, this book has a lot to offer in terms of how to think differently inorder to diffuse your anger. The Question & Answer sections are also a refreshing breather and help to break up the commentary so you can better absorb what's been discussed. I also really enjoyed the guided meditative reflections to help us bring the practice to life, rather than just leaving it at intellectual discussion. Definitely a great read for fans of Shantideva & His Holiness. (less)
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Dan
Dec 29, 2015Dan rated it really liked it
Shelves: buddhism
I'm reading this a second time, slowly in the mornings before the world gets started to try and set my mind up for a good day. This book is a transcript of a multi-day session where the Dalai Lama walks thru some ancient text on patience, as well as answering questions from the audience. I find the reasoned and logical arguments against acting out of anger or frustration very convincing and helpful. I think you could read this book over and over and it would never lose its usefulness. The only criticism is the time spent on the process of karma and rebirth, but that is only because I have a more secular approach and that part of Buddhism doesn't speak to me. On the bright side, I think MCA from Beastie Boys attended the original session (I read it in an album liner notes), so that is cool! (less)
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Alisha
Mar 30, 2007Alisha rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
The Dalai Lama speaks in a simple, clear way that made this book easy to read. However, he alternates between practical, insighful advice on managaing "negative emotions" and explanations of the history of Buddhism, or different Buddhist beliefs. This is definitely not a self-help book you want to read if you're looking for straight up advice; be prepared for alot of talk about Buddhist phenomena, the origin of the universe, and holy scriptures. However, if you are Buddhist or are interested in a little spiratuality mixed with your self-help, this is the book for you. (less)
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Anon
Feb 28, 2008Anon rated it it was amazing
Actually, I never read this book...But, one day I went into this hippie/mystical book store in Central Square, Cambridge and turned to page 23--this one little saying stuck out "whatever befalls me, I shall not disturb my mental joy...."
That line is great- think about it--we all have things and people (thinking of a certain insane brother right now...) that make you want to go nuts...So, just think of this line...or just pretend you're eating a candy bar named "Mental Joy"--packed with ginseng, caffeine, ginkgo, and lots of other herbal/ hippie ingredients. That'd be mentally delicious! (less)
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David
Oct 27, 2013David rated it really liked it
His Holiness the Dalai Lama is always a joy for me to read. He has always displayed a knack for connecting the simple and the esoteric no matter how esoteric his references. This book is no exception as it explores and unpacks Shantideva's classic treatise on patience as the antidote to anger.

If you like the Dalai Lama and/or struggle with controlling or making peace with frustration, negativity or even fits of rage, there's something here to sink your teeth into. If however you have the patience of a saint or no interest in Buddhist practice, this may be a bit heady for you. (less)
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Keith
Feb 27, 2013Keith rated it it was amazing
Truly a great book on understanding the triggers that lead us to anger and losing our patience. You don't need to be buddhist to identify with your common human predicament, limited control, and false expectations. There is plenty here that is common to all humanity and perspectives and practices that help you to not only maintain patience, but to have genuine compassion for other broken human beings...even the one's who test you! (less)
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John Stepper
Dec 31, 2019John Stepper rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Once again, Shantideva appears as a central figure in a Buddhist commentary. I first came across his Guide in Pema Chödrön’s “No Time to Lose” which is excellent and makes the work accessible. This commentary is based on lectures from the Dalai Lama and, while it’s different from other analysis because of the format and Q&A sections, it has its own appeal. Just reading the insights and opinions of the Dalai Lama is alone fascinating to me.
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Elia
Dec 14, 2013Elia rated it liked it
It is very hard to review the book without any influence of my bias towards Buddhism . The flow is carefully designed and should not bore anyone without any prior knowledge. The only reason this is not a 4 star is the fact that referencing is lacking. Quotes are not always traced to books, and that's a shame. (less)
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Petter Nordal
May 26, 2010Petter Nordal rated it really liked it
The greatest thing about this book is not actually that it helped me control my temper, but that i enjoyed following the clear, lucid logic. It did change the way i think about anger, but it also taught me about my mid, my mental habits, and working at changing them.
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Durwin Foster
Jan 27, 2015Durwin Foster rated it really liked it
Shelves: personal-development, psycho-spirituality, psychology
Dalai Lama consistently shares great wisdom on dealing with difficult emotions. The challenge for me is that sometimes some Budhist views SEEM not to recognize the gift in the heart of anger, which is that anger is the emotion that helps us create clarity around a situation that feels confusing.
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Tania
Sep 09, 2015Tania rated it really liked it
Good book, goes over some stuff I was already thinking and references other books frequently... not quite as interesting as I think it could have been but overall good for someone going through less than positive experiences in life.
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Naomi Schmahl
Jan 28, 2008Naomi Schmahl rated it really liked it
I love books that help heal people and this one hit home for me.. I'm not a Buddhist but i've read most of the Dalai Lamas teachings and this ones of his best books.. (less)
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Roberta
Feb 17, 2010Roberta rated it it was amazing
Prior to reading this book I did not realize how entwined anger is to being hurt.
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anita
Jul 04, 2010anita rated it liked it
not that I'm feeling angry :-) we're reading and discussing this book in study group (less)
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